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What Do Teenage Boys Want in a Relationship?

By March 19, 2011

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Based on movies like American Pie, I'll hazard a guess that most people would immediately answer, "sex" to this question. Interestingly enough, a study published in the Journal of Adolescence undertaken by the State University of New York at Oswego found that eighty percent of the teen boys responding to the survey (all in grade ten, mostly 16 years old) said the prime motivator for starting a relationship was because they liked the person. Of course sexual attraction was a factor; it tied with wanting to get to know someone better as reason #2 for starting a relationship.

After taking a quick peek at the study results, I found that the researchers tried to cover their bases by asking other, related questions that had easily-found statistical references to use as touchstones - meaning they asked the boys questions that other studies had shown to be relatively stable (such as how many boys of this age are sexually active - approximately 40% in North America) to compare the answers with. If the "stable" statistics matched, then the probability that the answers to the questions about relationship motivations were accurate increased.

But you tell me: do you think today's teenage boys are more motivated by romance than sex to start a relationship?

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March 13, 2008 at 7:51 pm
(1) bob says:

i’m a teenage boy and i have a girlfriend. sex was not one of my motivators to start a relationship. the main reason (for me at least) was to just love this beautiful, caring, nice girl that i know. so sex was not my motive in my relationship with my girlfriend.

September 24, 2010 at 1:35 pm
(2) hayliegh says:

tht so cute the boys that we went wi have took us for sex i just nah fair xx ??????

May 19, 2011 at 8:31 pm
(3) jessica fernandes says:

ok that is true also
we are not saying every boys, but a majority of them go with girls for sex….xoxo

August 10, 2011 at 3:08 pm
(4) teenageboy says:

no. you’re wrong. most boys go into relationships because they like the girl.

October 16, 2011 at 11:25 am
(5) joseak says:

but do u knw most of the teenage u c out there can’t even ask a lady 4 sex. So it can b a motivator

June 15, 2011 at 9:31 pm
(6) abby says:

this kid is a joke…

August 10, 2011 at 3:04 pm
(7) Jamison Wells says:

I disagree girls. I am a teenage boy and I promise it really isn’t on guys’ minds a lot at all. We get in relationships because we like the person and feel affection towards them. Not sex. stop being so close-minded.

August 11, 2011 at 2:21 pm
(8) Rio says:

I love my girlfriend completely, all i really want is to share our feelings and feel loved and love her, sex is on my mind but not one of my priorities.

September 29, 2011 at 1:07 pm
(9) pradeep says:

i agree you dude,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

October 5, 2011 at 5:46 am
(10) Mariah says:

Well that is great that you are not pressuring her into sex I am a teenage girl and if my boyfriend was like that he would be SO unattractive to me! Your girl is a lucky one!

November 18, 2011 at 10:15 am
(11) Jada says:

that’s soo true !

March 15, 2008 at 10:51 am
(12) Ally J says:

well i think sex is definitely on a lot of teenage guys’ minds but i don’t think that they’re all obsessed with it. i mean, i think other things factor into a relationship too, for them, not just sexyness (although it is a relatively large factor).

April 8, 2011 at 11:10 pm
(13) Liana says:

In my previous relationships all my boyfriends didn’t want sex :D which made it easier for me but from time to time we’d talk about it. I’m still a virgin though since my boyfriend and I are still 16 we thought it wasn’t a good idea…Well thts what happened to me xD Haha,

August 13, 2008 at 8:33 pm
(14) Hayley says:

My boyfriend has neva mentioned sex, he sed he likes me andd that we dont need a sexual relationship to make it perfect.

November 4, 2008 at 8:56 pm
(15) becca says:

i think that sex is def on their minds trust me i have gone out with alot of guys and everyone except one of them all wanted to have sex with me.

May 6, 2011 at 9:00 pm
(16) Rachel says:

There was a test done. The average teenage boy thinks about sex every 7 seconds…. scarey i know but my boyfriend is a TOTAL christan is not average like that so im happy(:

August 10, 2011 at 3:07 pm
(17) Kris Jones says:

That is not even close to being true, Rachel. An average teenage boy only thinks about sex maybe once every 2 days, not every 7 seconds!!! I would know. I am one!!!!

December 17, 2008 at 8:43 pm
(18) Aaron says:

There’s a girl at my school I like and sex is the LAST thing on my mind, I just like her. IS THAT SO WRONG?

February 19, 2011 at 11:43 pm
(19) diane says:

awww thats sweet :) wish i could find a guy like that at my school i want a guy that likes me for who i am not for what they want from me :) glad to hear there are some good decent guys in the world

April 23, 2011 at 3:35 pm
(20) carla says:

that is sweet …more guys should b like that awww:)

August 10, 2011 at 3:05 pm
(21) Paco Sanchez says:

Um tons of guys are like Aaron. Stop stereotyping please.

December 18, 2008 at 1:26 am
(22) dating says:

Aaron, gosh no. I wasn’t trying to imply that it was wrong to like a girl for reasons other than sexual. All I was commenting upon were some of the societal stereotypes, which of course aren’t applicable to everyone (thankfully, in this case). :)

December 19, 2008 at 9:05 am
(23) minnie me says:

I live in washington, dc and the saying for boys here are “F*** B****** GET MONEY”…Because of this and before this saying most boys here have sex as being their motivation in a relationship. All boys here are not like that, it is really important that they know that they can get more out of a relationship besides sex.

December 27, 2008 at 8:39 pm
(24) jade says:

i think all boys want is sex my boyfirend is aways trying to

May 12, 2011 at 4:57 pm
(25) Cheri says:

Maybe you should dump him. You deserve someone who wants a relationship with you, your mind, your personality, not your body.

August 10, 2011 at 3:09 pm
(26) jadeneedsarealboyfriend says:

That is false. I am a boy. and i want the girl not sex. use your head.

October 14, 2011 at 7:14 am
(27) Jason 16 says:

Why on earth don’t you want to have sex with your boyfriend? Don’t you love him? Geez xD. Girls -_-
There’s nothing wrong with sex! It creates that nice emotional connection between you two, i don’t get why you’re afraid…lol.

November 8, 2011 at 11:26 am
(28) Cookie says:

Sex = Pregnancy.

December 28, 2008 at 11:43 pm
(29) mona says:

im 14 and my boy is 16 yea he kinda trys & he talks bout every once in a while but he told me he dosnt care if we wait or if we do it now!! soo i got a sweet 1!! but its kinda harder cuz we live n da south soo theres hoes everywhere but no guys va mess wit em!

June 22, 2011 at 5:47 pm
(30) lexxxy says:

i know ` Mine too i worry About Summ times cus he Not gettin nun but he says he dont care if we have sex or not that the last thing on his mind but im 15 he 17 :/ and now we dont go too the same school there`s alot hoes there so i worry some time`s . .

December 29, 2008 at 1:04 am
(31) JJ says:

Aight I’m 14, almost 15, im a guy. I dont know i may be a lil too young for the age group but i dont think guys are sex-crazed at all. Guys always pick and choose carefully who they would/will have sex with…i kno personally im in no rush really, im just gonna kick it and wait for the right time yo

January 2, 2009 at 5:47 pm
(32) Ant says:

I’m in a relationship right now and the reason l like the girl cause she is fun to be around, extremely pretty,etc. Sex is probably the last thing on my mind.

February 20, 2011 at 12:14 am
(33) Unkown says:

thats really kool its good that there are some good guys in tha world :)

August 10, 2011 at 3:11 pm
(34) KB says:

Actually it turns out that most guys are in a relationship because they like the girl, not for sex. Its really rude to stereotype.

January 27, 2009 at 5:02 pm
(35) LuvinWade says:

Hey, well like i have been with my bf five months and we talked about things like this a few times. But he says that he respects me and my parents too much to try anything. Plus if i got pregnannt then what would we do because i can’t have an abortation or give it up for adoption. And he doesn’t want to make me uncomfortable. But i’m sure he thinks about and he calls me beautiful atleast once a day. I’m not saying that all guys are like him but most of the guys i know just want to let their gf know that they love her and wouldn’t do anything to hurt her.

February 1, 2009 at 7:58 pm
(36) brigete says:

i have a bf but he never mentiond sex in our relationship,he is so cute and handsome the problem is every girl in our school want him! theres this grl who always hugs my ex and my new bf!!!i hate annloraine sooooooooo much!!!!!!!!!!!my bf is maorisho

February 6, 2009 at 12:20 am
(37) Courtney says:

Well, there’s this guy that I’m pretty sure likes me, we’ve dated before. I’m not the most attractive girl, and I take things slowly. He knows that, so I think that if all he wanted was sex he’d go looking somewhere else. I don’t think all guys want is sex, just some perverted ones.

February 9, 2009 at 12:58 pm
(38) Kelly says:

My boyfriend and i have been together for 7 months now and we think sex will happen in the moment if it’s meant to be. There’s no rush in planning it or anything.

February 21, 2009 at 10:01 pm
(39) Anna says:

I don’t think sex is the only thing on a guy’s mind. Sure there are the stereotypical maybe 20% who only want sex. I think that a guy wants satisfaction and love from a relationship, kind of the same thing girls want. Of all the couples I’ve seen, the guy is just as romantic as the girl, but maybe more masculine. I think guys can’t really help but to think of sex every once in a while, a sexual fantasy or whatever, but that doesn’t mean they only want sex out of a relationship. They want to love and be loved

February 28, 2009 at 1:54 am
(40) Derek says:

It’s also a stereotype too that it;s always only boys that want sex. I want to wait ideally until I’m married but my girlfriend put a lot of pressure on me to have sex, and yes boys are not always ready either. We ended up breaking up because I was not about to sacrifice something of mine for her own selfish desires. Sorry Charlotte.

March 1, 2009 at 1:31 pm
(41) Lianna says:

Well I have a b0yfriend and we d0 talk ab0ut sex,he t0ld me that I d0nt have 2 d0 anything if I dnt want t00..I mean sex is 0n my mind,because Im a gr0win teenager and I d0 wanna experience it s0meday..but im in n0 rush t0 d0 s0.

March 2, 2009 at 10:41 am
(42) Julianne. says:

I’m 13 & my boyfriend is 15. There are some girls in my school, the same age as me, some younger, who are having sex. When I told my boyfriend about this he thought it was disgusting that someone so young would have sex. The new thing that seems to be coming into schools is that people gets taken the piss out of if you havn’t had sex, instead of having had kissed a guy/girl. Well, maybe that’s just my school. But really, me & my boyfriend both know that sex is for someone you really care about and love, and even though we really care about eachother and we really do love eachother, we’re both not ready & not mature enough to have sex or the consequences of it if you’re not safe about it. There’s a legal age for it & I don’t see why people can’t wait for that age at least.

March 19, 2009 at 9:12 pm
(43) Alicia says:

okay i personally think that sex is for two married people, but thats just me. but i think if you’re going to have sex both of you should be on the same page and should be able to talk about it. if either the boy or the girl is worried about the other person just being in the relationship because of sex they deffinatlly aren’t ready to have it. but i’m friends with a lot of guy friends and i know that they talk about it A LOT, but i also know that when its just one on one talking to me, they’re just looking for a good girl, who’s gonna love and treat them well. i honestly think that the whole sex conversation in the hallways is just talk between guys who try to make everything a contest.

February 20, 2011 at 12:26 am
(44) diane says:

omg that is soo true guys just try to make everything a competiton an try to make it seem like they been around tha block a couple times when really there probably a virgin therselfs ima a girl an i have guy friends to an when there together all they talk about is sex an how they like somethung peverted about girls but its all just talk.

April 3, 2011 at 12:14 am
(45) Symone says:

Diane…. couldnt have said it better

April 5, 2009 at 4:55 pm
(46) Branden DePoyster says:

My name is Branden and I am 14 and a half years old. My girlfriend is Thirteen. I have to admit she is extremely beautiful, and intoxicating everyday. Before we started dating we got to know each other first in school and then outside of the premisis, we talked about what kind of careers we want to pursue when we are “older ,” and the types of vehicles as well. There was a time when sex came up and it was from her but I said when we are over 18 and we are still together then yes *maybe.* So not all guys think of sex it usually comes from the gals.

Branden DePoyster
Richmond, Virgina

April 25, 2009 at 6:12 am
(47) kaze says:

I’m a tenth grader and I’ve liked this one girl who happens to be my friend since like the eight grade. Sex never even crossed my mind, nor is it one of the motives to why I like her. Honestly I think that she is very cute, and her voice only enhances that factor. Her personality and likes is just a simple matter that happens to appeal to the type of girls I like, due to the way I grew up. But that whole stereotype about all boys only wanting to have sex is obviously false since there are boys out there just wanting to have a relationship with a great girl.

May 13, 2009 at 8:03 pm
(48) Jason says:

Im a boy. Ive never had a relationship with a girl. Every day I have to see the most beautiful girl in the world in three of my classes. I start hating my life cause all I want to do is hold her hand but I cant. We hung out and I kissed her but the next day she said she doesnt want a serious relationship. She texts me almost every night at midnight. I dont know what she wants. I have never thought about sex as a motive. I just want to hold her hand. I cant stop thinking about her.

May 23, 2011 at 5:00 pm
(49) Wren says:

Girl here. In my head that means she likes you but maybe she’s not ready for the whole “long-term relationship” thing it can be really scary…Maybe she’s nervous because she likes you but doesn’t want a relationship yet.

I think you wanting to hold her hand is really cute and I bet she would to. You just need to find the right moment is all.

May 16, 2009 at 11:17 am
(50) JULITZA says:


May 18, 2009 at 11:42 pm
(51) Mike says:

I think that most teens (guys included) today are starting to see the reality that sex is really reserved for a committed [marriage] relationship with a mate that you truly love and care about. Sex is much more than just a physical feeling, but it’s very emotional and should be done with someone you are truly committed to. Cheers to most of the people here posting the comments! You are on the right track when you say that you should focus on a RELATIONSHIP first not SEX. Finally, a new generation of teens not into themselves!

June 2, 2009 at 6:19 am
(52) rosy says:

I think most ppl are right that guys don’t care about sex all the time. But i had a bf and we had only been going out 1 week, stupidly i thought we should go to the movies, we did but he started pushing me and feeling me up, it was wrong.

June 15, 2009 at 12:40 pm
(53) emmy says:

Okay, so I’m 14 and dated a guy for the first time a few months ago. He’s 13, and he told me that he wasn’t ready for a relationship, not even ready to hold hands or kiss or anything. So I highly doubt he’s sex craved if he can barley even hold my hand right? I guess that proves it. We did get back together though, but took it SUPER slow.

June 15, 2009 at 12:44 pm
(54) babygirl says:

As a matter of fact, I’m probably more sexual then my guy (13), and I’m a girl (14). Not that I’M sex craved, but you know the questions and fantasies sort of thing. I imagined doing “things” with him, imagined his “privates” and all that, and this still does cross my mind often. Every teen imagines this stuff, but that doesn’t mean they’re ready to do it, I know I’m not. And I also am pretty sure that this guy thinks of this stuff too, but that doesn’t mean he’s going to work up on me or anything.

June 15, 2009 at 12:51 pm
(55) inLOVEandCURIOUS says:

Me and my guy (I’m 14 and he’s almost 14) have been dating for almost 6 months and the most we’ve done is lightly kiss and cuddle. We’ve talked about doing things though, and I think we probably will after being together a little longer, but we’d never take away each other’s virginity at our ages. By things we mean like fingering, making out, just letting each other see and maybe touch each others parts…stuff that can’t get you prego and that are good for curious teens when, and only when, they love each other. I love him with all my heart and trust him more then anyone else. From the moment I met him before I ever even considered dating him I could tell he was a trustworthy person, so I don’t see anything wrong with him touching, tickling and kissing me in naughtier places and him seeing me in less clothes. However, I’m defiantly NOT okay with having full-fledged sex.

June 15, 2009 at 1:00 pm
(56) I'MlovingIT says:

I know exactly what you mean inLOVEandCURIOUS, and I totally agree. I’m 15 and my guy is 16, and we have a lot of sexual fun but are responsible about it. He’s not sex craved at all, and neither am I. We’ve been dating since we were 13 and 14 and we didn’t start doing things like that together until a year later, although sex wasn’t one of these things. It’s so satisfying and all, but not unless you REALLY love and trust each other. We started by my suggestion, cause we’d talked about it before and where we liked to touch ourselves through masturbation, but he never made the move, I did. He’s been proven not guilty for sex craved.

July 4, 2009 at 2:06 am
(57) laura says:

well me personally i think that is something that a teenage boy would consider ina relationship, especially when getting into high school and more in their sophmore year. Alot of boys may say certain things to make a girl believe that they dont need sex, don’t always believe it, but sometimes a boy really do mean when they say they dont want/need sex in their relationship. But as ive been told, a boy would practically say anything just to get into a girl’s pants. Boys out there, im not saying that ALL boys want it, its just a majority of them. Don’t take it in the way to mean that every single boy looks for that while having a girlfriend.

July 7, 2009 at 3:26 pm
(58) himynameis... says:

i think it is so extremely cool that most of the guys (and girls) commenting here are not obsessed with sex. my boyfriend is cool like that too.

July 10, 2009 at 11:47 am
(59) hayden says:

I am a 13 year old boy going into 8th grade. It is disgusting that people my age that are already sexually active. It is gross, you are so young that is why there is a legal age for having sex why can’t they just wait..?! It ALSO DRIVES ME CRAZY THAT JUST BECAUSE I AM A BOY AND 13 I AM ASSUMED TO BE A BAD GUY AND ONLY WANT SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP AND I DON’T WANT SEX I AM YOUNG AND NOT READY. and not only boys think about sex but girls do to EVERY single teenager thinks or has thought about sex i mean look GIRLS have answered comments on here so that mean they think aobut it too and also WE are forced to think about sex because we see commercials for condoms on t.v and the internet so how could we not think about it.?! I JUST WISH PEOPLE WOULD REALISE THAT JUST BECAUSE I AM A BOY THAT DOSN’T MEAN I WANT SEX EXSPECIALLY PARENTS THAY ALWAYS PULL THIS CRAP ABOUT SAYING HONEY I WAS A TEENAGER ONCE AND I WANTED SEX I HAVE AN OLDER SISTER AND THAT IS ALL MY DAD SAYS TO HER!!!!!!!!!IT ISNT FAIR I MEAN I HAVE A NEIGHBER in 6th grade and i am goin to be goin into 8th grade her parents won’t even let her come inside my house unless my parents are home! she can’t even come inside my house to play wii even if my 20 year old brother and 17 year old sister is home!! IT ISN’T FAIRE THIS IS LIKE IN THE 60′S WHERE BLACKS WERE DISCRIMINATED, WELL BOYS ARE DISCRIMINATED AND SOME ARE COMPLETLY INNOCENT! sry about the caps but it just infuriates me that just because im a boy i am the bad guy!

May 21, 2011 at 9:10 am
(60) Kailee says:

Hey I’m a 12 year old girl… It’s OK we get that some guys are actually nice. I switched from a public to a private school and when I came back for a dance to see my friends, they were all like, “and this is my ex….” I was like, what the heck? You’re 11 and you have an ex? There are some girls who want to take it kind of slow: shy, pretty, funny. That’s the kind of girl you want. It seems like you need to talk with your parents. I have this really cute crush and my parents were all like “Ooh, I found this perfect place to date” And I’m like “What the heck come on mom, he’s just a crush!” And they’ve been better about it because they know I don’t want to date him all of a sudden.
<3 Kailee

October 27, 2011 at 10:44 pm
(61) emun says:

girl here: im 14 and my boyfriend is 17 i just broke up with a guy that only ever wanted sex and yelled at me when i didnt… there are guys out there that get obsessed with sex but not all. my bf now is sweet and doesnt want to have sex till hes married and that is such a relief…

July 15, 2009 at 10:44 pm
(62) jay says:

i have a girlfriend but my mind wasn’t on sex

July 24, 2009 at 12:37 am
(63) jessica says:

well i have been dating a guy for about a month and all he does is pressure sex on me..
i dont love him yet and idk i want to wait and i want it to be special but hes just a jackass about it all the time..hell say he will wait as long as i want but actions speek louder than words

August 23, 2009 at 1:41 am
(64) Lorina says:

Hey there, Im 16 and my boyfriend is almost 17. We been dating for 7 months now and are REALLY committed to each other. After the first month he started getting interested in “sex”, but i thought, HELL NOOOOO!!! So he just kinda gave up.

Guys would “like” to have sex and most of them wouldnt want to loose their girlfriend in the process DX

I know he loves me just for me and not only the “extra” pleasure stuff.

February 21, 2011 at 12:43 pm
(65) anees says:

very cute and very beautiful girls

August 30, 2009 at 1:50 pm
(66) jacob says:

personly all i want to do is hold her, im 16 and i just want to hug her and be with her. Im not sex crazed at all, we both agree its too early for sex and thats fine.

August 31, 2009 at 4:09 am
(67) ify says:

i feel most boys are after sex in relationships and that only a few mature ones are not after it.

September 1, 2009 at 8:50 pm
(68) jasmine says:

If you (girls and boys) ever start dating someone who you REALLY like, and they end up using you for their own personal satisfaction (social status, sex etc.) instead of seeing you for the amazing person you really are, then they don’t deserve you.

September 2, 2009 at 10:59 pm
(69) Katie says:

my name is katie and i’m 13. i was one of those girls who developed a whole lot faster than most of the girls so its kinda of hard for the guys at my school not to think of sex. i started to develope in first grade. i know crazy isn’t it? i got taller and my boobs started to come in. by third grade i was at least a B cup size in bra. i was about 5’2”. my parents have been on my back all the time. i know its for the right reason but that doesn’t mean that they have to be there for every moment in my life. i had to get the “talk” in third grade and it was so uncomfortable. they gave me all this crap about when i was a teenage boy/girl, well guess that was then and this is know. i’m in a commited relationship with a boy [15 turning 16] and my parents don’t even know about him and i plan on keeping it that way. if i’m not aloud to have fun and hang out with my friends without them being there then i’m just going to have to lie about it. me and my boyfriend has talked about sex but all i could say was no and he totally understands. i told him that i was too young and wasn’t ready. we both really care for each other and we love each other but that doesn’t mean that we have to consimate our relationship. i’ll admitt that i’ve thought about having sex but when u have developed as fast as me and all the guys at ur school think about sex and sometimes with u its kind of hard not to. so guess wat not all guys are pigs cause most girls want it more than guys. just because we don’t have a dick that doesn’t mean that we don’t think about sex and just because guys do have a dick that doesn’t mean that sex is all they think about. most guys that i know want a real relationship with a girl and the others who think about sex can barely even get a girl. if u agree with me comment back and if u don’t agree with me then i’d like to see u try to be in my shoes for a day and see how tough it is.ttyl

June 1, 2011 at 5:47 pm
(70) nichole says:

I like your blog Katie.

September 5, 2009 at 3:06 am
(71) Bob says:

I’m a 18 year old and, I have been with my girl for almost 4 years (sence the 9th grade) we are in the 12th grade now GRAD YEAR YES! and although I have though about! I feel it’s importent to wait til you know you really are responsible enough because I mean shit happens you can get prego get infeced that short of thing! Well, like I said I’m 18 been with the same girl almost 4 years and never once asked her to have sex with me!

September 9, 2009 at 5:11 am
(72) Josh says:

Im 16 my girlfriend is 14 as a guy ino that sex is on your mind alot of the time i mean its in our genes it has been since the first male homosapian was born (created, made call it what you want) but i think that the majority of guys arent thinking about sex when they enter into a relationship sure there maybe the odd guys who dont seem to have a brain in anywhere but their penis and in my opinion its this small majority of guys (or skeming B******* as i like to call them) Ive been with my girlfriend for 11 months 15 days =) and to be honest i havent even thought about sex it always just seems like something thatll just happen when were both ready, we dont talk about it at all. im so so happy with how we are. Sex doesnt have to be part of a teen relationship, im pretty sure me and my girlfriend wont talk about it until shes at least 16.

September 13, 2009 at 9:10 am
(73) tia.. says:

i am a teenage girl..
i have a boy friend..
i have even kissed him..
have i done anything wrong??

September 18, 2009 at 3:21 am
(74) cali guy says:

I think that all guy think about sex, especially in high school, and i think its abnormal if sex doesn’t cross a guy or girls mind at that age.
I don’t think that guys only want sex, but i think it’s BS if a guy is in a relationship or he likes a girl and he (or the girl) says sex never crossed his mind with that person. That’s either a lie, or the guy just doesn’t think about sex period, which is highly improbable for a teenage guy.

Also, I don’t think girls have a clear insight to what the guy is really thinking because of course we are going to say “We don’t have to do anything until you are read” or “everything is up to you” because we don’t really have a choice. If you are a guy and you really want sex, the only other thing you can really do is request it and see if shes ready or not. I mean if you’re a decent guy, your not going to ask for it when you know she isn’t comfortable with it.

September 22, 2009 at 1:58 am
(75) yup says:

hey i have had my girlfriend for over two years and we used to have sex all the time like on a daily basis and the last 8 months probably have had sex 3 times now she says she doesnt even care whats wrong with her? It would be way different if we never had sex but like i said we used to alll the time

October 9, 2009 at 1:24 pm
(76) Jordan says:

im a 16 year old guy and i find that when i really like someone, sex is the last thing on my mind. its almost like i dont wanna think of her in that way cos she is so amazing and she deserves better than to be associated with sex.

October 24, 2009 at 8:59 pm
(77) Sarah says:

Im 18 and so is my boyfriend we have been together for 8 months…and we havn’t had sex, we have been close once but he stopped it because i had been drinking. So yes im still a virgin but he isnt. Ive spoken to him about it and he said “i love you for you, you dont need to do those things for me i just want to be with you” he is amazing. I do think that some younger boys who are still maturing think of it as a small part. But if you trurly love someone you want the best for them so if that means not having sex till the person is ready fine.

November 12, 2009 at 1:55 am
(78) Haha says:

Ok well im 17 and my bf is 20, we’ve been together for three years and we waited to have sex for like a year, we wanted to make sure it was the right time for both of us, he never preasured me but i know he wanted it, and were still in love, sex can be a wonderdul thing i just think girls need to be careful of how soon they give it up, if your having sex after only 1 month, the guy doesnt want you for your mind, he wants you for your body

November 13, 2009 at 2:16 pm
(79) Kellie says:

Okay, well first of all, sex is on a guys’ mind. Always. If they say it’s not, well…BULL CRAP. I mean no, they may not be fantasizing about having sexual intercourse 100% of the time they are awake, but they do have sexual desires and cravings all the time. But so do girls. However, girls and guys have these desires for different reasons.

What guys want is to prove that they have what it takes. Not only do they want to prove that they have what it takes to score the winning goal in football, or that they have what it takes to beat up the next guy for insulting him, but they want to prove to girls that they have what it takes to be everything she will ever need. On top of that, teenage guys’ hormones are raging, and they do have sexual desires, and they think sex can win a girl over.

What girls want is to be loved. They want to be called beautiful, to be protected, to be wanted. And, as a girl, I can say that we think that if we have sex with a boy, then that boy will love us. So we are willing to sacrifice our virginity for someone because we think it will make them love us more.

Honestly, this doesn’t make sense. Boys’ main motivation is not sex, and neither is a girl’s. Guys want to love a girl, and girls want to be loved. This is so simple, and yet we choose to complicate it with sex. Guys think girls want sex, and girls think guys want sex, when really, even though it’s on both of their minds, they just want to love each other. I believe that you should wait until you are married to have sex because that is the way God designed it to be. And if that isn’t enough, then you should wait because teenagers aren’t mature enough. Sex doesn’t belong in teenagers’ relationships. So just sit back, relax, and enjoy being a kid, without complicating things with sex. You have the rest of your life for that. :)

November 16, 2009 at 7:32 pm
(80) u dnt need to knw says:

is it wrong for a thirteen year old girl to be horny nd want sex?

November 18, 2009 at 1:55 am
(81) EHS TIGERS says:

Hello I am a Student at Edison High (Fresno, CA.) and I am in our psychology class. We recently undertook the daunting task of creating a similar survey and gave the survey to 120 sixteen year old volunteers our results were as follows: 80% are heterosexual, 12% bisexual, and 8% homosexual. Out of the heterosexual students 25% (24 Boys) claim to be sexually active.

The number 1 reason amongst the 25% of sexually active heterosexuals for having sexual relations was “just to see how it feels” (50%, 12 teens), the next top reason was “We are in love”(25%, 6 teens), and finally “peer pressure, to lose their virginity” (25%, 6 teens)

Of course the answers can not be proven true but it does show that teen boys do have sex in mind but only a few of them actually act upon those feelings.

I Myself am a 16yr. old guy and I will believe that most of todays teens are looking for an actual relationship rather than, seeking sexual intercourse. The reason I usually go out with someone is not because I am interested in having sex but, really just getting to know the other person and if the other person is interested in sex then why not. but thats just my opinion

November 22, 2009 at 8:13 pm
(82) Chelsea says:

I think almost any guy that’s at least 14 or 15 would think about sex-it’s normal. My boyfriend for 4 years now tells me sex was never on his mind when he first saw me, but he did find me sexually attractive, and he thinks we should have it when we both fully know the risks, and when it feels natural to talk about it with eachother. And also when we’re both in love more than ever.

November 24, 2009 at 11:34 pm
(83) Its a Secret Baby ;) says:

Well.. I think that there are guys out there that dont need sex, ha bur come on now.. they do want it!
Like for instance I had this amazing bf who was opposite from me, he partied, smoker everything, but he nvr requested sex from me.. soo ya.
But since then iv realized guys really do want, especially good looking ones, bcuz they know they can get it!! I’ve been pressured before, alota guys have tried! But dont get me wrong, im tempted to and really want to, but i dont want to regret my choice nd plus my mom taught me right!! like just the other day i was hanging out with this pretty hott senior, ima sophomore and he’s cool, we got into it and were at that stage, but i said no and he stoppped. ha he attempted twice. lol but danng being a teen is hard!! Guys want it,

November 28, 2009 at 1:26 pm
(84) :) Anonymous says:

My boyfriend who is 17 like me is known as the perverted playboy, troublemaker and the straight forward jerk who doesn’t care. He’s actually a great and caring guy though, sorta perverted but still.

We’ve talked about sex once because I was wearing a sex band(I didn’t know what it was). He looked at it and held it before telling me seriously about it.

He also said that we’re too young and he wants to do it when we’re adults :) (unlike my ex) He’s so sweet. He’s the most amazing person I’ve ever met.

December 5, 2009 at 2:53 pm
(85) yeah says:

girls.. you be reading these books and movies like twiligt and expect guys to be like them. i am a girl and everytime i meet a guy who has been in a relationship for a long time or even said the cutest things, they always want some sort of sexual ness. kissing doesnt count. sfter 2 weeka they want somehing. i hate it. im prude and that means i dont want to do anything i am not scared. so suck it up girls. edward isnt real.

December 9, 2009 at 10:32 am
(86) erica says:

i have had a previous relation ship that last a week and i am female and i’m 15. my exboyfriend said before we hooked up that he has been liking me for a long time and that he didnt want to push to far with the relationship but my stupid self falled for him and we did it on the first night but he still wanted me until the second time he came and we did it later on i found out he was talking to another gul i know i’m stupid but i was vunerable

December 11, 2009 at 8:07 am
(87) jacinta says:

boys want a chase, they want a claim and then they want something new… from my experience sex is a major factor on boys minds and in guiding their relationships with girls… to keep them hooked you need to keep it interesting and find the balance between not allowing any sexual fufillment and rushing into sex before he really cares about you at all… i think just go with your instincts and do what feels natural :)

December 12, 2009 at 11:04 pm
(88) JAMES says:

im a teenage boy and buetiful girls walk around school that i like, but just because u saw a movie doesnt mean u can judge us, and i respect girls just like any other guy would

December 14, 2009 at 10:08 pm
(89) Kremlin says:

I have a boyfriend and we have been going out for about 2 months and he says that sex isn’t destracting him and all he wants when it comes physical is to hold me and hug me.

December 17, 2009 at 12:37 pm
(90) baby B says:

c’mon not all boys want sex. most actually want to be loved. you need to stop looking at the situation like that. most boys in my school wants a girl to share their feelings with and not get “inside” her.

December 22, 2009 at 3:23 am
(91) 258miranda says:

i just want a bf i’m 8th grade and plz be hott !!!

December 26, 2009 at 7:10 pm
(92) kim says:

i no a boy in my class and he has a girlfriend and all he thinks about is when is he going to have sex. but i think most teenagers boys do think about having sex!!!

December 26, 2009 at 7:14 pm
(93) james D says:

all i think about is having sex its the think that all teenagers boys want 2 have i think i had sex about 8 times now it feels so good u should try it but all some teenagers boys can’t deal with it by the way i’m anly 16

December 27, 2009 at 1:38 am
(94) Miracle says:

I`d like to think that sex is not the only ruling factor when it comes to forming a relationship at that age. But then again,the world does not work with my preference of how another mind should think . So I think this is veryy subjective. Some teens start off with “sex” on their minds,and gradually begin to get to know the girl and fall in love ,as time passes. Whereas others,basically are just lookig out to have a “good time .”

December 30, 2009 at 8:45 am
(95) danielle says:

Well, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 8 months now. My boyfriend is one of those pretty boys who all the girls want. So he likes sex, and used to get sex, because he could. Then he asked me out and its all changed, hes not like he used to be, and hes lovely now. We had sex 2 months into our relationship and its gotten us stronger. Sex is really over rated. Its only something you do with someone you love in a girls case and not always the boys case.

December 31, 2009 at 8:01 am
(96) Marina says:

I had a boyfriend but we break up and now i’ll tell you way
He was up to sex . But his friends molly caitlin where up to sex to i told him about them girls and he went to them
and they girls just kissed him i couldn’t belive my ayes
so we break up . and i’ve never seen he again.
So see i have a sad story.
But i still looking for a guy.

January 10, 2010 at 3:28 pm
(97) Brianna Boo says:

Alot of guys think about Sex….All the time,But there are so many guys that don’t even care about it they just wanna love the person they are with and respect how they feel..I’m 16 and i’ve had a few boyfriends push me and i never gave in but others respected me and said they just wanna love me and they don’t care about the sex.I’m proud of all you guys who don’t think about Sex non-stop and just wanna love who they are with.And my answer is no i don’t thinki that is all guys think about(Only some do)

January 17, 2010 at 4:39 am
(98) Jake Harlow says:

My name is Jake and I’m 16 almost 17 and I’m in a relationship with a beautiful girl named Rebecca and I’m dateing her because I like her alot and she’s fun to be around sex is llike the last thing on my mind when I’m with her and I won’t even bring sex up to her till she wants to have sex I think your reseach was wronge

January 18, 2010 at 3:26 pm
(99) nyckie says:

i just think that all boys aren’t like this i’ll be 15 a month from now and im dating a 16 yr old and are relationship isn’t based on anything but love so i don’t agree with the stereotype that sex is only on a guys mind

January 21, 2010 at 12:58 am
(100) Melissa says:

ok i think a lot of guys are lying here! i had a bf for over 2yrs and he wanted sex! there is nothing wrong with wanting sex. i mean at the time i was almost 16 when we started dating so i said no but he never pushed me to have sex. ALLL GUYS WANT SEX! they do! but it differs how important it is to them. my bf now never asks but i asked him if he wud want to and he said of course but only when im ready. guys want it! the question is how bad they want it!

January 22, 2010 at 10:07 am
(101) Matt says:

I’m 14, all I want is sex, trust me, every boy wants sex, I’m not saying it’s the main reason they start or keep a relationship, I’m just saying that every guy really really wants sex. Like… Really really… really

January 22, 2010 at 10:16 am
(102) matt says:

I also wanted to know why the hell girls are so sentimental about their virginity, it’s not like you only get to have sex one time…

I don’t know… It just seems really lame, the whole “I don’t wanna lose it to the wrong guy”… It’s not like you ACTUALLY lose something, your virginity is completely psychological, other than the hymen break, (Unless it isn’t already through masturbation) your virginity isn’t really… Anything.. It’s just the first time you did something, the first time I tried fruit it was an apple, an average choice, it’s not like a cry myself to sleep because it wasn’t a mango.

My sister’s 24 and she hasn’t lost her virginity because she says she wants to love the person first………

Can someone please explain to me the connection between love and Losing your virginity, Love isn’t even a factor, AT ALL, in most sex, so why Virginity, why do girls care? Oh plus, does anyone know why I’m so freaking horny all the time?

January 22, 2011 at 5:40 am
(103) Yvonne says:

Matt I’m a girl and I will gladly answer a few questions that you asked in your comment. I’m a 15 year old girl who turns 16 in march now my point of view is probably accurate to the mindset of the girls you are trying to bang. Well girls are a lot more emotional than guys. Nothing is face value for a girl, when most guys have sex, especially pigs like you, they only have the physical reward from it. When girls have sex they want an emotional connection, along with the physical, with the guy knowing they won’t be abandoned. To girls there first kiss or losing their virginity isn’t like having their first piece of fruit. We don’t give a crap about that and that was a horrible analogy. To us we remember forever the first person we become intimate with no matter the level of intimacy. You should listen to your sister more she can give you insight to a girl’s mind and you should listen so you are not so much of a sleaze ball.

In addition to girls not wanting to lose their virginity to the wrong guy is because everything for guys is external and everything for girls is internal-both physically and mentally. That maybe a little graphic but it is true. Girls aren’t just having sex they are letting you be a part of something they have never shared with anyone else when they lose their virginity. And most girls don’t want to lose their virginity to a no good, horn dog, who is only looking to get laid initially and could care less about her emotional state.

January 22, 2011 at 5:50 am
(104) Yvonne says:

Sorry for the inappropriate languageeveryone, I don’t usually talk like that and Matt I know you will get over it one day because you probably could care less what I say about your morals. You’ll get over it and I would love to heard what you say about my comment.

January 22, 2011 at 5:58 am
(105) Yvonne says:

To girls Love has everything to do with sex. Like I said it’s emotional and they are sharing them self with the guy. They don’t want to share something that personal with someone who doesn’t truly care for them or love them. With girls they want love not lust. Girls don’t think like a guy, but then again you don’t think right you let your d*ck dictate what you do.

Lastly the reason you are so horny is because of the hormonal imbalance in your body. You have hit puberty and your body is developing at a rapid rate. Because of this imbalance not only has your desire for females increased but your amount of self-control has decreased because you aren’t used to using that much discretion. Also the media influence encouraging your ideal for sex doesn’t help-especially advertising sex in practically everything.

I recommend that you first off learn to control your fantasies and hormones so you don’t ejaculate when you are next to a girl who gets you excited-that would be embarrassing, that you maybe learn to sympathize with females and understand their point of view better instead of assuming girls should be less protective of who they sleep with.

June 1, 2011 at 6:00 pm
(106) Stefani says:

Dear Matt,
I’m a girl and I can answer some of your questions. To girls, their virginity is very special. They want it to be with some one who they love… and LOVE is a factor, your not a girl and its hard to explain to a guy but to a girl, losing their virginity is like losing a leg. It might not seem that way to some girls but it is a prized possession to most.

January 22, 2010 at 10:20 am
(107) billy says:

I dnt wont 2 hav sxxx, I wnt 2 gett 2 no tha person ferst becaos i thnk sx is rlly speshel, peopl dnt do it fr know reasan, liik whn thay m33t sum1 at a niteklub or sumthng.

sx isnt tht god en e way, iv dun it a hunjrd nd 77 tims wth al modls and stff cz Ime reli hottt and musley

January 22, 2010 at 10:21 am
(108) matt says:

PS… sorry if i spelt senimental wrong, it’s 3 am and i’ve been out all night, I’m dying…

PPS… Billy, you are an idiot.

February 12, 2010 at 4:29 pm
(109) brad says:

hi, im 14 and engaged iv been with my lass 4 nearly a year now . it took us a while to even think bout sex but afta 6 munths we spoke. we both wanted it but was scared to.like isay if there scard or owt like tha t let them cum to you nd ask 4 it nd then atleast ur makin ur loved 1 happy

February 15, 2010 at 12:14 pm
(110) Its a Secret Baby ;) says:

Okaay soo Ive written on here before, well im not a virgin anymore.. I just fell in the temptation.. I was strong for soo long but idk after awhile.. I just wanted to try it out. I actually liked it, but im not planning to do it again. It has consequences… I dont want to dissapoint my parents. Yeah.. so I didnt even loose it to a special guy.. that kinda sucked but im okay. You must never regret anything.. One must just be smart.. its better to wait. But yeah… lol.
Like i said, being a teenager is hard

February 18, 2010 at 1:09 pm
(111) Samm Babyyy says:

ok, so i am 15 and not a virgin. I held up for a while i used to be a super goodie two shoes. Then i got sick of it all guys only thought of me as a friend and i got tired of it so i started to sleep around. I definitely made the bad decision here, all the guys i talked to only wanted sex. At this time i was a virgin. I really got sick of this so i stopped talking to a lot of these guys cause thats all they wanted. I did like this one guy though, he said he liked me to but he has a girlfriend and he asks me to have sex with him ALL the time so the one day i was stupid enough to do it. This was the worst decision i had ever made in my life. Right after this, he said to me im done with you, and he wants nothing to do with me anymore. it hurt like nothing else. So YEAH i definitely think especially at this age of 15 16 whatever most guys are in it for sex. All my guy friends have gone by the rule “f*ck em then chuck em” and they told me if i knew how most guys work id stop liking them for good. So girls, just be careful. Cause if you make the mistake with some stupid guy whose dating a girl, and you think you can change him. it wont work. you should wait, and i regret not doing that.

January 22, 2011 at 4:46 am
(112) Yvonne says:

I’m a virgin and a teenage girl around 15/16. I don’t plan on having sex until I’m marraied and like you said you used to be, I am considered a goody two shoes. I understand what you went through saying you got tiered of being the friend and being asked, I get tired too and want a relationship but won’t give myself up for a guy I probably won’t see in 2 years.

The reason I responded to your comment is because of what your guy friends said “f*** them then chuck them.” I just wanted you to ask yourself and any other girl who is reading this, to ask yourself why are those guys your friends? Obviously they don’t have respect for females and if they are openly disrespectful about other girls to you, then you could end up in a bad situation down the line. I’m not saying they aren’t … nice or funny. However, if you hangout with guys who have morals like that of course you are going to attract guys with only sex in mind. This is because other guys see you with these inappropriate guys and figure, hey this girl must not care, she is a free ride.

January 22, 2011 at 4:54 am
(113) Yvonne says:

I’m not saying any of this to disrespect you I just wanted anyone who is reading this to realize and reflect on the idea that you attract what you hangout with. The peers you talk to and surround yourself with will definatly attract a similar group. So don’t subject yourself to inappropriate people if you have power to change your situation.
Also, in general to other teenagers who are dealing with the pressure and emphasis the media puts on sex, please wait. I know the temptation is there believe me I deal with it on a daily bases I’m a teen too. But you have to ask yourself are you willing to sacrifice so much of yourself as well as deal with possible consiquences. Do any of you girls want to end up pregnant and then deal with the decision of what you will do with that babies life. Do any of you guys want to have to explain why you have a child to your parents and then have to raise that child if it is born (paying child support- the baby doesn’t go away even if you run away). Also for both guys and girls, STDs are real and can really hurt your health. Just think about the long term effects of sex not the instant pleasure. If the person you are with is worth the giving a part of yourself to and they really want to be apart of your life, then they will wait for you to be ready and you should wait until marraige. Call me old fashion but that is my ideal and I hope I’m not alone with that and that the ideal of waiting won’t die out with this generation.

February 19, 2010 at 2:45 am
(114) notgonnasay says:

Depends on the girl to be honest. I can easily say most of my sexual experiences are due to provocation (not imagined as far as my sanity can be measured). Otherwise I believe in a relationship for a good relationships sake that will enrich the lives of both parties.

Ha! SecretBaby. so funny. same here but i’m the guy! reciprocation

February 19, 2010 at 8:51 am
(115) Lydia says:

hey i would just like to say that i am a british 16 year old girl and have just enetered into a relationship wiuth aby that i ave liked for a while and we have been friends for ages we get on SO well. and i personally would like to have sex with him sometime soon i often have fantasies and feel ready to loose my virginity. i am saying this as i think that most girls want sex just as much as bys and its not fair to say that boys are sex mad when its purely to do with adolescent hormones. sex is a natural thing people, get over it.

February 21, 2010 at 1:39 pm
(116) Lacy says:

im 17 and when im around my age group of friends and stuff they pretty much always talk about sex.. and yes most of them have had it.. but i havnt.. i feel like if at least one person (reguardless of what the other person wants) doesnt want to have sex and they stand their ground the realationship should work out because there had to be something there to begin the relationship in the first place.. and if the other person wants out just because you wont have sex, then the relationship wasnt meant to be in the first place.

March 2, 2010 at 9:31 pm
(117) kamrin says:

~Well i think that now sex is a very larg part of a TEENAGE relationship because your very curios and than again the boy goes thru peer presure from his friends and they will tyr to talk him into doin any thing…and when the girl ”loves” hiim she will do any thing just to keep him haooy with her not knowing that is all he really wanted so after that he dips on her and leaves her felling dumb,deprested,angry,and lonely!!!! SO YES ITS ALL ABOUT SEX!!!

March 7, 2010 at 9:14 am
(118) aoife.. says:

im 15.. and waiting for the right person… were i am in ireland the lads would pay you to have sex with them.. i mean the would almoset rape you if u were anybit atal drunk, ect.. ive liked this lad for over 2years but iys not going to happen i dont feel hes the right guy! hes the mosed sex-obsessd guy ive ever know and wont stop asking me.. now i aint saying all lads are but the majorty of them are expecially whare i am from.

March 19, 2010 at 1:25 am
(119) Amy says:

I am 15 and I had sex one time the person that I had it with is still with me he is so sweet I think sex is right only if u feel it is right

March 25, 2010 at 9:15 pm
(120) angelo says:

I love gay boys

April 3, 2010 at 9:55 pm
(121) Secrets says:

I’m 14 and I’m a girl and yes I have to admit I do think about sex but I am not ready to have it I have been dating sum1 for about a year altogther and we do talk about sex sometimes by the way he is 13 going on 14 but we both agreed that we want to wait till we r married we are seriou but we bot just want to be loved and it’s hard bc I live in a diff country but we are sticking it out but we cuddle and he kisses my neck so yah I don’t think it is wrong it just depends on the person

April 17, 2010 at 9:56 pm
(122) DONt tRip:) says:

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May 11, 2010 at 8:14 am
(123) SmokeyJ says:

Heyy guys,
Im from england,
im 15
i lost my virginity later last year at the same age as i am now,
i think sexual things are needed in a healthy relationship
BUT heres the catch not sex,
when you’ve found someone you realy like have gottern to know them,
and are you are with them after 3 weeks-1 month – to about 3-4months i think foreplay and teasing are needed i a healthy relationship
Dont deny it – in love or not -
we are Humans and what we do is reproduce –
sex is almost always on a boys mind – even if they want to be with someone special- they’ll still have fantaseys about girls they dont care about as much but are attractive-
i think sex is only healthy in a relationship after around 2-3months
but thats at 15 – 13 and 14 i think you are still maturing and not quite ready for sex

i know alot or pre-teens do especilly were i lvie but persoanlt at 13- 14 you should be settling down with concrete freinds and start soul searching find what you enjoy doing and hwat you do best but it think at the age of 15 ( it still depends) the average of teens like myself are at least emotionaly and pysicaly READY FOR SEX BUT
sex isnt the only thing in a relationship!
dont never make love – but dont go it 10 times a day etheir.

well i hope someones reading this right now taking note choow :)

May 11, 2010 at 4:44 pm
(124) Naomi says:

Basicaully, im 17, nearly 18, my boyfriend is 21, an we aint been going out for a long time, nearly 1 month, and he never really been fullon with sex, he just loves being with me, company caring loving kindness respectful, we will kiss and maybe touch but nomore, i dno what hes thinking but i think sex is one of thelast thigns on his mind

May 13, 2010 at 12:58 pm
(125) xxxmckaylaxxx says:

Ok so im 13 turning 14 nxt month and sex is not an option at my age!!! Its just my opinion. I am not a virgin but thatz because something else personal. Its not right to have sex at that age!!

May 16, 2010 at 1:04 pm
(126) India says:

hi, me and my boyfriend both go to a private school in which he boards at, and not only would it be really hard to do anything, but he doesnt care at all. we’ve been together for half a year and he doesnt wanna do anything i dont. we can just look at each other and not need to touch and talk instead. and tbh, i think this is a relationship everybody should have. so girls, if a guy just wants sex…. ditch him, and find a new one.

May 17, 2010 at 10:22 pm
(127) ~KK~ says:

Ok so I’m an Ag kid I hang out with all of the farm boys i have even dated a few but with any of them sex is never a question and I know that some of them are sexually active and they are open about it but its a big deal and they don’t take it lightly. I guess their mamma’s raised them right lol luv you guys :P

May 18, 2010 at 2:48 pm
(128) xxXdinosaursXxx says:

Well this question depends on what kind of boy. Was he raised by just his mom or just his dad or both? Then again its not all about that^ also is the boy sexually active already? or has he just been on a couple dates. Then you could look at his ex. did they have sex? If so, how long did it take for them to actually do it? So you can look at these questions, look at the boy, and i guess you can tell, right?
Well hope i answerd good!
<3 McKaYlA b

May 26, 2010 at 8:52 pm
(129) courtney.h. says:

ok,i kno wat u mean a 11 year old kid i know had sex and the baby is already born so isnt that sick and really sad he most of been only 10 when he 1st had it so thats really nasty and hes prowd to say he did the baby looks jjust like him to it shouldve went on the news and evevrthing because thats somthin u dont see happen everyday !!!!!!!! :P

May 26, 2010 at 10:22 pm
(130) ;;ANqEL;: says:


May 27, 2010 at 3:59 pm
(131) Destiny says:

Omg,I Need Major Helpppppp]:

June 12, 2010 at 7:27 am
(132) Danking says:

I’m now assured that some girls do not want to have sex till they are married because i don’t want to date a girl who wants to have a sex with me.

July 20, 2010 at 9:33 pm
(133) Elo says:

wait till your married there to many what ifs and don’t allow guys to hurt you disrespect you or your parents. And to much drama!

August 16, 2010 at 2:10 pm
(134) MARTHA says:

Sex it does not matter for me,i think sex is not right for me in my age 15,i know i am not that kid but i need to know me,i am a girl don’t put sex before LOVE and i am so happy beacuse i am a Vrigin!!….I think most of time guys want sex and i am not meant all guys!S sex is nothing NOTHING without, LOVE OR FEELING FOR SOME ONE! jUst wait for the right place and time…espationaly Girls because only one sex put us in the spate to fall our dreams!!!!

August 17, 2010 at 1:55 pm
(135) Becca says:

I’m 13 and I was in a relationship with a 16 yr. old and he and i were hanging out at his house waiting for his parents (He was my first bf) and he just decided he wanted to have sex right then and there (We ahd only been dateing for a month) and of course I wasn’t ready but he ALMOST forced me into it. He said that if I didn’t have sex with him he would break up with me, so i broke up with him. That was my first and only relationship with an older guy (so far). :)

August 19, 2010 at 2:03 pm
(136) sandy adex says:

My name is sandra,am 14 and my boyfriend is 15 but we reli love each other,,but what if my boyfriend is interested in romance and kissing and i don’t like those things and he insist that he loves doing that with his girlfriend.what shld i do because i really love him and i can hurt myself if he ever lives me………….i need an advice here pleaseeee…

August 20, 2010 at 1:02 am
(137) carly says:

my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months and I’m a virgin but he isn’t. Lately he’s been pushing sex and it’s really starting to bother me. Yes, I want my first time to be with him because I’m in love with him but I don’t want it to be pressured and whatnot. In reality, all boys AND girls think about it. However, I think boys think about it on a larger scale. Yes, they want a cute, funny, charming girl who cares for them but they also want action.

September 2, 2010 at 11:57 am
(138) Argos says:

Sex on ex , everyone want’s it

September 16, 2010 at 7:58 pm
(139) :0) says:

I’m 18. When I was 14 I wanted a girl to like me because I liked them. Mostly all they would need to do was be nice to me and I’d think they liked me. At a party I’d kiss a girl or see how far I could get.

But with my first girlfriend, sex didn’t even come up because I thought she’d say no anyway. I knew that if I mentioned it she’d think that it was all I wanted her for. Which was not true, it’s just that I really wanted to do it. I was practicing at home so much by myself. And I kept thinking how good I would be when I had sex with her.

When I did finally do it. It was like having permission to do it when ever I could. And it’s like an itch that feels good to scratch. A guy I went to school with told me that he would ask every girl he met at a party to give him a BJ and even though most girls said no, occasionally one would say yes. I think that’s wrong.

I think it’s hard as a teenager, because your fighting your animal instincts to procreate because it’s normal. But because we are smarter than other animals, we have have been able to control these feelings. But they are still there no matter how well we are brought up.

September 29, 2010 at 6:26 am
(140) keisha says:

i am a 16 year girl…i think mainly 14-18 year old boys are sex crazed..means they think to have sex with girls younger than them….i belong from a conservative family…i even dont have a boyfrnd…but the boys with whom i talk in school sometimes becomea choice of mine…a kind of sexual feeling arouses in me…but it doesnt mean that i wanna have sex with them…coz sex iz illegal for those who are teens or are unmarried…so gals and boys of my age,,,ty to avoid sex!!

September 29, 2010 at 6:32 am
(141) keisha says:

i am 16…i think when boys reach the age 16 they are more sex crazed…its according to my personal experience in my school.there is a guy in our school who has more girls as friends than boys…and his smile iz somewhat spellbinding probably his smile will arouse strange feeling in a girl’s mind!!

October 24, 2010 at 7:04 pm
(142) R.R. says:

Well, me and my boyfriend of 4 months hav talked bout sex and stuff bt its lik he was scared about the outcomes that could happen bt he didnt mentioned sex i did. but we never really talked bout it till about 2 months into our relationship.and i asked him ALOT if that was all he wanted from me and he was like NO i love u and ill wait till were married… and it took me awhile to believe him because i was really societal and a stereotypes because thats all i thought boys wanted…

November 5, 2010 at 8:11 am
(143) hassan says:

It is same i think all around the world, i am an 18 yrs old guy from pakistan, and i had sex at the age of 14 with my school fellow of 13 only…..! guys when experience errection are intended to have sex, at times with opposite sex and at times with the same sex of same age or with younger ones…..! this is a global fact and have to be accepted anyways…!

November 9, 2010 at 1:29 pm
(144) emma says:

you know what i hate the most is that boys think through there dicks…some boys only want to have sex with a girl…the relationship is all about sex…when u makeout with your boyfrend u get horny or think of doin mre than that…its true…some girls r really into the boy while that boy is into her body or her ass!

November 17, 2010 at 4:05 pm
(145) Luna says:

I think that sex is not the first thing they want. But after they get it its kind of something you always have to do. Sure you can say sorry but i don’t feel up to it know. And there not a really good partner if they don’t undestand. And usually it’s the younger guys who only want sex becouse they aren’t ready for a releshionship and they think the’re cool if they have sex.

November 17, 2010 at 7:14 pm
(146) caitlin marie ramsey says:

when i was in 9th grade we had sex. now what is on his mind is he wants to have sex with me again

November 20, 2010 at 5:15 am
(147) Top says:

I’m 14 and i’m a boy, i have a girlfriend, but no, sex has never crossed my mind. Women are not pleasure dolls. Wish me good luck on my relationship!

December 15, 2010 at 2:57 pm
(148) My fanny is damp ;) says:

well im a girl me and my fellah have been havin sex for 2 years now we have said bout 8 times a day its great ..your bf will only have sex with you if he really loves you ;) and im 14 and hes 17 and we never use contraception ..its better without it tbh yano ;)

its healthy to have sex !!!! saps

soo have sex now u only live once .. goodboys and girls (Y)

December 21, 2010 at 1:44 am
(149) The Dude says:

I dont have a gf yet coz im shy but if i was in a relationship i wouldnt think about sex until i was at least 20 im 15 and im a boy I wont even have sex till i am Married nor will i be preasured

January 22, 2011 at 4:16 am
(150) Yvonne says:

Hey “The Dude” I just wanted to say I’m also 15(I turn 16 in March) and that I’m extremely happy to hear that another teenager like myself is planning on waiting till matraige. I realize the pressure that media places on the persuit of plessure in the now , including sex, and sin. I hope you keep that ambistion to stay chaste and props to you on not even thinking about sex really.

December 30, 2010 at 2:13 am
(151) =) Breyan RoCk$ says:

Hey everyone i am 15 yrs old i thank you guys for all 113 comments i read everyone even though the majority main ideas or main points was the same just mentioned a little differently =) however i think billy was being very facetious

i researched this page to get advice on what do teenage boys think or want in relationships and how teenage girls feel about sex.

well i went through a situation i was with a 14 yr old boy i admit i love bad boys but he’s too bad for me i broke up with him after an almost 3yr and a 1/2 relationship that 3rd year we where together he was not the same boy i had a crush on since 6th grade he became angry all the time made stupid agruements…blaming me 4 them so i know deep inside it was mean but i broke up with him the day b4 him and my mom’s bday ( isnt that crazy their bday on the same day) so we began talking again over that summer and got close again and so on but in his mind he was only doing it for sex however thanks to my 21 yr old sister im still a virgin =)

anywho i learned from my mistakes i have hints and clues to look for if i knw that special boy is for me thanks to you all. 4 those girls who aren’t virgins its okay u cant change the past so learn from your mistakes now so u do the right thing in the future
Now im thinking about publishing a book on this….ps by the way i may quote some of you guys’ comments in the book

So thanks a lot, I’ll come back soon!!!!!!! =) smooches

January 3, 2011 at 8:30 pm
(152) katie says:

hi im turning 14 this year its january my birthday is in 6 months i have a boyfriend and both of us have definatly thought of sex and even though were frickn young people in school made up rumors that we were having sex weve only been going out for 5 ish months soon to be 6 but when i tell people that they get freaked out and act weird im sooo a virgin (thank god) and even though i thought about it we have never really talked about it either but it has come up in conversation with our friends but we know there not serious cuz they dont have the guts my mother had told me that her friend had met her husband the same age that i am and he was too. they got married and never broke up im really connected with my boyfriend and i really like him hopefully that will happen to me<3

January 21, 2011 at 7:36 pm
(153) ali says:

ok well im 14 almost fifteen and i happen to be friends with a lot of guys and ik that sex is on their minds. I have never actually been in a relationship so i cant say wether or not when ur in a relationship things change. but i have been asked to have sex with some of my friends. I think that while guys have it on their mind it doesn’t mean they are actually doing it but i also think i personally attract the wrong type of guys i am 5’7″ and have a very fast metabolism so i don’t gain weight and i wear a size G bra which sounds completely and utterly ridicules but guys always talk about my boobs. my best friend wears a size F bra and puts out so i think i get that reputation by just being friends with her… i have made out with guys im not dating who don’t go to my school and they never brought up sex and all the guys im may actually be into dose i think wether orr not guys are asking about sex depends on the girl

January 22, 2011 at 3:59 am
(154) Yvonne says:

I’m a teenage girl who turns 16 in 2 months and I hav this guy friend who turns 16 in 1 month. We are friends and both like each other but live far away so aren’t in a committed relationship. Anyway we text a lot and when we text we talk about random things but sex comes up a lot. He is the one who brings up the topic and I usually try and stray away from the topic. But I am waiting till marraige in order to have sex and he doesn’t care and wouldn’t mind having sex while in high school. However despite his interest in sex he is a gentleman and never trys anything that would be too fast or put pressure on the girl. He has self control and can wait. Like many guys he wants to wait to have sex with the right girl and not just have random sexual one night stands-most guys don’t think sexs is casual.
I believe that guys have raging hormones, fantasize about girls a lot, and definately have the idea of sex cross there mind, but most guys, especially the ones i know, plan on waiting to have sex with a girl they really like and just want to have a meaningful relationship with a girl. Sex isn’t everything to them. They just pretend sometimes around their buddys or even girls that they are more sexual as a macho fasade in order to hide their extremely sensitive side:) In fact I know a lot more girls who throw themselves at guys and are more sexually forward than guys. The guys are usually on the defense so they don’t get some pyscho girl who takes promise in sex.

January 29, 2011 at 12:00 am
(155) Someone says:

Really? I think you all respond b/c you want to write ” sex” no,
It is bad…..

February 5, 2011 at 1:50 am
(156) Hannah says:

I’m 14, female. Personally, I think that I think about sex just as much as my boyfriend. We do talk about it, and I tell him what I’m thinking and encourage him to do the same. I can’t help but be extremely horny :) ! I think that women just don’t talk about it as much. My boyfriend seems to be very into me, for a lot of reasons, not just that he thinks I’m attractive. I’ve had relationships with girls, and I feel like I understand the way a guy feels about a girl. Obviously, I can never know, but it makes sense that a guy could be as emotionally invested in a relationship as a girl. Girls are amazing :) and very easy to admire, and fall in love with. Of course guys think a lot about sex, but so does everyone. It’s not all about romance- the two concepts kind of tie together. Teenagers think about sex, not just the boys. I’ve dated girls and we’ve talked about sex a lot, in great detail, even sharing our fantasies about each other. Most girls will not have sex, even if they think about it. I think it’s complete bullshit that girls only put out because they are pressured to. It is possible that you might trust someone enough to have sex with them. The idea of sex and orgasm is thrust upon guys in puberty, 100% involuntarily. For girls it’s different, and it’s harder for us to orgasm, therefore we are naturally less into the idea as a whole. So no, I don’t think that guys only want sex, and I don’t think that girls are uninterested.

February 11, 2011 at 11:00 pm
(157) Chey. says:

I think we need to educate boys in school, like health class… to respect women. At a young age our hormones are going crazy, one day we hate you the next we love you. I think if we were to educate young men what a reall girl wants in a relationship… is just a best friend and someone that they will trust and talk to them about anything and everything, and thats probably what they want to. Though the movies today set a example that the “cool” thing is to be engaged in a sexual relationship. Its not though. I am 15 years old and half the guy that say they “like” me, I always ask why and they say I am pretty which is very nice.. but a relationship isnt just about looks, and they always want anything they can get from you. If i was to make out with a boy that i was with, it would be around the school in two sec. all guys want to do now day is to brag to there friends about how “good” she was. Half of them are all lying though but still boys need to know at a young age that sex isnt cool.

February 20, 2011 at 4:33 pm
(158) tyra says:

Not all guys want sex but most do ! i no bare guyssome only want sex and the others do n’t give a damn if they do or not

March 4, 2011 at 9:43 am
(159) Michelle says:

I am 17 and all my boyfriend wants is sex what should i do he always brings it up and i am getting tired of it he says it is to make me mad because i am mean to him but he does it even when we are having a perfectly good day and no matter what i say he will not stop talking about it what should i do?

March 4, 2011 at 10:28 am
(160) sumesh says:

sex is something which can give max pleasure.

March 21, 2011 at 4:39 am
(161) Singles Boy says:

I think you are wrong and here is why.

I was reading your blog, and I had to write about my experiences in trying to meet and date tall girls, so as to offer a male’s point of view.
When I was 24, I met a divorced woman, 32, who was 5’11”. I was 5’8”. It was a brief affair, but I just could not get over her long legs and curvy broad hips. She possessed a tapered waist which only accented her curvy hips ever further. Because of her, I developed an appreciation for long legs and the natural curvy hips of a tall woman.

March 22, 2011 at 9:32 am
(162) gnorimies says:

I believe that sex is good thing and if the girl is beautiful the sex is coming themselves

March 23, 2011 at 1:14 pm
(163) Dating says:

This article is very interesting, but I am a man and I have some experience about relationship and dating and i can tell that in teenager boys the sex is predominant in their thoughts. Although there is always a way to change that.

March 28, 2011 at 8:40 pm
(164) Innego says:


April 1, 2011 at 11:07 am
(165) Tricia says:

I guess we all mess up what we intend to know as love.teenagers as well as other men mess up big time in what we know as love it is a general thing but ask me what teenage boys want from a relationship.It is Personality I dentification.

April 3, 2011 at 9:24 am
(166) John says:

Im 16 (boy) and ive been in a relationship with my girlfriend for almost 6 months (its almost our monthsary :D ) To be honest at first the reason why i fell for her was because of her personality, she was my first best friend ever since i moved to a foriegn country (of course she could speak english). i also came to relize later on in the relationship that ive noticed her even tho i never noticed it myself. when i finally asked her out i was so happy out of my mind, like a dream. back then i was always happy just being next to her, and it was fine with me. ive never thought we would get as far as to having sex, it was something we both went up to. we both trust eachother so very much. lately however, i was think we should stop having sex because i just didnt want her to be hurt in the future if i screwed up. Shes a LADY not a SLUT and i never thought of her as someone i can “toot it and boot it” with. so from now before our monthsary, i just want to get back to those days where being with her was meant so much than having sex everyday.

~John Hermoso (Shinkai)

April 9, 2011 at 1:43 am
(167) JustWait says:

okay, so i personally think guys do think about sex. im 14, and guys honestly dont really care(ESPECIALLY IN 8TH AND 9TH GRADE) about girls feelings… (some guys do care, but others…. SEX) and you just need to live your life. i know you wanna have sex, but it is just smarter to wait, at least until college.. with someone you love.

April 10, 2011 at 2:15 pm
(168) Tes says:

My boyfriend and I have both come from sheltered homes(him more so than me) so naturally we are both very innocent. He is currently 18 and I am 16. We’ve been dating for 8 months now, but before that liked eachother for about 2 yrs.(he wasnt allowed to date till he was 18, so we waited), and we havent even had our first kiss yet. We are both very much in love with eachother, and on a much deeper and truer level than I ever thought possible because of it. He has even talked very seriously about marriage with me. Now, Im not saying that everyone should be like this, Id just like to say that you can be in a very serious and committed relationship, even in highschool, without all of the other stuff. If a guy, or girl for that matter, keeps trying to presssure you into doing something your not ready for to “help your relationship” or cuz he “loves you,” its not real. (and that person doesnt deserve you) Remember, you are special, beautiful/handsome, and you deserve someone who truely believes your the most amazing person in the world.

April 10, 2011 at 8:19 pm
(169) Tylor says:

1. Way too many comments to read.
2. I am 13, and I believe this:

Sure, there a plenty of guys around me that can’t control their hormones and all they talk about is sex or drugs. They act stupid, all the time. I am a guy and I personally do not look for sex in a relationship. I have never even been in a relationship before. I am just trying to find a girl who is OK with who I am and what I do, someone who is kind, caring, loving, beautiful, the good stuff. I don’t want someone who is just as bad as the guys are. What makes it harder for me in this age group is that I am not athletic. I have lost weight and stopped gaining so much waist sizes, I stopped bad eating habits. I like computers. I like gaming on them, fixing them, building them, etc. I am more on the smart side. I also like playing games on my XBOX 360, but in my age group, girls think more about the athletic group of guys than the group of geeks and nerds that are going to be making the better money in life. Of course, this will change in high school and later.

April 12, 2011 at 2:10 pm
(170) Jake says:

Im almost 15 years old. The girl I like is amazing; so beautiful and I AM physically attracted to her. But I mostly like the way she can always make me smile. It’s hard not to just stare at her during the 3 classes we have together. She so incredibly smart and gorgeous; she’s also clumsy, goofy, silly, ridiculous, and cracks the worst jokes I’ve ever heard. Although she is about half a year older than me, I know she doesn’t care because she told me so. She’s adorable.! I don’t actually think about having sex with her; I just want to know that she cares for me. She doesn’t want a boyfriend, and I respect that. The best part is that she’s my best friend. I talk to her for hours on end, and she is always laughing, smiling, and giggling. The kind of girl who calls people after class to ask if they’re sick, and if they’re alright. So caring. She has an amazing body; long legs, slightly tanned, very nice and thin (fit), but isn’t afraid to eat and isn’t obsessed with keeping her body shape the way it is. She said “as long as im healthy im good! Who cares whether youre thin or fat or have 12 eyes!!!” i am in love with her, but just want to hold and hug her and tell her she’s veautiful all day.

May 2, 2011 at 7:35 pm
(171) chelsea says:

I like a guy hu is sexually active cos i feel da same way and i always think about it

April 12, 2011 at 2:36 pm
(172) 13 says:

Im 13 years old and i think in a relationship there should be making out and sex. (sex is optional, but makin’ out & kissing is absolutely necessary) why? because holding arms isn’t cool.
also, people who say they are going to have sex at marriage are missing out a lot of things.

May 2, 2011 at 7:32 pm
(173) Chelsea says:

making out leads to topped and topped leads to finger and finger leads to bj and bj leads to sex :)
just DONT get to into the kissing cos it goes further …

April 16, 2011 at 12:14 am
(174) AfterMarriage says:

Okay. Sex is for after marriage. Get it straight. It doesn’t matter if you love them now; just wait! If I got married and was still a virgin (which is how it’s supposed to work), I would not want to find out that my husband had already had sex with someone else. How would you feel? In college, you may think you are going to spend your life with them, heck maybe you are! But it’s a God-given thing, for married people. Come on people. Be pure.

April 19, 2011 at 8:01 am
(175) single says:

hey thats really cool of urs to put so many comments…but i think boys think about it but its be better if to keep it simple and dont complicate things….but in teenage we all want is a gud realion and boys too wants the same..girls love to keep their privacy and not to share that part with boys which they never share with anyone..but i think weshould enjoy the relationship without thinkng about the SEX>>>

April 20, 2011 at 9:59 pm
(176) lilkeke says:

Why do guys like about girs! I don’t get it cuz my guy friend is desperate.

May 2, 2011 at 7:27 pm
(177) barbera says:

Well i was in a relationship with dis guy who had already had sex at 14 and now is 15 and im 16. he always wanted more but unfoirtunatly didint get that far and broke up wit me after 3 weeks :( some lads only want der bit .

May 8, 2011 at 9:53 am
(178) hope, faith and love says:

hi i love this boy and he dont love me and i cant get him to see how much i love him but am pug ugly

May 13, 2011 at 2:06 pm
(179) How to make a girl like you says:

I think that most of our teenager are in relationships just for sex and that just the plain truth.

May 27, 2011 at 11:24 pm
(180) Maddie says:

okay, so , im about to turn 13 and the guy i think i’m in love with is about to turn 15 . He’s one of the most handsome boys i’ve ever seeen . He’s so sweet, and actually listens to what i have to say . I dont belive that sex is on every guy’s mind . yeah , they can joke about it and be perverted at times, but thats expected 100% . i’ve known him for about a month now, and i haven’t heard any pressuring or talking about anything he thinks would pressure me with . He calls me “pretty” and “beautiful” and not HOT or SEXY, and i appreciate that . He gives m hope that not every guy’s mind is taken over by sex .

May 29, 2011 at 2:58 pm
(181) LOLA says:

you knooow ?? i had a many relationship with boys but all those relations were just they talk to me because they wanna have sex oooooof but of course i dun accept that oh !!! !!! i’m sick of that !! and its make me think that all boys think about SEX SEX SEX !! tennegers are the most !!!! oh !!
yeah girl we need sex but tell we have married we dun think about sex often ! u think about it if there is someone you really love and u want him so u think of everything !!

May 30, 2011 at 2:32 pm
(182) nerdsrule says:

Okay people. I am 14 years old and a girl and some of the things I have read here are creepy. 13 and having sex? ARE YOU OUT OF YOUR MINDS? I don’t care if people don’t wait until marriage ( although they should) but at least wait until you’re 18. I haven’t even kissed a guy. Is there something wrong with that? And it as nothing to do with my looks. I have turned down every guy who has ever asked me out because I think that there is more to life than boys and sex. Sorry if I offended anyone but this is just sad. Think about it.

June 2, 2011 at 12:40 pm
(183) First love... says:

I’m a 14 year old boy and I know that most teenagers (also girls) WANT sex, but many of those understand that they’re NOT READY or that RELATIONSHIP IS NOT ALL ABOUT SEX.
I’m an example – I have a girl (also 14) for 4 months, she’s smart, we both have a good sense of humor and she’s gorgeus. We both want sex, but aren’t ready for it, so we don’t even mention it.

June 6, 2011 at 4:34 am
(184) Mr.samson says:

lots of girls and boys starting from age 13 will consider sexual intercourse after that reality sets in which is why half don’t do it

June 22, 2011 at 5:52 pm
(185) lexxy says:

IDK Becuse Me And me Boyfriendd bein going out for 3 Months tmr And i love him He Said sex is the last thing on his Mind bur He Brings it up Sum Time`s & Now we dont go too the same School i i worry about him 24/7 cus there alot of hoe`s at his School ;/

June 27, 2011 at 7:33 am
(186) maci says:

i am scared of losing my boyfriend over sexaul talk. We kiss, but i don’t wanna go to far. What should i do?

July 4, 2011 at 2:08 am
(187) Abbie says:

I have two of these guys talking to me. One is saying I want your body, and that he wants me to send nude pics of myself to him…. I didnt. He keeps asking me to do it & I keep telling him no. What should i tell him to make him to stop asking me for some?

The second guy keeps asking me what i would do with him bjs,fingering,sex etc. I said I dont know. & he keeps asking me over & over again. What should I say?
Please Help! :)

July 26, 2011 at 12:43 am
(188) Mikeyla says:

My boyfriend mentioned that he wanted to have sex with me the 2nd week we started going out. I guess it was kind of my fault he asked me what I was doing (on the phone) and I told him I was in my room. Flirtatiously he said can I come over kidding around I said sure come over, he asked me if my mum would get mad and I told him of course she would but if she didn’t would you come over (it was 11:00pm) and he said of course. Then I asked if he did come over what would we do. He said whatever I wanted to then he asked what. I didn’t know what to say so I asked him the same question and he said “sex or what”. Now he threatens our relationship but keeps begging and begging. I’m 14 and he’s 16. Maybe you don’t think this is important but he’s Dominican and my mum told me to be careful with Dominican men.

August 7, 2011 at 2:24 am
(189) Moocow says:

Ummm yeah my prime motivation for liking a girl isn’t the fact that she is hot and I want to have sex with her. I think most guys want someone who they can be with for more than a couple weeks instead of a one week sex filled fling. When I look at a girl, I look for things that mKe a good person, not only a good body (even though a body is important). What’s the point of being with a girl if you can’t carry a conversation. And for all the people saying wait till your married, you can go jump in a ditch. Purity isn’t waiting till your married, it’s not sleeping around with every guy/girl you meet. It’s being with those you care about, even if you don’t know if you love them. I’m 16 and a sophomore in highschool. Don’t tell me I don’t know what I’m talking about either. I know me and I know how most guys are.

August 8, 2011 at 9:34 am
(190) J.S. says:

Yeah, sex is definitely the last thing I would think about.
I’m a 15 year old guy, and I was never in a relationship, up until about a month ago. She has been at my school for 2 years, and I’m a pretty shy guy, and all I wanted was her, because she is the only girl I actually had conversations with, and hung out with. So when I asked her out she said yes.

I loved her with all my heart, and then she dumped me in less than 2 weeks. >.>

She’s about to be 14 and she was the one that was thinking about sex, not with me though, but a 17 year old.

To me, sex is a ‘plus’, if it happens it happens, you don’t have to rush it. It’s not anything important in a relationship.

For me, it’s ‘romance’ over ‘sex’, and ‘beautiful’ over ‘sexy’.

If a guy says sexy, unless the girl wants him to say sexy, it general means. “Hey, you actually look hot enough to have sex now.”

My best friend and his gf, have been together for 9 months, and they only had sex once, because they both agreed, and actually thought about it for a while.

August 11, 2011 at 2:46 am
(191) MadIson says:

this is a bunch of BS! If guys didn’t want sex they would have gone for the cute thick chick but do they every do? Hell no

September 7, 2011 at 12:09 am
(192) Jacob says:

thats because we want sombody who can take care of herself because if she cant take care of herself how do you think she can handle a relationship? + there needs to be some attraction to a degree and if the physical attraction isnt there there then we automaticly assume that she is not a nice girl to be around.
besides, if a girl wants a relationship then she should have to work for it. i used to be chubby, but i trippled my bench press weight and lost some fat and i would figure a girl should do the same general type of thing if she wants a relationship.

August 12, 2011 at 10:55 pm
(193) Logan says:

H i guys im a boy and im in 8th grade i have a gf and she is really hott and very nice but i really dont think about sex if she really wanted it i would talk to her about it before but im not really into sex yet but i mean i kinda like it but yea but we have been together for 5 months and she is the best

October 5, 2011 at 5:54 am
(194) Mariah says:

I defenetly wouldn’t do it so soon in a relationship or in age it’s a good thing you aren’t into it lol! But sometmes that’s how people keep their relationship “spiced up” But That’s just how VERY FEW stupid people want a relationship!:) Have fun while your young and wait until you know forsure you’re inlove with her and you get butterflies in your special spot and make sure YOU are ready and no one is pressuring you!<3:D

August 21, 2011 at 10:00 pm
(195) karah says:

Um ok well I have a boyfriend we’ve been dating for two nouths friend for nine and he doent want sex he just want to kiss me I won’t let him its r first kiss and he’s sup sweet he really is nice good religous funny caring he’s great but I knw this is off topic but I have no classes or lunch with him this yer by the way were both15 and his mom siad he can’t kiss till next year he so great will always be firends but I’m woried we won’t make it work next year with no classes together I talkto him about it he said will make it work but he’s a bissy farm boy please coment if it positve and nice thanks for reading love karah

September 1, 2011 at 8:15 pm
(196) Ohjesusno says:

I’m kinda just down for sex.. I think sex is more of a friendship kinda thing. You shouldn’t try to hide it, we’re humans, f**k the social protocol.

September 10, 2011 at 5:14 pm
(197) anonoymus says:

i did this survey too. text a few boys aged 13-18 all they wanted Was sex nothing else except for 1 christian boy . he was faithful to god said no i would not do . amazing but true

September 26, 2011 at 12:04 am
(198) Cb says:

Ok listen girls think that boys just want One thing sex but i know differently.me and my friends all have crushes and we all know each others crushes and i asked all of my friends what drove their feelings for their crushes and none of them said sex. They either replied love or personality

October 1, 2011 at 2:08 pm
(199) Inkblot says:

This is really reassuring — to know that there ARE guys out there who will want to wait with me. (: I’m a Christian (not a strict one though, but I believe in God, and want to be closer to him) and I would like to wait until marriage, because I agree that the choice is wise; you’d be with someone you love because you love THEM, and you have more support and security if you (well, in this case it’d be me) get pregnant.

I think another reason girls stereotype — aside from the obvious, and that is because they were in a bad relationship — is because of the media. Just look at commercials for one example! Commercials for television shows, movies, clothes, perfumes — all of it aims at sex appeal. The movies show us that we should desire it, that it’s a good thing to do, that we should only worry about our pleasure, and not about other peoples’ feelings, etc.

I might be wrong, but that’s what I think.

October 14, 2011 at 7:11 am
(200) Jason 16 says:

Hahahahaha. Relationships in high school don’t matter, they only last for like a week anyway lol. Who takes all this “love” stuff seriously at school anyway? If you do, you really need to get your head out of the sand.

The only reason most boys get a gf is to get to have sex. I mean, do you think that you would really “love” some dumb sl** from school? C’mon lmao.

When I’m older I probably really will love a girl with all my heart, and I will be thinking about marriage and stuff like that.

But at school, keep in mind that no relationship lasts forever, so have as much fun as possible.
Which means sex :) haha have fun people!

November 4, 2011 at 4:59 pm
(201) Sarah says:

not all boys are cold hearted and look for sex, there are meny guys here and out there who treat girls like a princess.

November 12, 2011 at 2:07 pm
(202) David says:

I’m 15, my girlfriend is 14, and we’ve had sex, we’ve been together since we were 12/11. We’re very close together, and open about eachother. We always use protection, she’s also on the pill. Sex, to myself, is fine at a young age *14+* if done RESPONSABLY. With the proper precautions. A lot of people fail to understand about the size of condom they need. I personally use a 16CM *6.5 inches*, but people don’t seem to understand, that if it’s too tight, it can, and most probably -WILL- break, if it’s too big it’ll come off to easily. Get it check at the farmacy. They gave me about 15 to try. Ranging from XL to S.

November 13, 2011 at 11:10 pm
(203) Megan says:

I’m 13 and this guy I know is also 13 and we’re not sex
crazed, but we’re not perfect like you guys are. Like we talk about touching (not sex) and like oral. But that’s it. I don’t believe any of this bull I read up here. I applaud those of you who also admitted it. Cudos to you. And to those of you who are lie just to get in a girls pants? Just remember that karma is a bitch.

November 27, 2011 at 11:59 pm
(204) Tim says:

Depends from family and society. Parents need to show a good example of relationship and to explain what they should be based on. What is primary important.

December 3, 2011 at 9:03 am
(205) teennagekid says:

it’s very stupid of a girl to think that sex is the only thing on a guy’s mind -.-

December 3, 2011 at 9:35 pm
(206) Jack says:

I’ll be the first here to admit I’m a horny 18 year old kid. I probably think about sex at least once or twice a day as every boy starting at 12-13 does. When you are just starting out as a teen (12-14) you may be talking with your other guys friends about sex confidently (thinking you know it all). But at that age if you were ever approached I assure you that you would be too uncomfortable and scared to do anything. Now 15-17 is another thing. Granted I first had sex at 17 and yes I did think about her body at times in ways her father would shoot me for. But to say I approached her with the intent of getting in her pants is an enormous lie. And shockingly this includes the majority of guys out there, even some of the idiot jackasses. Guys, as much as they like “physical intimacy” really do want emotion in a relationship. Guys do want a girl worth caring for and protecting from the scum of the earth, beyond reasons of sex. We won’t admit it, but we really are sensitive to emotion.  And most of us don’t want sluts hanging on our dicks 24/7. Would we appreciate the attention? Hell yes! But we are still human and crave human compassion. Just don’t expect us to admit it to your face.

December 6, 2011 at 9:19 pm
(207) Lindan says:

Dude, where did all the grammar go? Coming from a girl who hangs out with tons of boys (I’m the anime, Potter, video game nerd. Most of them are either goth, emo, and/or nerd) most of them are not there for sex. All of my friends are boys, and since I’ve been with all of them for over six years, they’re comfortable with telling me things. They even come to me for advice! Now, I don’t date, but I know quite a bit of what girls like. Well, the ones they are persuing. As much as it may seem it by the testosterone they produce, guys do not like girls who are all over them. Don’t talk about sex because you think they want to here it. They don’t.

December 7, 2011 at 9:43 pm
(208) Sunny says:

I’m 13, almost 14, and my boyfriend, is 14. We started out being friends and we had great conversations. Every morning at school, he would come up to me at my locker and ask if he could help me with my books. He was so sweet. So then he asked me to a dance and we danced and had fun (didn’t kiss or anything). But we both wanted to wait a bit before he asked me out. So a week later he asked me out, and now we have been going out for about 3 weeks. He’s the sweetest boy I’ve ever dated. (I have dated 4 guys.) He tells me that I look nice, we have great, intelligent conversations, I tell him that his cologne smells absolutely wonderful :P , we laugh and joke, we flirt, we sit together at lunch, and have guitar class together(which is awesome! :) , and we’ve kissed once.(and he flirted around and said, “Man, we should do that more often!”) But we’re also so open and honest in our conversations and chatting-and this is definitely something EVERY relationship needs- an open and honest line of communication. Even though it’s only been three weeks that we’ve been dating, he’s different, I know that he’s not ONLY in it for the physical aspects. Sure, of course physical attraction is part of the total attraction, but it should never be the only thing a guy-or girl- looks for in a relationship.
At then end of the day, I think that every teenager thinks about sex, but it’s your choice on how you want to portray or what you want to do concerning those thoughts. Talk about it with your boyfriend/girlfriend, but respect their feelings about it, don’t rush…take it slow and work towards a real loving relationship with that person. Have fun and love deeply. Also, (I personally think that this is a great thing to do and I did this with my current boyfriend): Ask your boyfriend/girlfriend what they want in a relationship, and if you feel like you aren’t ready for what they want, don’t be pushed into it. Take a moment to Stop and Think.

Sunny :) <3

December 12, 2011 at 1:02 am
(209) Lexi says:

Im 13 allmost 14 and deapretly needs a BOYFRIEND~
theres this one boy at my school thats hot and i really want 2 date, how can i get his attention. wat kind of things would be nessery 2 get his attention.
wat would get a 13 year old boys attention.

December 12, 2011 at 1:06 am
(210) lexi says:

im not 2 sure why but im very interested in sex.
ik im young the age of 13 allmost 14 but i cant help it.
im interested in havening that sex conection with a boy, being loved in a way knowing im being loved and safe.
i dont understand why i need it so soon.
any tips?

December 13, 2011 at 7:28 pm
(211) Alex says:

me and my ex girlfriend are friends and we talk every so often and she just got a boyfriend and I’m jelous and i want her back for her not for sex. i mean if she came on to me i would, but I dont like her because she “has a nice ass.” In fact there is this girl who has a amazing body and likes me but I don’t want to date her because of the reason I don’y like her

December 15, 2011 at 10:17 pm
(212) Zach says:

I dont like my grl for sex. I like (love) her because she cares bout me, she likes me back, she’s not one of those grlz that date me for popularity and much much more. She’s just such a great person. I liked her since 2nd grade and now were in 5th. Idc if u ppl say that “im to young to date” yo f*** that s***! idc how old i am i can like a grl if want to or not.

December 16, 2011 at 9:54 pm
(213) ChloeGirl says:

im a teenage girl, and i think its kind of weird that this question is based at just guys…
I find with my guy partners i am more ready to have sex then they are, they want to ‘get to know’ me better and wait.. thing is if i love a guy i want to have sex, and if their is a reason that they dont want to, wether it be medical, personal or emotional, i honestly dont want to wait long enough to find out it wont happen. Sex is important, and i dont want a guy who can’t give to me what i want sexually, clear as day..
and before you say anything, i am not a slut, i’ve had sex with two guys, one being my boyfriend of 6 months, one being my friend of years, both were thought out and talked through…

December 17, 2011 at 2:30 pm
(214) Joshua K. says:

me n my girl, we get it on all the time, but i sill luv her 2 death. im not always aftr sex. she is just rly gud in bed. at first, i wasnt 4 sex, then we got 2 a point were we tuk the relationship farther. jesus christ, men dont always think of sex when there with there shawtys, yo. hey hey- call me up if u wanna get it on sumtime

December 21, 2011 at 9:47 am
(215) Bubble says:

Hay at my school I have this girl I like but I asked her out one afternoon and she said mabey but it has been like 4 months since that happened but if I ask every time I ask her out she always says no help

December 23, 2011 at 8:25 pm
(216) Tim says:

I’m a guy, I’m 16 my girlfriend is 14. I really love her, I’m a virgin and she is too. we have talked about sex and I know if I was going to have sex with her I would wait for her to be 16 and then for her to be ready. I don’t really mind the wait cause I don’t feel ready for that myself.
I’m in the relationship because I like her and we get on so well. girls saying guys only go into relationships for sex are wrong and would think that for choosing the wrong guys. maybe if you stopped thinking about which guy is “coolest” or “best looking” and you actually take a look at personality then you might end up in a better relationship that does not demand sex.
id say I’m a lucky guy for being with a girl who really likes me for me and one that took the time to get to know me instead of just judging me then moving on to a douche.

December 24, 2011 at 2:04 am
(217) Girl says:

I’m a freshman in a serious relationship with another freshman. I’ve been alone in dark movie theaters and parties with my boyfriend; in fact, I was on his bed with the door closed just the other day and all we did was talk. He even waited a month to kiss me. I’m quite over-developed for my age, too. Give them some credit. Even with all the opportunities in the world, some boys know how to respect a lady.

December 24, 2011 at 4:34 am
(218) Perspicuousme says:

I’m a 17 year old healthy teenage male, I may be wrong, But I seem to have stumbled upon a pattern that preposes a understanding of the stereotyping of males.Firstly, Would It be accurate to hypothesize that most women prefer men to initiate conversation/flirting? Personally, putting gender aside, I find it takes much more effort to confess first rather than responding afterwards. If I can go by that, It might also be fair to say that the “minority” of males that ARE despicable tend to be more aggressive or outgoing in their approach at dating. The men that are more interested in the women as unique individuals rather than just their sexual appeal end up waiting to get to know their partner better so that they can actually make decision. Naturally, would it not be reasonable to presume from the previous order of things that it makes sense that the FIRST male to act is the prick? Now… this is not always the path the situation leads. BUT, if I were to persist down this road of classic scenarios, I could predict the next scene in the sequence is where the ‘prick’ would end up having an affair and ‘discarding’ their relationship at some point in the future. The agony inflicted from that experience would with NO doubt leave a few scars or possibly a lasting impression. At this point, it makes more sense that the given stereotype of guys is that they can be/or are whore-sluts. (for lack of a better word)Because during all of this the guys that do care and can empathize wish you happiness and success with your relationship rather than becoming jealous. For all he knows its requited love, though the tragedy is that if he was the better choice he did that girl a disservice. In the end, the fact of the matter is if you both truly “LOVE” and have great affection for each other nothing else should matter.
Its a bit humorous because they want you to be Genuinely honest, trusting, and open with them, so they can empathize, love, care, and support you.

December 25, 2011 at 1:16 am
(219) Taylor says:

Look I’m a guy. I know how it feels when you’re in a real relationship! I love my girlfriend more than anything in the world!! I’m only 14 and we have been dating for a year. Guys don’t go straight into a relationship trying to be sexual! Go for a girl you really like!! Start dating her and loving her!!! Don’t go straight in looking for sex. You may get what you want but the relationship never works out! Like I said Ive been dating my girl for a year and we have just started experimenting with new things. And make sure a girl is comfortable about sexual activity. Don’t just assume. She has to be ready as well.

December 28, 2011 at 12:39 am
(220) Skyler says:

Im a 12 year old girl and I have been in 3 different relationships. My ex boyfriend and I were together for 7 months-(on n off). Just not too long ago I started to like him again n he knew about it. I was in the car the one night when I get txt from him saying tht he would make me a deal. Not thinking bout how things hav been with guys before this, I asked wat the deal was. He came back with the most upsetting thing tht has ever been asked of me, he asked “I will go out with u again if u send me a picture of ur boobs n vagina naked,”. Now u can’t tell me tht he doesn’t think about sex all the time. N believe me, I am not the prettiest girl in school or pretty in general. All guys want from me is pictures of my boobs n to feel them! Needless to say, I haven’t talked to him ever since then. He acts like nothing ever happened too! Unfortunately for him, everyone in school knows how dirty he his…but all the guys sit back n laugh. Are there good guys out in this world? I’m rlly worried tht I’m just gonna b single my whole life if this is the way guys r always going to treat me. Is there hope? Or is this just a phase for horny little teenage boys? Oh! N btw, I didn’t give him any pictures but I did give him a taste of fear!

December 28, 2011 at 3:08 pm
(221) melissa says:

hi a 8th grade boy out here

December 30, 2011 at 3:45 am
(222) Gager12 says:

Hey I’m 16 and what I want from a girl as my gf is a real relationship ex: talking all night. Hanging out. And just to get to know my gf better than I ready do.

January 16, 2012 at 10:13 pm
(223) hopeless romantic @ 15 says:

as a 15 year old boy with a girl in his sights… if i could be with her ALL I WOULD DO IS HOLD HER TIGHT. Sex is something to enter into together knowing the possible consequences and only if the benefits outweigh them, and only if they both love each-other. And guys are not the only ones who try to initiate the sex. Allot of the time the girl does it. That’s all i have to say.

January 16, 2012 at 10:16 pm
(224) hopeless romantic @ 15 says:

Also… any advice on how to ask out a girl that you are “friends” With but not close? Any girls opinions would be great.

January 24, 2012 at 10:08 am
(225) NIPUN says:

Hey rnds I m here bcz my grlfrnd asked me that why i want to his boy friend so i searched here as always for every answer and i found it and disagree that boy only want o in relation ship bcz they want sex but i agree ‘BOB’, ‘LIANA’, etc who wan to be frnd bcz they love each other

January 29, 2012 at 8:55 pm
(226) Kayteee95 says:

I am a girl of the age 16 nearly 17, i have dated a few boys, Some where just testers to see if they are any diffrent to each other (witch they are not all alike), every boy has there own personality, From the boys i have dated there not all in for the sex, for exsaple.. My sister is not the best looking, and she has had many good looking guys date her she is 18 and still a Virgin, The majority of boys, “young boys” do want sex, but it also depends on what boys/men you aim for.

February 11, 2012 at 6:17 pm
(227) Ashley says:

Well. I am 18 and my boyfriend is 26. We always talk about sex. It actually really depends on the two person, and it is true that you need more than just love but also to make love. Im more into older guys. And i admit sex is what brings my boyfriend and i together. We did it and we are happy that we did. So it actually is on the two person not just the guy. Having sex is fun too.

February 14, 2012 at 8:05 am
(228) Eric says:

My girlfriend Has been dreaming about having sex with me since a little while after we first met. We would have already but there ha always been some sort of cock block

February 19, 2012 at 7:49 pm
(229) Da-rizzle says:

Do you idiots even realize the only point of a relationship is for reproduction, our species wouldn’t survive if sex wasn’t the dominant cause behind attraction. If you’re teenage you may think you’re only in it for the other person, but subconsciously, and truthfully, sex is the only reason. GET WITH IT AMERICA!!!

February 24, 2012 at 9:38 am
(230) Jaee says:

When guys get into a relationship , sex isn’t the first thing they look for.
first they like the girl , then they still ARE humans so hormones still are a factor. In my relationship my boyfriend ACTUALLY came out to me and told me. Sex Isn’t why we are together , it’s because he Loves me , I’m beautiful , and he want to get to make this a longterm relationship.He said he will wait until I’M Ready and that sex is just the Icing on the cake. and it’s not just guys who think about sex girls too.

February 25, 2012 at 12:43 pm
(231) vijay says:

girls …… find a true love ……..u’l realize that in love nothing matters

March 3, 2012 at 5:22 pm
(232) qin ak7 says:

ya i extremely agree b/c like all of the boys i went out with were jst b/c they loved me and especially the relationship i am in now nt for sex i mean some boys who are jerks are like tht.!!

March 4, 2012 at 2:41 pm
(233) Madikinz says:

Listen everyone thinks about sex, that’s just life but I don’t think all guys are sex crazed because me and my bf haveing been going out for almost 3 months and he told me straight I’m not ready for stuff like that till late highschool and I agreed with him. ( were both 14 btw)

March 5, 2012 at 9:07 pm
(234) Rose says:

Well I just met this boy(16) and he lives in my neighborhood. I am turning 16 in April. A few days ago we started to talk and i finally told him i liked him. I told him I am shy and I usually don’t tell boys I liked them. He said I was cute and I blushed then as we talked sex came up. He said that he has had sex one time, but then he told me that he wouldn’t force me to do anything including sex.I was relieved, he then said I shouldn’t be scared to be in a relationship with him. But I have to admit that I think about sex. I think it’s very normal for any teen to think about it.Although I’m not trying to sound perverted. We still talk about it, but we dont plan on doing such yet. ~~~®€d®o<3~~~™

March 7, 2012 at 11:22 pm
(235) Zac says:

LIES!! You people think sex crosses every boys mind whenever they see a girl? You girls are on crack if thats how the world works. I have been in a relationship with a girl for almost two years and it never crosses my mind.

March 21, 2012 at 8:21 pm
(236) Natara says:

Yea lots of boys like sex but I dont think nun of them only go for a girl who gives it up other none as a hoe but what girls have to remember is NO boy is gonna turn down his gf sex…

March 23, 2012 at 7:42 pm
(237) sam says:

k, well i am a 15 year old boy, I started dating this girl, and she is so beautiful… but i just had an ugly feeling when we started dating. I didn’t feel right.. but I really like her alot. I broke up with her, but we’re starting to talk again, she said she’ll give me another chance, and I told her whenever i’m ready.

March 26, 2012 at 12:57 am
(238) Blondie says:

Hello, my names maddy.
I started to date my bf in my freshmen year in febuary, my first bf ever I’ve always been through a hard life and I was living at my grandparents because my dad kicked me out and disowned me when he was drunk. Im not a bad kid I work hard to make my self a good person and become a great artist. Anywho, around the 6th month we had sex and it was mostly for him and few times after but, I love him , I’m pretty sure it’s not like a crush it’s , I see a future with this boy , he has no one , his parents died and he was in foster care, he honestly loves me and he is here for me with my own family problems, my dad (who I live with) dosent understand and gets mad at me for being around him and honestly I’m confused if I should have sex or not because I know we won’t end but I’m terrified of the possible consequences, I have goals, not wishes. We have been together for a year and a month, he honestly can’t control his urges and gets upset with himself which I love him but =.=’ I think it’s kinda pathetic and sometimes on my opinion you can get a guy like him who just loves you do much he cant control his hormones and he honestly just dosent know what to do with himself ya know. Btw I’m 15 he just turned 17.

March 26, 2012 at 1:06 am
(239) Blondie says:

Hello, my names maddy.
I started to date my bf in my freshmen year in febuary, my first bf ever I’ve always been through a hard life and I was living at my grandparents beca

use my dad kicked me out and disowned me when he was drunk. Im not a bad kid I work hard to make my self a good person and become a great artist. Anywho, around the 6th month we had sex and it was mostly for him and few times after but, I love him , I’m pretty sure it’s not like a crush it’s , I see a future with this boy , he has no one , his parents died and he was in foster care, he honestly loves me and he is here for me with my own family problems, my dad (who I live with) dosent understand and gets mad at me for being around him and honestly I’m confused if I should have sex or not because I know we won’t end but I’m terrified of the possible consequences, I have goals, not wishes. We have been together for a year and a month, he honestly can’t control his urges and gets upset with himself which I love him but =.=’ I think it’s kinda pathetic and sometimes on my opinion you can get a guy like him who just loves you do much he cant control his hormones and he honestly just dosent know what to do with himself ya know. Btw I’m 15 he just turned 17.

April 10, 2012 at 4:18 pm
(240) Pretty says:

Hey guyz
i have dated 3 guyz already it al start nice with no sex talks involved but as soon as we get to know each other he then start preasurising me about sex of which i made myself clear in the fist place that im not ready

he do not say it straight he just make silly accusations that why i have decided to be single.i know im good looking but that does not mean i can just throw myself to someone i also need love ,true reflection of love anyway im eighteen years old now.

April 19, 2012 at 10:25 pm
(241) Jo says:

I love my Gf and I didn’t know she was into sex until I met we. I l go into a relationship so I can share my feelings with not just screw. And to all you teenage girls reading this : not all guys are horn dogs: we aren’t and we all aren’t dicks but your turning us Into them by stereotyping us

April 29, 2012 at 9:28 pm
(242) Jeff says:


May 6, 2012 at 9:42 pm
(243) jessica says:

Every guy that i have talked too always wanted sex. And then they say it straight up. They claim they don’t want an easy girl but when she doesn’t want to have sex he is ready to leave. I dont understand

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July 18, 2012 at 4:07 am
(246) Crazedbout*it*?...nah says:

I personally think that I should wait to really get to know a person before sex. And for all those people who say tht u hav 2 wait to get married for sex cuz that’s what god said.. Who are u to tell people when. They can either make an special bond with a person early or not ( but maybe thts cuz I’m not religious)

July 24, 2012 at 5:16 pm
(247) jus read says:

hey am 13 (A lil yung fr u to consider but read) i am a mature girl nd dat hs always helpd me coz i date oldr guys my ex was trnin 15 nd he wuld start sayin i wanna try sex 1 day mayb wit u lol.. as a joke bt i dnt take dis i told him listen ur free to dump me nw coz il nva hv sex wit u so dnt waste ur tym den he says oh no i ws jkin babe but i knw he wsnt i knw he’d lyk dat buthe hs nva tried coz he respects me nd though he wants he cn controll cz he luvs me (i hope) so sex is in all boys minds but sm at a higher level dan othrs dat it drives dem into dating fr sex bt nt all guys r same

July 28, 2012 at 10:57 pm
(248) Madalynn says:

Hey I totally love how there’s so many amazing guys out there but I have dated an amazing guy but we broke up and I have know idea y? And all the guys at my school basically only talk about sex so I assume that’s what they think too? Am I wrong? The reason I know this is I’m in a class with only boys and they seem to forget in there and talk about there sex live… Maybe it’s just my school and the age group with 15 year old boys and girls yes both seem to be very sexual just guys seem more open with it.

July 31, 2012 at 6:34 pm
(249) bre says:

ok i have had boyfriends who actually care about me and would like sex but dont need it…ive had boyfriends who only want sex too…..but wat turns me off most is wen the ONLY thing they talk about is having sex with me

August 16, 2012 at 10:08 am
(250) teenage girl!!! says:

i am a 16 year old girl, sex is obvs on guys minds, but most of them are in the relationship because they like the girl!! idiots, and oh girls want sex justttt as muchh as guys do, FACT!! and im not a whore ive been with my boyfriend over a year!

August 23, 2012 at 4:47 am
(251) lala says:

u know!sometimes u feel u should do it!but its not right!u should wait for the golden moment…u have to control boys and show them how to behave with these things!!u should use ur brain!!!!!!!

November 1, 2012 at 6:39 pm
(252) parker says:

Everyone who believes guys only think about sex are stupid im a guy i have a girlfriend that i love with all my heart and weve only talked about sex like twice in our 3 month relationship and when we do she brings it up and we decided that wed save it for marriage

November 7, 2012 at 2:52 am
(253) mbm says:

after marriage think about relationship and all of u be mature coz before marriage every relationship is fake so get married and have lovely life

November 13, 2012 at 4:38 pm
(254) jasmine says:

I used to have a boyfriend that just wanted sex.so I agree to the girls

November 23, 2012 at 6:47 pm
(255) Madi C says:

I am a 16 year old girl, I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years. My boyfriend of 2 years, says that he loves me, but says that if we are truly in love we will wait until marriage. He has proven to me that not all boys are sex crazed. And even if they are, they can control these feelings.

December 1, 2012 at 10:38 pm
(256) Stereotypesarelame says:

I’m 15 and I like this girl at my school, but i’m not thinking about having sex with her. I like her because of her personality, she’s funny and nice. Not all guys just want to have sex and if they do and they get in a relationship they might end up not wanting sex.

April 22, 2013 at 7:22 pm
(257) anonymous says:

I know this isn’t very long, but I have been dating my boyfriend for a month and 9 days, and it has been my best relationship yet, though I dont have many. He doesn’t even think about sex (which I think is his best factor because I don’t think of it either) and he’s just so romantic and loving… he makes me feel like I belong in this psychotic world we live in <3 I love you xoxo

May 16, 2013 at 7:37 am
(258) AllGood says:

I am not doing sex till she asks , most likely i reject -.- dunno why.I love my girl since me and her were in KG! kissing and hugging are my only presents for her :)

May 23, 2013 at 11:30 pm
(259) blue says:

I’m 16 and my bf is 17 and we have been dating for 6 months now and we already had sex 7 times, and now every time he comes over to my house or go to his we always have sex and one time I told him no and he left early then he use to and he does text me as much as he use to and he gets mad for know reason I don’t know what to do

June 8, 2013 at 6:01 am
(260) Nick says:

Hey guys,
I’m in a realtionship with with a beautiful girl, we are 13/14 but we dont think age matters. we have been seeing eachother for a while now, and i must admit, sex has never come across my mind at ALL and we wont be for a LOOOOONG time… we are in a secret relationship, but want to tell her parents :/. her parents are asian so it all comes down to wether or not they will like me (sorry if im being racist/stereotypical). we dont know how to talk to them and we have been leaving little hints in conversations with them. we are official in school and all but we just need to know how to talk to her parents… please help us in our time of need :D

June 19, 2013 at 11:01 am
(261) KarenK says:

Im 13 n my bf is 14.Let me tell u now that our relationship is online and is on the ps3,but it still matters to me.When I 1st started going on ps home,I met an AMAZING GUY named mike.After talking for about 5 hours straight,I really liked him.I was psyched when he asked me out,even though he was 16.I said yes btw.2 days ltr I met this other guy named Matt.After we started tlking he said he rlly liked me n tht I should brakeup with my bf n date him.I told him no but if and when me n my bf broke up i would let him know.At this point i was n a luv triangle.Then a few days ltr,I noticed tht my bf was on ps home n I thot it was weird he didnt send me a message so i went 2 him n he was A GIRL!!!!wen he saw me,he left.i followed him,n then he just turned his ps3 off.I told Matt right away tht i thot tht my bf was gay n then i told Matt i would b his gf unless it was mike lil sis or sum.so at this point,i was dating 2 guys.After 1 day of dating Matt,i tlked 2 “mike” n discovered tht it actually was his lil sis,n my bf was spending the week at his friends house.so,i told matt,n i said i was gonna break up with mike wen he got back on.Wen Mike got back,i told him tht my friend rlly wanted 2 b my bf.He said,”ok.lol.the relationship was online nyway it was fake,so just break up w/ me n we cn still b friends.I WAS SO FKING HAPPY ^_~ then a few days ltr matt told me we shldnt b bf n gf cuz he was 2 much trble.i was all like’how?’.he said cuz he was high n drunk at the same time(he is 14 btw).even tho i was rlly sad about it i told him tht it was ok cuz it was just online.

June 19, 2013 at 8:04 pm
(262) Sex is what I want says:

I sAy I am 14 and I want to. Have sexx. Boys and girls are A ok as Long as its not. That time of the month girls and hAve As much sexx as the want I know I want to

June 20, 2013 at 5:41 pm
(263) KarenK says:

Oops!!i forgot 2 finish my story.Nyway,then after i found tht out it was all good for about 2 or 3 days n then he told me tht he was smoking b4 going to jail for getting n a fight with some boys who him and his friends didnt like.it was him n his friends vs the ppl they didnt like btw.they killed someone,so thts y they r going 2 jail.then he said he was going 2 b n jail 4 19 days n tht he already had his court date yesterday n showed up high.thn he said tht he will miss me n think about me every day.i was like ill miss u 2.then i asked him wen he was going 2 jail n he said idk.i changed my status 2 sad n then he asked me y i was sad n i said cuz he was going 2 jail n tht i wasnt gonna c him 4 a long time.he said tht they didnt say he had 2 go 2 jail.i was like wtf?? but i was happy.then he said “my ****** is big n wants u” n “i want ur v”.then i was like “do u mean wat i think u mean?”.he said “yea”.i said “well,im not like tht n we r 2 yung nyway”.thn he was like “i was just jking”.idk if he was or not.later tht day he said “i want u”.i said “wat do u mean?”.he said “i want to have sex”.i told him “ohh….im only 13 n im not like tht”.then he said “i still want u”.i said “well we 2 yung nyway”.then he said “wen we older”.i said “ok,if we r married”,cuz wat r the chances of us getting married nyway??then he said “no”.i was all like “wat u mean no”.he said “no sex”.then i said “if we get married wen we older”.he said “oh”.im like “yea,cuz according 2 wat i believe u hve 2 b married”.he said “ok”.

June 21, 2013 at 2:07 am
(264) Pandapillow says:

Honestly… I think it depends on the girl sometimes too, if they put themselves out there all the horny guys want her because she is easy. Pervs go for easy targets and nice guys go for nice girls. If its not tru to u its tru at my school

July 10, 2013 at 8:49 pm
(265) James says:

I’m am a teenage boy and sex is rarely on my mind with my girlfriend. I like her to be with her for her notjust sex. Sex is a bonus

August 7, 2013 at 6:57 am
(266) KC says:

I think the guys leaving their comments on here are really sweet, and also truthful.

I don’t think sex is always on a boy’s mind, just like I think it’s stupid to say that girls never think about it. I’m 15, a girl and I’ve never had a boyfriend, and even though my stupid hormones are making me as little horny, I’m not going to have sex with the next guy I see. I believe you should definitely wait until you are in a loving and committed relationship, but that’s just my opinion, and I believe most guys would probably think that too.

August 13, 2013 at 7:02 pm
(267) Laci J says:

I think some of the reasons that girls think guys are always wanting sex is because we don’t always try to find a guy who just wants us for our personality.

October 27, 2013 at 2:07 pm
(268) Just me:) says:

I am a 15 year old girl and I don’t want sex at all. I want a nice relationship eventualy. I’m not ready for a relationship now because I know it probably wouldn’t last. I am just wondering if guys in like 10th and 11th grade just want a nice relationship. No sex. If they want a lasting relationship. If when they think about their special girl they just want to have sex. Or if they want to make her feel special. Just love each other without sex.

November 1, 2013 at 1:07 pm
(269) James says:

I’m 13 year old boy and most of the time I hear boys at school saying that they want ass and stuff like that but not me one day I just want a girlfriend that will love me for my personality and for who I am and if ever do get a girlfriend I would want to take it slow and just and do and go every where with her and I would just like to be in love and i would just like to wake up one morning and she would right next to me.

But thats just me every body else just wants just the ass but not me.
That’s my story and my name James .T

November 24, 2013 at 10:31 am
(270) Osbourne says:

I’m a 15 year old boy from Malawi Africa . From my experience I see that most times we boys are the ones who talks about sex when we are with an opposite sex (a girl) But what I feel is that being in a relationship with a girl doesn’t mean you have to talk or be having sex no.

Its every common with most boys I can say_.

December 20, 2013 at 9:34 am
(271) Marco says:

My dear, romance and sex ARE NOT contradictory. Sex may be wonderful with romance. So why everytime giving sex a negative meaning?
It is a wonderful part of our lives, if made consciencefully.
We ought to teach adolescents (both males and females) that nothing is better than starting relationships at that age (around 16 yo) as to explore each other personalities, and try to understand the OTHER.

December 26, 2013 at 2:40 pm
(272) Pg13 says:

Boys don’t just think about sex certainly some do but not majority. What attracts us is the girls beauty, yes. But we don’t think about having sex right away. You want to know the girl somewhat see how they are as a person. If they are not good and they act like monsters then why would we want to go with them. We still want someone we can talk a relate to, is sex on the mind yes but because you are attracted to them. It does not happen unless you want it to though. Even though it’s on the mind you do not come together unless you both decide to and when that happens it is a choice of care.

January 12, 2014 at 1:28 am
(273) Mercymoo says:

Yes and no…a lot are like that and just go from girl to girl…these are what we call “man whores”..they are easily pointed out.. Others can be more quiet about it though. There’s very few good guys out there. The right kind of guys will love and care about you for who you are.. I’m 15 and I have 3 brothers and all my friends are guys.. All of them just want one thing.. But then I met a couple who could care less about that stuff. My boyfriend right now happens to be one of thud few guys who dormant care about that. Stereotyping is wrong..but still keep an eye out because there is some truth behind “all guys just want one thing”

February 2, 2014 at 10:36 pm
(274) Maryjane says:

My boyfriend and I’ve been dating for the longest. Before I thought he’s just like any other boy but he’s always the one trying to keep this relationship from falling apart. At first he seemed to want sex and be curious. But before that little phase he went after me for 4 months and finally I went out with him. After that he has always been there for me. He always wants to be around me at times I even feel suffocated by him. He has no problem babying me infront of his friends as well. He shows me off to his family, begs to.be around mine. I think it takes that one girl to really make a boys heart melt and change him for the better. It all depends on how the girl deserves to be treated. My boyfriend has been clingy with me since he was 15 and now he’s 17. He talks about marrying all the time. I know now that not all guys are the same.

March 11, 2014 at 11:09 am
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March 23, 2014 at 12:10 am
(276) annie says:

Im 14 and I dont plan on doing anything sexual for anothe couple of years, however MOST of the guys at my school only talk about the sex part of the relationship. I want to be with a guy that I like and be liked back without having to worry about sex. Please dont judge

April 19, 2014 at 4:28 am
(277) oliver says:

Well i don’t think sex for good guys is a big deal or for my self, i have waited and been offered sex but like always i have said no, just because i rather wait and lose it with someone i trust, me and my girlfriend live about 6 hours from each other and by this we really got to know each other and not like or love each other for our looks for whatever could be effected by sight but we really gotten to know our self for our personality and fall in love from there. Yes sex is a topic that has come up a bit but we both want it later, there is not point rushing into it and when we do decide we are ready, it wont be just going for it, it will be a romantic day with a lovely dinner at a restaurant and when it happens it’s not going to be like “oh yea finally get to do it!” but more of a way for us to bond and get to be closer to each other. Oliver & Josie

April 30, 2014 at 4:02 am
(278) Mind your own Business says:

Im 16 i have a girlfriend for some reason she kept on saying lets have sex so i refused she brocked up with me. if your thirteen focus on your school and your family to young .

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