How Long Do You Wait To Have Sex?
Saturday January 3, 2009
A handful of reader questions of late have focused on sex: when to have it, what frequency is normal, and what to do if one partner isn't into it. Coupled with some recent research study findings that women are seeking more casual dating relationships, and
Take the poll and let me know, but I'm also curious to hear your reasoning. Why do you wait or take the plunge early on? Does it depend on the relationship or the person you're dating? Has it evolved as you've gotten older, and is that evolution because of mere chronology, societal/peer pressure, or something else entirely?
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It can be a relationship but I don’t think that it can last that long if it’s based only in that aspect. Women in particular, in my opinion should be careful enough when meeting anyone during a first date whether it is online or not.
I had a relationship that lasted a year with a guy that I had sex with on first date but we had been friends for about two months prior to the date.
I believe the longer he has to wait for it the better. That usually makes him think that the woman he got is a very special one. Its like a little boy who needs to work the whole summer holiday to buy his bike finally when he gets that he appreciate and cares about this bike more then the boy who gets his bike as a present from his parents
I wait 8 dates or 2 months,whichever comes first.Though Most of the time I get dumped by the 5th date.
I have waited and was dumped after the 5th date because I wouldn’t have sex. He said it was a way of communicating. He wasn’t worth communicating with I guess. I think if you have sex quickly you will be perceived as having sex with a lot of the opposite sex and loose their respect. Wait until you really feel this person truly cares for you. Besides sex..it will be making love.
I am 20 and have never been kissed. But I’m not necessarily waiting until I’m married…the answer I really wished to give was not an option. I just want to be in love. You can’t put a timeline on love. I put “when we get engaged” because hopefully we will be engaged when we love each other that much and will spend the rest of our lives together.
I think its sad that other women have sex so soon these days because it seems to have changed the standards of dating. I thought for the longest time that maybe something was wrong with me because I’ve never even kissed a man, but finally I realized I don’t think the problem is me. With such an ample supply of women who will have sex so much more casually, even on the first date, it gives us classier girls a harder time finding guys. Why would they want to take the time to get to know me when they can get what they really want from so many other girls? I really hope the standards change as I (and the men around me) get older because I would love to be in love but I’m not willing to sacrifice issues that are important to me. I hope that there are others out there who feel the same because the number of percentages so early in the relationship is depressing me. You cannot possibly know each other well enough and be in love with someone you’ve only known 3 months. Sorry.