Mel asks: "I've known this guy for a few months now. We spend most of our free time together, have shared numerous intimate (not sexual) experiences, and tell each other 'I love you' regularly. We're both in our 30's, and he's never had a romantic or sexual relationship, while I'm a single parent. I recently asked him if we're dating, and he said he doesn't feel it for me, doesn't have any curiosity as to what it would be like to really kiss me, have sex, or enter into a romantic relationship together, but several of his close friends have told him to continue forward with me to see if things evolve or change. He, however, doesn't think it will, but because he cares for me so much and thinks it would be amazing if we did end up together, he's 'staying in close proximity' just in case. He also said he feels like he's leading me on, and yet those near and dear to him have strongly suggested he just needs to be patient, because they found deep, exceptional, romantic love with someone they weren't initially attracted to, it just took time.
I really have no idea what to do. Do I continue forward with him and see what happens? Do I leave and nurse my broken heart for a man I love dearly, and with whom I've deeply connected with? Help!"
What do you think, dear readers? I'm all ears for your suggestions, advice and personal stories on this one, as I've debated a very similar topic with friends and colleagues recently without finding a consensus.