I spoke yesterday with a single friend of mine, who told me about a first date with a gal he's interested in pursuing a serious, long term relationship with. He then casually mentioned some of the questions said gal asked him during this date, and at one point in time I almost choked -- he'd mentioned me in passing, and the girl wanted to know my name, user handle at Plenty Of Fish, and various other personal details about my life.
"Please tell me you didn't say anything," I asked immediately. My friend looked at me like I had horns growing out of my head. "Are you kidding?! No. I'd never do that," he replied, thankfully.
My curiosity getting the best of me, I asked him what other kinds of things she'd inquired about. It seemed this gal had quite the penchant for asking questions that were, in my mind, a tad personal for a first date: his first and last name, where he worked, how much money he made, where he lived, the names of his coworkers, the names and personal details of any other women he'd been recently dating or spending time with, and believe it or not, how well endowed he was.
Now, some of these questions I can see asking to keep on safe in a blind date or online dating situation; you never know who you're going to meet, and having at least some information about the person can protect you should anything go wrong. But (in my opinion) there's a fine line between asking questions to protect oneself and asking questions that make you fearful for your own safety. Plus there's the question of tact. Although my friend diffused the situation with humor, I'm not sure how well that kind of question would have gone over had the tables been turned, especially since the date's intention was in no way adult in nature. For instance, if they'd met on Adult Friend Finder or on the Intimate Encounters section of Lavalife, I'd think the question perfectly normal. But this was no casual date, and he'd made it very clear his intentions were more along the life partner lines.
But you tell me: Can you ask for too much information on a first date? Would you balk if someone asked you the same thing?