Lady Christian asks: About a month ago my fiance got addicted to a computer game World of Warcraft (WoW), and now I get no time with him. He used to be all about being a family, but now he will spend hours on that game. One night it was for 11 hours and last night it was 8 hours. He is on night shifts so I understand him having to staying up all night on his days off. Still, I'm so lonely!
I've told him how I feel repeatedly, but he thinks I'm being stupid and is mad that I'm hurt. I don't know what to do! I love him so much. But I'm also tired of being lonely and doing everything all the time while he is sitting at the computer. What should I do? I'm so confused right now. His sister and her husband play too, so he keeps telling me I need to play so I won't be so "pissy". Well, I don't want to play. I want to spend time with him, but he just doesn't get that. Help!
I've got a lengthy answer to Lady Christian's question about game addiction, and what she can do to reconnect with her partner, so I've written a corresponding article about it: Game Addiction Advice.
If you have been or are addicted to gaming in any form, or if you've been in Lady Christian's situation, please post and let us know what worked, and what didn't in your situation, along with any other advice on the topic that you'd like to share.
Resources:
- Gamer Widow: Dedicated to supporting the partners of folks who have a game addiction.
- Strangers in Paradise: Information about a documentary by Canadian-based journalism TV show The Fifth estate that focuses on a couple who is consumed by game addiction issues.
- Online Gamers Anonymous
Have you considered playing the game with him? I thought it was crazy when I first started with my college boyfriend, but I realized that I loved the game and we loved having an activity to enjoy together.
There are really lots of gamers who become addicted to various kind of games. And because of that, addiction become a growing concern to different countries. Why don’t you try to play the game with him, maybe it can help you. Check out this link for some tips http://www.ultimatearticledirectory.com/article155288-Kicking+the+Habit.html on what can one do to maximize the fun in online gaming without neglecting other important aspects of life especially his loved ones.
honestly, you should play, let the house go down a little bit, go on a raid when he wants his dinner, show him how you feel, spend time with him on the game lvling, and raiding!
former wow player, met my husband on the game
now niether of us play, we got it out of our system!
My husband has a very similar gaming addiction. But instead of World of Warcraft, its CountryLife and Farmville (Facebook). He spends ALL of his spare time on those games, and to make it worse, he spends hundreds of dollars every month to buy “tools and equpment”. When I first noticed the charges on the bank statement I questioned him about it, and of course he denied it. Now he doesn’t bother to deny it anymore. I’m at the end of my rope. Playing the game with him is not the answer, especially if you’re not intrested. I have been dealing with his addiction for four years now and I will tell you from personal experience, it doesn’t go away. After a while he’ll get bored of Warcraft, and then it’ll be another game, then another, then another. I’m at the point where I have to give my husband an ultimatum: See a therapist or see an attorney.