How About You?
Wednesday November 18, 2009
I speak fairly regularly about myself in this blog, whether it be my own dating experiences or those of my friends, family and clients. You know me pretty well if you're a regular reader of this blog, but other than those of you who share your stories through the dating blog or dating forums, I don't know you at all.
So today, I'd like to give you the floor. Who are you? Why do you visit the dating site? Are you in a relationship, dating, or want to be? Do you love to talk about dating and relationships as much as I do? Please share your answers at the bottom of this message. I'd also love it if you voted in my dating polls, specifically the one about what you'd like to see on this site.
i have so much pimples on my face…i dont attract the guys i like…..im always told or i always read to trust in God…but i always pray God removes it…but it just kips gettin worse..im 24….im getting old…im single..wat do i do???
Bah… yeah I got that same problem. I’m a Christian so I trust in God that He will send me someone who will accept me for me no matter what the appearance is on the outside. So I just smile and go along with it.
I like your blog. You do a nice job discussing real issues. I have written a couple books about being single as I try to figure out why that is (other than staying in a relationship too long and ending up in a demographic that is very small). I like hearing that I’m not the only one who feels that way and though i don’t believe in forcing a connection just to not be alone, i wonder why there are so many single people, both men and women, who can’t seem to find each other! Possibly we’re all to busy talking about how single we are?…or maybe it’s just me
Happy day everyone!
Wow! You are 24 and you think you are old? Where does this leave the rest of us??
I am 36 and newly single, I never would have expected that, but life is full of surprises. The dating scene scares the crap out of me. Last night at a bar a man called me “ignorant and arrogant” because I told him, “yes, I think I am smart.” He then told me that “being two is everything, and if you are not in a relationship, you are nothing.”
I believe, and I told him “a person’s worth is not decided based on their relationship.” I then said “I have to leave, I am in the twilight zone.”
Wow! If this is what single life is about, count me out! I am going to the convent!
Audrey, you are right, dating sucks! I’ve met that same guy. I’m 40, but somehow not as old as the 24-year-old above, and still single. I really only come to the dating page in my never ending attempt to understand relationships and why anyone would want to do it. Plenty of activities and singles groups near me, so I meet lots of frogs. I don’t need advice on meeting men, I need to understand how to have a relationship where I can get something back for all of the giving I do. I keep losing myself.
I am knocking on 40’s door and have spent just about all of my adult life in bad marriages (1 alcoholic and 1 drug addict). I recently started college to finish my degree. I haven’t dated since I was 16 or 17 and I think I am just as nervous now as I was then. I’m not sure I even remember what to do on a date…lol.
Ok I am looking for guidance in my unusual situation. Please anyone who is reading this give me the advice that you see fit, I am definitely open to negative comments as well as positive.
I have been in several dating relationships even though I am just 19 years old in all of these there has been a physical & mental attraction & I have had many crushes, but now love has struck. I don’t know what to call it except love. There s a physical & mental attraction like before, except with this girl I feel like I want to share my life’s successes & failures with her, I feel like I need to support her through her goals and through her hardships, I want to be there to help her up when she falls & to guide her where she needs help. How else can I explain this but with that one big word… Love. Although she has less expirience in dating then I do she returns the feelings that I have for her.
From there it sounds perfect, but here is where the series of complications set in. First of all she is only 17, her parents don’t aprove of her dating before she fInishes highschool, much less dating someone 2 years older than her. Second she lives in new jersey & I live in virginia. Finally and the main reason I am coming for opinions is I am a soldier in the United States Navy & I am deploying this spring for 9 months to the mid-east. By the time I return from deployment she will be halfway through her senior year of highschool & so much closer to being able to bridge this gap but in these coming 9 months is where I am worried about.
I have had no issue with close distance relationships, I have several attributes that contribute… I am a certified Sous Chef, Certified Culinarian, Certified Personal Chef, Certified Chef-at-Sea & a Certified Massage Therapist. All of my friends come to me for relationship advice each day, I have helped save & build on well over 60 of my friends’ relationships & have earned the joking title “the relationship guru”. I am a firm believer in chivalry, so all of these variables combined creates a formula for a secure lasting relationship. But I have no clue how to hold onto tessa while I am deployed, I fear that I may loose her & that scares the hell out of me. I can’t send anything through snail mail due to the parents, I can’t call due to the deployment, so all I am restricted to email. But email can become a very restricted form of communication. All my friends that I have asked have said that “you will get out of it what you put into it.” But that is very vague advice, I am willing to put every spare moment, all spare energy & all of my heart into this, but I don’t know how to do it. Please help me in any way possible. – Nick