Dating Question About Flirting While In A Relationship
Dawn asks, "What is your opinion on flirting with others when you're in a relationship? I have a friend who's been dating a sweet young lady for about a year, but he flirts with other women-- including me-- incessantly. I think flirting with a stranger is OK. You see an attractive person in the store, you smile at each other, maybe have a very brief conversation, and never see each other again. It makes you feel good about yourself and gives a little lift to your day. But flirting with people you know is risky; there's a chance that it could turn into something more, and it's simply disrespectful to your partner. What do you think?"
My opinion is short and simple: if the 'sweet young lady' doesn't have a problem with it, then its really of no consequence to anyone. If they've been dating for a year, then she's well aware of her partner's flirtatious nature. If it was a deal breaker for her, then I'd hope she'd have either spoken to him about it, or ended the relationship. Plus, for all you know flirting is ok in their relationship; I have a male friend who is also dating a nice young woman, and they've agreed flirting with other people is ok just as long as they are both sexually faithful to the relationship.
Some people are natural flirts. They aren't doing it to offend their partner, they are doing it because that's who they are: outgoing, friendly and teasers. These kinds of folks are harmless and aren't going to let flirting amongst friends "turn into something more", because frankly it takes two to tango. Its the folks who hide their flirting from their partners that are of more concern - but a concern to their partner, not to you.
If this gentleman's flirting with you is bothering you, I would recommend speaking with him briefly about it the next time he flirts with you. Let him know you don't feel comfortable and if he blows it off as nothing or it being harmless, just smile and say you understand, but you'd still rather not be flirted with. If he continues to flirt with you after your conversation, slowly start spending your time with other folks, or at the very least do not allow yourself any alone time with the man.
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my opinion is is how lovers live after dating.
we can explain how lovers live after dating
flirting can become an addiction . and it can also results to problems if some one emotion is excited with no outlet. guys should learn to mind their biz.
It all depends on what the people in the relationship agree with. I know in one relationship I was in, we thought it was OK to flirt with other people. My most recent relationship I do not feel comfortable with it. I think it all depends on the stage of the relationship you are in. When you begin to to love, that is probably something that will eventually come up. Or you’ll experience it at some point in the relationship where you both will decide whether you are OK with it or if it’s something that makes you upset.
I agree – flirting with people you meet with regularly (whilst in a dating relationship with someone else) is playing with fire. It confuses everyone involved.
I agree with the author but I feel litter disagreement as well. I agree with the fact that “sweet lady” knows about her boyfriend’s flirting nature as they are dating for one year and she doesn’t mind. But at the same time, flirting within the close circle is not always healthy. It might turn into something you never know. Personally I would say, it is ok to flirt, it is healthy for the person but not too much within close circle.
Apart from all, I would say flirting is an art. I believe probably “sweet lady” knows about it and that’s why she doesn’t mind that her boyfriend is flirting.
How about flirting with the one you are involved with and feeling secure with what they feel for you. Seeking satisfacation from flirting outside of the relationship is only inviting trouble and belittling the one your involved with. Learn to flirt with each other because how they feel towards you is All that matters, isn’t it?