Dating Younger Men

i’m 59 look and act 10 to 20 years younger. Listen to the age they grew up in in music/ other than that there is no difference as it is a person inside and not an age that determines oneself.

be extremely careful with the younger guys. i’m going to be 29 soon and in the last year i’ve started dating younger men. the youngest was 21 the second youngest was 23. i didn’t have a good realationship with either. it is true that women mature sooner than men. if you are like me and don’t feel as old as people think you should be, then a younger man seems ideal. in the long run, they just don’t cut it. they are still in a state of boyhood. maybe women like us, could pull it off if we were demi and 40 and our men where 25, but now is not the time!!!!!!! we need to have a good, mature, successfull man now and i believe that means, in the least, a man that is the same age as we are. maybe your situation is different. i’m never been married, i don’t have kids and i’m educated. i don’t even really think those things are even top….it’s priorities that really let u know who people are and i just don’t believe younger men have their priorities straight!!!!

I believe this is the exact sort of stereotypical, closed mindedness, that continues to keep a sort of taboo hanging over mine and my g/f’s 3yr relationship. I understand that this may be your limited experience but my g/f (13 yrs my senior) and I have been carrying on a wonderful relationship. One-sided, narrowly written, and loosely researched information like this will never aid in the banishing of stereotypes.

Hi Jarrod,

Thank you for your post. I recently started dating a guy 17 years younger than me. I am 43 and he is 26. When we met he had an idea I was older than him, but how much older was a surprise to him, as was his age to me. I do not look 43, I look more like 33. We have many common interests as well as great chemestry. Since being divorced, (4 years) I have dated younger men, but never expected one being 17 years younger would be the one that I consider actually lasting. He recently told his parents about me, something that I had been asking him to hold off on. They seem to understand and be ok with our relationship, which is a huge relief and allows us to nuture our relationship in a positive way. He is such a great guy, we have a wonderful relationship and shows me how much he cares for me all the time. I say, more women should date younger men and be open minded to how it can work…

Also, I have children ages 8 and 11. We are slowly introducing them to each other. He said he wants children someday and somehow I hope that can work out too.

Thank you Jarroid i am a bit releaved though i am not sure of this relationship because i found out myself that he is younger than me he does not know that i know and i am keen to ask him but i dont know how to approach him. im 30 and he is 26, we have been together for 6 months now he told me that he is 30 as well untill i saw the proof of residence when he accidentaly left in the car.

April, I so agree with you. Younger men suck! I was attracted to a 22 year old. I am 28. I thought he was mature, open-mind for his again worldly. This relationship, didn’t go anywhere And I’m glad. It was still getting to know stage.

This boy was not as mature as I thought he was, or control in his life as he seem. And not open-minded as I thought he was.

First red flag: He acted like an emo. “I am not happy, but I am little happy when I talk to you.

Second red flag: “I take medication for my depression ”

(When I was in my 21 I dealt with a man with Schizophrenia, so I am edgy when some one tells me they have depression problems)

Third red flag: “I am only happy when I am the leader of a group or alone”

(So in other words he likes to control people.) I am not woman easily control.

He says he likes strong women, he can;t even handle my strong opinions…

Crystal this doesnt sound like a young man, this could me any man. He sounds like he has a few issues he needs to work on but I dont think growing up was one of them.

….Fourth red flag: He seem to be like more than one person. His moods change to the extreme and it very hard to see where he stands.

Not very open-minded about other people’s opinion. We had different views on historical person. I had my views and he his. And I told him “We have to agree to disagree” No he had wanted you to agree with him, because he doesn’t like being wrong. I am sorry, it doesn’t work like that. I don’t want to be with someone who isn’t mature enough to handle other’s opinions. I don’t like it when people twist my words around and say things I didn’t say.

fifth red flag: Telling me “I no longer love my ex, but she still lives with me. I want her to go, but she doesn’t want to leave. And I feel sorry for her because she comes from a third world country, because her family lives in a small house.

I am not stupid. That is crap. The reason why he doesn’t want to do anything about it, because he likes having a house bunny. I don’t feel sorry for him or for her. And this speaks loads about his character. He isn’t the kind to take charge of his life, he wants to seem like a man, but in reality he is a wuss. And he is very stupid, if he let his ex control him.

I saw through his shit, called him on it, and now he thinks I am cold-hearted and don’t understand the situation and shouldn’t judge. And the situation is different. That is BS. I been down this road before and walk the blocks of life more times than him.

And when he can see through him he gets all mad.

Young men just don’t get it, they are so naive and so quick to jump because of their emotions. These boys are really sensitive. They haven’t toughen up. They could never handle a real woman has much as they want too. I am going to stick with older men. They have more character, and they live life with passion.

Crystal you have made very good points and real one some of your facts are what i am experiencing though yours sounds as if they are in extremes, as for me i realy don know how to quit because i love him but his moods are very insane today he is sweet all of a sudden i have to take his word as independent as i am, he is very selfish, immatured, Moody, unreasoning and too chidish sometimes

I have been dating a guy that is 6 yrs younger than me (31). We have been seeing each other since Nov. 07. Yes sometimes he does act like a boy but also acts like a man. He is stable & is going back to school. I have dated & married men my age & I feel that it doesn’t matter how old they are they can still be losers.

As long as two people connect, nobody should define a relationship by an individual’s age. I am 39, and I look and feel about 15 years younger than I am.
In my opinion, no matter what age – women will always be more mature than men. However, the age of the men we choose to date is a matter of preference.

My last two boyfriends and my current boyfriend have all been about 5 years younger than me. I guess the main problem is different priorities in life. You may be ready to settle down and have kids, but he feels too young for that. You may be considering investing in property, time in your career etc and he isn’t in that headspace.
But as always- it’s what works for the two of you. Also- don’t always go on about how much younger they are- if they don’t care, they don’t want to hear it and if they do care, they will be off anyway

If I was you be careful as I have being out with younger guys, at the time it is great as it makes you look and feel young at heart.

But I guess the main problem is different priorities in life, you might want to settle down where he still want to spend, spend, spend, as he feels too young for to settle down.

I (45) have been dating a guy (36) since 2006 and it has been great. I don’t look my age -15 yrs and he has never dated younger than himself.I say go for it and enjoy every moment it brings you; I know I do!!!!!! If you know what I mean..

get a man your age if not a little older, a younger one will only make u miserable and some luck of maturity can irritate you.

young or old what matters is how you are treated and if you are happy!

I say go for it! I am a 31 yr. old who has been involved with a 24 yr old for 8 months now and for the most part it has been wonderful. He is a hardworking, very kind individual who happens to be more mature than I am in so many ways. We have disagreements but they are more so due to gender differences than age. We are total opposites and totally crazy about each other. Wishing you the best!

you go honey enjoy raise him the way you want him the younger the better

I(40) am actually like a man(35)very much and beliece he has interest in me. But so troubled about the age difference. I hesitate to talk to him. If I don’t feel enough confidence and “yong” inside to be with him, the relationship will not last long even we may have it.

With this thought, I do not know what to do.

My mother was older than my father and they remained married until she died. Dating younger men comes with the same problems as dating men of any age.

I am 27 and dating a 22 year old. I am a professional, a Director of my own Non-Profit program, and finished with graduate school. With that being said, after having my own house and car…theres nothing I need a man to do, other than love me and treat me right. However, on occasions, I am reminded of his age, not necessarily our age difference. But all in all, he means a lot to me…I am enjoying our building process.

Go for it… it’s been working for me for a year and 4 months. 17 year age difference (22/39)…some days it’s stressful, but isn’t anything? It’s all in the PERSON! This is the most loving and honest relationship I’ve had in my life!

I am with a 17 year younger man and we have been together for 16 months and things are really good. I’m a little scared of what’s to come though. I’ll just take it for what it is and be happy while every things wonderful.

Well, I hate to be crass, but honestly so young . . . I gather the real reason you are with him is not for who he is or could become — be honest, we all know what’s in it for you. So all I as is that you treat him well, do not abuse or use him. These are there formative years and they want to please whomever they are with. Why would I be concerned, because although it is not my son, it could be.

I often wonder when I meet men who are tarnish, on their guard and what could have happened to get them here, I think of women like you.

If you are a nice woman and have no intention but to treat him well, more power to you, but here in America, I seriously doubt it since it is a land of taking what you can get.

I don’t agree with the first part of your statement and nor do I agree that all people are pure ‘takers’. I also don’t agree that dating younger men is limited to just one thing….you obviously think older women care only about this…you are wrong….we need connection, chemistry, fun too.

I have just started seeing a 24 year old and I am 36. I am uncomfortable about it – hence reading up on websites like this! But he doesn’t care one little bit. I am leaning towards the view that age really is just a number – it’s the person and who they are that matters.

I do agree however, that younger men are more vulnerable and should be treated with more care than a man my own age. I fully intend to treat him in such a way that shows him how amazing it can be with a woman and hope that he then carries that on with the next girl he meets.

I just started dating a much younger man. I have never dated a man more than one year younger or 2 years older. I am 44 and he is 21. He pursued me and after much resistance from me, I finally gave in and went on a date. I thought he would see the light and move on after the first date. I didn’t think we would hit it off and I thought I had lost my mind for going. We did hit it off and went on a second date. What am I thinking shouldn’t I come to my seances. He is very good looking and so much so the young girls would be in dream land to go out with such a nice and good looking guy. He said he has always been attracted to older women. He has a very good career and his life all in order. Why do I feel like I’ve broken all the rules? I have not told any one about this, should I keep on dating him?

I did what u did oldie… Iam 43 and he was 23…he persued me…bedded me..dated me… then his friends put their 2 cents in and so did mine. He kept me a secret..blew me off..lied to me.. then after a few breakups.. came back…told me he loved me and wanted a committed relationship. Needless to say that was short lived becasue once another wman gave him a second look he was gone. We are broken up now.. although I am hurt I will not be used or anyones back up plan…so the next time he shows up he better come with a ring, introduce me to his family and alll his friends, he better have his act tougether, as I am notsure if I could put my foot in any other way. My advice is BE CAREFUL

I, too am dating a man 15 years younger than I and have read many of the comments on this site praising the joys of dating a younger man. In yours, I see the same pattern. He will not introduce me to his family or friends.He attends events wothout me. We have dated 6 months. Today he told me he was going to a wedding this weekend without me. Now I definitely get it and he is getting the boot. Very liberating to see it in writing.

I’m 36with 3kids n have been dating guy who’s 24..everything is sogreat between us despite the age difference…he’s affectionate n is so good to me in everyway …almost to good to b true is what we both Say. He’s in school n has a good job n hopes that maybe when he’s done with school in 3 years that we both can have a place of our own…He was introduced me to half of he’s family n he’s friends….There is one thing though I’m separated but still married n he said that things woukdonly get better when I finalize my divorce…I’m so into this guy…yea I can actually say that I love Him n has recently after dating For6months said that he loves me….he’s so mature forhis age n I look 25 not 36….I’m a Latin n his white…..could this really work out?…IDK but I’m goin.g with my heart n feelings n so is he

I have always dated men much older than myself. I’m 25 and I’ve always dated men at least 15 years older than me. None of those relationships have worked out though. So now, I’ve met a man that is 21, he’ll be 22 soon. It’s strange that he’s younger than me, but I’m trying not to let it bother me, because so far he has been so wonderful. Sweet, just a perfect gentleman, opening doors, being so respectful…I think I’m going to give it a try and just pay attention to how he treats me.

I think what matters is how he treats you and loves you. It is all in the person and how you both adjust to each other. Although sometimes there may be things that you can’t talk about because younger guys tend to be still immature, it’s up to you to find ways to get around it. Enjoy life!Don’t be restricted by the norms imposed by society ‘coz at the end of the day, it’s your own happiness that matters.

I AGREE WITH HER ,LOVE LIFE AND LIVE IT. I’M DATING A 24 YOUR OLD AND WE ARE JUST ENJOYING EACH OTHER AND WHAT EVER HAPPENS, HAPPENS! FALL BACK A LITTLE

Im dating a guy who is four years younger than me. I am 23 he is 19 and after dating older men this is the first time it feels right. I don’t think age is important at all, if its the right person . Just listen to your heart and enjoy what you have. To be honest I was sceptical to start with as well, even tho our age difference isn’t really that big. After a while I realised , that it was mainly me being concerned about what my friends and family would say. I soon got over that tho.

I was just having a discussion with my family about my current boyfriend. I am 21 and he is 19. Everything thus far, has been amazing, i never received such treatment from any man that i have ever dated. To me, age is a number, a simple number. Like many of you said, you were hesitant at first, as was I. My family especially, they do not like the fact that he is younger than me and encourages me that he is too young. I like to go out with my friends, sometimes to a bar and unfortunately he cannot accompany me. Anyway, enough with my rambling, the point is… don’t let the perceptions of society hold you back from experiencing something that could turn out to be amazing.

So…here I am at this crazy stage in my life where I find myself falling for a much younger man..I am 36 and he is 19…I know…what a difference! But you know what? He has been the most sweetest, loving, caring, respectful man I have ever dated. I have usually dated younger men(maybe up to 8 years younger)but never have I dated someone this much younger..But I like it…He keeps me feeling young and vibrant…I was pretty hesitant at first because in the back of my mind I would say “oh gosh what would people think about me!” But really…who cares what others say about it…if it is not age or race people who want to criticize will always find something to talk about anyway so what have I got to lose! I am trying to live my life to make ME happy..I look forward to seeing where this may progress to:) He is awesome and I have been waiting to feel like this for a very long time..I am not going to give it up for anyone:)

Hi, just wanted to let you know that I have been married for 4 years to a man 5 years younger than myself…this is not the first time I dated anyone younger than myself..I will say, I have a lot more fun with men younger than me than with an older man…Keep dating young…Age is but a number..I strongly recommend it to all women…Go for it!!!

There is this guy who is totally into me. The problem is… he is 16 and I am 22. He is the youngest child and all his siblings are much older (32 and 25) and he has only ever dated older women.
I think that maybe it could work later on, but right now… He is still finishing school (home school) and I am starting my professional career in 4 months. Ok, so much for what my mind tells me… my heart… he is great and he makes me feel like the most amazing person ever. We share priorities and principles and he is the cutest guy ever! I don’t know what to do.

I found it ok, Im 24 and my boyfriend has just turned 18. Ive been with him for just over 3 years, while he was still at school, and also to add to that I tower over him in hight, (im about 6′2, think he’s only 4′10?) and almost always in 6 inch heels.

But what won me over, was that he was always polite, he blushed and went all shy every time he was around me (still does) and my friends and treats me like a princess. My heart melted.

Even though he’s a midgit lol, younger and a really shy guy, akk my friends love him and are all close friends with him, and I wouldn’t change it for the world

Ok, so I read through all that was listed above. My problem, I’m 45 and he’s 24. Yikes! I’m recently divorced. He seeked me out and was so charming. We have dated twice and he constantly gets in touch with me and says he wants to see me more. The age difference bothers me a LOT!! But I have to say, he was so wonderful when we were together. If it weren’t for the age difference, I would definitely be with him. Is that too much of an age difference?

ok i have been married twice and once for eighteen years i am 43 have never been pregnant i met a 23 year old and we hit it off I got pregnant i was in shock he is now 25 and i still have trouble wondering about our age difference i used to be rich and live in so ca but now am in az and living in apt with an 8 month old it is great because i get along with him but am always on guard and never feel comfy wish i was with someone my own age i am very attractive but having someone this young makes me feel uncomfortable even tho he works 2 jobs now and trys everything to make me happy i am used to a better life and not worriying about younger women

well, i just turned 32 this month. i have been currently dating a 24 year old for the past year. we have been hitting it off pretty well. Now im divorced and have two children now preteens and cd never have any more children. He tells me he doesnt care and we can always adopt but it does worry me. He may feel that way now but someday that cd change. Also im a certified dental assitant and my guy never even finished college and doesnt have much a career. Finacially that can annoying. we are in two completley different levels but he does try hard to please me. In the end i do love him and he loves me and i never been treated ever so sweetly. So i hold on. Like they say u can always trained them to be how u want them to be. If that is even true. But i can admit it can be a struggle. but curiousiy is on my side hopefully it doesnt kill me in the end. haha. All in all I enjoy the moment and cherish what we have but i do stay guarded knowing someday something younger, better w a working oven may come along and snatch him away at any time. So i try to stay prepared. hope that helped a little

I am 61, looking 40 acting 30 at heart and dating a 22 year old and very mature young man from another country and, after 2 failed marriages many years ago to 2 men 10 years older than me, I am loving him and the entire scenario. He treats me better than either of my American husbands, respects my family and my wishes as I do his. This is an untraditional romance w/two untraditional people who feel the lightening as it strikes. I am of the age I do not care what others think – some love it and some do not – it is our lives and we will live it as we please. I am not living thru another era like the 50’s and 60’s with segregation and prejudice – not again – not for me.

Ok this kid doesn’t have mommy issues. He has grandmommy issues. LOL That’s gross!

OMG…I’m 42, feel like 25, look like 35. I was recently approached by a bold 21 year old, from my blind side and I’ve never saw it coming! I’m a professional, divorced mother, own my own home, and life has been maintainable! I absolutely find it flattering that I still attract such young men. I’ve had the family life and already all the children. I don’t need or want anything from this guy. But I absolutely do enjoy his “youthfulness”, I don’t know where this is going. But I’m enjoying every minute of it. I would just be careful not to get to emotionally involved, these young men still need to live a life, a life we older gals already lived. It’s just a matter of time before our physical appearance gives in! JUST enjoy it while it last!

Through my experience, I’ve enjoyed dating a younger man.
There is one thing about MATURITY.
One can be young and mature, one can mature by age and still immature.
There is nothing like mature experiences w/c comes with age. I look young, feel young, act young and don’t even second guess my age. I’m 37, he’s 25.
We have fun, he’s honest, hardworking and treats me w/ respect and appreciates me for who I am.
All that is important to me.
The downfall is….men are not going to ever be as emotionally mature and adept to women at any age. They will always be boys. The under 30 men still need to go through some rites of passage.
So my 2 cents..watch out about getting emotionally involved or attached.
Just have fun.
The trill of the chase for the boy/man can easily get him into a cold-feet stage even w/o pressure because we women are confident enough to be who we are at most any age above 28.

I am 44 and I am dating a 24 year old. My experience has been that he has his priorties straight. I will mention that he has 3 children by three different women but he’s taking care of his children and he just received his Masters in international business. He a world class travelor and is very caring. He is passionate about family and personal growth. I believe that age is just a number it all comes from inside. I’ve dated men older than my self by twelve years and find that in the end they are basically the same. Maturity has never been an issue with this guy. Actually when he falls into what I call the forbidden zone it free me up and i don’t feel so up tight..Although, i know that this is not a long term relationshp for he and I. I believe the age thing is workable in a relationship.

I’m 31 yrs old and I have mostly dated younger men, by about 5 yrs. I have found them to have emotional immaturity and overall not ready for commitment.

So, I told myself to quit dating younger guys and have a real relationship. I don’t ever go looking for younger men, but I very rarely meet older men.

Now, I just started dating a 21 yr old. I did not know he was this age as he acts and looks older. Upon finding out that he was 10 yrs younger, I was somewhat disappointed. We’ve been dating for just over a month.

I decided to just have fun and I have found him to be a great communicator when it comes to emotions/feelings. He has actually helped me to be more assertive with my own feelings, something I have not addressed until meeting him. He treats me like a queen, makes me laugh, is very intelligent, and literally fits my list I wrote up in what I wanted in a future partner. But…..

I have come to find out that he has some very deep rooted emotional/mental health issues that he has not fully addressed. He was open with me about having Bipolar, but there are other things as well. He is not in denial and wants to feel better about himself. I suggested that he make an appointment and get things sorted out, in which he called, at my request.

I have found myself in a situation where I care a lot for him, but then, if he cannot get help and get better, I just can’t be with him. So far he has had a few episodes that have made me uncomfortable because talking with him doesn’t really help. He just comes out of it, but I think he needs support.

Anyways, anyone out there been involved romantically with someone who has mental health issues?

Advice would be greatly appreciated.

I am 26 and have been dating a 20-year-old for about six months now. It’s the first time I have ever dated a younger man, and it has had its ups and downs, but overall, it has been a good experience. I was very hesitant at first about getting involved, but in the end, I realized it would be stupid to miss out on a potentially good thing just because I was worried about what people might think.

He’s very smart, and I can’t deny the physical attraction. Although I obviously have more education and am farther along in my career, we have similar interests in music, art and politics. I feel like I can teach him a lot, but he also teaches me, especially when it comes to music and technology. When we hang out one on one, it’s great. Socially, it’s a little awkward, because I’m not about to bring him out to any type of professional event, and he obviously can’t come if I go to the bar with my friends. And when I have to hang out with his friends, who are guys in their early 20s, but not necessarily as mature as him, I get bored and/or annoyed.

Still, I basically am secure enough in myself and where I am in my life and career that I don’t need a man to take care of me. I just want to be with someone who I like and have a good time with, and that is the case with him.

I don’t expect it to last forever, but it’s good for right now, and to other women who may find themselves attracted to a younger man and aren’t sure what to do, I would give the same advice my best friend gave to me (courtesy of Dan Savage): Observe campground rules, and leave him in better condition than you found him.

Yes! I’m 27 and dating a 21yo. He is the most purest of heart, kind and genuine guy I’ve ever met. After a few weeks I thought ‘this guy is the one!’.. which I’d never thought anout any guy before.
We’ve been dating for 4 months now, and his immaturity is starting to shine through. Just simple stuff that an older guy would automatically know, whereas he has no clue and that can be frustrating. Also when talking about my problems.. god love him he tries.. but his supportive comments lack the maturity required to help me.. he just doesn’t understand the situation.. which.. is pretty important to have in your partner.
I also have a professional career, and will soon own my own house. He is still living with parents, with a part-time job that doesnt pay much.
It’s hard to know whether it can work because they ALL are more immature than you in some respects.
And is it just me- or is it hard to.. advance in your own maturity? I feel like his immaurity rubs off on me when I’m around him, and that he looks like it’s a drainer sometimes when I’m being my mature self.. especially around my mature friends.. it’s hard to find a medium.

it is my first time to date a younger men, he is 18 and am 22, he is so matured and gentalmen more than anyother men, i mean older ones i ever dated, i feel so gud, he s gonna b at the college for two more years while i will be working, it makes him feel insecured, but we have been talking over and he seems to accept everything, we are having nine months now, he cout me an i feelt so damn special that day, go gal gt it… it so amazing!

I’m in my late 40’s dating a 22 yr man. He treats me better is more compassionate and thoughtful then any man I’ve ever been involved with. We don’t think this is forever but we do enjoy every day together. My children (older then he) like him and are glad to see me so happy. My friends accept him. Those who care about me don’t judge me, those who judge me? I don’t care about them. Go for it!

I gotta tell ya, I’ve always dated older men and now that I’m dating a younger one I realize why that has been. It wouldn’t be a problem at all aside from the fact that I have had kids for many many years (they are 15 and 7) and he is 24……
All of our fights have to do with my expectations of being a part of a family and his lack of understanding as to how to do that. I keep thinking that if I could just be patient and hold out ’till he’s 30 everything would be okay. Except he’ll want kids then and mine will be in college. Not worth it as far as I’m concerned. This has been a mess and I’ve now dragged my kids into it.

Hello everyone,

I’m 41 and dating a younger man that is only 21 years old. We actually moved in together and for the most part everything is going good. He is actually in the military and will be deploying to Iraq in Sept. He is looking to buy a home for us to move to before he leaves. I wanted a puppy and he got me two and says they will protect me while he’s away for his six month tour. I’m falling in love with him, but I keep asking myself, how realistic is this relationship???? I have sons close to his age and they all like eachother and get along great. So I say to those that are holding back from dating a younger man GO FOR IT… It will be an experience you will never ever forget….. Good Luck you all =)

I am 44 dating and having sex with a 25 year old man. I am divorced and have enjoyed the single life. People tell me I don’t look my age and young men approach me all the time. I am enjoying being with this young man. We both know that nothing serious will every come out of it we are just enjoying the time together and great sex.

Well Girls I am in big trouble. I have found my self seeing a man that is 23 I am 32. We stared out as just being friends and hanging out with a group of different people. Every time we would end up in our won little world just joking and having just an attraction that is undeniable between us!
I have been married and have a child. When him and I are together it seems like we don’t have a care in the world and the sex is amazing and the chemistry is unbelievable. Still i find myself knowing that we will never have a future, but don’t want to give him up! I am stuck between a rock and a hard place. I am so confused on what to do. We spoke last night and he told me he was falling for me and he has never dated someone my age or anyone with a child. He doesn’t want anyone to get hurt. I told him we just need to stop thinking so far in advance and just live it day by day to see what happens. DAMN am I wrong for not wanting to give him up, I live the way he makes me feel! He is just a wonderful person inside and out! Any advice?

I am a 58 year old women dating a very nice/smaart 36 year oid man until he found out I could not have chidldren. he is 46, never married and has never had chidren. My chidren are gone and I have not desire to have move ecven if i could. life wass good until he realised this. now we are over. I wish him well but really mniss his tuoches

Hello Linda, you say your 58? surely this guy you was dating must have known that children was not in the future, another thing i found confusing, you said he was 36 then you referred to him as 46 years, however putting that to one a side, he cant have really loved you as having no children is not a reason to end the relationship as there are other options such as adoption or fostering caring. Some thing about your article sounded so sad that i had to write you i hope your life has moved on in a more positive direction all the best from a stranger bye x

I have dated and now I am married to a man 20 years younger than my 48 years. I have been married to older, by 10, and dated my own age, but I love the vibrancy, energy, and fearlessness of the young. I see things brand new every day, and while we hit maturity snags once in awhile, I wouldn’t change anything. Life is full of risks, and someday you’ll sleep forever, it would be a shame if you looked back with regrets of maybe being with the love of your life. Go for it, step off the world and just be in love.

What matters is, are you happy? If thats so, NOTHING can stand in the way.

the problem is that ladies are most of time are restrict themselves. they are not broad minded’s just go and have a try may be you will get some one like me who is enough mature to understant all the feelings and need of woman. there are lot’s of peoples who are not narrow minded. let have a good luck for you lady if any kind of help i can do for you then call me 9711350568

im seeing a guy thats 20 years younger than me im 41 he 21 ,its great ,he gives me all the attion i need and i havent been happy like this in years,i dont feel bad about it at all i say go cougars!!!!!!!

I am also dating a younger guy, im a very young 40 yr old girl.yes girl lol always been treated younger so I tend to not want to grow up. younger men seem attracted to me all the time so I dont hold back. Being i look younger they dont know my age,this guy is 29.he does not know exactly but has taken a guess we have fallen for each other and i feel horrible for holding back on the age issue.Problem is when familys will one day meetup the age may come out and then he may run..not for the age but the lies..be truthful from the start? and lose someone you have a total connection with?If they truly love you they will stay on I Guess..whos the ones to judge or opinionate if two people are happy right? Sad

I am 25 yrs guy,I like older women to date and LTR

I am 45 and the guy I am with now is 28. We have a great time together.He is fun, he has responsibilities, 2 kids a job. I just want someone who wants to have fun and live life for what it has to offer. I am a single mom with a good job so why shouldnt we older women be able to do what older men have been doing for years.I will be honest I find younger men more exciting, most older men are set, especially in their ways where sex is concerned, most younger guys are open to new experiences and ways they are teachable..I love it as long as no one gets hurt where is the harm… Try it ladies you might just like it. We ladies in our mid thirties and fortys and fifties. we are the new 20s……

I will like someone like you for a partner.
If you aree realy interested in have real loved one.
Please reply me.
bye and lots of love.
Rawlings

I feel really weird about saying this… but nonetheless, I am going to.

I’m 18 (I know… rather young!) and have a 15 yr old guy pursuing me. We’ve really hit it off and he is very mature for his age.

It’s not like I’m planning on marrying this guy, but I still get rude comments from people saying it’s disgusting that i’m seeing someone so much younger than me.

He’s a freshman in high school. I’m a freshman in college. However, he is old enough to be a sophomore and I am young enough to be a senior (in h.s.) so I don’t really see what the big problem is!

We are NOT having sex and neither of us plan to until he is of age. (we’d actually prefer to wait until marriage, but you never know what’s gonna happen). I know that it’s not illegal for me to be dating him… unless we have sex, which we aren’t!

SOOOOOO…. my question is; I am wasting my time dating him?

I’m 18. I don’t want to settle down right now. But I don’t see any harm in dating someone younger than me…

There is none!
I dated a 15yo when I was 18 too! We were together for 18 months. As long as you’re having fun it shouldn’t matter.. it didn’t faze us despite the craddle-snatcher comments etc.. water off a ducks back!
The only thing that f*cked it up was that I was his first long term gf.. and after a while.. with all the other good looking girls his age around.. he ended up dumping me for another girl, then subsequently when that short lived fling ended he had a whole string of girls for a few years.
I’m not saying all guys are the same, but I got very invested into it and was crushed because he was young, and wanted to ‘play the field’ while he was young of age..
So my advice is have fun but be careful.. if you give your whole heart to him, depending on who he is, his age might inevitably end up leading him down the path of pursuing other women.
Hope this helps!

I recently started dating a guy that is 12 years younger than me and it has been FANTASTIC! He is amazing and well beyond his years. I truly enjoy his company and knows what’s going on with older women. I really don’t look at our age difference since we seem to be on the same page and work as much as one another. Amazing both physically and mentally and emotionally. Love it!

I’m 28 and i have always dated men my age or older then I, just recently i began dating a man who is 21. his back ground and life experience has made him mature very early in his life, and unlike some men my age he is ready to settle down and have children. in all honesty i’m the one who isn’t ready for that commintment. not all younger men are imature you just need to get to know the person before you start a relationship.

Well, I seem only to be able to meet men younger than I… When I was in my 20s, I met early 20s; in my 30s I met men in their 20s. I did have a 3 yr relationship w/ someone exactly my age, but it was exhausting (because of the person, not the age).

I agree w/ a few of the other comments that younger men are vibrant, fresh, and not weighted down by a lot of baggage. Also, yes, the mail problem is where one is in life. I am 39 and while I look and act much younger, I still would like to maybe have a family. I was dating someone in his early 20s, and while he was so mature I thought he was in his 30s, at the end of the day he wasn’t.

I say go for it. Younger men have a lot to offer, and they are more open and flexible. Just be relaxed about it and if it progresses a few years, then I would make some decisions so that you don’t end up in a 10 year relationship that goes no where. However, listen to what he says. If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, believe him.

I was married to a man from El Salvador who was 20 years younger for nine years, until he passed away. Because he had a tough life until just before he met me, people thought I was younger than him when we met. At the time because the internet was not that big, so he had some old fashioned ideas. I had been a feminist and changed after I decided feminism was just another form of controlling a woman, just as men had in the past. He was intelligent enough to know how to pull his weight in the house and at work. He was 23 and I was 43 when we met, and I refused to act like his mother. We had a business together. So it worked.

But when he passed away and I began dating again, I realized this type of wonderful relationship was in the past. Today, I wouldn’t date a man with that much age difference, because I would suspect they were seeking either just a sexual relationship, or money. I am seeing a man ten years younger though, and have been for eight months. I’m 54 now, and lost my husband two years ago, so this is all new again, since I have just gotten back to dating. What I found in the men my age is that they were bitter, had too much baggage, and seemed pessimistic about life. Many of them had surreal expectations in women that rivaled the Victorian Era. I found them boorish.

I don’t judge men as much by age as by attitude. When we met, my new boyfriend was seeing women in their late 30’s and early 40’s and he dropped them for me, knowing I was 54, because he liked the fact that I’m what he calls “arrogant,” which means I don’t take crap off of men and know I can meet men just walking down the street and do. The key is not age, but personalities. What does he offer you? Do you have similar appearances agewise? Is he independent? If so, then age doesn’t matter. If he needs help, then send him to the next victim. Mothering in relationships never works.

I have always dated older men (by 1-5 years). Now that I have just had my 2nd divorce (he was not mature enough to handle the responsibility of marriage even though he is 42)I am not interested in marriage anymore. I find myself having a “crush” on a man I can only assume to be about 10-12 years younger than me (1′m 39). He works at my apartment and I have just chatted with him in passing. He is always friendly and initiates our conversations. I know he can tell that I think he is just the cutest thing! (you know how we get around men we like). Not sure what to do with this. Any suggestions??

Well I dated a 15yrold about 1 1/2 ago for a few months he was so sweet, the cute names, i loved everything about him. During that time I was working and going to school and i got my 2nd job I was so busy and hated that i had to wait for him to get out of school to see him. In my my new job I met a guy who was 40yrs old started going out to lunch we clicked and felt like my time was being wasted dating a younger guy broke it off. I dated this man for about a 1 yr and had so many problems because he had kids and so many things going on in his life and expected so much from me then i dated a 21 yr old for 3 weeks who was a total dumb ass.NOW THOSE 2 GUYS WERE A WASTE OF MY VALUABLE TIME. the 15yr old is now 17 and i will be 22 pretty soon, we are talking again and i am hoping we can work things out again I dont care what people think or say its my happiness that counts and ofcourse his. Its ok to give ppl something to talk about since they are so miserable

I’m currently dating a man 18 yrs. younger than myself. He’s sexy and hot and we’ve known eachother as friends for three years. I don’t know where it will go, only that I’m having a great time right now! I look about 10 yrs younger, and he looks older, so perhaps people don’t think he’s my son, just a boy toy.

Wow! I’m not alone, I’m 36 years old,and I have been dating a guy age 25 on and off for over a year, now its more on that off. I’m scared too death that he will find someone younger, you know, men are easily distracted! I agree with most the post on here, I have to say that this is the most loving, caring and respectful relationship I’ve ever been in. He’s the best to me and I could never ask for anything any better. BUT he’s sooooo Gorgeous! Any girl would die for him, and well, he knows it! But oh he treats me like a queen ALL the time! Im really too emotional for the relationship, I have him on my mind constantly and if one little things seems out of order, I freak out! I keep thinking he don’t want me, or he is seeing someone else! Well, All I can say is this: If you are happy and being treated well, stay where you are, if you are arguing and having to deal with that sort of thing, get out, and that goes for any relationship no matter how young!

I would not recommend it. I am from the rockies too btw. I am mid thirties and look younger. I get hit on by younger men all the time. When I tell them my age, they are stunned for a moment and then back off. It is painful actually. But it makes sense, guys in their 20’s are available and looking for a mate. Or at least testing the waters and are enthusiastic about dating. They are fun to be with but I simply can’t take being dumped or treated less then b/c of my age. Very few men in their 20’s/ early 30’s can handle being with an older women no less have a committed, relationship with an older woman. Yes, the number of men my age that are available are slim but I still think it is better to wait and try and find someone who I can relate to. Life is not Hollywood and you can save yourself a world of hurt by being smart.

Very well explained. Thank you, this is exactly how I feel. Im 38 but look 28, however would never put myself in that situation. Its a risk…dating a younger man. Im talking about more than 5years difference.

I’m 21, and I’m thinking of dating a guy who’s “born a year after I was”, why that’s in quotes is because he’s 4 months younger (I’m born in the wintertime). I’m just not sure whether I should date him since I’ve always wanted a guy who’s older than me (ie so he can be more mature than I am and take care of me). In fact, my parents don’t want me to have a younger boyfriend. The thing is the guy is really attractive to me, he always sends me these cute sms, always compliments how cute I am, and the thing I really love is he’s really smart and has a bright future. I’m really happy when I see him, but the thought of me being younger just makes me worry…I’m afraid his friends or my friends will find us unmatched, since I’m older… What should I do?

I just turned 46 years old and have recently started dating a younger man (35). I’m physically fit and look about 10 years younger and everyone I meet practically wants to see my ID to verify my age.

I was married for 20 years and my husband was only 5 years older than me. I have never dated a man younger than myself. So far things are going good. He has one school daughter in a different state and no desire to have any additional children and I have teenage children. He owns his own home, is financially stable and has a great job.

He is very passionate and loves kissing on me from head to toe. We are compatible in every way and I have no trouble satisfying him or keeping up with him. We don’t argue at all and like many of the same things. He has a perfect body and has always been attracted to older women.

I have met some of his friends and have been accepted well by them. Several of them might have older wives and girl friends (but it’s hard to tell). In addition, he has met several of my friends and blended in well with them.

The issue I have is he just invited me to a picnic at his parent house for the 4th of July and I not sure what to do about that. I do know his parents are in about the same age bracket as my parents. I am terrified they might think I’m too old for him…… Please Help!!!

I’m an older woman and, unfortunately, am only attracted to younger men. The age difference in and off itself should not be a deterent if you’re interested in someone but there are some things to consider.

Are you self-confident and comfortable with yourself? If not, the situation can easily increase how critically you view yourself and lead to lower self-esteem and acceptance.

Are you a planner and very reliable? Then watch out again. Guys, especially in their early 20’s, may have a very difference sense of getting together than you do and think nothing of changing plans on short notice because their lives don’t require some of the logistical matters that a working woman with a home and possibly children would have to deal with.

All that having been said, younger guys (for all the immaturity) still have an energy and forward focus that can be very attractive and stimulating.

I am 49 & I have been dating a 25 year old for the last 8 months.We have lived together the last 4 months & everything is great, so great. I say go for it.

From my experience, I would say that even though you may be compatible, you are probably in different stages of life. So enjoy yourself but be careful. He probably won’t want to commit or settle down for a while and is still doing all that stuff that 20-somethings need to do. And you’ve already done it.

I think this is great. I had no idea there were so many women dating younger men. I’m 39 and just started dating a man who is 22. I’ve really been struggling with the age difference. I’ve almost always dated men younger than me but by only a few years. When the 22 year old started persuing me I thought of every excuse possible for me not to get involved. “He’s too young. People will look down on us. He’ll get over the attraction and be on to the next one quickly…etc…”. So far he’s been one of the most attentive and caring men I’ve ever dated. He listens to me and seems to be genuinely interested in me and what makes me happy. I’ll just have to see how it goes.

I am 37 dating a 20 year old. we just started dating and it has been great. The chemistry is amazing, as is the sex. We know we dont have a future together, but have committed ourselves to enjoying this while it lasts. I will never regret this relationship. It has added a lot of joy to my life and I will always cherish the memories we have and will make. I say enjoy the young men who are wise enough to love older women.

Hi Bonny,
I recently moved to Calgary because my younger bf (by 4 years and 4 months) is from here. We have been going out for 2 years this upcomming September. Dating a younger guy is very new to me because my last bf was actaully 5 years older than me. The werid thing is my much younger current guy is several years more mature!
Not everything is Sunshine and roses- I do have to deal with the disapproving reactions of people who voice their unwanted opinions…Its hurtful and I hate to admit it but I do lie about his age sometimes to advoid the akward responses I get. Recently I discovered his mother doesn’t like that I’m older and it all adds extra stress on a so-called “forbidden” relationship where the woman is older. After all- I guess the older woman in a mans life traditionally is his mother and only his mother.
Because I have been on my own for quite some time since leaving my own nest- I am quite mature when it comes to life experiences, finances, relationships and struggles.- This is something I was always prided in but since my new boyfriend came along I find myself regretting much of my past and maturity.
All in all- Me and my boyfriend love, trust and respect each other and I truely believe that is the core of any solid relationship. His friends are good with my age and I like his friends too- I focus on the good things and hope his mother’s mind will change and that other peoples opnions will diminish.
My advice is to have fun enjoy him and ignore rude responses- as best as you can.

I am 28 about to be 29 and I am dating a 20 year old and have been for about 4 months, at first I had it in mind that it would be just for fun, what could he possibly want with a single mother who was older? Well things quickly went fast and I am sooo happy with him. His career is jumping off now, he wants a family and has treated me better than anyone else I have ever been with. He is aware of the responsibilities he has taken on. I feel we are at the same stage in life, and our priorities are identical.

I met someone who just turned 20 and I am almost 26. It seems like all these posts that it shouldn’t matter if our hearts are in it and i am happy. However, I just don’t know if i can get over the age difference. I mean he can’t even get into bars yet and I am at the age where thats all my friends and I do. Any advise?

I am 33 and is seeing a guy 8 years younger than myself. He is extremely sweet and cute although a tad immature and insensible at times. Nevertheless, he is able to change and learn faster than my older guys and i will say, all in all, age is not critical unless u mind how pp see u

Wow, I never thought I’d find so many women dating younger guys. I am 32 and married to a 22 year old for about 3 years now. In my last relationship he was 10 years older than me. Truth is, what age is the RIGHT age to be married or to have a relationship with anyways? My 22 year old hubbie’s got a wonderful career, we just bought our first house and are still in love.

There are days when I feel a little more self contious, (this is not me at all) for example, when he compliments younger women or anything of that sort. I’m noticing that it bothers me. What’s strange is when I was married to the older guy, this sort of thing never bothered me at all. As time goes by, I realize that it’s not him, but me that is feeling the getting older pressure, so what I’ve done to remedy this problem is I pretend he’s my age, some days I vice versa and pretend I’m his age. We have a lot of fun with this and I realize that I get less self contious when I’m in this mindset. Make your age difference work for you, not against you.

I must say, when you are with a younger person whether it be man to woman or woman to man, you feel a bit powerful, or might I say empowered. I say go for it, a little self empowerment is never bad. You are a hot mama which is why he’s with you, if not him, it would probably be some other young hot thing in your life anyway. What can I say, maybe some of us older women just look fabulously young for your age, and you can’t blame the young hotties for looking.

Hello Ladies!
I am totally stressed about dating a younger guy. I meet a guy while hanging out with my girls. I found him very attractive and interesting. We actually met after the party and sat and talked at a diner until about 4am. Yes, it was killing me I was dead tired. LOL We really hit if off, however I was taken back by his age, as I am 35 and he is 25. I found myself lying about his age to my sister. I am kind of embarrassed by his age. The friend has totally taken off, we have spent nearly every other day together since we met it has been over a month now. My issue, I was recently cheated on by an younger guy and really just dont want to have a casual relationship. The new guy and I spend a great deal of time together, I stay at his place, as I don’t allow him to stay with me as I have children. It bothers him and I know he doesnt understand as he gets all pissed about it. The communication is great at time and then there are time it’s hit or miss.

My issue is with alot of his self behavior, he wants me to stay over however, had a problem with me leavin stuff there. He of course he changed my leaving things, but now it’s the following, he questions, my motivates, my texting other people, he is selfish with affection now that we are having sex. He use hug and kiss me all the time, its like he wont touch me useless we are having sex, ever now and then he will slap me on the butt which is cute, but why the dramatic changes? He doesn’t like to be touch while we sleep, but always wants me to stay the night. The major issue I have is now that I do stay over at least 3 days or more during the week, when I get up in the morning he doesn’t even acknowledge that I am leaving and it bothers me to know end. When I brought it up to him he said I was being very emotional. I was a bit offended.

I care about this guy but wonder could I really have a future with this man that is only 25 with no kids, and my 35 with 2kids, 16 and 3. I would like to build something with him, but feel really stupid thinking it could be more then what it is and found my self wanted to leave to spear myself of the heartbreak. The thought of having my heart broke again scares me. Please can any of you ladies offer any words of wisdom. Thanks so much in advance.

I am 45 years old and fat and unattractive to men and yet I am really attracted to much younger men (like in their 20’s). I feel terrible and frustrated. No men are interested, much less the younger ones. It really hurts. I want to die I am so sexually frustated. There is something about really young men, they are just gorgeous and full of life.

The older we are the more important it is that we exercise–for health if for no other reasons. If you just keep the same activity level each year, you will simply gain weight due to slower metabolism.

I recommend something like Crossfit–you might have to work your way up to it, but it’s incredibly efficient for taking weight off, and great place to meet people, a bit more men than women. The truth is, losing weight is more about what you eat, but somehow the regular intense exercise made me want to eat differently, plus less time to eat

I (28) have been dating my boyfriend (25) for almost four years now. In the beginning, I was reluctant to date him because of our age difference. He assured me that it meant nothing to him, and we’ve had great times together. However, now I feel that I am ready to move to the next phase of my life (marriage, children, etc.) Now he is using our age difference as an excuse to not move to that next level. Actually, he has gotten worse…partying like he is still in college and being lazy about his career. It’s incredibly frustrating and sad to me. I’m not saying that older women can’t have successful relationships with younger men–but you have to put double the effort into making it work. Just be careful and make sure that you are both on the same page…before you invest as much time as I have!

So… I love reading all this about older women dating younger men. I am actually going through a breakup right now with someone that is 10 years younger than me (I’m 33). I’m crushed!! But it happened to be about the priorities in his life… he’s not ready to be in a mature relationship. He lives at home in his parents basement, I have my own condo. He is in school for 4 more years, I have a degree and a stable corporate job… it’s just hard when 2 people are in different life stages. He said that he wanted a future and wanted to marry me, but, like a lot of previous posts said, he just wasn’t ready and still has a lot of growing up to do. I feel like in 4 years if we got married, he would leave anyway because he never got the chance to “explore life” with me being 37. No way can I have that!

Good luck to everyone and I hope it works out better than my situation! It’s super hard and I’m sad but I know it’s probably for the best.

Last year I dated a man of 33 and I was 65. We dated for a year. I just broke it off with him on Dec. 17th, 2009. During that time, he was like a water faucet running hot and cold. He had issues from the beginning, which grew only more intense as we saw each other. I made excuse after excuse for him to no avail. Now, this was with him, but not all younger men are like this. I also dated a younger man (11 yrs. younger than me) several years back and he was absolutely wonderful. I prefer younger men, due to the fact I act and look much younger than what I am. I do not think old and never will, but at the same time, I will not act like a teeny bopper. I belong to a dating site, Cougared.com, from which many, many younger men have contacted me, way too young, in their teens and 20s., so I think I will get off that site. Younger is great, but just make sure he has no issues from the beginning. This will avoid many nights of being alone and crying. Take to heart, every word he says to you and you will almost immediately know if he is sincere or not. I was blinded by love, next time will be different, for now I know what to look for. Good luck.

I am a 49 year old women and recently dated a 29 year old and then a 28 year old. The 28 year old is inside my head, I cant stop thinking about him, but I know he and I are in different places in our lives.
I have 3 children and 4 grandchildren, he is aware of all this as he is friends with my daughter, her partner and her children. I would love to have a relationship with him for as long as it will last. But I dont think my dauhter will accept it.
Oh well at least I have the memories and maybe oneday we will see each other some more.
I am glad there are other older women involved with much younger men and its working for them. It gives me hope and stops me from being so self conscious about it.

Best wishes to all

I dated a guy for over a year who was 26 when we met and I was 48. It was amazing… but I realized I couldnt ever give him the things he deserves. A family, children…. I truly loved being with him . We are still crazy about one another but reality tells us it will never work.. it is sad, but we are trying to keep the friendship we have.

Hi there,

Some advise from a guy who thinks he has something to add to this discussion.

I think most of you have the biggest problem with the ‘might be difference in maturity’ According to psycolegist

wrong button.

let me finish: (and rephrase)

… psychological studies, guys come to maturity between the age of 22-24. So when you are a mature woman, maybe you would like to consider if this guy you are dating is there yet.

I was wondering if people think a 23 year difference is alot ? To Much ? Trust me I am new to this …………..I always dated much older if not the same age man, imagine my surprise ?

This can be really good but really bad….

Younger guys can be fun but ust imagine going out with someone that finds skateboarding interesting and amazing and wants to go to frat parties while you are going to business gatherings and show biz shindigs. Beware of their immaturity – Try explaining what their job function actually is to others when you are working on a “business project” together. I had to put up with some of this. It was not apparent at first but things got rougher than expected after a while with a 15 year age difference with aguy that I dated, I am 40 and he is 25.

Im a 31yr. old woman married to a 28yr. old man that makes me happy. I love him and he loves me also.We met at a park and I aproached him,I knew god directed us toward each other. We both had been thru some things,but we did not let it stop us from being together. love has no bounderies.I did not care what others thought about the relationship,because their opinions did not matter.He is so caring and he invites me to go every where with him,he says i have nothing to hide.He is truely amazing.So now do you see why it does’nt matter. Love mrs. brown -eyes.

Im 23, and have been close as a friend to a 19 year old guy. Due to some attraction we snog once. We got comfortable with each other that we are snog everytime we meet. At 1st i thought he was just having some fun out of this. But apparently now, he have made it clear that our relationship means more then just friends to him. He adores me.

Im not sure if this will work as Im have been working in a professional field for over 5 years and im starting our my own business soon, while he is still in school.

Im afraid im gonna hurt his fragile feelings.

However, i feel that the age difference is just a matter of figures. I have dated guys more then 7 years older then me. Some were far more immature then some 18 year olds. It comes down to what we want in the relationships we have.

If one is ready to start a family and get married then dating a teen or someone in his early 20’s might not go far. However if you’re like 30 or 40 and he is 5/10/15 years younger and want the same thing. I guess the age gap is not big deal.

At the end of the day we all want to feel love and have someone to love. There are no clear written rule that says it is wrong to date someone younger. And dont bother what ppl would say or think. Because they are not the one that is loving you like he is…

it is my first time dating a younger man we do have great fun but when it comes to reality young boys are young boys they’re still immature although they act mature. i don’t know if i should continue on dating younger man.

@Lane…Great Advice! And I love the campground reference, its perfect!

I just atarted dating a guy who is 27 and I am 33. I am a widow and have 2 boys ages 11 and 13. I have always dated older men ( 10 years plus) because of their maturity and career stability. My children ddespised these older men and I cou;d never bring us together as a group for social events. My sons are avid surfer/skateboarder/snowboarder types. I felt like a rift was developing beteen myself and my children being that they have their own teen/preteen social agenda which was much different then my mature boyfriends over the past 10 years since my ex passed.

Now that I am dating a younger guy who has the same interests as my sons, I am closer to them. We take them surfing and to the skatepark. My guy isn’t into the”scene” of these sports but he ’s good enough to catch my sons eyes.We hang out together as a couple and film the kids. his connection to my children comes naturally and I love it! he has not had a girlfriend in over 5 years and approached me with the concept of taking it to a bf gf level. He comes from a very close loving family andhis morals are in place. He’s tons of fun when we’re alone too!
I don’t think 5 years is a major gap but i have been through some serious emotional sht. in my 32 years. Because the aire between us is so fun and fresh I find that my emotional baggage isn’t even an issue. In fact I won’t let it come up and ruin the connection that we have. I am inspired to work on my issues on my own rather than put them on him….which would obviously be too heavy.
He is amazing! Walked into my house and loaded my dishwasher without me asking earlier today meanwhile I was conducting biz. He is a pilot…already has his career which I think is huge! I need the security of KNOWING that the man I’m into has found his purpose and is living and loving it. That is what I find truly attractive. The age is circumstantial.

I am 48, and have been dating a 33 yr old guy. When we met, he was funny and joking, and did not seem to be carrying around a lot of baggage, or try to control me (which is what I run into with men my own age/older)

He was open to getting together, but we are friends, mainly. I know that and I do feel to be serious, it might be an issue with about a 15 yr age difference. I can tell in some things we are at slightly different stages of life. However he is funny and fun to be with.

Meeting him did get me out of the thinking that I had to be with an older or same age guy; now 10 yrs would not bother me at all and pretty much feel normal. I had the idea that for women, it was different than for men to date younger, but I say it’s all a cultural trap, that only men can date younger but not women. Women should go for it, if they want!

Help!
For the first time in my life, I am genuinely startled to find myself sexually attracted to a newly-minted 19yr old guy…and I’m 50! I’ve never been married, no children,and been bopping around the world for most of my life– but this took me by surprise,to say the least. I (think) he’s showing signs of interest, but I really don’t know how to proceed; I have no wish to be laughed at if I bring the subject up to him. Ideas, anyone?

So I am 32 going to 33. He is 25 going to be 26. We have been dating for about 3 weeks. He is very smart and mature for his age. There is a strong sexual attraction but I am very hesitate about treating this relationship too serious. I try not to call him often. I try to wait until he calls me before calling him or as the young people like to do, text! Which he does a whole lot of! I have a MA degree and completely independent and live on my own. He is just starting to discover what he wants to do for the rest of his life. I feel that it is risky, in the sense that I know he not going to be ready any time soon to settle down and have children. I on the other hand have been family ready for at least 2 years now. However, I planning on riding this through for at least 1/2 year to 1 year before thinking about future with this guy. Thinking this way helps me not making any assumptions about the relationship. Good luck ladies.

I wish we could all get on a forum and talk. I think women who date younger could use the support from each other. I am 42 and am insanely attracted to a 19 year old. He rocks my world, and he does not care at all about age but I get anxiety over it. Why can men do this with no problem but when it comes to women we put so much pressure on ourselves. It is just not fair. Again – I hate that men can do it but women get that judgement.

Hello!
Thank you for this. I have always dated older. I am divorced 3 years and he was 13 and a half years older and horribly controlling and jealous. I ended up in a women’s refuge because of domestic violence.
I had one bad 3 month relationship since then with a guy my age. Now, a year later, I find myself suddenly dating a guy 10 years younger (he 27, i almost 37). Well… he treats me great and the chemistry is off the scale. Although he still lives with his parents and 3 siblings. He is the oldest. He also has no car and is bad with his money! These things can change of course and are not too important to me, but I don’t want to be taken for granted. I don’t feel he is doing that but I worry it may happen. Also I agree it depends on the guy’s maturity, he has little emotional baggage and helps me forget mine! He is able to have a “relationship conversation” and wanted me to be his girlfriens. He joked he is not ready for children yet but he muct know I am at a an age… I am not ready quite yet. I think I will give it six months and then have the serious chat. As my eggs are not getting any younger! All my friends say go for it, I am happy and not hurting anyone, that is what matters.

Jen you are right. the last guy I was with was older, although just by 4 years ( he was 36 going to be 37) and he was not together at all! Had no sense of responsibility and lived in a dream world. When I first met him he made sound as thought he was helping his mother as oppose to reality where his mother was still helping him! I would not have minded being with someone that didnt know how to pay bills or fix his credit score. I would have not minded being the one taking care of that stuff. When I met him he was in the process of finding a job. However, 2 months into his job and with a little bit of cash in his pocket he was quick to make new friends behind my back, new female friends! He threw a big tantrum when I confronted him about it. Simply put, what I have come to discover is that men who are not occupying themselves with planning a comfortable future ( e.g. 401 k, vacations, health insurance) are probably spending their spare time looking around to get their satisfactions in life in other places! We all need attention in life but some men have a hard time drawing a line for the sake of a meaningful relationship. So watch out for that ladies.

Almost ALL my significant relationships of the last 20 years have been with men younger than myself. Some have been men who stepped up to the plate and did what had to be done, and some were narcissistic little boys who couldn’t handle reality. I am in a relationship with a man right now who is 24 years younger than me, and it’s only been for 8 weeks or so, but so far it is sweet and passionate and tender. I have rarely been so moved in my heart, body, or mind, by any man, regardless of the age, as I am with him. I don’t need a man to provide for me. I need a man to love me for who I am, fill my heart, light up my life with passion, who listens to me and believes I’m beautiful. He is 35 and I am 59. I look and act 10-15 years younger than my age and he looks/acts around 10. So we kind of meet in the middle. You fall in love with the spirit inside, not the chronological age of the body it happens to ride around in. A couple of years ago a 19 year old young man asked me for a special night with him, for his birthday. It was powerful and vulnerable for both of us, other than that I had to teach him everything (not a bad thing, at that). That was one that ended up being the bratty teenager he still was, so it didn’t fly for long. BUT, I have been with men 5-30 years older than I, who were STILL bratty teenagers when they didn’t get what they wanted. Honestly, I find most men my age to be OLD. And most of the ones who aren’t, are so busy proving they aren’t, that they’re hyper-macho and hyper-athletic and hyper-sexual, and it’s a hyper-turnoff. I’ve found very few men my age who are young at heart, down to earth, who have dealt with their issues and face life with dignity, grace, and humor. The few men there ARE, like that, are gems. So don’t worry about a number on the calendar. Let people talk. In the end it’s YOU who has to decide what is right for your own life.

I believe there is a big difference, it just depends on how much you are willing to put up with. I am 46, divorced and have 2 adult daughters. I am independent, strong and know what i want by now. I was dating a guy 12 yrs younger and as much as we got along and loved eachother he still had a whole life ahead of him. I left him and I am miserable, but i believe in my heart i did the right thing. He had never been married nor does he have kids. Staying with me would have deprived him of all these things, not to say that marriage and kids are the most important, but who am I to keep him from that?

TAMI #9 GOT IT RIGHT! 4GET THE AGE DIFFERENCE, THATS SECONDARY. HE’S ATTRACTED TO YOU RIGHT? FIND OUT WHY. IS IT JUST PHYSICAL (YOU KNOW, BOOTY FOR THE NIGHT)? GET TO KNOW WHO IS THE PERSON INSIDE AND IF THEY VALUE YOU AND NOT WHAT YOU HAVE. THAT’S WHERE TAMI GOT IT RIGHT, “IT’S HOW THEY TREAT YOU AND MAKE YOU FEEL (INSIDE AND OUT GIRLZ). YEAH THERE’S STILL A FEW GOOD LIL BOYS OUT THERE AND THEY CAN ACCOMPLISH ANYTHING, AND BE JUST AS RESPONSIBLE OR MORE THAN THE OLD FART WITH A MINIMUM WAGE JOB AND PROBABLY ON CHILD SUPPORT AND EXPECTS YOU TO BE HIS COOK, MAID, AND SERVANT AND OH YEAH ALL OF THIS AND STILL HOLD DOWN A FULL-TIME JOB TO HELP HIM CAUSE HE HAS TO PAY HIS CAR OR SUV TITLE AND ALWAYS HAVE BOOOZE AVAILABLE FOR HIM AND HIS BUDDIES…DON’T 4GET THE BOOTY SERVICE WETHER PROVIDED BY YOU OR SOMEOTHER BOOTY AWAY FROM HOME…WITH OR WITHOUT YOUR CONSENT. I DON’T THINK SO GIRLZ. TAKE THE YOUNGSTER THAT PAMPERS YOU, COMFORTS YOU, IS HAPPY MAKING YOU HAPPY AND KEEPS YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART. ABOUT THE JOB…REMEMBER HE’S YOUNG AND CAN STILL CLIMB THAT LATTER OF SUCCESS WITH YOU RIGHT BY HIS SIDE. AND ALL THAT ENERGY YOU GUYS CAN ENJOY TOGETHER…TO BE CONTINUED…….

Glad to see not the only one in this situation. Going to be 50 this yr, he is 32 & started out as my best friend. This was a “service” arrangement to start with but he’s wormed his way into my heart as he says I have his. He has a gf, a user, too immature for him. Maybe he’s finally seeing that, maybe just playing me, but I’ll ride this out cause I’ve never felt with anybody what I do with him. Always thought young guys didn’t have the knowledge (had to eat my words there). Happily ever after? I doubt it but the ride is worth it. Go for it girls. Life is too damn short!!!!!

I was dating a guy who was 4 years younger to me (22), I first met him when he was 16 years old, he was my little baby, we’ve always had a special bond between us, eventually we started dating. We started off great, He made me feel young, needed, wanted, and loved. But then it happened, he started realising what he REALLY wanted and those were his ‘ desires ‘ . Younger girls about his age, he got his driving license, his ‘ daddy bought him a car ‘ , his friends out of no where started showing up, all the thins he never really had, popped up outta no where. I do not blame him for wanting what pleases him, all the materialistic things, but that just left me hanging. I felt neglected, unwanted, and more over unloved.But the biggest mess up was, he started messing around behind my back after I left the country. I’m still nuts about this guy, I have always been, I wanted to settle down with him, obviously, when his time and my time was right. It’s just so sad, to know eventually they know that being committed is the last thing they want. The chick he’s seeing now is nohing but his booty – call, I just hope and pray that this boy realizes that there still might be a future for us. Cause im upset as shit, people come and fill my ears with all sorts of things, I don’t wish or want to know about him (screwing this chick, that chick, ..basically getting physical with other girls). Lost and Confused

hello, I am 40yr old woman, working alongside a 28yr old guy at work. He is funny,and lovely. I feel attracted to him, and I sense he likes me. I feel bad and wrong to feel this way, and their are moments of awkwardness/tension that are unbelievable. Lately I have not wanted to go to work at all. Any tips would be great
Steph

Stephanie40, you just have to go with the flow. I’m 40 yrs old also. Are you sitting down for this one? He is 24yrs. We crossed that line a few months ago. We are just friends right now. The funny thing we have so many things in common, unbelievable. I went back and forward for months, trying to figure out what I was going to do. The chemistry was so obvious. When he was away out of of the country he always contacted me. Never even thought anything of it. Until we went on our first outing. Then it finally hit me. I was attracted to a younger man. Like this can’t be happening. We made a group trip in June. We where roommates. I call to book the room. Guess what they ran out of doubles?. I ask him. Would you like your on separate room or would you like to share with me? You know he chose to stay with me. “He said I know you want bite”. The first night went good, just talked and talked until we fell asleep in each others arms. The next night was that night. I still remember on thing he said that was so cute. “Just kiss me”. We both chose to stay friends with extras. To see how it goes. No matter how the outcome of this situation comes out. We took the oath to stay friends.The best thing I realized for the past months. He treats me better than my older male friends. That totally took me by surprise.

I have been in a relationship with a man 7 years younger for seven years he informed me two years ago that that is the longest ever for him , I found out he had lived with two other women both abit older than he, one year each. About a year and a half ago he started pinching my extra weighty parts and exclaiming I was too fat, then he started getting very aggressive with me and almost no affection next he needed money to supplement his income and rent and each month became hysterical the week his rent was due, with no chance for warmth from this actor, i decided to draw the line, he kept asking when i was getting my larger salary of the year and i told him i could not be sure, first ime i did not help him. Well surprise!!!!!!!!!! He decided to move back to his home town where he has lived in a friends house for over a year free of rent.H e changed his so called religion to impress someone his age or younger.. and ignored my operation after i took great care of his venis statia for years,, live and learn he seemed undone that i had trouble with my weight but i could not help it past 55 it just wouldnt shed this can be a big problem with even a sensitive guy but he was not all that . He always commented on my friends wrinkled faces and i happened to look good in that area but it is always something with a young narcissist BUYER BEWARE, i am out 10,000 to date.

Wow I’m so glad there’s a place to talk about this! I’m 23 my boyfriend is 18 and so far its been the healthiest most fulfilling relationship I’ve ever been in, I’m just so scared hell leave me and ill be left in my late 20’s all alone! Also I’m glad I’m not the only one who is embarrassed by it, but screw everyone if you’re happy. Its fun right now too because he shows me off to his friends and I feel so good about myself but when I start looking older.. I’m worried about the next cute little things coming along. I wish I could just be at peace with it all. Any advice would be great.

I i’ve know this guy for 2 years and never have thought of him in that “way” but we’ve gotten closer and just seem to click somehow I Like him a lot and he likes me back only problem is He’s two years younger which may not seem like a lot but when he’s 15 and your 17 it seems like a world apart i’m applying for collage and he’s preparing for testing yet i still like him what should i do

I’m 40 yrs old and bf is 25 today. I was married and now divorced with no children. I was very resistant about dating him, blew him off for a yr and thats when he found me again. My girlfriend talked me into just having fun with him. It is now 2yrs later and we live together. He treats me amazing and his family loves me. We are actually trying to have a baby.He wants to get married but i’m in no hurry. There is moments where i see the age diffrencs, but for the most part he is mature. He is a college graduate and is working, loves to go fishing and does not go out with his friends to bars. He say’s all he cares about in life is fishing, paying his bills and me is all he needs to be happy…I think if someone at any age doesn’t respect you or take you around his surroundings, he is just using you for fun and don’t put your heart into it..Everyone is very suppotive of us and is very happy for us.. we really don’t look that far apart in age, even tho it’s 15 yrs.. I’m treated like a queen and the most beatiful women in the world…Ae we all should be treated… Good luck and have fun, fun ,fun……

I met a man 7 yeas ago that is 15 years younger than I am.We were together for 4 years and got married 3 years ago. We love each other and get along great! Ae is just a number.

I am dating a 22 year old I am a 39 year old and everything is too good to be true He says I am his “girl” that he loves me etc etc we have been dating for several months he refers to us as a couple in a relationship but good intentions or not sex is not great down to once a month or once a week I am not dead. He acts like he doesn’t want sex or isn’t horny but I was just told he has been talking to a 23 year old about hooking up and messing around they IM all the time she told me and that he advertised he was horny on his IM that I am not even on to chat with him now I know why he never told me he had it . I’ve been with other younger men they seem attracted to me and I end up dating them this is different though because he says he wants to be with me but doesnt show it and now with what has been told to me I am trying to figure out what is wrong with me and why is this “boy” still with me?? obligation?? caring?? confusion??? not a great experience with a younger man this time around

I’m married to a man who is 33 and I am turning 39 next month. We have been married for almost 10 years and have an eight year old. Last year, he had an affair with a woman a year older than me. I still stuck with him- mostly for our child. However, now I am in the process of asking for a divorce. I have completed the paperwork and simply have to serve him. I told myself I would never date a younger man again. However, I am now completely attracted to a man at my work who is 32, and he seems to be attracted to me as well. We haven’t done anything, other than we eat lunch together everyday and there’s a ton of palpable chemistry. I won’t do anything until I have filed my papers. I am hoping I am not making yet another foolish mistake and wonder why it seems I can’t find a man my own age or a little older that I find attractive.

Wow! I have totally found this thread to be extremely helpful! Many thanks to all of you ladies who came forth and have shared your trials and tribulations in this situation … The situations I find myself in are largely due to my work atmosphere as I am a bartender at a nightclub and a snowboarding instructor and ALWAYS surrounded by very young men, I’m in my mid 30’s, been married and divorced and have adult children and now, almost exclusively date men 21-24… yes they are very attractive but they’re also the only ones that ever ask me out! Haha… recently however, I have found myself in several cat n mouse games with 18 & 19yos who don’t take ‘no’ for an answer. Yes I think they’re very gorgeous n athletic n witty n charming but I do worry about the backlash in my small community. However after reading this thread and seeing how not alone I am in this issue I think ill finally stop running in circles and let myself be caught!!! I loved how one contributor said to raise em like I want em Hahaha, gotta love it! Thanks again ladies!

I have been dating a man 10 years younger then myself.
I am 34 and he is 24….I have always dated older men, my last was a doctor and was 20 yrs older.

the chemestry has been amazing since we met. he is lovely and open and kind, considerate…wants to help me with my business. Comes from a wonderful family, I feel like I have met the man of my dreams…but its wierd to wrap my head around the fact that he is 10 yrs younger. He treats me the way I treat him, its respecful and balanced. I am sooooooooooo happy
! cant remember feeling this fullfilled in a relationship…ever sad to say.

I realize that as long as you take care of yourself and you are both kind and respectful…its just like any other relationship. Plus so many men date women so much younger….like me with older men, and I never thought to question it then…why should we question it if it is the other way around?

Love being treated like a princess and adored!!! and love admiring someone that is a truly beautiful soul….super grateful for what the universe can bring your way!!! there are no social conditioned norms as far as the Universe manafests our dreams, just have to trust your heart and jump!!!!! life is to short to live in your fears and the idea’s and perceptions of others.

Age has nothing to do with it, its all heart and soul of the person. Plus youth is a beautiful thing, enjoy it for what it is…JUMP!!!!!

I am 24 and was dating a guy who has just turned 20. He lied about his age to me when we first met and I should have seen the lies from the start. I was his first and he lied about this to me as well. After a year, he said he was ready to settle down and hinted toward marriage in the near future. I have just finished uni and started full time work and he has just started uni. I want to save to buy a house and he felt it was unfair of him having to save when uni is supposed to be about fun. It all came down to priorities and he ended up getting scared. He told me the promises of marriage were to make me happy, not because he wanted it – he was so mature in some ways but in the end he couldnt handle having to grow up quicker for me. He said that if we were to stay together one of us would always be unhappy – me if i had to wait for marriage, kids, house or him if he was pressured to do it before he was ready. And he was right. In the end I felt like I wasted a year of my life. He really needed to go and experience life and grow up. Trust me girls you may think younger men are more mature and they are in some ways – but when it comes to getting serious about life – they really have a lot of growing up to do.

I’m 24, and like many have always dated much older men. My oldest bf was 32yrs older than i was- he was the perfect gentleman. I loved him…but he broke my heart. I then dated a guy who was 14yrs older than me…was good but he kept on telling me that i was too young etc. While i was in college i dated a 17year old. I was a senior and he was a freshman! omg, it was so funny- he persuaded me to, and i gave in. It didnt last, coz his friends were sooooo annoying and childish…and in the end so was he. I have been in casual dating relationships with a couple of guys who were between 2-4years younger than me. But now there’s a 20year old who’s been showing interest in me. Compared to me (graduated, living alone, working) he still lives at home, hasnt finished school and doesn’t have a “career”. I dont know what i’m going to do with him- because he can’t really give me anything material that i cant get for myself. But he is so attractive and hot (his body is to die for), so im going to go with the flow and see how things go. But i’m going into it with no expectations, lest i get disappointed.
I feel like a mini-cougar, and i like it! lol

I read this thread months ago…I finally decided to contribute because we need to advocate this kind of dating, and open-mindedness in general! People need to know that love is love and it should be openly celebrated in all forms!

I’m 35 with an 18 yr old bf and I have to say, it’s been completely amazing!!! I look and feel young…people say I pass for 22. He is an old soul I think….he’s so calm and wise for his age. We meet in the middle somewhere, and we turn each other on so much (and on many levels!) It goes without saying that sexually, we’re *so* on the same page! Of course, there are many differences between us… in experiences mostly, but that’s part of what makes this so exciting and enriching. It’s by far the best relationship I’ve ever had! We take it one day at a time, live in the present, and bask in the joy this connection has brought to us!

OMG Joy in the Heart you are so right!!!
I am 43 and dating a wonderful, loving and caring 26 yr old and like you said it’s been completely amazing. He has loved me like no other man has or could twice his age. We have been seeing eachother for over a year and I can honestly say it has been the most incredible experience of my life in and out of the bedroom!!

I am 27, soon to be 28. My new friend guy is 21, soon to be 22. He is mature for his age and sees no problem with dating older women as I am not the first. BUT I feel awkward because I have never dated younger and just got out of a twenty year age difference with another man. I dreaded it. So I’m trying something new but I’m scared he’s not ready for a real relationship like I am. He already has two kids and I have one. I like him a lot in the two weeks we have been seeing each other. I’m just ready to get married. Should I pursue this???

I wonder if you should look at why you just want to get married?
If you just got out of a long term relationship, maybe it’s time you took a period of time out to reaquaint yourself with.. yourself! Marriage isn’t about just wanting to get married, it’s about finding the perfect person who you know.. through the thick and thin.. will be the one you want to be with for the rest of your life. And I think it takes a good few years to really determine that when you’re with someone.
If I were you I’d take your time and go slowly.. rushing into things is never a good idea. Try to let things progress naturally.. and just have fun! Forcing things can lead to trouble, and can make partners feel smothered.
If he’s got 2 kids then he definitely has the potential for commitment,, but it depends how it ended and whether it scared him off or not. If you’re still together in a few months maybe ask him then. If you’re not compatible in that way.. not much time lost! If he’s new- ask him now and you could likely scare him off!
I’m currently dating a guy 6 years my junior.. and it’s new too, only a few months in. Things pop up and give you indications of what it’s like to be with someone not as progressed or mature as you. And how you react/analyse those situations and compare them with the way they support you and give you their love will constantly help you figure out what’s most important, and if it’s going to work years down the track.
Good luck! xo

I just turned 28 and I work with a guy who is 19. We would hang out everyday. ride our bikes, play video games, and go fishing. Many of my friends joke that I’m a 12yr old boy. We never had more interest in each other, other than pal’n around. Then it just sorta happened.. we just love being together and he asked me to be his girlfriend. I love it.. the sex is great, the conversations are great.. can this be wrong??

I am 56 and look 40, I am dating a guy 41 and from reading all the comments, know that this is foolish on my part. Haven’t met his family, friends. ALthough he insists he is not embarrassed by our relationship, I do not believe this is the case. The signs are there and my gut feeling is that I need to get out of this. I do not feel attactive when I am around him, and not that he doesnt try to make me feel good. So now I know what to do. It feels liberating to be able to type this. Ta, ta, Pat.

I am 50 now and in a relationship with someone that is 37 yrs old. I have done this before and I will have to admit these types of relationships don’t normally last, once there is any slowing down the man usually starts looking and the relationship seems to break apart. However this relationship that I am presently in is with a beautiful man with a heart of gold, I think he sees me as a woman that will return his love for what it is and not want anything more. I make more money, have a fuller life than he has ever had. I think he sees me as being stable and its comforting to him. He is a fast food manager and I am an nurse we both have kids but his are still young and mine are all grown. I dont look fifty or act it.. and I feel we have a connection that both of us were desperately looking for and now we both have found..

I am 42 and my boyfriend is 27, we met at work and now living together for a year and a half, everything is good so far, he tells me he loves me all the time and I do know that i love him too, But sometimes it bothers me that he might find someone younger and just dump me for her, that would just devastate me. Our relationship is great because he is mature and he cares for me. He would do anything for me. We’re always flirting and we just have a good time with each other, but Im always scared that he would find someone younger and just leave… help…

Maybe your fear, and not the age difference, is your problem. You’re scared he might want to date someone his own age. But it might as well be any other fear, would you have lived with some one else (his own race, his own profession, his own anything etc). Your fear could scare him away indeed. So, love life, enjoy everything, create your own life, do things for yourself, be emotionally independent. Try it, and you will succeed.

Ok
I have never even dated a guy even 1 year youger than me, yet I have fallen for a co-worker who is 15 years younger….here are the problems
1) I am divorced with 3 kids
2) he is never married and lives with his parents!
3) We are of different races My being caucasian and him asian -american
4) I am his superior at work!
Does that even matter if I care about him?
He has brightened my life for the positive and I cannot imagine my life without him in it. He intoxicates me, unlike any other..THe mere smell of him draws my to near orgasm!

Girl, you got a problem. I see three problems
1. He lives with bis parents
2. He lives with his parents
3. He lives with his parents

I had a similar situation and ended up with another child (34 yo) to look after.

Find yourself a real man, and forget Mama’s boy

What i see from reading these comments is how deluded most of you are. How many posts are there saying things like “I am 53 but look 15 years younger”
No you dont, although good living and good genes vs bad living and bad genes might make you look as much as 5 years different, so at 53 you could appear to be anything from 48-58, you dont look 38.
There may be many reasons why people want to be with a partner who is vastly different in age. The younger partner may be trading off being with someone their own age for financial reward, stability, less sexual demands, a passport, lots of things.
But be realistic about what is happening to you. If you meet a 25 year old from the third world while on holiday and he finds you irresistable despite you being double his age, you need to take it for what it is.
All those of you saying to yourself “Ok I am 50 but i look so much younger so it isnt at all odd to go out with someone 20 years younger than me”, try to think about going out with someone 20 years older than you. How many 70 year olds do you want to date. Are you really that exceptional that your aging is different than other peoples?
What about the issue of children. How many relationships are going to be permanent if one person is too old (or too crabby in the case of older men) to be able to have or cope with children but the other is not.
Few relationships with a greater than a 5 year age gap work. Thats the statistics not me being judgemental. Ok thats stats and each one of you is a person not an average, but hey stop kdiing yourselves folks, not one of you looks 20 years younger than you really are. Not even movie stars with all the money and the good looks and good genes and good plastic surgery can manage that without some serious photoshopping.

Hello,

I am 33 yrs old. I have been friends with a man who is now about to turn 25. We have been great friends for 3 years. He has had one relationship that I know of. Just graduated college, took a job,is figuring out his goals, but doesnt have alot of life experience. Is living at home at the moment but working on getting out on his own. His first preference wasnt to live at home after graduating. I have a lot of emotional baggage, no children, no previous marriages. He was raised rather priveleged compared to me. He doesnt know what its like to struggle in any way. However, I can talk to him about anything at all. I can express myself to him more than I have ever been able to any other person. He listens. He tries to understand. We can discuss anything and everything and talk through things. He is intelligent and funny. Age is a big thing to me but this year I have finally admitted to myself that I am crazy about him. I dont know if he feels the same, it seems like he does most of the time, but sometimes I am not sure. I think age is a big thing for him too. But we grow closer and closer and closer. We spend every day together as friends. Our religion differences are HUGE. In everything else he is just exactly what I need and he doesnt mind my crazy emotional self. We just talk about everything and it works out. I worry that I am 8 yrs older. I worry that I may just be his buddy and will ruin our friendship if I try to take it to a different level. Or if I even seek out how he feels. I honestly dont know if he would know how to take it to another level truly lol. Anyway, Im undecided on what to do and I was curious if ppl thought I should just leave it be or try to pursue more. Thanks.

I am 42 years old and one night paying poker and drinking with my son’s friends I had sex with the cute one. Well I lost a bet and the sake was whether we sleep together. I lost the bet and made good on it. It turned into a 3 month lone affair that ended in my belly swelling up. We really didn’t use protecting due to my dc. telling me that after my last one I won’t be having anymore. My ex-husband and I didn’t use anything for 13 years and he never pulled out. The 19 year father just couldn’t handle it at first but when he saw our little girl he just couldn’t say away. Our little girl just had her first b-day and all he wants to talk about is having an other one. I think that I want another one but I want to get married first. He is against marriages and just wants to live like we are. If I am going to have another I need to do it now. Sp should I have a baby with him with marriage ? I mean I already have one with him and I don’t think that I have the time to find, start and relationship, and have another baby. This guy tries every time we have sex to get me pregnant. Hell i could be pregnant now as I write this. I am not on any birth control and he pull the rubber off every change he gets
Thanks for listening
Stacy

This is for the REALIST,what is your problem.If these women say they feel and look younger than their age,who the hell are you to tell them they don’t.

After reading so many comments, I find myself compelled to add to the mix. Like so many of you I met a younger man while separated from my husband. There is a 15 year difference. He pursued me incessantly, and I rejected his advances for a while; however, I couldn’t deny the physical and emotional attraction to him. After I finally agreed to go out with him, (with absolutely no expectations of it going any further)it turned out that we REALLY hit it off. And when I say really hit it off, I mean that we have been almost inseparable since we met and I guess that is the part that scares me. We started off so intense and that intensity hasn’t dwindled, yet I fear that it will due to the age difference and his lack of world experience that soon he will want to move on and experience life without me. However, I cannot deny the weird connections that we have.

We are not perfect, but we are willing to work things out as a couple. He is very forgiving, but I do notice his lack of maturity and remember myself at that age and can only laugh. Only one member of my family knows everything about our relationship, but the rest of family only knows that I am dating someone new, but definitely not his age. We are both hesitant to add that level of drama, nor do I know if there will even be any. I just want to enjoy every day and worry about the family aspect later. My marriage contained way to much drama and indifference, and this is first time I have been happy in a very long time. I honestly adore this man, and might even say that I have fallen in love with him.

I have tons of support from my close friends as they see it as we are two people who are extremely happy and feel that we should follow our hearts not our age.

So to those of you who have made it work, what is the secrect? How do you move forward? I am not saying marriage, I just mean how did you bridge the gaps? Was it a natural transition?

I am 31 and my boyfriend is 23, he initially approached me. I was skeptical because of the age difference although I’ve always attracted younger guys. I look a lot younger but I always feared a younger guy would leave me for a younger women. I love him so much and we have been together for over 6 months. So far its good and I feel that age isn’t the issue, all that matters is the chemistry you have with your partner. If you are compatible it will work, if your not it won’t….it is as simple as that,

Diane
Are you still with this guy? How is it going?

Iam a guy dating a girl older than me, I am 20 and she is 37, we love each other so much, she means a lot to me and it is the same for her, we met online, and so far we cant spend a whole day without talking to each other, when iam with her, i am in bliss. Our relationship is really wonderful Hamdoullah, I did never think i will date an older girl, and she did never think she will date a younger man. This amazing relationship started almost 8 months ago, and it is really wonderful. I never regret being with her.

Really appreciate you sharing this article post.Really looking forward to read more. Much obliged.

Well Let me tell You girls a little some thing. I was 42 and divorce after 17 years. My 16 year old daughter and I moved in to a three bed room apartment. Her 19 year old friend got kicked out of this house so we let him move in for a little while. Well after a little while my daughter started to have causal sex with him and encouraged me to get a little tension out with him. At first I was like NO WAY. Well one night they wanted me to film them doing it and so I did. It was so erotic. After that he walked around the apartment nude all the time. God did it turn me on. Well one monday morning I couldn’t take it anymore and we did it. Here is were it gets crazy. He got my daughter pregnant. He thought that I would send his to jail so he and my daughter hatched a plan to get me pregnant so that I would need him and not send him to jail. I sent my daughter to pick up my BC and she switched them with fake ones from the internet. After I missed the second period I new something was up. After I confirmed i was pregnant I told my daughter and thats when she told me she was pregnant. 4 months pregnant. My daughter gave birth at 17 and I at 43.
Its kinda weird that my grand son is brothers with my son. He is sleeping in my daughters room but we still have sex. He wants to get us pregnant again. My daughter is letting him and he is trying me. We will see.

Hello to all the hot older ladies. I have been seeing a older lady. She is 42 and I am 24. She is now 7 months pregnant with my baby. She was a married fling that got pregnant. I think that she let me knock her to have a reason to leave or get kicked out by her husband. When we had sex she would tell me that its up to me to prevent her from getting pregnant. Well I was not pulling out and I thought that a chick this old is not going to let a guy young enough to be her kid get her pregnant. Well here we are. She is as big as a house and living in my apartment with no job. All i really wanted to do was have sex with her and her daughter.

I have a weird relationship here. I was married to a pretty girl and we had a baby. She died in the 911 thing and I don’t want to talk about that. What I want to tell you is that after that happened I did not know what to do. I could not take care of this baby by myself. My mother in law had me move in so that she could help me with the baby. Well she is pregnant with our 3 child now and everything is great. She is due in about a month and they are going to do a C-cession due to her age. She is 48 and this baby was unplanned but will be loved just as much I am 34 and have no problem being with a woman that is 14 years older that me

There are plenty of men out there with older women. My father is six years younger than my mother and they have three kids together. They have been together for about thirty years. My girlfriend is five years older then me and we have a two and half year old son together. I had just finished my BA and had been admitted to graduate school when he was born and my girlfriend was doing her MA when our son was born. I think that when you are finished with your university degree and begin working you enter a new life, were age becomes less important. I and my girlfriend met at the university. She had worked for a while after high school and then between her BA and her MA. She had never had a “long relationship”. I’m on the other had just came out from a five years old relationship when we met. I’m on the other hand look very young and still have to show ID when I buy tobacco or liqueur. I just turned 27 and she will turn 32 this year.

A friend of mine just married a woman that is eight years older than him. He is 27 and she is 35. They have two years old together. They meet when he worked as a third officer (just out of merchant navy school) three-four years ago and she was a young successful executive. It was not their age that was the problem but him working at sea, so they decided he would work on “land” so they could have a normal life. Now he is in law school and takes care of their kid while she is making the “big dough”.

I am 23 and just started dating a 19, soon to be 20 year old man. I will be 24 in a month. Yeah I know the age difference is not that big but I have been getting a lot of s*** from my good girl friends about it. They insist it is a mistake because he is not settled or at a point where we could settle down. Little do they realize neither am I. I have usually dated men older than I though never past four years. That was the biggest gap for me. I enjoy dating a younger man. He doesn’t talk must about our distant future which is good for me because I like to do what I want when I want. He doesn’t ask me many questions or pressure me to try to alter my life to fit his. He is the sweetest and most caring man I have ever been with. Yeah he can be immature but so am I. He makes me feel pretty and special and he drives me to be a really good person. He believes in me more than any other man I have ever dated and I really love that. I believe in him as well. I enjoy it, after older man after older man a new young one is refreshing.

Kelly, I’d love an update. I feel the same as you do. I don’ t think I’ll ever get out of my mind that he could leave me fora younger woman- if not now in 5 years. I am getting a mediation to just enjoy it- as I write this!

But after Demi and Ashton- I man she is pretty secure in herself and she couldn’t even deal at some point.

I am reading all of women’s post here, and I try to find out what I should do. I just found out my boy friend is 42 and I am 52. He told me he is 50 when I met him. We have known each other for over a year, our relationship developed very slowly. He is a boss in his company, he also started his own business. He is very busy and doing great. His 2 kids already grew up. I have 2 boys 12, and 9. I am so sad that I am older than him. I never try to date a man that younger than me so many years, but now….He has most of things that a woman wants: young, have a good job, make good money, live nice house, drive expensive cars….. I think this is too good to be true for me, that is why I tried to stay away from him even I didn’t know his age, but he kept coming back to me… I love him but my heart tells me this doesn’t work. I think my family and my friends all will tell me leaving him and don’t waste time. But my heart is still with him. I believe he loves me too.

I have read all the posts here. I am 42 and have a 25 year old boyfriend. He is trying to get me pregnant. He takes off the condom whenever I am not looking. I want another baby. My daughter is 6 months pregnant now and I don’t know. I miss taking care of babies. I just think that this guy will be gone and I will be left to take care of this baby by myself. My daughter is telling me to go for it. What will my friends say about me having a baby this old. What would they think of me getting knocked up by such a younger guy. Would people think about me having a half black baby. My daughter says not to worry about that stuff. And yes her boyfriend is black. These 2 guys are best friends. She would take her boyfriend to her room at the end of the night and leave me and this guy to watch porn together. Well you cant watch porn and then do nothing. So here I am. Should I let this younger guy put a bun in my oven or should I run and say that was close

Well this is all well and fun but what happens when the younger 20 something get the 40 something knocked up ? I am 47 and have a 4 year old with a guy that is now 29. We fell in love, I let him get me pregnant, and we broke up just like that. He dosn’t pay child support or even see our son like he is to. It turns out that he gets off on impregnating older women. I am #2 and #3 is expecting now. The bigger I got the less he wanted to do with me. 4 months after our baby was born he wanted another but I was done with having babies so he was done with me. I will not get involved with a younger guy even if there were only young guys.

I started dating a man 14 years younger than me a couple of months back. I am 40 and he is 26. I look really young for my age, and he looks a bit older than his age. Initially I resisted, not because of the age, but because he didn’t really have his sh*t together, and I didn’t feel the physical attraction that he did. However, much to both of our surprise we have found ourselves very much in love. While sometimes it becomes apparent to me that he is just starting his life while I am in the middle of mine, most of the time I feel I have found my soul mate. He wants a family, and so do I. Further, we want a family TOGETHER. We have many of the same interests and goals. I have found it much easier to get commitment, love, and affection from him than from many men my own age that I have dated mainly because they are too busy looking for 21 year olds!

Im 42 hving a serious relationship with a 30 year old wonderful man. Yes, there r differences n conflicts with views n opinion but above all, we love each other madly.

There are some interesting points in time in this article but I don�t know if I see all of them middle to heart. There may be some validity but I’ll take maintain opinion till I look into it further. Good article , thanks and we would like extra! Added to FeedBurner as nicely

To bekah..i relate totally wit u gurl..im 46 n my bf is 19 im 27 yrs older than him but he loves me nwe have a really gud relationship..we have so much in common n we think alike n we love doin things 2gether n we dnt care who sees us holdin hands n kissing..he is so proud 2b wit me as i am proud 2b wit him also..age is jus a number n sumtymes u jus gotta b patient n u will find ur soulmate lyke i found mine..love dnt cum i numbers..all i knw is he makes me happy n i cherish a our moments 2gether..and my kids are happy 4 me n they r older than him but as long as he makes me happy then my kids are happy 4 me also..

Don’t take the relationship serious, enjoy yourself and just have fun while it last, and then move on. A man 20 years your jr will find you interesting for a while, but soon he will want to caress the tight young body of a 20 something. Don’t let your feeling got involved, keep it light. Believe me, you will become tired and embarassed of younger women asking him if you are his mother….in front of you !

I am 41, newly divorced and now dating a 27 year old. Never thought I would, but he pursued me. I’m loving it. We have a lot in common, and a lot to learn from each other. Don’t let society’s stereotypes keep you from happiness!

I have to say I disagree with dating a younger guy. Unless it’s like 2-3 years difference. Many people commented that they are dating a man that is 19 years old or in their twenties while they are close to 40.

First of all, at 19, they are still a kid. Secondly, if you could be their mother (16 + years older), then that’s sick and wrong. They most definately won’t stay with you for long, but aside from that, you have to realize that sleeping with them is wrong. They are practically a kid, not a man. Men nowadays don’t settle until they’re 30 so if you are dating a twenty year old, they won’t commit anytime soon. And if you aren’t looking for a commitment, then you are just using them. I hope you put more thought into it before you as a middle-aged mother date a kid (son).

P.S. I don’t mean to offend anyone, but I hope that if you are in this sort of situation, you think about it from their point of view. If you were 20, why would you date a 40 year old? Wouldn’t that be wrong?

Im curious are any of you still with your men? Some of these responses are a couple years old. Am curious which if any have lasted. I’m 33 my boyfriend of over a year is 21.

Younger men like all men suck!..they suck the life out of you…they use you for money…they cheat…they lie…and when they are done using you…they walk out without looking back…I dated a younger man for 10 years, he told me so many lies, wanted to marry me blah blah blah,,,long story short…he lost his job..I helped him out by using my credit cards….ran them up…he up and left me holding the debt..then I start getting calls from females claiming he was their boyfriend and met him online dating sites,,,promised the world…took their money and bailed out ….I was shocked to find out I was so played by this so called man/boy con artist…there should be a law against men who rip off females and lie online…..the internet is a sea of liars cheaters and freaks….I am sure there are many females who lie to guys as well…and for that I am sorry….I am a very kind and honest woman and try to give people the benefit of the doubt but after this relationship its very hard to want to date anyone ..Iam still struggling to pay off the credit card debt and could face having to sell my home because of what this man did! but I know his Karma will catch up to him and all the wrong he has done to people will come back to him. He is truely an evil soul for all the women he played…..

My situation is quite new. To me at least. I’m 36 years old, separated from my husband with 2 children (11 and 8). Two years ago I met a guy on an airplane who tried to kiss me. I was having none of it, but we became facebook friends and occasionally contacted each other. 4 months ago he realised I was back on the ‘dating’ scene and asked if we could meet up. He lives in a different country but visits mine regularly. We’ve now met several times and chat most nights online. I discovered after a while that he was only 25. I had assumed he was early 30s on account of his life experiences. I’m now battling a personal dilemma. Only recently have I started to physically age. I have the wrinkles forming beneath my eyes and the need to dye my hair on account of the greys appearing. People still say I look mid twenties, but for how long? I’m beginning to fall for this guy. Should I cut and run now so I don’t get hurt? Or should I risk the heartache and just enjoy the time I DO have with him, for however long that might be? I realise the easy ‘outsider’ answer is the latter….but what about my heart? And the ensuing ego crush?

i am falling for a 17 year old when i am already 33 going on 34 next month. I think I am going mad, i really am, but i think those marry who they don’t love just because they are of the marriageable age are even madder. You make unhappy compromises with people you don’t intend to live with happily every after. You end up on the same bed for years with people you don’t even know really well, cos you were in such a hurry to get married. You don’t even feel connected but you have to start planning families with hopes that babies will connect you somehow, but eventually you just can’t wait for divorce to disconnect you. I think its insane. I’d rather choose something that makes me happy, and someone who makes me happy, never mind what is going to happen in the future – growing old and wrinkled, unable to have babies, unable to meet his parents, unable to mix with his juvenile friends, etc. etc. Its been so long since I was in love, in fact I think that I have never been in love before, so I am just going to make every moment count, just because I love every moment when I am with him. That should be enough for two people to merely be in love with each other.

I also realise that I don’t quite know what I am saying and at the same time, I am questioning, is this love, or am I just bored out of my brains that I can believe anything that makes my life more exciting? But, the heart has its own reasons that reason knows nothing of, so why not just make up some illogical reason so that you can follow your heart and give it some peace, instead of binding it with reason? Who knows, it may turn out to be a meaningful connection, a great friendship and even a love that is true and so rare that it may only appear once in your lifetime? As for me, my ‘illogical reason’ is, Try loving a younger guy – age is not a measure of maturity, an indication of the ticking biological clock, and at the very least, a joke for others at your expense. Age is a permission to do whatever you like (do it now or you may never get another chance at all), an ongoing discovery of ourselves (there is a part of me that never grows up and will never grow old), a challenge of convention (who knows, he loves your wrinkles more than you do). lll;) To all the women out there who are in love with younger men, no matter how much younger, don’t rush to be in love for fear of missing the boat, don’t hesitate anymore either just because you are not wrinkle free anymore, but take time to find out how right you are for each other. And if you love him, even if you have a feeling that it will not work out eventually, at least do tell him that you honestly love him now and see what happens! We have enough experience and wisdom at our age to go through setbacks to last through any heartbreak anyway. We also do not need every relationship to end up in marriage for us to be happy anyway. Have courage; pursue your desires and don’t let the clock stop us from going after what can be really good for our hearts!! (:

For those who think dating a younger guy is NOT a good idea what do you make of a 6 year gap? Is that slightly too much? I’m 28 and my bf is 22 we got on really well and have great chemistry I just ant stop worrying that although he fancies me loads now when I get older he’ll want someone younger. Am I just being silly?

This is confusing. I’m 35 and am with a boy 25. I want children… can a bambino have a bambino? It feels unfair to him. Yet I want him and I think we are in love. He loves me… He’s so wonderful. It hurts. I’ve dated younger boys but more like 4-5 years which is no big deal. But ten feels hard, it would be different if I had children already. my biological clock is ticking and this poor guy is at my mercy.

Hey girls (seems like most of you commenting are women) I’m a guy, and I’m casually seeing a 33 year old and I’m 18. I met her a year and a half ago through her sister who is 28 and we clicked instantly, and I kept seeing her at events and gatherings and we would chat all night and it was amazing. 2 weeks ago I saw her at an event and we were chatting again, so i finally plucked up the courage to tell her that I love her company too much to never know when I will see her next, and she gave me her number. From then we texted constantly, since then we have met up twice, the second time resolving with us in bed together.. I’m pretty sure I have strong feelings for her, now that we have been close privately, but now I don’t know how to tell her.. I’m worried that if she knows I really like her, a lot, I will see her and talk to her less then when I did before, because if I’m honest, for me, she is the most amazing person I have ever met

Hello all,
I’m turning 40 soon and I’m divorced with an 11 year old son. I’ve been single for 6 years and have dated a few people but without sex. Nothing has worked out. I’m very attractive and can pass for my 20s.
That being said, when the time comes I’m not judging anyone by their age.
I’m looking for a commited relationship not a romp in the hay “wham bam and thank u ma’am”
But I don’t judge anyone who dates younger.
I do think its wrong to date a teen or someone your kids age (if u have kids that age)
But other than that, who cares if you’re older by 20 years?
WATCH The movie HAROLD AND maude.
Its Excellent.
She’s 80. He’s in his 20s.

Dating/marrying a younger man isn’t wrong.
Men do it.
Why can’t we?
The only issue I have is when a woman dates someone their kids age or younger.
That’s weird to me.
But if you’ve never had kids then knock yourself out.
I’m 40 and my son is only 11, so if I wanted to date a 20 yr old I would. There’s women my age with 25 yr olds. (They were teen moms) well that sucks for them.
Ha ha
But not for me.
I think as a parent u should set limits and stay out of your kids dating pool.
The guy should be at least 10 years older than your kid.

Those of you who b*tch and complain about how a younger man turned out badly need reality checks.

All men are created equal.

Essentially this means there are good and bad men of every age group.

Would you judge all black men by a few?
Or white?

Age is the same as race.

Granted if someone is of legal age.

Reality check ladies!
Men are all horny pigs who want beautiful young sexy women.
So guess what?
Get with a man your age and the odds he will cheat are just as high as with a younger man.
Be yourself and be with who u want.
Age makes no difference

Well I an new to this. I am 40 year old woman. I have 2 grown children. I am divorced from there father for 5 years now. A little over a year ago I started to date a younger guy, much younger guy. John is 23, but much more mature that more guys his age. After a few dates we took our relationship to the next level. This is what made me fall so hard for him. The sex we have is the best sex I have ever had. The different positions, the size of him, and the new things we have done has just blown me away. He is the only guy that I have every had anal sex with and the way he dose it is unbelievable. We have been using the fertility awareness method (FAM), or an other way to say it is the pull out method. I don’t know if this is normal but when we are in the moment I feel compelled to have ( for a lack of better words ) bred me, You know get me pregnant. I know I don’t want anymore babies but I want him to get me pregnant. We I made the mistake od telling him about my feelings and the next time we made love, …..he did not pull out. As a matter of fact he has not pulled out since. So I am now 12 weeks pregnant. We are planning to get married next month. I am not giving birth single. In our future plans he wants three kids and I don’t know if I will be able to take that. I would like to hear from any women that had a baby with a younger guy and how it worked out. If you are still together and what. Thanks

I recently meet a gentlemen who is 28, I am 45. I read Sharon’s comment taking her advise.I want to get to know this fine gentlemen! I do have children of my own 26,22,17 I hope there okay with this … I need to enjoy my life and be happy.

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this is so good fo me i am 39 he is 32 i love any thing when comes to the bed room tis is why i state dating dating him now i am lcky to get it 1 o 2 times a week not good is it me or me i think it is him i need it more…

Support you. It’s the younger man choosing to be with you because you are intelligent, sexy, secure in your own skin, open-minded… non-threatening. You welcome anything into your life that fulfills your needs as a woman… accepting and receiving pleasure as you wish, as you choose. And, it’s having the power and carnal knowledge to do so. It’s the attitude that you are worth any and every effort and deserve all you desire, anything you want.

The younger man, the Cub who prefers a mature lady… wants a woman with all these attributes. He knows all those things about you instantly and he gravitates towards all that you are… because you are who you are, because you know all there is to know about most things he cares about. You know how to entice him, enthrall him, enjoy him… please him. You know you are a Cougar… and, are totally and completely proud of it. Which one am I?

The younger man respects my independence, my enthusiasm, my “worldly” knowledge and is not intimidated by my confidence. Also, he is capable of keeping up with me in spirit, activity, my need for adventure and spontaneity… and anything else that comes to mind. In addition, rarely are they boring!

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hey everyone im dating a wonderful gul she is awesome she is really great but something im nt certain about she tells me how she likes me and how she misses me and cant wait to see me and wants to always be with me but there is a problem im in college she is working and got her own car her own place and im in college studing still she is 9 years older than me she is 27 and yes i you figured it out im 18. not to brag or anything lot of older women think i am very mature for my age.so my problem is do you guys think that her intention can be good or is just my imagination please anybody with some advice tel me what should i do you guys some like ul can give a brother some advice thanks for reading

Go for it, have fun, depending on the situation…Just ended “seeing” a 39 yr. old guy (I’m 52)…He recently got spooked because he was having feeling for me, and he now realizes he wants kids…I find younger guys aren’t as judgmental, more honest, fun, and respectful…all, and all, it all depends on the guy.

Hello everyone. I just want to say, A couple of years ago when I was 22 I meet this very hot 43 year old woman that was an advertising saleswoman. I was buying a large amount of add space for the company that I work for. Well we had many meetings that ran late in the night. I think that she advanced me to move forward with the sell. We entered into a relationship that was great. We used BC most of the time but there were a lot of times were we used the pull out method. We had a close call. She was late but it turned out that she wasn’t pregnant. The thought of her pregnant with my baby really turned me on. So…. With out me asking her of talking about it, I decided to get her pregnant. My family did not like the ideal of our relationship at first but it worked out. My mother was mostly upset that I married a woman that is older than she is. My dad however likes her a lot. My wife and I get along great and we are working on our second baby. It does work with an older lady and a younger guy. Not all of us are retarded.

i am currently dating a guy who is 6 years younger than me..i am 33 and his 27.i never dated younger men, it was always an older guy.we are dating for a month now, funny was we meet a day before he flew back to his country (US) to deal with divorce papers lodged by his 2nd wife!he knew that i am still married and have 2 kids back home(am an Asian) but he also knew that me & my husband were practically separated.i never imagine he will be interested with me,though i look younger than him, he knows my age and my status.at first he was so good and sweet, not after he bought his new sports car and started to be busy, barely see me or texted me..most of the time he is also mean and rude to me or other people.i dont know if its his age or his situation that makes him such or it is his personality.i am patiently hoping that he will change.

i dont if i really need to continue with him…