Johnny Boy asks: Five times I've asked her to stop flirting with my best friend, but it only lasts a day. Each time I complain, she tells me that flirting is healthy and natural, and that I do it too. But she knows I'm only talking to her friends, like I would a coworker, while she's prancing around flirting like she doesn't care. Today I spoke with her again about it, but she was already on the phone with my friend and flirted some more. Even told me about it. What should I do?
Johnny Boy, I feel for you. Really, I do. It sounds like your girlfriend is disrespecting you constantly and purposely no less. So either she's playing games and trying to get your attention, or she's playing games and wants to date your friend. I can't think of any 'good' reason why she'd be doing what she's doing.
But then your answer should be an easy one: end the relationship. Because why would you want to date someone who treats you like this? If she cannot hear that her behavior is upsetting you so much and refuses to tame it down, then obviously this is a dealbreaker. Finding someone who feels the same way you do about flirting and its appropriateness would be a much better solution, because it sounds like your partner isn't on the same page as you are.
What say you, dear readers? Do you agree with my advice, or is there something else Johnny Boy should try?