Reader Question: Dating a Younger Man

I wouldn’t let that bother me. If there is a genuine interest, age wouldn’t be a factor.

It would depend upon what common goals you share. That having been said, true love in this world is so incredibly hard to find. I would say to go for it. Women’s sexual prime is later than ours and they tend to outlive us anyway.

The only thing i would be concerned about is his maturity level and is he picking up his responsibilities. i believe you should not rush into it and really analyze his character to see if he’s someone that can take care you and more. I ran into this dating game simulation online and it’s hilarious! If a man ain’t treating you right don’t mess with it.

i’m in this age thing aguy that is 16 is krazy bout and i dont know wat to do

If you think you seem 10 years younger because you dress 10 years younger, think again. What you most likely seem like is someone who dresses 10 years younger than she ought to.

If she looks younger whatever she wears is gonna look better. I look young for my age and dated men twenty yrs older, my own age and younger….it comes down to the character of a person! Age doesn’t matter. Compatibility and if theyrespect u does. Plus no matter how u dress will either attract a jerk or the right guy who can see beyond it!

Really their is no differences on age factors . I’ve been with older women since I was 18. I am now 27. Preferably it up to the individual who has the insecurities and getting over them . Believe it or not these day younger guy are dating older women. From my experiences older are a lot better then the young.

Ok well I’m a 29 yr. old woman who has been dating a 19 yr. old guy for a yr. and a half now. I don’t see how age is really an issue. As long as u both are happy and in love why should age be an issue? I say go for it what do u have to lose?

Having been President of a large singles organization I have seen this scenario played out many times. The younger male usually eventually ditches the older woman, once she ages. Then she is less desireable/attractive to males overall and lives her remaining years in loneliness. Sorry to say that, but it is a reality and a shame.

I liked the responses here so far. Well, I read the first three and here goes.
I am going on 6 yrs steady with a man 34 yrs old. I am 40. He walks around like he has his shit together in all facets ( did I spell that right ) and is a flake. Doesnt pay bills on time, tickets as well. I am starting to see, well maybe I always have seen; its all about him. I HATE TO GENERALIZE, but it’s like an OCD is going on. He has no romantic bone in his body and I really dont know what I am doing with him. We have never been on and off yet I tell him, find someone else, leave me alone for awhile, it doesnt work.
He is a workaholic and spends money on wrong things, with no goals to speak of.

IT IS HARD TO HAVE AN INTELLIGENT CONVERSATION with him without it leading into a fight.
I could go on and on.
Lis

Hi.. okay first don’t listen tothe nay sayers.. I have been dating two men over the last 7 months one 9 years younger and another 14 years younger, younger men do love a confident secure older woman. If you are looking for some fun and do not have big expectations you could have a really great time. So, to your question, you don’t need to woo.. don’t over think it. Just text the guy and tell him you would like to go out to dinner with him. HE WILL SAY YES. I continue to date and have more younger men then I can ask for asking me out. I can’t keep up… but I am enjoying life. Isn’t that what it is about.. who said marriage? Us older women aren’t usually ready to give up everything and run and get married if we are confident and independent. Just what the men love. GOOD LUCK!!

I am 45yrs young and I have raised 2 sons (1 is 28yrs & the other 26yrs) to be real men. I have numerous relationships with loser men my age and never considered dating anyone that was more than 5 yrs younger.Until 1 yr ago I started seeing this 25 yr old., the difference of 20 years is large, no future in it but it’s the best sex I’ve ever experienced. Now I have a boyfriend who is 35yrs old and much more mature and very committed to the relationship. I try to stay physically fit and the age difference doesn’t bother him or myself. I say if it makes you happy and you trust and love him, you go for it! You only live once.

I have had the best sex of my life with a man 16 years younger than me. I have not called or pursued him he has called me. I do not think we will be together in the future but want to continue the friendship for what he has offered to me. He has woke me up to life and to enjoy it for me. After divorce and being mistreated by my ex husband he has given me life again. I do not regret a day of our friendship and relationship.

I’ve always attracted younger men and was married to a man ten years younger than me for twenty years. Our marriage broke up, not because of the age difference, but because of other bog-standard issues that could occur between any couple. Now I’m seeing a guy 16 years younger than me and it’s just brilliant. I have no intention of getting married again (been there, done that), but I intend to enjoy life to the full, especially while my young lover is so full of energy and passion! Mmmm

the age difference only becomes an issue when it comes to children- having them..
if he is 35 and you are 42 when you meet, chances are you will have a hard time conceiving at 43 or 44, if he wants children.you stand a better chance if he has kids already. you can look 28 and be 48 but the inside never lies..

I am a 44 year-old woman and dating on and off a 10 years younger guy for over seven months now. I do look fantastic for my age too. However, he backed off after he found out exactly how old I was. After my husband left me after 22 years of marriage, he helped me to brush up on social skills and showed me how to have fun. We both have so much in common, background, culture, personality, and goals. In different circumstances we would be perfect for each other. However, I don’t think there is a future for us, because age does bother him alot. I love him very much, and I know he has feelings for me too, but our relationship is falling apart day after day. He doesn’t want to take me out anywhere anymore, just his or my house. If you know that the number doesn’t bother him, go for it. You will enjoy his company, no doubt.

I, too, am in love with a younger man. I am 55 and he is 34. I am afraid to do anything since he is a good friend. How do I proceed?

I can’t believe this happened to me…. I am in love with a man 12 years younger than I and he loves me too!…I know I can’t believe this…I surely didn’t go out and look for this to happen and I never dreamed we would be talking happily ever after either…but we are! At first I told him it was his decision to have this awesome relaionship or not…but now I am having some second thoughts, and am working through them as best as I can….I worry about ten years from now….??? but these risks you take with anyone….right?

i am 35 and my current man is 25. and oh is he awesome. i was married to a 40 year old and its amazing how much more my new boyfriend can connect. its not about age. its about who you are.

Isn’t it interesting? We wouldn’t even be discussing this if the genders were reversed, because no one would bat an eye. 10 years is not that much of a difference. If you’re both happy, than what’s wrong with it? Listen to your heart, not the nay-sayers. You never know how life and love can surprise you.

Wow, I’m so glad to read how common this situation is…I’m a 44 year old woman who has met at 29 year old man and am apprehensive about a relationship. I guess you never know where life will bring you…go ladies!

I am head over heels in love with a man who is 14 years younger. The feeling is mutual. I am 39, he is 25.

My only concern… having been around the block a little bit more than him (married), is that he doesn’t REALLY truly get how unique and amazing, and hard to come by our relationship is. Clearly this is not too big a concern.

I definitely thought I was done with children, but would squeeze one out as late as 44/45 for him / us.

I am 42 years old, divorced, and have no children. The man that I really want to be with is 41 and like me has no children (he has never been married though).

I had been seeing a 41-year old since May 15, 2009. I went to a conference in North Carolina the second week of June 2009 and felt inextricably draw to a man that I later found out is 24 years old. I broke up with the 41-year old because he started playing phone games. You know, the one where they TELL you to call them back in 2 minutes, they don’t pick up the phone and then call you the next day (and don’t leave a message). I told the 41-year old ON THE FIRST DATE that I’m one for games, and I REALLY THOUGHT that we were on the same page, until he started with the games. I think that he’s seeing (sexing) another woman, OR he wants to give me the impression that he is. Either way, I felt that I needed to end things because the relationship was about him trying to get the upper hand.

After I thought about all of the things that we have in common, as well as how much that I miss him, I called him 2 days ago to see where we stand BECAUSE the 24-year old has been calling me non-stop! The 24-year old is irritated that I won’t give him a chance. Because I am the type of woman who feel it responsible to end one thing before beginning another, I must say that the 24-year old is making it INCREDIBLY hard for me to say no. His spirit seems so free and unencumbered while the 41-year old, although without children, seems to have more emotional baggage. I’m beginning to close the book on any chances with the 41-year old because it’s been 2 days and he still hasn’t called. My heart is aching, but it’s not the first time, so I am sure that I will get over my hurt. Whether it’s his pride in me breaking up with him, or whether it’s to teach me a lesson, I’m sick of his games. I want to tell the 41-year old that I WANT to be with him, but am mature enough to realize that a relationship cannot work unless BOTH people want it.

On the other hand, I wonder WHY I gave a man my card who is so much younger. When I met the 24-year old, he was just so open and honest. Specifically, he TOLD me that he remembered me from last year. He also TOLD me that he vowed that if he ever saw me again, he would talk to me and try to get to know me. This man is DOING JUST THAT. The problem? I am scared to death of getting hurt. I worry that he will NOT be the same person at 30 years old, and that he will leave me for someone younger. I think that the MAIN reason WHY I am so scared is because I have a connection with this man (we live in different states). I am so attracted to his spirit, his honesty, and his candor. But the REALITY is the 18-year age difference. For anyone out there who can relate to my feelings, PLEASE share your thoughts on this.

I was married to my husband for 23 years and found out he was cheating the last 9 months of it. We have been divorced for 1 1/2 year.

I had a one year relationship with a man 4 years older then myself and it was safe and healing and I am afraid I broke his heart.

Two days later I met a guy who I knew casually for a year.. He ran after me and I now know he is 17 years younger..

we went out and to my surprise I really like him.. And we have such Chemistry!

I am 49 and he is 32 and OMG how will that work? I only know I can not wait to see him again!!

im 33 and dating a 25 yr old he worships me, best sex, ive told hem several times to go get woman his age and he refused, we hav been dating for 4years now, we do all the things couples do together, he is so in love with me, im confortable with the relationship, older man are boring,

I am dating a 5 years younger boy. and we are planning a family together, my family is against it we both love each other very much. what do i do???

I am 45 and was recently dating a 24 yo – I can relate to the writer named “Confused” above….I was so attracted to his free spirit, youth, and the fact that he pursued me a lot! He made me feel alive again, attractive, HOT! Anyhow, after a few months of this, he kept telling me that he was scared be cause he was becoming very attached to me and we both knew there could be no future with a 22 year difference! So, he pulled away – of course I felt horrible, hurt, and lonely again. But that’s the risk you take I guess, and I have some great memories! I would do it again in a heartbeat!

I have read all of the comments posted and I too can relate.

I am a single mother of the most adorable 8 year old. Ive met so many men in my past however none compair to the man i met approx 1.5 years ago. I was born in 1975 and he was born in 1984. Simply put there is an 8 year difference in our age.

In a year an a half I have enjoyed his company, and committment to our friendship. Just recently he mentioned that he is and will be dating other women…preferably younger more in his age bracket.

As I understand this is so important…part of my insecurities came out….as in why am I not enough…etc….

This past weekend we went hiking, one of the better weekends I’ve ever had. One of the young ladies he has begun dating texted, called etc….and he shed light on our “friendship”. Very basic from what I gathered from the other end.

I mentioned that I will not go for this kind of disrespect. If he wants to date and see other women then so be it. Because the young lady he is currently begun dating “5 days” now…is playing for major keeps. I just told him to DO IT!

He seemed soo confused, he mentioned that he didnt want the feelings he has for me. He said he just thought our relationship would be very casual, nothing emotional.

For the first time he mentioned that he cared for me and wants for me to trust in what he is doing. He said the MORE i date the MORE i see I want to be with you!

I dont know its an interesting relationship by far. I have my insecurities about dating a younger man but why? I can only pray that what is to be will be. God does answer prayers.

My first husband was 8 years older, he was a liar and a cheat, he never clean up after himself he wouldn’t help out around the house, he drank all day on the weekend and wouldn’t bulge from wherever he was sitting. He worked and made decent money but never brought any of it home, so bills went unpaid, the utilities would get disconnected, and there was never any food in the house…I could go on and on.

My new husband is 18 years younger, he cooks, clean and keeps the house immaculate, not to mention he pays all the household expenses, he helped me to finish paying for my son’s tuition (college). He takes me on vacations around the world, pampers me with gifts to the spa, jewelry, and electronic devices. Again I could go on and on. It’s an individual thing, not all older men don’t have their lives together, just as all younger men aren’t screw-ups. I realize that my husband might one-day look at me and see a much older woman, but for now I will keep on loving him just as he loves me and I can only hope for the best.

I married my younger man (by 17 years) this July 4th. We had dated for two years and knew we wanted to be together…not just cohabitate.

I personally don’t know how people can date someone in the age range of their child. It feels wrong to me….but I guess, to each their own.

” Younger man and Older Woman ”

I can’t speak for others, but for myself.

Am a 45 yrs old man in excellent shape and form, and had my first wife for a very brief period who was 4 yrs younger.

Then came along my ex who was 3 years older than me.

Now, am in love with a pretty and matured 53 year young lady also in excellent shape and form.

The point I am trying to bring here is that age is not a mere factor or any right or wrong age/age difference. Obviously, extreme differences say 15-20 (or more)might be more challanging, but hey, Marriage and it’s success is a challenge anyways.

Better being with an older compatible lady than a younger lady with whom the relationship probably might break..AND VICE VERSA TOO.

BOTTOMLINE: GO FOR IT IF IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD.. GIVE IT SOME TIME AND LIVE TOGETHER FOR SOMETIME AS WE CALL IT COURTING RELATIONSHIP, BEFORE TYING THE KNOT.

I’m 35 and dated a guy that was 22. It was the best relationship, at least that’s what I thought. He said he wanted to marry me, and he loved his life with me. Then one day he took his things and moved out. Yes overnight! He said he wanted to see what was out there, and that he wanted to be 22. I was heartbroken and I still think about him everyday. Its been 2 weeks and he still hasn’t called. I love him soooo much. I hope he sees that the grass isn’t always greener on the otherside.

Hmm. This is interesting. The comments seem evenly split between “It’s the greatest thing ever” and “It sucks.” I have an attraction to someone who is 29, nearly 30 and I am 44. Since he is in a relationship, it’s not going to happen, but it got me to thinking about what issues would come up if it did. It also got me off my butt and into exercise class! So I guess it hasn’t been all bad!

I’m really not sure. One man in our circle is 48 and married to a 27-year-old woman, so as we were discussing it, I ventured the opinion that really, it would depend on the guy. And it would. If he were mature enough to handle the age difference, and genuinely interested in me and vice versa, it might be worth a shot.

I am almost 45 yrs young…I am divorced w/ a 23 yr old son and a 20 yr old daughter who has a 21 mo old son. I seem to only attract much younger guys or older ones (which are usually married). The younger guys are a true “turn-on” to me! It really flatters me when these young men try to hit on me. About 3 wks ago I met this cutie – who is 24. I told him that “my daughter would love him” when I first met him. This guy makes me laugh and treats me like a real lady! I don’t look my age and I love to smile and have fun. I try to eat properly and some exercise helps me to look and feel good. almost The guys I have been with around my age group are very immature for their ages, they expect too much from me and they want to keep me locked up! I haven’t told my children about this young man yet. This is the youngest guy that I have actually thought about dating. Last year I was seeing this 31 yr old – I thought the 13 yr age gap was tremendous but this tops it all!

I am a divorced Asian woman at age 45 and met a 32 year old man 19 months ago. He pursued me 7 months before we started dating. We just had our first anniversary this weekend. He is pure, understanding, responsible, and incredibly cute (from Romania). First two months after having such a romantic trip together to Napa Valley, I was thinking we would go separate ways because I thought he didn’t know age. Even while we were having a great time together on our trip, I was afraid of losing him anytime, so couldn’t enjoy the entire time. His response was he knew about my age from day one and never cared about the age difference as long as I look and feel good like now. He never had a girlfriend in America for 9 years until he met me. We got along so good and so attached to each other. He never went out alone and always liked to do things with me.

He moved in with me after 9 months of dating and one day over one small & silly argument he moved out. I was devastated and brutally hurt. For two weeks he only sent me one neutral email and offered me help on anything anytime. I took a trip to L.A. to ease my pain but nothing helped me. I initiated first phone call and he responded. We met at a restaurant and went to my business office and both cried so hard. We both realized how much we miss each other and wanna be together. We got back and started a new and mature chapter in our relationship. It was rather bumpy in the beginning but we figured out what takes to make it work Ladies out there who date younger men don’t need to have a fear about the outlook or the hurt from the break-up because it can happen in any form of relationship not just from the age difference. We overcame the challenge in the beginning of our relationship with his persuasion and help. Sometimes, I have experienced his lack of relationship skills, but as long as we stay focused on what we want for our life, the difference that we have could happen in a relationship with the same age. I never feel confident about my having a full control when things go wrong between us. I think he sometimes learns the wisdom and gain maturity indirectly from my past mistakes that I often share with him. His friends also told me that I look younger than he. I exercise and get skin care on regular basis and look and feel more youthful than ever unlike my marriage with 9 year older husband who made me feel like 65 with no glow on my face.

We are planning to get married on our second anniversary day next year. I am sure there will be some challenges ahead of us to level our different experiences in our past life, but I can’t wait to see our maturing and growing together next 12 months. IT’S ALL WORTH IT!!

my boy friend is 2 years younger than me he just told me.i ve the fear that one day he will say i m too old for him.but i want him to tell me want he want from the relationship if i can agree with him.i am 28 he is 26

do you think a man of 45 who loves wild sex partying can honeslty love a woman of 60 who looks exactly like 60 she looks like his mother and he loves younger woman and ive learned that shes been supporting him do you think it will last she also found that he had been sleeping with his much younger ex girlfriend should she continue this ?

A beautiful 24 year old man recently stepped into my life. I’m 48 years old. He ask me to our company Christmas party. Yea…risky. Wearing my cougar label, I walked into our party with my head held high. It was an honor to be his date and I had the time of my life.

I plan to continue seeing him for as long as it last without
anaylzing, second guessing, or putting expections on our relationship.

My advice is live in the moment. If life throws you an opportunity to experience passion and love, except the gift and be thankful.

The comments that I have read here are from one extreme to the next. I am also dating a man who is 22, I am 34. In his young years he has been through a lot. 2 years ago I had to leave a man whom I spent 16 years with, whom I married and as soon as I married him, it was over in 90 days. This man was abusive, a cheater, a womanizer, couldn’t hold down a job and still doesn’t, and didn’t have any goals in life, just want to live off of me. Now the 22 year old, is simply amazing. He is very goal oriented, a hard worker, a magnificent lover and a great friend. We have been dating for 9 months and counting, and he has given me my life back, he has healed me in ways where I thought I’d never heal. He pursued me, took me out on a few dates, we spent a lot of time together for the initial months, but began to pull back, because he wasn’t sure about jumping into things with me right away because he fell for me hard and explain that it was so easy to like me, as he pulled back I pulled back, and as I pull back he comes for me. I decided to take things slow and where ever this goes it goes, he is young and still trying to find his way, so basically I am just there for now, because he has his life to live and I have mine, and hopefully we cross paths, We still talk about every three to five days but consistently weekly. I let him pursue because even though he is young he knows what he is looking for in a woman. When dating a younger man I have learned to have confidence in myself, leave all the pursuing up to them, in essence they are still immature in many ways but seem a lot more goal oriented and full of life. If you are interested in a younger man, they tend to not want to be tied down, and have to have their freedom and it is best to let them have their freedom but don’t stand for any of the types that are just looking for a free ride, the typical booty call, a mother or someone to call if their in a bind. My “boyfriend” is a mutual confidant, we talk about many things and we go through life separately trying to reach our goals, and are really enjoying this no strings attached thing for the moment. We look out for one another and the only expectation we have is that we exclusively see one another, when we see each other. We both have mutual respect for one another, he is open and honest as well as I am open and honest, he talks about marriage a lot, and I let him talk about it but don’t respond too much because he is 22 years old, has a lot to learn about life in general, and let him do him. Right now he is chasing the pavement, trying to get his financial security in order, and is always talking about taking care of me. I don’t take him too serious and won’t take him serious until he has made a commitment on his own, but will set boundaries if I have to. He knows what I have been through and is a true protector of my heart. No I don’t know where his mind is at all times, but it has been 9 months and we are still involved in a non-committed way at the moment where he is free to pursue his dreams without being tied down to any specific way of being with me. I do love him but love myself a lot more. As an older woman with a younger man, I have to make sure I stand tall and pursue my dreams and make sure things are right for me, because this man right here will be a very close friend for life, and one day the Lord may bless him to be my husband. For now it is the freedom to love each other just the way we are loving each other at this very moment.

I need your help ladies……. so badly . I have been divorced for 2 years now. I have 2 small children under the age of 7. I have not dated or wanted to date since the divorce, i wanted to concentrate on my kids. I recently meet someone who I believe could easily be my soul mate, however he is 19 years younger. Just looking at that seems so bad. I have never connected with anyone in my life like he and I have. We both fell so hard and so fast we still can not believe it. I fought my feeling for him so hard because of his age. But i can not help what my heart feels and it is 100% in love with him. I have been in love 3 times now. Once and still with my high school sweetheart, husband of 11 years and now with the younger guy. We connect on every level possible and are so perfect together. We complete each other and are so much in love but no-one knows. My best friend knows and supports us but that’s it. He recently went back home and we are both dieing inside and the pain of being apart is to much to handle. I have never felt pain like this in my life, without him I am empty, lonely, heartbroken and feel like half my heart went with him. we talk, text and facebook as often as we can. We are both in so much pain and want to be together so bad. From day one he has talked about how I am his perfect match. Every time we had sex he wished I would get pregnant, he talks about marriage and how we are perfect for each other. He lives at home still ( he is legal tho) and neither of our families know anything. He still has to go to college in September. He has only been gone a week but this pain is so intense and unbearable I cry every night I miss him so much and my heart hurts so bad i cant breath at times. We are meeting in a tropical place in may. I just want to be with him now and forever. Ladies any advice would be helpful to me please.

Well I am 34 recently divorced from a 37 year old husband who had continued affairs with much younger ladies. And am now the love focus of a 29 year old man who could easily be an underwear model. My 29 year old is far more mature than my 37 year old ex who used to play online games and drink all day. New man is not only stable where money and career is concerned, he even took on my children. I am average ladies. Not a model type not loaded and yet here is this angel. just for me. Why? Because we have things in common and have a similar mental attitude. Its not about age its about individual people. Go for it. You are only alive once, and idiots come in all shapes and ages. Advice from younger man, Some men do reach a mental peak early and can not abide the mind games, immaturity and giggly young fluffs who are focused on non important issues.

Someone your own age may not always be right for you. Good luck.

I’ve been seeing a man who is 22 years younger than me for a year, and it’s the most amazing relationship I have ever had! He has a kind soul, and I’m honestly in love! It started as sex, but we both realized we couldn’t say goodbye, and we just gave in to it! I’ve honestly never been happier in my life!

I have been in a committed relationship with a man 13 years younger than I. I’m 40 and he’s 27. On the surface it doesn’t make alot of sense. What had taken me by surprise was knowing this man has more depth and kindness than any man I’ve ever met. He has a child and I have children. We have very similar values, ideas, goals. I can honestly say that I love him completely. I don’t know where the future may take us but I do envision my life together.

I wish that there were guarantees but with everything in life, there are not. Enjoy the moment and love completely. Respect and love one another.

I am 40 years old and divorced for 2 years now, dating a 48 year old for 1 year, he is kind and probably a good candidate for marriage, for the last 2 months i started loosing interest in him for many reasons too long to explain but do not have the heart to break up with him right now. 5 days ago this 25 year old gorgeous rich kid starts talking to me at the hair salon and asked for my number, I was totally shocked, he was really flirty and yes I gave him my number, he asked me out that same night and i accepted, i was sooo nervous and it felt so weird but exciting at the same time, well that night we just talked and he kissed me like I dont remember ever been kissed but i held back from going further, he was ok with that, now he keeps calling and texting that he wants to see me again, i dont know what to do, i do look pretty good for my age, should i just have a fling? i am sure that it will be all about sex… helppp!!!!

Hello everyone I read through all the comments, searching for women who have some insight on dating someone much younger. I’ve been friends with a man (26) for over a year, and we just started dating a couple weeks ago. I’m 35 I’ve had serious relationships with men 10 years older, and men my age or a couple years younger. This is my first boyfriend with this much of an age difference.

What I’ve learned so far in my life, and what I would like to share, is that people are people – and double standards are illogical and immature.

Love is love, lust is lust, friendship is friendship. Life is about experiencing new things and taking risks. I spent my entire life thus far trying to ‘logic’ my love and relationships to no avail – because I was afraid of taking the risk to just let things happen regardless of the outcome.

Some men and women experience ‘life lessons’ at different ages, and some men and women are ready for certain things at different times. It’s all about living life, learning from mistakes and continuing forward.

Now with that being said, I will tell you this about my new boyfriend – he is every single wonderful quality that was in all of my exs, combined Smart, responsible, funny, fun, considerate, thoughtful, sexy and extremely patient and gentle He has a gentle voice, gentle hands, and a gentle spirit. He is simply amazing. We discussed the age difference, but decided that we are both at a place where we want the same things in a significant other, and that our age difference should not be the deciding factor in whether or not we should enjoy life together for the time being. We also discussed the issue of children (neither of us want any) before we started the relationship – I know it’s weird, but when you’re on the verge of giving your heart to someone, being honest should not be so scary that you dive in head first and realize down the road that kids/no kids will become a roadblock in a relationship.

My one advantage over some of the other women here is that we had a friendship first where we developed trust and respect – so when I brought up the issue of children, he completely understood, and respected the reason why I asked the question. He was actually happy I brought it up He’s not looking for someone to ‘mother’ him – all he wants is for me to be happy – and lately I’ve been so stressed out :S

Listen, we’re all adults here – we are allowed to have grown up fun. We are allowed to try new things and explore all the things life has to offer – Joy, pain, love, sadness – no matter if we’re with someone or not, we also feel loneliness at times. Have confidence in the decisions you make, because they are yours to make. One cannot appreciate happiness without experiencing great sadness – experiencing those dualities is what makes life valuable – wouldn’t it be better to try and fail than wonder what if the rest of your life? It’s the ultimate learning experience – after a while you figure out what it is exactly what you want and how to get it. Take a chance! Who knows what lies around the corner

I for one, am looking forward to what will happen for me and my new boyfriend Even if it ends, we talked about staying friends no matter what, but for now, he tells me he adores me, and shows it. I said ONE time, a few months back that I always wanted to go to the opera – the day he asked me to go, I had totally forgotten that we even talked about it – and that’s where we went for our first date

Good luck ladies! My thoughts and hopes are with you

This is exactly the same situation I have now. I think that it takes guts to lay it out on the table talk about it with the person and see where it goes. We may have opinions and or even success stories but every case is different and it depends on the individual and circumstances. Do be prepared that he will say no, that he would walk away, and that he may/may not take you all that seriously. (Seems like the ball is in his court very much).

few weeks ag0 I met a guy who is 10 years younger than me. I’m so so confused and can’t stop thinking about his age when i’m by myself. when we are together I can’t stop thinking how great he is. he is fun and wants to tell the world he’s with me but I wouldn’t dare.

Ok,. I have you all beat! betcha. I am 77 years old and in love and loved by a wonderful, sweet, kind, handsome man who is 41!!!!

How did this happen? For the first two months I just kept laughing at him. and his feelings were hurt. Why are you laughing at me? but i gradutlaly stopped laughing.. and started appreciating his kindness and compassion for others,. and his amazing desire to make love to me.

Ane well,.. near the end of a rich, wonderful life.. why not?

ok, did i beat you all?

Hi, I am 29 and recently met a gorgeous guy who is 19. I have never had a relationship as ive never met a man I can trust and who will treat me right. I know we both really like each other and have a huge amount in common we talk all the time. Yes we have kissed and cuddled a few times and he is such a gentleman, but what I think is stopping us is what is everyone as in our friends thinking, a 10 year age gap! As soon as I try to push him out my mind he will get in contact with me again. He is extremely mature and very well set up in life more so than alot of 30 year olds I know! But Im so confused I think about him all the time and keep thinking no hes too young for you, but I cant imagine him not in my life!

I’m also 29, in love with a 19 year old. I’ve tortured myself about it, seriously. I was in a good relationship with a good man a year older than me for seven years, so I know it’s not just that I can’t “find someone my own age”. As someone else said, though, it’s about who you are as people. We have been really close friends for a year, without doing anything physical, and I think that’s actually been a good idea. There are specific issues that come up with life experience with that much of an age difference, and 19- even a very mature 19- is still young. After a year of being friends, though, I don’t notice the age difference anymore- we just fit together (like peas and carrots:), and I have this wonderful, calm feeling around him, like this is exactly where I’m supposed to be. And if you can find that with someone, hold onto it.

Hello I am a 33 yr old married woman who is in love with a 23 yr old man. I have been have been seeing him for almost two yrs now. We are crAzY in love. We have a great time when we are together he makes me laugh, feel SEXy, and we always have a great time when we are together. We often go out and people tell us they can see the immense love we have for each other. We have talked about me getting a divorce, but I am scared. I have stepped back to many times in life. I feel like I am going to be taking care of him. He still lives at home and just recently enrolled in school. I am established and live a very comfortable life style. He talks about moving out together but is waiting for me to move out with him. He has no responsibility right now and shows no independence. I feel like I am being materialistick. When we are not together i think about him all the time. I often cry because i miss him and can’t do the normal boyfriend/ girlfriend stuff. I get sick, and have anxiety attacks. I now take antidepressants and was told to go see a counselor. My 23 yr old lover just recently started making comments like “your going home to f%&* your husband” and so on…which again makes me very upset and cry. My husband on the other hand is very good looking, takes care of me, kind, and loving. I am very proud of my husband. He hardly ever wants to do anything together, like family functions and shopping together. We have no kids. Now after two years I have detached myself from his family and him. We recently went on vacation and I felt no reconnection. I know that is not going to happen overnight. However, when I got back from vacation my 23 lover gave me a altimatume…yikes. …..him or me..now I feel like I am being pressured, and don’t need a 23 year old to tell me what to do. Im scared and also hurt. Any advice??? Is this normal??? Feel free to ask me questions..there is a lot more to this..

What happens, when there is a 20 year difference when he is 50 and you are 70. I am 49 and I have someone pursuing me that is 27, I really like him and we have great chemistry but I cant get over the age difference. Do people make comments, like is that your son? Or does it matter that he gets carded and you dont. Just some questions I have been asking myself.

For the last 9 months I have been with a man who is 10 years younger than me. He’s just about everything I’ve ever wanted in a man – kind, generous, funny, handsome, healthy, driven, goal-oriented, passionate, adventurous, etc. The connection was instantaneous for me. It feels so right and so meant to be. I’ve met all of his family and he has met all of mine. Everyone supports us, which is so great. We plan on moving in together in a few short months. BUT, my FEAR is not for the now (things are great), but for years from now. I’m petrified that he will one day look at me and see me as an older lady, then leave me. I’m afraid I will find myself alone at an older age, which would be horrible, and that some lucky younger woman will take him away from me. The thought of that makes me want to vomit. I don’t look near my age though, I continuously get told I look somewhere around 24/25/26. I am not worried about the age difference between us as far as maturity level, goals, etc. – we are on the same page in every respect. My concern lies within myself, trying not to let my self-confidence get the best of me. I feel like because I think of him/us 24/7 and how it will all play out later, I’m sending the wrong energy into the universe. I’m trying to be more positive and confident about it, but I’m having a hard time. I know you can only be rewarded in life if you take risks, but I’m so scared. I love him so much……we haven’t even verbalized that yet, although I am dying to tell him and to hear it from him as well. He had a troubled childhood and has a hard time with intimate emotions, so I’m just being patient.

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I don’t want to hear stories about people that have been dating a year or two with the age difference between an older woman and a younger guy; I want to hear stories of how the marriages have lasted 20-30 years! I need those stories. I don’t know what to do and I make myself physically ill thinking about it all to death. I just want to be able to enjoy the “now”, like everyone says, but the future is so important to me, I can’t take it lightly. Help.

I forgot to mention that I am about to turn 37 and he just turned 27.

I am 45 and was married to the wrong one like many, for twenty years. I am in love with a 22 year old man. I say man, and love in the same sentence and this is profound for me. I dated many men after my divorce and have had 3 relationships two a little older and one the same age. I am not a fly by night and have an abusive past with my ex and when I was a child. This young man came into my life when he was 14 years old while I was still married. He was the hardest worker and most humble child I had ever seen. I treated him like a son, because I have a son two years younger than him. He came from a hard life with his mother in a wheelchair and a very abusive stepfather. I never thought any different at the time about him, but I knew he was different. I didn’t know until years later that he fell in love with me at this young age where you really do not understand what love is. He lived with our family off and on and left at certain points of his life to find out what life was about, in which he did and he has always tried so hard to do the right thing or you could say the manly thing. He told me at 19 years old how much he loved me this was after my divorce. I knew I loved him and I told him but I couldn’t go on with it. He left cause he knew he had to. Living in the same house and in love and you can not express it is very stressful, it had took its toll on both of us. I forced him out I will say more in my next message

This is to complete my message. Women and men, love is not bias nor does it discriminate. He is back home after trying to have a life with his own peers and age and lifestyle. I went on with my life accordingly. I dated and carried on. He is and will always be a man of actions. When he speaks the words are of such wisdom that I can not turn my back. I prayed to God a long time ago while I was still married in the same home with my ex that if it were his will for me to stay married and live for my husband only and my children and be their caretaker only I would do as his will. I also ask God would I ever experience true love before I died. I always told God I would do what I was suppose to do and be what I am suppose to be if it were his will. Now here I am in total love with this man and this man is more than I dreamed of , even as a child in fairy tales. He is all and to him I am all. He lifts me as I lift him. We are each others support system. There is no trust issues. I am encourage to live and advance as I do him. We have agreed to wait as long as it takes to start our life together fully as we should. This is all due to my son who is mentally ill with disorders. I have done all for my son plus more, but it is like living with my ex all over again and I have come back to the same prayers as before. Please women, make you a checklist, stand by what traits you have to have in a man and make sure you have the same traits that you are seeking.

Poniektorzy traktuja, iz istnienie kajtkiem jest takie linie. Nagminnie policzyc mnogosc niezacnych sprawie, pomimo tego przekazuje sie zapominac psycholog. slepi, zgadzam sie, iz nasze obecnosc jest latwiejsze niz doroslych, atoli potem nie istnieje w istocie linie, podczas gdy wielu jaŸni.
reflektowalbym wzmiankowac kilka poprawnych artykulow bedac mlodzianem. Matki rodzicielce do sluzby psycholog albowiem istniejemy sposrod rodzicami, jacy placa w srodku klanem, w celu niepolskiej nauce i wielu nieodrebnych tresci. Dopuszczaja nam ogonkowe i zdolamy sposrod nim dokonac co pozadamy. Dodatkowym operandem jest owo, ze nastolatki sa w nieporzadnym zdrowiu i psychologia calego rzutkosci. Wieksza czesc nastolatkow sciska jasne rozumy zas wykladac sie ekspresowo. Tymczasem najwazniejsze jest owo, ze istniejemy mlodziez, wolne, byc wyposazonym wielu kumplow a faktycznie mnogosc sila. SPOsRoD pozostalej okolica, zyja jacys wady, takze. Wystajemy w postaniu stresu, badŸ w szkole lub w domu, co byc moze ciagnac sie do chandrze. Akceptujemy presji gdy everyman reflektuje byc maksymalny. Odrebna rzecza jest owo, ze poniektorzy dorownaliby psychiczne powazaja nas, jak my istniejemy 18 latek, tudziez tyczyc sie podczas gdy przychowek.

Najbardziej gwaltownego zwierzeta egzystuja w Afryce a Ameryce. W Afryce sa slonie, slonie tudziez lwy, przeciez wkrotce przypuszczalnie wyginac w srodku ¬ sprawiac, iz ludzie usmiercaja spozywa gwoli swoich klow, jakie sa wybitnie kosztownego. Owo tymiz z nosorozca – jego krawedŸ istnieje drogie, too. W Afryce skorce byly rowniez mrowie modeli kolorowych papug. Teraz istnieje ich coraz mniej sposrod nich. Naturze w terenie Amazonii istnieje w niebezpieczenstwie, poniewaz kadry redukowanie lasow, poczesne jak “plucami ziemio”. Owo nie wprost przeciwnie druzgocze siedliska zwierzat, natomiast dodatkowo psycholog umozliwia na atmosfera na swiecie. Trawienie solidnego regiony lasow byc moze przyczynic sie niezamiennego Przegranej a dziko zywych, podczas gdy otrzymaloby to polozenie w ogniach w Malezji w 1997 roku. Tam istnieje mniej polozenia gwoli agresywnych zwierzat na Glebie, dlatego ze kadry wyrzniete zagajniki, konstruowac gniazda, iw ow sposob skontaminowac zmian media faktycznego. Parki nienacjonalistycznego sa przygotowywane w celu zaslony barbarzynskich zwierzat. Internacjonalnego prawo pozostalyby ucielesnione, by zapisac zwierzeta od momentu gosciom ¬ polujacych tudziez ich usmiercic. Niektore sposrod tych zwierzat postraszonych wyginieciem sa otrzymywane az do zielencow zoologicznych w odrebnych regionach, jakie maja stanowic kultywowane a potem sa one przystac bezsensownie w ich samoistnym srodowisku na nowo. Lecz ail to nie koniec: Coraz to wiecej gatunkow zwierzat sa zagrozone wyginieciem. Lokalnym obowiazkiem istnieje chronic wpieprza oraz zrobic pelnia, izby umozliwic psychiatra przetrwanie.

Notorycznie sadze o mojej przyszlosci. Intryguj jestem jak to bedzie wygladac.
Chwilowo laze do tradycji a jestem w czwartej kreacji. Stad istnieje jasne, iz reflektowalbym przejsc egzamin pochodne – potwierdzenia nieedukacyjnego. Pracuje plus. Moja dzielo ma sens a przyjemne, ale na nieszczescie owo nie istnieje cne platnej umiejetnosci. Maci otuche, iz zapracuje iles wiecej, jeslibyscie przekazalby testu. Zachciej nie myslec, iz jest to istotnie grunt w celu mnie. Chwilowo najwyzsze istnieje moje wyksztalcenie. Jesliby absolwent tradycji otrzymuje na ankieta inauguracyjny do grupy sredniej. Lecz nie jestem coraz niejaki, co bede badac. Dumalam o marketingu natomiast liderowania – owo jest cokolwiek, co mnie frapuje i byloby pomocne w mojej roboty. Chcialbym mowic po angielsku doskonale. W mojej ksiazce wielce wazne jest, azeby byc wyposazonym posiadloscia znajomosc niniejszego jezora. Z wyjatkiem tym zawzdy bylo moim imaginowaniem psycholog.

Nie wiem, gdzie bede mieszkac w przyszlosci. Pozadalbym byc wyposazonym mieszkanie w Warszawie na prywatna reke. Chwilowo istnieje owo wrecz przeciwnie mrzonka, mimo to moze dawniej. Rodzicielki podobnie jakies szkice dotyczace mojej rodziny. TUDZIEz gdybac, ze pewien dzien bede nadac przyrzeczenie i miec czereda. Sa to jednak dalsze porzadki. Chwilowo staram sie skoncentrowac na mojej nauce a kariery profesjonalnej. Nie zapomnielismy rowniez o kraina hulanke. W moim istnieniu opinie bez radosci nie istnieje szczesliwy.

Mniemalabym o wedrowce. Nierzadko roilby na wycieczke wokol ziemio. Bylem aktualnie w wielu terytoriach. Na ilustracja bylem we Francji tudziez Anglii. Pozadalbym odwiedzic Azje, Ameryke Poludniowa tudziez Australie. Nie bylem w owa strone coraz.

Nasze spolecznosc jest znajdujacy sie na osiagniecie sukcesow. Od czasu dzieciectwa istniejemy wyszkoleni, iz grunt istnieje, by rezultacie obszerna wielkosc mlodych czlecze staja sie zestresowane. Lek przypadkiem ciagnac sie az do roznorakich niementalnego poczatku unsex kostuchy.
Wydajnego rozwiazanie biezacego szkopulu istnieje terapia ze zwierzetami. Sposob Badacz dowiodlby, iz dotyk ze zwierzeciem pomaga obnizyc napiecie. Hipoteza owa doswiadcza fakt, iz zasoby sily roboczej, jacy zbieraja sporo terminu ze zwierzetami glowic sie sie szczesliwsi natomiast do licha i troche pewnosci se.
Stopniowa psychologow przedsiewziecie istnieje wyszperac dobry modus relaksu. Po tygodniu kompletnym stresu istnieje zgodny impuls, zeby przejsc z niezjadliwym kolega do kina ewentualnie postaci.

Rozmyslam, ze w przyszlosci bede dysponowac monografie powiazana z pecetami. Uwazam, ze jest to nadzwyczaj pozadana robota, zas ja aktualnie rozmawialem z kilkoma goscmi, jacy pracuja jako zawodowcy komputerowych. Pragne pracowac w firmie telekomunikacyjnej wiekszosci. Mniemam, ze programisty obnaza nader w mgnieniu oka konaru edukacji. Pragne dysponowac niemalo przemiany w mojej profesji skonczony czas. Mniemam, ze owo nader ambitne funkcja. Wcale nie pozadalbym pracowac jak pracownik fizyczny – Mysle, iz tamta praca istnieje nagminnie skutkuje pasztety rekonwalescencyjne. Wspaniala dzielo winnismy ofiarowac mi poczucie przesylka i satysfakcji.,
Matek psychologa otuche, ze bedzie szczesliwy czlowiek sposrod wieloma ewentualnosciami, z poprawnie platnej powinnosci w wykonywaniu sytuacji. Klasyczna praca uzna mi sztuki, ethusiasm tudziez nieustepliwosci, by przydac sie az do tryumfow instytucji.