In the dating forums, a reader asks: My boyfriend (27) and I (28) have been together for more than two years. The first year was long-distance, but we saw one another fairly regularly and now we live in the same city, although over the past three months, he's traveled a lot for work and only comes home every two weekends. We get along fabulously--he makes me laugh, he's charming, he's affectionate. BUT, I feel like I always struggle to spend time with him when he's home. I feel like we're drifting apart and I'm becoming more and more needy and demanding of his time, which annoys ME, so I can only imagine how he must feel.
I've wanted to live together for the past year but he refuses to talk about it, other than to say that he's not ready. I've gotten sick of waiting around for him, so I'm moving out in a couple of months (we both live with our parents right now, but I've lived on my own for 7 years before, whereas he's just been on his own for one year a couple of years ago).
I feel so torn--I do not want to break up with him. I love him, I have fun with him, we have the most fabulous and stimulating conversations (as long as it's not about 'us'), and he's someone that I could see myself marrying and having children with--he would be a wonderful father. I'm not ready to get married or have children yet, but my worst fear is that I get stuck is a going-nowhere relationship and then it gets to the point where I'm too old to have kids! I know that he wants to get married and have children one day too, but I'm just afraid that's going to be in ten years from now which is too long for me to wait. I know we need to talk about this but I'm terrified because I just know it will lead to us breaking up, which I don't want.
What do you think? Should this reader initiate a conversation with her boyfriend anyway, or should she let sleeping dogs lie and wait it out? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments.
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