I get a lot of comments and emails from people in a relationship who feel the romance in their lives is lacking. Perhaps things have gotten stagnant, their relationship is on the rocks, or the dreaded seven-year itch is looming. Whatever the reason, a common theme of late in my mailbox has been, "Where's the romance gone?" or, "Am I expecting too much?"
In a nutshell (although each situation is different), my answer is usually to suggest things anyone can do to spice up their love lives and inject some romance back into an otherwise lagging (but plugging along nicely) relationship. A great book that speaks of numerous ideas and suggestions along this line is Change Your Life and Everyone In It by Michele Weiner Davis. Using solution-based therapies, Davis gives readers solid examples on how to change your own behaviors (simply and quickly) to achieve concrete results. Although most of the suggestions aren't necessarily romance-based, they are all relationship-based.
So what do you think? Is romance dead?
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Great article!!!!
I think romance is alive and well for those who work at it. Romance does not always come to those who wait for it. My husband and I just got married after 6 years. We see romance in many of the things we do. Just a hug or touch as we walk by each other. Sometimes as a gift for my birthday or some other holiday he will make me a homemade card. To me that is romance. Just knowing that someone special is thinking of me and will take the time to put a little effort to do something sweet.
I’m 30yrs old. Never had a solid relationship and I’m always looking for one. I do believe that romance is alive. Romance is filled with candle lit dinners, moonlit boat cruses, dancing, even tender love making. I just hope I can find a lady who I can have a relationship and share those experences with. Someone who I can have mutual feelings for.