Do You Believe in Love at First Sight?

No, I don’t believe you can just by passing by them or introducing yourselves to each other. However, I do believe that you can fall madly in love with someone by getting to know them and that the feelings you get from that can be so strong that you PERCEIVE love at first sight to be the only explanation.

If you don’t have a lot of experience dating, you’d immediately assume he/she is “the one” once you two clicked.

Today (6/22/09) my husband and I are celebrating our 11th wedding anniversary – and yes – it was LOVE at first sight. AND, before the love at first sight happened I was very clear about my intention to manifest big love (all of which is in my book THE SOULMATE SECRET. Here’s what I know for sure: BIG LVOE is possible for anyone of any age if you are willing to spend a little time getting absolutely clear about what you want and you prepare yourself on all levels for love. I have seen men and women of all ages make this work.
Wishing you love, laughter and magical kisses,
ARielle

*shakes head* Oh Trevor, how wrong you are…

I’m a cynic. Really. I think people are fundamentally stupid and leaders are fundamentally evil. I am no kind of hopeless romantic.

But love at first sight is very, very real. Know how I know? I’ve experienced it.

There was no retrospective pondering. There was no confusion on the difference between love and lust. It was what it was. And even a hopelessly sardonic person such as myself simply couldn’t deny the reality of it. I knew I loved this guy. The moment I saw him.

My job is such that I stand in the street and ask strangers to talk to me. Being a young, reasonably attractive female, I get asked to go out for coffee or a drink or lunch probably 2 to 3 times a day. I say “no thank you” 95% of the time, and most of the 5% of the time that I say “yes,” I only do so because it’s the last couple days before payday, I’m starving, and if someone wants to buy me a sandwich, I can live with that.

This guy asked to meet up with me, and I said yes. Not because I was poor or hungry. But because I genuinely wanted to. If he hadn’t asked me first, I’d have asked him. I knew within 30 seconds of setting eyes on him that I wanted to know him, that there was something special about him, that I loved him. I didn’t even get through my pitch. I had more important things to say to him.

We stood on the street talking on a level that I never get to with some of my best friends. And when we met up that evening, we talked like the closest of friends, the deepest of confidants.

He had to leave the next day – he was there traveling. But we’ve kept in touch. And every conversation I’ve had with him has been the best conversation that day. And when I pass his way on the way back into the country (we are both American, but I live abroad), I will go out of my way to visit him. I have to. I’m driven to.

I’m a cynic. Not an idiot. And I know love when I see it.

This was love. Yes. At first sight.

You know, I never use to really believe in this sort of thing until recently.

I have been in love once before, so I do know the feeling. However it hasn’t been for some time.

Let me just say that I’m out every weekend meeting new people all of the time, usually dates during the week with whomever I may see fit, so I’m no stranger to a new pretty face.

A few weeks ago I was sitting at a meeting when a division head walked in with a question, his new intern following him. Waking up from my regular meeting drowsiness… I glanced up and locked eyes with her almost automatically.. I couldn’t take my eyes off her. I casually looked away after a few moments as to hopefully not make it awkward, but I felt compelled to look back up..she instantly looked back again locking eyes.
While he was asking the question to another manager at the meeting, I looked up almost instinctively at her again and answered it for him, I felt like I had to say something even if it wasn’t pertinent to what I was thinking. As they walked out she turned her head around, looked directly at me, and smiled.

I’ve only seen her from a distance since then and unfortunately it’s never a situation when I can spark a conversation (we’ve still never spoken to each other), but for some reason I can’t take my eyes off this girl (and vice vsa) whenever I see her and shes been on my mind a lot, I’ve never been like this before for as long as I can remember.

For all I know she could be married with three kids or engaged etc, but I definitely know that this isn’t the same “I’d like to take her home tonight” or “I’ll try and get her number” feeling which is all I’ve been seeming to find as of late.

I’ve been in relationships after my “love” ended, but even when I first met those individuals; it was nothing like this.

I’m not saying I’m in love with this girl, but there is definitely something out of the ordinary about her, some sort of natural attraction or addiction that for the life of me I can’t explain :/

I believe it. I have never met my boyfriend but have talked to him and I believe he is the one.

Believe it. I’m 47 years old and found the love of my life by accident. Won’t ponder you with the details but within a week of meeting her I told her I didn’t believe in love at first sight. She said she didn’t either. Then I added “Until I met you.”

Later that night we said ‘I love you’ for the first time. It’s been about six weeks since we met and I can’t live without her. I called my friend and told him I had found The One.

That’s what I call her now…’The One.”

NO.. You can not love a person just based upon first sight. To me, you meet and get to know a person completely …spiritually,physically,emotionally and the chemistry of coarse . There are steps and a little time involved to really know..You can be sparked quickly by physical attraction and fooled!!!!!

I never believed it until now. A guy working in my office just lights up the room with his smile. He is the most perfect human being I have ever laid eyes on, but I think it is beyond lust. He makes me happy just to see him, on such a deep level, and I feel that I can see his soul, his personality, the wonderful, warm, funny, intelligent guy within him, behind all the bravado he tries to display! And when we talk, it is like my connection to him just comes alive, out of nowhere, and I just flirt and joke like crazy, and have to stop myself from jumping on him !

Yes, love is deeper than sight. But sometimes at first sight, you can tell a lot about a person and connect at a very deep level that is not about looks.

I also think that having this connection gets you through a lot and gives you something to come back to.

I have experienced love at first sight twice, once in September 1970 and once in December 1984. They were under quite different conditions and different experiences. The first was with a woman (girl), that I saw at a party, I was immediately drawn to her. We struggled in our relationship and could not effect a match on timing. I continue to think of her fondly every day, and we have never parted in such a way that we could not approach each other with assurance of a cordial reception. She was my mother in my most recent previous life (probably accounts for the attraction and the conflict). The other event involved a new assignment with a military unit, I saw a man across a room and I instantly felt like I had just seen an old friend. He is to this day my best friend. We go “way back,” at least 150 years. This was at least the third time we have served together. This is my explanation of love at first sight, it is only love at first sight with the current body. Spiritual beings know each other.

I am now an absolute believer. I married a guy I fell for slowly. I was not crazy about him at first – but I ended up falling in love with him. That marriage ended horribly and I was feeling very very guarded of myself. I had a lot of guys asking me out but I was set with being single for at least the next 6 months.

Then – not sure how this happened – but I met a guy last Friday and I seriously had this strong ‘love at first sight’ feeling. We hit it off immediately. He calls me every day and we can not wait to see each other again. We only met the one time – and we have made plans together through December. I have this overwhelming feeling like I just want to make him happy and have fun together.

It all sounds so silly and maybe it is. But I would not be a ‘love at first sight’ believer until now.

I never believed in it until it happened to me. I saw him and knew he was the one.

I was caught by surprised when invited to a party, before I got out of the car my brain when blank and a smile in the face as I looked at him I said to myself there he is: I don’t know why I said that, but he told me to seat on his lap and we kissed all night. We are inlove.

I am 38, I’ve been married (and “in love” or what I thought was love, but obviously it did not work out over the long haul) and I wouldn’t say I believed in “love at first sight” until about a week ago. The experience “J” had is VERY similar to mine, except I am the woman in the scenario.

Two men came to the door of my laboratory, and one of them continued in to the lab and simply asked for some paper towels. Our eyes definitely locked, and I swear neither of us could say anything. We were both completely frozen there, just staring in to each other’s eyes. It was the strangest moment I have ever experienced. Not like the times when I see some very attractive man and want to get his attention, so I stare…it’s as if there was nothing that could compel either of us to look away for a good 5 seconds (at least it felt that long). After that time of staring at each other, I said blandly “they are right in front of you” (because the paper towels were indeed in front of him and it was all I could think of to say). That was it: all the interaction we had, and I dwelled on that moment for a week. You must also understand this: there is nothing remarkable about him (he isn’t ugly, but no underwear model, either..more “Science Geek”, and not exactly “my usual type”. His very thin and tall, wears glasses, would blend in a crowd well. Looks smart, if that says anything. I’m located at a college campus/town and see all types throughout my day. We also have an ever-changing pool of attractive, educated men. But, none has ever caught me off guard like this.

As of yesterday, I gave up thinking that I would get to see him again, believing he maybe was just a visiting scientist or something…because surely after that intense moment, he would have tried to “bump” in to me at some point if he was still here, right??? Guys, would you try that after a moment like that? Or, maybe he tried and was not successful, so I am unaware of it. Or, maybe he is in a relationship. I had pretty much given up ever seeing him again, until…today:

I was showing someone around our building, and coming down the stairwell, and who do I see and lock eyes with AGAIN?? It virtually took my breath away. I am pretty sure my eyes followed his as he traveled halfway up the staircase until I could no longer see them. Not a word from either of us, again. But, what would either of us say?

Now, I really can’t get him out of my head. So much so that I Google “love at first sight” to see what comes up and I end up here. He looks somehow familiar, but I know I have never met him. I feel like he “gets” me even though he doesn’t know me. I feel like I am SUPPOSED to be with him, even though I am currently living with someone else. It is the most foreign, crazy feeling – and so out of character for me.

I also know a guy that this happened to many years ago now. He is married to the woman and they have two children. He knew the minute he saw her and even told my friend and I (because we were there the minute he saw her) “she is going to be my wife” before he ever even talked to her. I thought he was absolutely crazy, but now I am truly a believer.

I don’t believe in it whatsoever. I know it hasn’t happened to me, so how would I know, right? Well first of all, MAYBE it can happen. Like what? Once, if you’re lucky enough. To whoever said they fell love at first sight TWICE, I have to say, that’s quite impossible. But I guess it just all comes down to your own definition of “love” and if you believe in it or not.
Personally, I think to love someone, you don’t have a real reason to why you love them, it’s everything. For “love at first sight”, it’s impossible to know who or how the person is until you talk. Maybe it’ll all go well and there’s a strong connection between 2 people who just met. However, love only comes AFTER you start talking and understanding the other person. It takes time to love someone, because love is also when you care about someone more than you. It usually doesnt feel that way with a person you’ve just met, even though you may “love” them.

But I’m not saying it can’t happen. I’m just saying that I personally don’t believe in it. But who’s to say if it’s real or not

Its funny because as many of you have described… I never fully believed in this “love at first site” thing until this happened to me…

When I first saw him a while back, i literally grabbed my chest because I physically felt my heart give one tremendous beat. Id never been so immediately drawn to someone…. the way he spoke, his demeanor, the way he walked, what he talked about…everything. I felt that Id already known him somehow and immediately felt so comfortable. I felt automatically connected to him…attached. And his smile, omg…so genuine and amazing. He was so kind and warm and I can’t forget about how I felt…even though that time was short. We have only had a few encounters… but all were not the right type of opportunity to “pursue” him for lack of a better word.

Anyways, I know its supposed to be infatuation & lust…I mean I don’t know him well enough, right? But its just that I have thought about him every single day since the day I met him (maybe 8 months ago?). And every day I hope to see him again (we go to the same college…but there are over 30,000 people!). It makes me really sad that I haven’t seen him… And I can’t take interest in other guys! which is ridiculous! but its just that no one has ever given me a feeling comparable to this guy I met…. I know I sound obsessed but…well maybe I am haha. I swear im not some creep tho lol. this all sounds so stupid doesnt it? lol..its just that at the moment i first saw him…without hesitation…it immediately clicked that we were supposed to be together…

Totally with you LT and Ashley. I too have been struck by that particular sort of lightening, but mine was 16 years ago.

It was my first day on the job at a school and I was being shown around by the senior teacher. I walked into a room and saw this senior student and felt the oddest sense of recognition, although I knew we had never met. We were introduced very briefly and my tour continued. I was barely ten steps down the hallway when I had the most powerful urge to run back, throw my arms around him and tell him that it was okay, I was here now, I loved him and I was never going to leave him. I had to remind myself that A/ he’d think I was insane and B/ I’d get the sack instantly. So I took the sensible route and resisted the urge, instead I worked on getting to meet him properly and get to know him.

This was in no way lust. I felt like I could see his heart and soul, and while his face was pretty his spirit left me speechless! I did get to know him, quite quickly as it turned out, and he was just as interested in getting to know me. When I left the job some months later we started a relationship. That turned out to be several years of heaven and hell, which left me mentally and emotionally ripped to shreads.

I’ve spent years researching, reading, trying to find an explaination; the best one I’ve come across is that this was (and is) a “Soul Connection”. 16 years later I’m married…to someone else, but he’s still in and out of my life, and still on my mind and in my heart like he was from that first moment. We can’t be “together” because we are too much fire and ice, our love is too hot and too intense to live with day to day. But it IS love, very deep, and very very real. Not a crush, not an infatuation, not an obsession but a mutual, abiding, sometimes terrifyingly overwhelming, unconditional love.

i consider myself a brilliant kind hearted person and until a few months ago i never believed in love at first sight.
im still very young only 19 and just began college last semester as well as a very consumptious business venture with two of my friends so falling madly in love with someone was not my main priority.i had just gotten out of an extremely long and unhealthy relationship as well which made the idea of entering another serious relationship even less appealing.

it was one of my first days at my college and when i walk into my class a girl whom i hadnt seen since middle school recognized me and said hey. i thought she was very sexy and definately would not mind going on a date with her but i sat down across the room and didnt pursue her.
during the class we had a 30 minute break to get some food or use the restroom w/e so i bought a drink and sat down in the lunch room alone with maybe a dozen other people who were on break scattered at different tables mostly girls tho. so im sitting there watching the tv they have on the wall in the lunch room and thinkin about how many beautiful girls i had seen at my new school when wouldnt you know it my old middle school friend walks up behind me and starts messing with my hair then gives me a flirty smirk and sits down we start talking blah blah blah she laughs at all my jokes then two of her other friends enter the lunch room and approach us so im sitting at a tiny square table flirting with theses three girls who are obviously interested in me.at this point i could sense every other girl in the room was staring at me without even looking at any of them. i am not overly confidant or arrogant at all infact i am much more self concious about myself then i can stand at times, but i am however extremely logical and can evaluate in certain situations like this i think anyones insticts draw out that emotion of knowing that every other girl in that room had some feeling of jealousy and wanted attention from me and only me.at this point im not being cocky but im definately feeding on being center stage to maybe 10 gorgeous girls who dont even know my name, im sure they were drawn to the mysteriousness it portrayed like i was some big shot who has three girls with him at all times, even still i knew i could walk away from the table, pursue any other women in that room and likely succeed.it was almost like they were all falling in love with me.

so there i am on my high horse feeling great about myself and the new friends im making at school….im center stage (and were putting it on wax, its the newww style!lol) when out of the corner of my left eye i see 3 maybe 4 girls walking through doors at the far end of the lunch room towards the library which is through doors at the opposite side behind me.anyways i turn my head i guess out of habit to see whos walking across the room and i find myself staring into the eyes of the most beautiful women i have ever seen in my life.it was only for literally a split second that left me only enough time to see her absolutely perfect face before her and the group entered the library.after seeing her i just shut down and was not interested in anything those girls had to say i was in shock. my brain felt like it was floating out of my head and my heart wanted to jump out and give itself to her.the way i can describe it is that i was basically looking into a mirror and saw everything i am and everything i will be in her.almost like she was my twin and we knew everything about each other except there was still so much we could talk about and experience together our lives would be some adventure.i just somehow knew she had been waiting to look into my eyes for years..

a few weeks went by i had been really busy and stressed out so i hadnt really thought about her unless i was at school walking down the halls on my way to class or hanging out somewhere in the building on break. even then i had almost given up hope and basically forgot what she even looked like. then after about 2 months, while im up in front of a class speaking about some stupid group project….. i walk up to start presenting and as soon as i look out to the classroom full of maybe 50 students i give a big smile and look out into the crowd and as i say hello im immediately looking directly into her eyes because she is sitting in the very back row.i have never been so warm and happy in my life.and while i see her friend next to her is whispering something in her ear she never breaks eye contact for one second. i couldnt bring myself to look back at her again because i could not concentrate during this speech. i ended up sounding fairly articulate but all i kept thinking standing up infront of the class after seeing her and knowing she was looking right at me was “i hope she feels the same im so in love she is absolutely perfect.”

it had now been twice i had only caught eye contact for a split second although long enough to gaze into her eyes and let her know how i felt. god she is so amazing. after that day we still had that class together i found out but i just never found the right moment to go up and talk to her because it had to be perfect and it always seemed like something was off when i would be like todays the day. we only had class once a week for about 2 months and the one day i arrived to class i was convinced that nothing would stop me from being with her but she didnt show up and i was left feeling so damn empty.on the last day of our class about a week or two ago i wanted to approach her after class because this could be my last shot. as soon as the teacher dismisses us her and her friend bolt out of the door it seems like and so i pack up my books and things as quickly as i can and start walking outside when i see her and her friend about 100 yards away to the right at the parking lot already about to get in their cars and my car is all the way on the other side to the left so i just said fuck it i’ll just go balls out and roll my window down on the way out in my car and so i drive out of the parking lot as quick as i can and i end up being stuck right behind her friend. i look around and see if shes maybe infront of her but no luck. there were definately so many things i could have done just to get it over with and formally introduce myself no matter what was going on but its deeper than that i have never been so emotionally invested in the hopes we would be together about any other person in my life. now heres my situation,i have no way of contacting her, now way of knowing if she is even still going to school next term,and i dont know a single person who is friends with her.im definately crazy for her ever since that last day of class i think about her atleast once a day.im not going to give up hope but the next time i see her i have to just make her mine.even thinking of that encounter gives me the worst butterflies ever.

love is the ultimate drug of obsession, and i know i would not feel this way about just any girl i happen to see walk by me, i know this because girls walk by me all the time and all i do i wish it was her…i never even thought about searching google for love at first sight until i met her because i wanted to rationalize it some other way like i was just horny or desperate and maybe just get over her i guess…but just like ashley said, the moment i saw her i knew that we were meant to be together.

so to answer your question Bonny, yes, i do believe in love at first sight.