A doozy of a question this week, where a reader wonders whether or not what her boyfriend is saying is really something that should be shared (and should she put up with it?):
Q: Is it right for my boyfriend to tell me that he used to be treated better by a certain bar tender in a club when he was dating his ex than now that he's with me?
Read my - albeit long - answer, at Is My Boyfriend Right? Still, I'd love to know what you think. Does a guy (or any partner for that matter) have the right to say such a thing? Is he just being tactless, or do you think there is there something else to his question?
Other Recent Reader Questions:
I understood the question differently – that he didn’t date the bartender, but that the bartender gave him better service when he visited that bar with his ex.
If that’s the case, I’d be curious to know if the bartender is male or female, and if the woman who asked the question is also given the impression by her BF that his ex was either more or less attractive than she is.
Yeah, I understood it to mean that some bartender gave him better service when he would show up with his ex..
In either case, this isn’t a matter of right and wrong. What is more important here is understanding what he is lacking in this relationship that he was getting in his past relationship. Then the girl can understand if she can give him what he needs or of she has no interest in fulfilling such needs.
On another note.. why is he going to clubs if he’s in a relationship anyway?
Here’s a great article about why men in relationships shouldn’t go clubbing!
http://www.understandanyman.com/2009/01/secret-guys-in-relationships-dont-dance_9710.html