Depending on how much you appreciate Valentine's Day and all that it entails, being single on the love-filled event can be a challenge for many. Some go so far as to avoid the day altogether, like a forum poster who recently declared, "I Hate Valentine's Day!"
I feel for anyone who is both sensitive and single on Valentine's Day and would rather not be. Although most of my previous relationships have avoided all mention of the love-fest (save one romantic partner who went all out with roses, chocolate and a truly luxurious homemade dinner), I'll admit that there were a couple of single and looking years when I felt somewhat frustrated that I wasn't being wooed. From those years came the creation and adoption of several coping mechanisms, some of which I've shared in Being Single on Valentine's Day.
Do you do anything special for yourself on Valentine's Day when single? What would you suggest to anyone who doesn't necessarily want to be single on Valentine's Day, yet is?
I grew up with my Mother who was single and she had celebrated it with a Valentine’s Breakfast. The 3 of us my sister, me and mom would give each other pjs or undies. I celebrate now with my son with atleast a special breakfast.
What a great idea! I may just adopt that one myself.
I buy myself flowers…whether there is someone special in my life or not. Who says just because I’m not in a relationship I can’t stop and smell the roses?
Valentine’s day can be great single. Last year we had an anti valentines day girls’ nite with Girl Talk and Mall phone and lots of great food. Alternatively, I know some guys who went out to the bar for some drinks and fun and they had a great time too. It can be a special day for everyone!
Some inspiring thoughts here, I love it!
I wasn’t always attached and I too spent many valentines on my own and I *used* to let it get to me and be tearful all day, I even used to avoid friends fora coupleofdays after because they always asked what I did, how many cards I got…
That was until I sat down with my closest friend (this was many years ago) and she told me “Anabelle the most important love of your life is talking to me right now and if she doesn’t truly love herself then nobody else ever can, no matter how much they may want to.”
You know, she was right and it changed my outlook ever since.
I guess I have been quite lucky as I only had 3 valentines where I was single since then but on all 3 occasions I booked myself in for a massage, a spa or a pampering session, bought a bottle of bubbly and had a slumber party with other friends who were single and available (one occasion it was just one!)
I also make it a habbit to call single friends on valentines day for a chat, not that I make it obvious but it’snice to know that your true friends are thinking of you.
Anabelle
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Most people aren’t aware that “Valentines Day” came about because the Catholic Church wanted to rid the world of a wildly popular Roman festival called Lupercalia. Lupercalia was a day of fertility rites demonstrated with lust and sexual excitement rather than the oh-so-tame-Christian romantic BS. So, go out and have a blast. Find someone, take him/her home and have mad, passionate, sex and forget about your troubles.
Why wait until V-day to do something loving for others or yourself? Having said that, I did ensure that I’d always have a fabulous day on Feb. 14th when I chose it to begin a new career I love. So now I get to celebrate V-day every year and whether I am in a relationship or not, it’s always special and fun
i cannot agree any more than the saying:whatever your situation,it ain’t thre end-all explanation of who you are as a person,and whether or not in a relationship dosn’t say anything about who you are as a person!
I oeuld suggest they either get up with some other single friends and try to hit some V-day singles event or try internet dating to maybe find a date.
Theres allways the option of staying in and watching some meovies to get on with and get to the next day.
Just try and make the most of it whatever you do. And don;t dwellin the misery, you must move foward. We’ve all been there…good luck
I’m single and went out a friend to a movie and to dinner. It was fun.