Reader Question: She Can't Decide On A Casual Relationship Or More
Scott wants to know what he can do about a woman he's recently reunited with after a 30-year absence. She can't decide between dating Scott - knowing he wants something long-term and potentially lifelong - and the casual, going-nowhere relationship she's been in and out of.
Question: We knew each other in high school, we re-met 30 years later, had great chemistry and immediately started dating. Within 3 weeks she confessed she still had feelings for a man she just broke up with and ended our relationship. She's been seeing him again on a casual/sexual/"no hope for a REAL relationship in the future" basis but recognizes I'm a much better choice for growing old with. She's stuck between the simplicity of a casual relationship with him and a committed to the future relationship with me. I want to be patient without being a fool. I've had a casual relationship myself so I get it - but with both of us 48, I want the real deal. How do I handle this?
Comments
Scott should play hard to get. I think he has made himself to available and should follow your advice Bonnie and cut off contact from his end. Meaning if she calls he should answer but not give her too much, be evasive with making plans, insinuate business, and basically have her chasing him. This women wants a challenge and Scott should give it to her. Keep in mind tho that what Bonnie is saying makes sense, if you are looking for a comfortable relationship this isn’t it..