Dating Younger Men

i’m 59 look and act 10 to 20 years younger. Listen to the age they grew up in in music/ other than that there is no difference as it is a person inside and not an age that determines oneself.

be extremely careful with the younger guys. i’m going to be 29 soon and in the last year i’ve started dating younger men. the youngest was 21 the second youngest was 23. i didn’t have a good realationship with either. it is true that women mature sooner than men. if you are like me and don’t feel as old as people think you should be, then a younger man seems ideal. in the long run, they just don’t cut it. they are still in a state of boyhood. maybe women like us, could pull it off if we were demi and 40 and our men where 25, but now is not the time!!!!!!! we need to have a good, mature, successfull man now and i believe that means, in the least, a man that is the same age as we are. maybe your situation is different. i’m never been married, i don’t have kids and i’m educated. i don’t even really think those things are even top….it’s priorities that really let u know who people are and i just don’t believe younger men have their priorities straight!!!!

I have been dating a guy that is 6 yrs younger than me (31). We have been seeing each other since Nov. 07. Yes sometimes he does act like a boy but also acts like a man. He is stable & is going back to school. I have dated & married men my age & I feel that it doesn’t matter how old they are they can still be losers.

As long as two people connect, nobody should define a relationship by an individual’s age. I am 39, and I look and feel about 15 years younger than I am.
In my opinion, no matter what age – women will always be more mature than men. However, the age of the men we choose to date is a matter of preference.

My last two boyfriends and my current boyfriend have all been about 5 years younger than me. I guess the main problem is different priorities in life. You may be ready to settle down and have kids, but he feels too young for that. You may be considering investing in property, time in your career etc and he isn’t in that headspace.
But as always- it’s what works for the two of you. Also- don’t always go on about how much younger they are- if they don’t care, they don’t want to hear it and if they do care, they will be off anyway

If I was you be careful as I have being out with younger guys, at the time it is great as it makes you look and feel young at heart.

But I guess the main problem is different priorities in life, you might want to settle down where he still want to spend, spend, spend, as he feels too young for to settle down.

I (45) have been dating a guy (36) since 2006 and it has been great. I don’t look my age -15 yrs and he has never dated younger than himself.I say go for it and enjoy every moment it brings you; I know I do!!!!!! If you know what I mean..

get a man your age if not a little older, a younger one will only make u miserable and some luck of maturity can irritate you.

young or old what matters is how you are treated and if you are happy!

I say go for it! I am a 31 yr. old who has been involved with a 24 yr old for 8 months now and for the most part it has been wonderful. He is a hardworking, very kind individual who happens to be more mature than I am in so many ways. We have disagreements but they are more so due to gender differences than age. We are total opposites and totally crazy about each other. Wishing you the best!

you go honey enjoy raise him the way you want him the younger the better

I(40) am actually like a man(35)very much and beliece he has interest in me. But so troubled about the age difference. I hesitate to talk to him. If I don’t feel enough confidence and “yong” inside to be with him, the relationship will not last long even we may have it.

With this thought, I do not know what to do.

My mother was older than my father and they remained married until she died. Dating younger men comes with the same problems as dating men of any age.

I am 27 and dating a 22 year old. I am a professional, a Director of my own Non-Profit program, and finished with graduate school. With that being said, after having my own house and car…theres nothing I need a man to do, other than love me and treat me right. However, on occasions, I am reminded of his age, not necessarily our age difference. But all in all, he means a lot to me…I am enjoying our building process.

Go for it… it’s been working for me for a year and 4 months. 17 year age difference (22/39)…some days it’s stressful, but isn’t anything? It’s all in the PERSON! This is the most loving and honest relationship I’ve had in my life!

I just started dating a much younger man. I have never dated a man more than one year younger or 2 years older. I am 44 and he is 21. He pursued me and after much resistance from me, I finally gave in and went on a date. I thought he would see the light and move on after the first date. I didn’t think we would hit it off and I thought I had lost my mind for going. We did hit it off and went on a second date. What am I thinking shouldn’t I come to my seances. He is very good looking and so much so the young girls would be in dream land to go out with such a nice and good looking guy. He said he has always been attracted to older women. He has a very good career and his life all in order. Why do I feel like I’ve broken all the rules? I have not told any one about this, should I keep on dating him?

I have always dated men much older than myself. I’m 25 and I’ve always dated men at least 15 years older than me. None of those relationships have worked out though. So now, I’ve met a man that is 21, he’ll be 22 soon. It’s strange that he’s younger than me, but I’m trying not to let it bother me, because so far he has been so wonderful. Sweet, just a perfect gentleman, opening doors, being so respectful…I think I’m going to give it a try and just pay attention to how he treats me.

I think what matters is how he treats you and loves you. It is all in the person and how you both adjust to each other. Although sometimes there may be things that you can’t talk about because younger guys tend to be still immature, it’s up to you to find ways to get around it. Enjoy life!Don’t be restricted by the norms imposed by society ‘coz at the end of the day, it’s your own happiness that matters.

I AGREE WITH HER ,LOVE LIFE AND LIVE IT. I’M DATING A 24 YOUR OLD AND WE ARE JUST ENJOYING EACH OTHER AND WHAT EVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS! FALL BACK A LITTLE

Im dating a guy who is four years younger than me. I am 23 he is 19 and after dating older men this is the first time it feels right. I don’t think age is important at all, if its the right person . Just listen to your heart and enjoy what you have. To be honest I was sceptical to start with as well, even tho our age difference isn’t really that big. After a while I realised , that it was mainly me being concerned about what my friends and family would say. I soon got over that tho.

I was just having a discussion with my family about my current boyfriend. I am 21 and he is 19. Everything thus far, has been amazing, i never received such treatment from any man that i have ever dated. To me, age is a number, a simple number. Like many of you said, you were hesitant at first, as was I. My family especially, they do not like the fact that he is younger than me and encourages me that he is too young. I like to go out with my friends, sometimes to a bar and unfortunately he cannot accompany me. Anyway, enough with my rambling, the point is… don’t let the perceptions of society hold you back from experiencing something that could turn out to be amazing.

So…here I am at this crazy stage in my life where I find myself falling for a much younger man..I am 36 and he is 19…I know…what a difference! But you know what? He has been the most sweetest, loving, caring, respectful man I have ever dated. I have usually dated younger men(maybe up to 8 years younger)but never have I dated someone this much younger..But I like it…He keeps me feeling young and vibrant…I was pretty hesitant at first because in the back of my mind I would say “oh gosh what would people think about me!” But really…who cares what others say about it…if it is not age or race people who want to criticize will always find something to talk about anyway so what have I got to lose! I am trying to live my life to make ME happy..I look forward to seeing where this may progress to:) He is awesome and I have been waiting to feel like this for a very long time..I am not going to give it up for anyone:)

Hi, just wanted to let you know that I have been married for 4 years to a man 5 years younger than myself…this is not the first time I dated anyone younger than myself..I will say, I have a lot more fun with men younger than me than with an older man…Keep dating young…Age is but a number..I strongly recommend it to all women…Go for it!!!

There is this guy who is totally into me. The problem is… he is 16 and I am 22. He is the youngest child and all his siblings are much older (32 and 25) and he has only ever dated older women.
I think that maybe it could work later on, but right now… He is still finishing school (home school) and I am starting my professional career in 4 months. Ok, so much for what my mind tells me… my heart… he is great and he makes me feel like the most amazing person ever. We share priorities and principles and he is the cutest guy ever! I don’t know what to do.

Ok, so I read through all that was listed above. My problem, I’m 45 and he’s 24. Yikes! I’m recently divorced. He seeked me out and was so charming. We have dated twice and he constantly gets in touch with me and says he wants to see me more. The age difference bothers me a LOT!! But I have to say, he was so wonderful when we were together. If it weren’t for the age difference, I would definitely be with him. Is that too much of an age difference?

I am 61, looking 40 acting 30 at heart and dating a 22 year old and very mature young man from another country and, after 2 failed marriages many years ago to 2 men 10 years older than me, I am loving him and the entire scenario. He treats me better than either of my American husbands, respects my family and my wishes as I do his. This is an untraditional romance w/two untraditional people who feel the lightening as it strikes. I am of the age I do not care what others think – some love it and some do not – it is our lives and we will live it as we please. I am not living thru another era like the 50’s and 60’s with segregation and prejudice – not again – not for me.

OMG…I’m 42, feel like 25, look like 35. I was recently approached by a bold 21 year old, from my blind side and I’ve never saw it coming! I’m a professional, divorced mother, own my own home, and life has been maintainable! I absolutely find it flattering that I still attract such young men. I’ve had the family life and already all the children. I don’t need or want anything from this guy. But I absolutely do enjoy his “youthfulness”, I don’t know where this is going. But I’m enjoying every minute of it. I would just be careful not to get to emotionally involved, these young men still need to live a life, a life we older gals already lived. It’s just a matter of time before our physical appearance gives in! JUST enjoy it while it last!

Through my experience, I’ve enjoyed dating a younger man.
There is one thing about MATURITY.
One can be young and mature, one can mature by age and still immature.
There is nothing like mature experiences w/c comes with age. I look young, feel young, act young and don’t even second guess my age. I’m 37, he’s 25.
We have fun, he’s honest, hardworking and treats me w/ respect and appreciates me for who I am.
All that is important to me.
The downfall is….men are not going to ever be as emotionally mature and adept to women at any age. They will always be boys. The under 30 men still need to go through some rites of passage.
So my 2 cents..watch out about getting emotionally involved or attached.
Just have fun.
The trill of the chase for the boy/man can easily get him into a cold-feet stage even w/o pressure because we women are confident enough to be who we are at most any age above 28.

I am 44 and I am dating a 24 year old. My experience has been that he has his priorties straight. I will mention that he has 3 children by three different women but he’s taking care of his children and he just received his Masters in international business. He a world class travelor and is very caring. He is passionate about family and personal growth. I believe that age is just a number it all comes from inside. I’ve dated men older than my self by twelve years and find that in the end they are basically the same. Maturity has never been an issue with this guy. Actually when he falls into what I call the forbidden zone it free me up and i don’t feel so up tight..Although, i know that this is not a long term relationshp for he and I. I believe the age thing is workable in a relationship.

I’m 31 yrs old and I have mostly dated younger men, by about 5 yrs. I have found them to have emotional immaturity and overall not ready for commitment.

So, I told myself to quit dating younger guys and have a real relationship. I don’t ever go looking for younger men, but I very rarely meet older men.

Now, I just started dating a 21 yr old. I did not know he was this age as he acts and looks older. Upon finding out that he was 10 yrs younger, I was somewhat disappointed. We’ve been dating for just over a month.

I decided to just have fun and I have found him to be a great communicator when it comes to emotions/feelings. He has actually helped me to be more assertive with my own feelings, something I have not addressed until meeting him. He treats me like a queen, makes me laugh, is very intelligent, and literally fits my list I wrote up in what I wanted in a future partner. But…..

I have come to find out that he has some very deep rooted emotional/mental health issues that he has not fully addressed. He was open with me about having Bipolar, but there are other things as well. He is not in denial and wants to feel better about himself. I suggested that he make an appointment and get things sorted out, in which he called, at my request.

I have found myself in a situation where I care a lot for him, but then, if he cannot get help and get better, I just can’t be with him. So far he has had a few episodes that have made me uncomfortable because talking with him doesn’t really help. He just comes out of it, but I think he needs support.

Anyways, anyone out there been involved romantically with someone who has mental health issues?

Advice would be greatly appreciated.

I am 26 and have been dating a 20-year-old for about six months now. It’s the first time I have ever dated a younger man, and it has had its ups and downs, but overall, it has been a good experience. I was very hesitant at first about getting involved, but in the end, I realized it would be stupid to miss out on a potentially good thing just because I was worried about what people might think.

He’s very smart, and I can’t deny the physical attraction. Although I obviously have more education and am farther along in my career, we have similar interests in music, art and politics. I feel like I can teach him a lot, but he also teaches me, especially when it comes to music and technology. When we hang out one on one, it’s great. Socially, it’s a little awkward, because I’m not about to bring him out to any type of professional event, and he obviously can’t come if I go to the bar with my friends. And when I have to hang out with his friends, who are guys in their early 20s, but not necessarily as mature as him, I get bored and/or annoyed.

Still, I basically am secure enough in myself and where I am in my life and career that I don’t need a man to take care of me. I just want to be with someone who I like and have a good time with, and that is the case with him.

I don’t expect it to last forever, but it’s good for right now, and to other women who may find themselves attracted to a younger man and aren’t sure what to do, I would give the same advice my best friend gave to me (courtesy of Dan Savage): Observe campground rules, and leave him in better condition than you found him.

it is my first time to date a younger men, he is 18 and am 22, he is so matured and gentalmen more than anyother men, i mean older ones i ever dated, i feel so gud, he s gonna b at the college for two more years while i will be working, it makes him feel insecured, but we have been talking over and he seems to accept everything, we are having nine months now, he cout me an i feelt so damn special that day, go gal gt it… it so amazing!

I’m in my late 40’s dating a 22 yr man. He treats me better is more compassionate and thoughtful then any man I’ve ever been involved with. We don’t think this is forever but we do enjoy every day together. My children (older then he) like him and are glad to see me so happy. My friends accept him. Those who care about me don’t judge me, those who judge me? I don’t care about them. Go for it!

I gotta tell ya, I’ve always dated older men and now that I’m dating a younger one I realize why that has been. It wouldn’t be a problem at all aside from the fact that I have had kids for many many years (they are 15 and 7) and he is 24……
All of our fights have to do with my expectations of being a part of a family and his lack of understanding as to how to do that. I keep thinking that if I could just be patient and hold out ’till he’s 30 everything would be okay. Except he’ll want kids then and mine will be in college. Not worth it as far as I’m concerned. This has been a mess and I’ve now dragged my kids into it.

Hello everyone,

I’m 41 and dating a younger man that is only 21 years old. We actually moved in together and for the most part everything is going good. He is actually in the military and will be deploying to Iraq in Sept. He is looking to buy a home for us to move to before he leaves. I wanted a puppy and he got me two and says they will protect me while he’s away for his six month tour. I’m falling in love with him, but I keep asking myself, how realistic is this relationship???? I have sons close to his age and they all like eachother and get along great. So I say to those that are holding back from dating a younger man GO FOR IT… It will be an experience you will never ever forget….. Good Luck you all =)

Well Girls I am in big trouble. I have found my self seeing a man that is 23 I am 32. We stared out as just being friends and hanging out with a group of different people. Every time we would end up in our won little world just joking and having just an attraction that is undeniable between us!
I have been married and have a child. When him and I are together it seems like we don’t have a care in the world and the sex is amazing and the chemistry is unbelievable. Still i find myself knowing that we will never have a future, but don’t want to give him up! I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I am so confused on what to do. We spoke last night and he told me he was falling for me and he has never dated someone my age or anyone with a child. He doesn’t want anyone to get hurt. I told him we just need to stop thinking so far in advance and just live it day by day to see what happens. DAMN am I wrong for not wanting to give him up, I live the way he makes me feel! He is just a wonderful person inside and out! Any advice?

I am a 58 year old women dating a very nice/smaart 36 year oid man until he found out I could not have chidldren. he is 46, never married and has never had chidren. My chidren are gone and I have not desire to have move ecven if i could. life wass good until he realised this. now we are over. I wish him well but really mniss his tuoches

I have dated and now I am married to a man 20 years younger than my 48 years. I have been married to older, by 10, and dated my own age, but I love the vibrancy, energy, and fearlessness of the young. I see things brand new every day, and while we hit maturity snags once in awhile, I wouldn’t change anything. Life is full of risks, and someday you’ll sleep forever, it would be a shame if you looked back with regrets of maybe being with the love of your life. Go for it, step off the world and just be in love.

What matters is, are you happy? If thats so, NOTHING can stand in the way.

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im seeing a guy thats 20 years younger than me im 41 he 21 ,its great ,he gives me all the attion i need and i havent been happy like this in years,i dont feel bad about it at all i say go cougars!!!!!!!

I am also dating a younger guy, im a very young 40 yr old girl.yes girl lol always been treated younger so I tend to not want to grow up. younger men seem attracted to me all the time so I dont hold back. Being i look younger they dont know my age,this guy is 29.he does not know exactly but has taken a guess we have fallen for each other and i feel horrible for holding back on the age issue.Problem is when familys will one day meetup the age may come out and then he may run..not for the age but the lies..be truthful from the start? and lose someone you have a total connection with?If they truly love you they will stay on I Guess..whos the ones to judge or opinionate if two people are happy right? Sad

I am 25 yrs guy,I like older women to date and LTR

I am 45 and the guy I am with now is 28. We have a great time together.He is fun, he has responsibilities, 2 kids a job. I just want someone who wants to have fun and live life for what it has to offer. I am a single mom with a good job so why shouldnt we older women be able to do what older men have been doing for years.I will be honest I find younger men more exciting, most older men are set, especially in their ways where sex is concerned, most younger guys are open to new experiences and ways they are teachable..I love it as long as no one gets hurt where is the harm… Try it ladies you might just like it. We ladies in our mid thirties and fortys and fifties. we are the new 20s……

I feel really weird about saying this… but nonetheless, I am going to.

I’m 18 (I know… rather young!) and have a 15 yr old guy pursuing me. We’ve really hit it off and he is very mature for his age.

It’s not like I’m planning on marrying this guy, but I still get rude comments from people saying it’s disgusting that i’m seeing someone so much younger than me.

He’s a freshman in high school. I’m a freshman in college. However, he is old enough to be a sophomore and I am young enough to be a senior (in h.s.) so I don’t really see what the big problem is!

We are NOT having sex and neither of us plan to until he is of age. (we’d actually prefer to wait until marriage, but you never know what’s gonna happen). I know that it’s not illegal for me to be dating him… unless we have sex, which we aren’t!

SOOOOOO…. my question is; I am wasting my time dating him?

I’m 18. I don’t want to settle down right now. But I don’t see any harm in dating someone younger than me…

I recently started dating a guy that is 12 years younger than me and it has been FANTASTIC! He is amazing and well beyond his years. I truly enjoy his company and knows what’s going on with older women. I really don’t look at our age difference since we seem to be on the same page and work as much as one another. Amazing both physically and mentally and emotionally. Love it!

I’m 28 and i have always dated men my age or older then I, just recently i began dating a man who is 21. his back ground and life experience has made him mature very early in his life, and unlike some men my age he is ready to settle down and have children. in all honesty i’m the one who isn’t ready for that commintment. not all younger men are imature you just need to get to know the person before you start a relationship.

Well, I seem only to be able to meet men younger than I… When I was in my 20s, I met early 20s; in my 30s I met men in their 20s. I did have a 3 yr relationship w/ someone exactly my age, but it was exhausting (because of the person, not the age).

I agree w/ a few of the other comments that younger men are vibrant, fresh, and not weighted down by a lot of baggage. Also, yes, the mail problem is where one is in life. I am 39 and while I look and act much younger, I still would like to maybe have a family. I was dating someone in his early 20s, and while he was so mature I thought he was in his 30s, at the end of the day he wasn’t.

I say go for it. Younger men have a lot to offer, and they are more open and flexible. Just be relaxed about it and if it progresses a few years, then I would make some decisions so that you don’t end up in a 10 year relationship that goes no where. However, listen to what he says. If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, believe him.

I was married to a man from El Salvador who was 20 years younger for nine years, until he passed away. Because he had a tough life until just before he met me, people thought I was younger than him when we met. At the time because the internet was not that big, so he had some old fashioned ideas. I had been a feminist and changed after I decided feminism was just another form of controlling a woman, just as men had in the past. He was intelligent enough to know how to pull his weight in the house and at work. He was 23 and I was 43 when we met, and I refused to act like his mother. We had a business together. So it worked.

But when he passed away and I began dating again, I realized this type of wonderful relationship was in the past. Today, I wouldn’t date a man with that much age difference, because I would suspect they were seeking either just a sexual relationship, or money. I am seeing a man ten years younger though, and have been for eight months. I’m 54 now, and lost my husband two years ago, so this is all new again, since I have just gotten back to dating. What I found in the men my age is that they were bitter, had too much baggage, and seemed pessimistic about life. Many of them had surreal expectations in women that rivaled the Victorian Era. I found them boorish.

I don’t judge men as much by age as by attitude. When we met, my new boyfriend was seeing women in their late 30’s and early 40’s and he dropped them for me, knowing I was 54, because he liked the fact that I’m what he calls “arrogant,” which means I don’t take crap off of men and know I can meet men just walking down the street and do. The key is not age, but personalities. What does he offer you? Do you have similar appearances agewise? Is he independent? If so, then age doesn’t matter. If he needs help, then send him to the next victim. Mothering in relationships never works.

I have always dated older men (by 1-5 years). Now that I have just had my 2nd divorce (he was not mature enough to handle the responsibility of marriage even though he is 42)I am not interested in marriage anymore. I find myself having a “crush” on a man I can only assume to be about 10-12 years younger than me (1′m 39). He works at my apartment and I have just chatted with him in passing. He is always friendly and initiates our conversations. I know he can tell that I think he is just the cutest thing! (you know how we get around men we like). Not sure what to do with this. Any suggestions??

Well I dated a 15yrold about 1 1/2 ago for a few months he was so sweet, the cute names, i loved everything about him. During that time I was working and going to school and i got my 2nd job I was so busy and hated that i had to wait for him to get out of school to see him. In my my new job I met a guy who was 40yrs old started going out to lunch we clicked and felt like my time was being wasted dating a younger guy broke it off. I dated this man for about a 1 yr and had so many problems because he had kids and so many things going on in his life and expected so much from me then i dated a 21 yr old for 3 weeks who was a total dumb ass.NOW THOSE 2 GUYS WERE A WASTE OF MY VALUABLE TIME. the 15yr old is now 17 and i will be 22 pretty soon, we are talking again and i am hoping we can work things out again I dont care what people think or say its my happiness that counts and ofcourse his. Its ok to give ppl something to talk about since they are so miserable

I’m currently dating a man 18 yrs. younger than myself. He’s sexy and hot and we’ve known eachother as friends for three years. I don’t know where it will go, only that I’m having a great time right now! I look about 10 yrs younger, and he looks older, so perhaps people don’t think he’s my son, just a boy toy.

Wow! I’m not alone, I’m 36 years old,and I have been dating a guy age 25 on and off for over a year, now its more on that off. I’m scared too death that he will find someone younger, you know, men are easily distracted! I agree with most the post on here, I have to say that this is the most loving, caring and respectful relationship I’ve ever been in. He’s the best to me and I could never ask for anything any better. BUT he’s sooooo Gorgeous! Any girl would die for him, and well, he knows it! But oh he treats me like a queen ALL the time! Im really too emotional for the relationship, I have him on my mind constantly and if one little things seems out of order, I freak out! I keep thinking he don’t want me, or he is seeing someone else! Well, All I can say is this: If you are happy and being treated well, stay where you are, if you are arguing and having to deal with that sort of thing, get out, and that goes for any relationship no matter how young!

I would not recommend it. I am from the rockies too btw. I am mid thirties and look younger. I get hit on by younger men all the time. When I tell them my age, they are stunned for a moment and then back off. It is painful actually. But it makes sense, guys in their 20’s are available and looking for a mate. Or at least testing the waters and are enthusiastic about dating. They are fun to be with but I simply can’t take being dumped or treated less then b/c of my age. Very few men in their 20’s/ early 30’s can handle being with an older women no less have a committed, relationship with an older woman. Yes, the number of men my age that are available are slim but I still think it is better to wait and try and find someone who I can relate to. Life is not Hollywood and you can save yourself a world of hurt by being smart.

I’m 21, and I’m thinking of dating a guy who’s “born a year after I was”, why that’s in quotes is because he’s 4 months younger (I’m born in the wintertime). I’m just not sure whether I should date him since I’ve always wanted a guy who’s older than me (ie so he can be more mature than I am and take care of me). In fact, my parents don’t want me to have a younger boyfriend. The thing is the guy is really attractive to me, he always sends me these cute sms, always compliments how cute I am, and the thing I really love is he’s really smart and has a bright future. I’m really happy when I see him, but the thought of me being younger just makes me worry…I’m afraid his friends or my friends will find us unmatched, since I’m older… What should I do?

I just turned 46 years old and have recently started dating a younger man (35). I’m physically fit and look about 10 years younger and everyone I meet practically wants to see my ID to verify my age.

I was married for 20 years and my husband was only 5 years older than me. I have never dated a man younger than myself. So far things are going good. He has one school daughter in a different state and no desire to have any additional children and I have teenage children. He owns his own home, is financially stable and has a great job.

He is very passionate and loves kissing on me from head to toe. We are compatible in every way and I have no trouble satisfying him or keeping up with him. We don’t argue at all and like many of the same things. He has a perfect body and has always been attracted to older women.

I have met some of his friends and have been accepted well by them. Several of them might have older wives and girl friends (but it’s hard to tell). In addition, he has met several of my friends and blended in well with them.

The issue I have is he just invited me to a picnic at his parent house for the 4th of July and I not sure what to do about that. I do know his parents are in about the same age bracket as my parents. I am terrified they might think I’m too old for him…… Please Help!!!

I’m an older woman and, unfortunately, am only attracted to younger men. The age difference in and off itself should not be a deterent if you’re interested in someone but there are some things to consider.

Are you self-confident and comfortable with yourself? If not, the situation can easily increase how critically you view yourself and lead to lower self-esteem and acceptance.

Are you a planner and very reliable? Then watch out again. Guys, especially in their early 20’s, may have a very difference sense of getting together than you do and think nothing of changing plans on short notice because their lives don’t require some of the logistical matters that a working woman with a home and possibly children would have to deal with.

All that having been said, younger guys (for all the immaturity) still have an energy and forward focus that can be very attractive and stimulating.

I am 49 & I have been dating a 25 year old for the last 8 months.We have lived together the last 4 months & everything is great, so great. I say go for it.

From my experience, I would say that even though you may be compatible, you are probably in different stages of life. So enjoy yourself but be careful. He probably won’t want to commit or settle down for a while and is still doing all that stuff that 20-somethings need to do. And you’ve already done it.

I think this is great. I had no idea there were so many women dating younger men. I’m 39 and just started dating a man who is 22. I’ve really been struggling with the age difference. I’ve almost always dated men younger than me but by only a few years. When the 22 year old started persuing me I thought of every excuse possible for me not to get involved. “He’s too young. People will look down on us. He’ll get over the attraction and be on to the next one quickly…etc…”. So far he’s been one of the most attentive and caring men I’ve ever dated. He listens to me and seems to be genuinely interested in me and what makes me happy. I’ll just have to see how it goes.

I am 37 dating a 20 year old. we just started dating and it has been great. The chemistry is amazing, as is the sex. We know we dont have a future together, but have committed ourselves to enjoying this while it lasts. I will never regret this relationship. It has added a lot of joy to my life and I will always cherish the memories we have and will make. I say enjoy the young men who are wise enough to love older women.

Hi Bonny,
I recently moved to Calgary because my younger bf (by 4 years and 4 months) is from here. We have been going out for 2 years this upcomming September. Dating a younger guy is very new to me because my last bf was actaully 5 years older than me. The werid thing is my much younger current guy is several years more mature!
Not everything is Sunshine and roses- I do have to deal with the disapproving reactions of people who voice their unwanted opinions…Its hurtful and I hate to admit it but I do lie about his age sometimes to advoid the akward responses I get. Recently I discovered his mother doesn’t like that I’m older and it all adds extra stress on a so-called “forbidden” relationship where the woman is older. After all- I guess the older woman in a mans life traditionally is his mother and only his mother.
Because I have been on my own for quite some time since leaving my own nest- I am quite mature when it comes to life experiences, finances, relationships and struggles.- This is something I was always prided in but since my new boyfriend came along I find myself regretting much of my past and maturity.
All in all- Me and my boyfriend love, trust and respect each other and I truely believe that is the core of any solid relationship. His friends are good with my age and I like his friends too- I focus on the good things and hope his mother’s mind will change and that other peoples opnions will diminish.
My advice is to have fun enjoy him and ignore rude responses- as best as you can.

I am 28 about to be 29 and I am dating a 20 year old and have been for about 4 months, at first I had it in mind that it would be just for fun, what could he possibly want with a single mother who was older? Well things quickly went fast and I am sooo happy with him. His career is jumping off now, he wants a family and has treated me better than anyone else I have ever been with. He is aware of the responsibilities he has taken on. I feel we are at the same stage in life, and our priorities are identical.

I met someone who just turned 20 and I am almost 26. It seems like all these posts that it shouldn’t matter if our hearts are in it and i am happy. However, I just don’t know if i can get over the age difference. I mean he can’t even get into bars yet and I am at the age where thats all my friends and I do. Any advise?

I am 33 and is seeing a guy 8 years younger than myself. He is extremely sweet and cute although a tad immature and insensible at times. Nevertheless, he is able to change and learn faster than my older guys and i will say, all in all, age is not critical unless u mind how pp see u

Wow, I never thought I’d find so many women dating younger guys. I am 32 and married to a 22 year old for about 3 years now. In my last relationship he was 10 years older than me. Truth is, what age is the RIGHT age to be married or to have a relationship with anyways? My 22 year old hubbie’s got a wonderful career, we just bought our first house and are still in love.

There are days when I feel a little more self contious, (this is not me at all) for example, when he compliments younger women or anything of that sort. I’m noticing that it bothers me. What’s strange is when I was married to the older guy, this sort of thing never bothered me at all. As time goes by, I realize that it’s not him, but me that is feeling the getting older pressure, so what I’ve done to remedy this problem is I pretend he’s my age, some days I vice versa and pretend I’m his age. We have a lot of fun with this and I realize that I get less self contious when I’m in this mindset. Make your age difference work for you, not against you.

I must say, when you are with a younger person whether it be man to woman or woman to man, you feel a bit powerful, or might I say empowered. I say go for it, a little self empowerment is never bad. You are a hot mama which is why he’s with you, if not him, it would probably be some other young hot thing in your life anyway. What can I say, maybe some of us older women just look fabulously young for your age, and you can’t blame the young hotties for looking.

Hello Ladies!
I am totally stressed about dating a younger guy. I meet a guy while hanging out with my girls. I found him very attractive and interesting. We actually met after the party and sat and talked at a diner until about 4am. Yes, it was killing me I was dead tired. LOL We really hit if off, however I was taken back by his age, as I am 35 and he is 25. I found myself lying about his age to my sister. I am kind of embarrassed by his age. The friend has totally taken off, we have spent nearly every other day together since we met it has been over a month now. My issue, I was recently cheated on by an younger guy and really just dont want to have a casual relationship. The new guy and I spend a great deal of time together, I stay at his place, as I don’t allow him to stay with me as I have children. It bothers him and I know he doesnt understand as he gets all pissed about it. The communication is great at time and then there are time it’s hit or miss.

My issue is with alot of his self behavior, he wants me to stay over however, had a problem with me leavin stuff there. He of course he changed my leaving things, but now it’s the following, he questions, my motivates, my texting other people, he is selfish with affection now that we are having sex. He use hug and kiss me all the time, its like he wont touch me useless we are having sex, ever now and then he will slap me on the butt which is cute, but why the dramatic changes? He doesn’t like to be touch while we sleep, but always wants me to stay the night. The major issue I have is now that I do stay over at least 3 days or more during the week, when I get up in the morning he doesn’t even acknowledge that I am leaving and it bothers me to know end. When I brought it up to him he said I was being very emotional. I was a bit offended.

I care about this guy but wonder could I really have a future with this man that is only 25 with no kids, and my 35 with 2kids, 16 and 3. I would like to build something with him, but feel really stupid thinking it could be more then what it is and found my self wanted to leave to spear myself of the heartbreak. The thought of having my heart broke again scares me. Please can any of you ladies offer any words of wisdom. Thanks so much in advance.

I am 45 years old and fat and unattractive to men and yet I am really attracted to much younger men (like in their 20’s). I feel terrible and frustrated. No men are interested, much less the younger ones. It really hurts. I want to die I am so sexually frustated. There is something about really young men, they are just gorgeous and full of life.

I (28) have been dating my boyfriend (25) for almost four years now. In the beginning, I was reluctant to date him because of our age difference. He assured me that it meant nothing to him, and we’ve had great times together. However, now I feel that I am ready to move to the next phase of my life (marriage, children, etc.) Now he is using our age difference as an excuse to not move to that next level. Actually, he has gotten worse…partying like he is still in college and being lazy about his career. It’s incredibly frustrating and sad to me. I’m not saying that older women can’t have successful relationships with younger men–but you have to put double the effort into making it work. Just be careful and make sure that you are both on the same page…before you invest as much time as I have!

So… I love reading all this about older women dating younger men. I am actually going through a breakup right now with someone that is 10 years younger than me (I’m 33). I’m crushed!! But it happened to be about the priorities in his life… he’s not ready to be in a mature relationship. He lives at home in his parents basement, I have my own condo. He is in school for 4 more years, I have a degree and a stable corporate job… it’s just hard when 2 people are in different life stages. He said that he wanted a future and wanted to marry me, but, like a lot of previous posts said, he just wasn’t ready and still has a lot of growing up to do. I feel like in 4 years if we got married, he would leave anyway because he never got the chance to “explore life” with me being 37. No way can I have that!

Good luck to everyone and I hope it works out better than my situation! It’s super hard and I’m sad but I know it’s probably for the best.