Watching What You Write in Dating Site Emails

The internet allows daters to search out a myriad of details about the person they are dating. From Googling your date to website Don't Date Her, singles can discover insidious details about the person they are interested in quickly, easily, and stealthily.

Now, a woman using the Match.com site to meet new people, has publicly posted an email exchange between her and a gentleman by the name of John Fitzgerald (the original blog posting has since been taken down). Gawker.com quickly picked up the story and reposted the entirety of the email in question, deeming Fitzgerald the "Worst Person in the World".

So why is Fitzgerald so horrible? The lady in question sent him a wink through Match.com, letting him know she was interested in getting to know him better. He, in turn, responded with a resume-like response, detailing his educational experiences with at an Ivy League school as well as his toned body, incredible apartment, and corporate finance job. With each admission, he asked the woman if she had similar experiences or interests. The email may have come off a bit braggy, but all in all it was a normal dating exchange (in my opinion).

The woman, as is her right, send Fitgerald a quick canned note back thanking him for his email, but she felt after reading through it and his profile that they weren't a good match in the personality department. This, unfortunately, is where Fitzgerald took a wrong turn. Instead of leaving the exchange at that, he sent a scathing response in return. Not only does he accuse the unnamed woman of being overweight because she's only posted a picture of her face (and offers to give her an hour of personal training to whip her bod into dating shape), he tells her that its her responsibility to attract him, and not the other way around. Then he explains what "high caliber" of a man he is, using his Hot or Not rating and bench press numbers to prove his point, and that she should be more aware of just how rare a man like him really is.

I'll admit, I've received more than my fair share of similar emails from online dating suitors upset by a decision not to get to know them better. In comparison, Fitzgerald's seems a bit tame - although still uncalled for. But calling him the "Worst Person in the World" is a bit much. (And yes, I do realize Gawker.com's intent is to be tongue-in-cheek.)

Nevertheless, I urge all single ladies and gentleman to be careful what you write to people on any dating site. Even if you are upset with someone, it may be in your best interest to go for a walk and calm down somewhat before sending a nasty email back - because it could be posted all over the Internet for the world to see, judge and debate about.