Dating Advice: Is My Boyfriend Still Interested?
Thursday December 6, 2007
A woman asking for dating advice recently wrote me and said:
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months pretty seriously. He started a new job a week or so ago, and got a new game system. Ever since then I feel he cares less about me and isn't interested in our relationship. He's always tired and just wants to play video games. He also seems very distant lately, and it really hurts me. I have tried telling him he has been acting different but he doesn't believe it, and gets angry when I keep bringing it up. I think I may be overreacting, but I am still worried he's not interested in me anymore. I just don't know what to do.
I have answered her question in Is He Still Interested?, but I am curious as to what other readers suggest. What do you think this dating gal should do?
Comments
A mixture of stress from starting a new job and excitement from his new gaming system simply has him distracted. Instead of bringing up how distant he seems…try to schedule time for just the two of you that requires leaving the house. When you present the idea let him know that it would mean a lot to you so he doesn’t use the tired excuse. If you make several attempts and he is still being stubborn….re-evaluate why you are with him and talk to him about it.
Is your boyfriend in his 20’s? I had a similar problem when my boyfriend got a playstation. Try walking infront of the tv when he’s playing his video games in a really sexy outfit…if he’s still not “interested” you really need to talk to him…try bringing up your concerns when your out and about in a positive setting.
If it were me, I would break up with him. My ex-husband became addicted to a video game like that, and then he never wanted to have sex. If he cared about you, he would rather spend time with you than play video games.
I wouldn’t say he isn’t interested in you anymore, but he isn’t being acting appropriately either.
He is probably just immature in that way. If he’s still worth it to you, wait for him to figure it out. In the meantime, go out and have fun with your friends… make him see that you don’t necessarily ‘need’ him.
Paul
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Get Your Girlfriend Back
ughhhh..ok u shud tell him straight up r u intrested. or wht.cuz im not gana giv all my free time to u lik im not gana sit thr and b unhappy.
From a mans point of view. Why not spend sometime playing with him. Doing things together is what we want. Playing games is one way we work out stress.
David
I think it’s a tough call – my boyfriend plays videogames as well but I don’t mind them. I usually try to make it something we can both do and ask him to teach me the game and then we can play together. I also like to let him and me spend time apart doing our own thing. It’s not a bad thing to have other interests.
Let me know if you have other questions – I’m happy to give you some more advice needadvicek@gmail.com