barkingdog69 in the dating forum wants to know, "I am currently not working, but am in between jobs, and looking. I've been wanting to do the online dating thing for some time now. I believe that to be the best vehicle for finding someone, but I don't think any woman would be interested in a guy without a job. So I have been holding out till I can secure a job. This is tough though because I am lonely and tired of not being in a relationship. Should I post the ad anyway taking the slim chance that there is a lady that would respond, or should I continue to hold out until I am employed (whenever that may be)?"
So readers, what do you think? I've added my two cents already. (see: Should I Date When I Don't Have a Job?) Would you try to meet someone if you didn't have a job, or would you date someone who was jobless? For those who have been in this position (single and without employment) what did you do?
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Unfortunately being unemployed might keep those would be dates at bay. I would just not mention it until you have at least secured a date. At least once your on a date you can been seen as a whole package, not just your job title.
As a person who has dated an unemployed lady, I understand foremost the importance of said title. If you spend too much of your hard earned money too quickly, this will only hinder her leading to procrastination. On the other hand, a man (without a job) dating a woman can be difficult due to the gentleman leisures of picking up the tab. Just my advice, you’re wasting the little money you do have. Buy some gasoline instead, and fill out as many applications as possible.
I am in the same position.
I handle it by focusin on free entertainment like concerts at parks or open-mike nights. That is while I’m looking and the 1st 3 months of a job.
I have been unemployed and employed during my dating life. Yes, while I am female it does not hinder things too much. The funny thing is how people that do not know you, judge you for being unemployed. It is not as if the job I am looking for is open and ready for me the minute I find I need it. Searching for the right job takes time. With that said, I think you should date to keep your sanity. Keep your first dates to just coffee or something quick and easy. I also would not tell a date right at the start you are looking for a job. When they do find out, expect some to judge you. On the positive, it helps to weed out those that judge you because you are looking for a job. Good luck in your search for both!!
Frankly, what I’ve learned is that it doesn’t just take havening a job or a lot of money or amazing looks to attract and keep a woman. Barkingdog69, trust me you don’t just need a JOB. lol
Well, I’m a guy in the same position, not working for a while for other reasons. Honestly, I just don’t date because it seems too much is expected of us nowadays. Not only that, even a cup of the coffee is what 3 or 4 bucks. Don’t get me wrong, when I work I don’t mind paying for everything and everyone, but now I just have to cut back some even though I have a little bit of savings from working so hard, but this stuff is still expected so I just feel uncomfortable and just don’t bother. But I second the person who said you should do it to keep your sanity…good advice on that part. I need to do that. Another example is an old girlfriend of mine is now engaged to a “DOCTOR” which her mom made sure to tell me last time I visited, then she told me some weeks later. Just another example of what many people are focused on. Never expected this from her since I guess I respected her too much regardless. If that’s the kind of life someone wants, more power to everyone that does. I’m content with my life. I have no riches or fame, but I feel just fine. I know there’s a good woman out there, when I’m good and ready. So good luck to you too.
Women don’t care if you have a job or not, if you’re fun to be with.
I believe that when your in between jobs and your seriously looking for a job that it’s perfectly ok to go find dates. I think online dating is a great tool to find dates since bars are pretty useless in finding dates. I agree with the comments that say don’t say in your profile that you are in between jobs. Saying that in your profile I think could give mixed messages to women but instead wait until you start to talk to a lady and casually bring it up. I think most women will be very understanding and some you might meet might also be laid off thus you have an instant connection. There are a lot of people in this stupid economy that are in between jobs and so you are definitely not alone. If you have graduated college and beyond definitely put that on your profile. But again don’t bring up the in between jobs in your profile and don’t bring it up to soon in conversations.
Women also will say they don’t care if a man has a job or not but that is really not the truth. Women will say oh I don’t care if you have a job or not and then comes the time to ask them out and if you don’t have your ducks in a line like (i’m interviewing like crazy and busting my ass to get a job) then women will gladly go out with you. But if your just sitting around not really looking and don’t really care that you get a job they probably will decide not to go out with you. Also be careful when a women says she doesn’t care if you have a job or not because they do expect you the man to pay for dinner etc and if you can’t afford a coffee or dinner for a nice date your TOAST LOL
!!! Women want a man with a decent steady job and usually an educated guy.
This all has to do with your happiness. Do not let this sorry excuse for a society dictate when or how one should date…ever. Has anyone above mentioned….happiness? This has been talk similar to the style that one would buy a house! It’s insanity. If one has to ask the question “Is there any point in dating if you don’t have a job”, then you are clearly missing the point of dating. If you conform to others’ standards and stipulations and traditions, you fail at being you. Nobody knows what a woman wants–it’s like a maze with no exit. I recommend focusing on your happiness and hope you can bring that happiness to others.
as a teenage girl who has a boyfriend i think that boys are really looking for sex but secretly i think they are looking for a wonderful girlfriend that they want to/or have a lot of feelings for. Of course just like girls the looks have to be there but i think the sex stuff comes later i mean really later on in the relationship
The economy is horrible so it doesnt matter if u have a job or not.
it does’t matter,we should enjoy life!!!
im in between jobs too but i will try to meet someone:) i think u can try:D
This is a very good question. Thank you barkingdog69.
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Jeez guys, life isnt all about job titles and material goods. I dont believe in the whole wining and dining crap, but than again I know how to cook myself. If it takes more than a cup of coffee and a good conversation to win her heart, then maybe she isnt the right lady for you.
Having a stable income means really one thing in dating and that is consistently footing the bill during dating if you want to…..if you think it means more action or some other magical prize I would be open to hearing it. A title really doesn’t tell you much more than their availability.Keep it simple..its only dating.