Why Am I Not Getting Any Responses To My Dating Profile?
A reader recently asked, "I've been single for a while now, have joined quite a few free dating sites, and I either get matches by people from the states (I live in Ontario, Canada) or from guys that are not in my age range. Or not even anything I would like. Or on the other hand, if I send a message to somebody, they don't reply back. What am I doing wrong?"
I think there are four main reasons why this lady has not received any responses to her dating profile that she finds acceptable, and have answered them in great detail already. (see: Why Am I Not Getting Any Responses To My Dating Profile?) Do you think I`ve missed any, or have further ideas and suggestions?
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I’m not a big believer in online dating. It’s nearly a billion dollar industry, and with so much money to be made, most advice about online dating is to tweak what you’re doing and try again. i.e. keep paying that service fee. Reports show that over 75% of people who online date are not very satisfied with the process. Psychologists have shown that in-person chemistry is felt and not articulate ahead of time in checkboxes and essays. Sure, you can try the latest angle, like DNA-based matchmaking, but where does it end? Maybe we should all just give online dating a rest and re-learn the fine art of flirting with someone you meet in everyday life.
How true that is my friend, dadshouse. I agree with you 100% on this one.
Any stats I’ve seen about online dating dissatisfaction are WAY lower than what you are quoting. Where did you get this number?
As well, psychologists are the ones creating most of the online chemistry, attraction and matchmaking tests, such as both eHarmony and Chemistry. Not that I’m plugging them, cause I’m not. You’ll notice that none of the links at dating.about.com for online dating sites are affiliates.
However, the poster in question is looking for advice on why she’s not getting a response to a FREE dating site. She’s not invested financially. My suggestions to her are yes, to tweak things, since she wants to know why her profile isn’t netting any responses. If she’d asked if she should go offline to meet people, I’d highly recommend that as well. But she didn’t, so instead I answered her question.
i think instead of reling on dating services you need to go out there yourself and find a man tell your friends to help you out or something look you aint gotta listen to me cause im only 15 going on 16 but on the other hand i know things about boys
Hi Bonnie,
How do you get a review for a free online dating site?
Kind Regards
I believe online dating. I found my true love there. Try to get closer. Hope you find a nice single.
I think waiting around to be matched is the biggest mistake. Do women really do this? You have to use the advanced search feature and limit your searches to your preferences.
If they are consistently not responding to your messages, if nobody is messaging you, 9 times out of 10 you are too ugly to be seen with as guys will normally go after anything, anywhere. Sad but true. It is well-known that guys love their visuals most.