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What Makes a Woman Sexy?

By June 25, 2013

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I read an article a few years back in Women's Health (Buy Direct) that talked about the male viewpoint of what makes a woman sexy. In a nutshell? It's all about the moments where women don't go out of their way to be sexy but rather when they just... are. Driving barefoot, doing yoga and accidentally showing some skin while leaning over were mentioned as some of the sexier "accidents" that made women irresistible.

Interestingly, the men that took part in the survey also said forcing sexiness was a turn off. Therefore high heels are beautiful and appreciated, but not if you're obviously uncomfortable wearing them. Too much makeup, jewelry or skin showing were also mentioned as being not so sexy.

But what about you? What do you think makes a woman sexy? Why?

Reference: "SEXY BY ACCIDENT." Women's Health (08847355) 6, no. 5 (June 2009): 76-76.

June 23, 2009 at 9:35 pm
(1) Trevor H. says:

There are the usual physical features that all guys go for, but for me, it’s all in eyes and the face. One thing that I ABSOLUTELY go nuts for is women with glasses…. can’t explain it.

June 24, 2009 at 8:32 am
(2) max havelaar says:

Women who are -or seem to be- all all right with being a woman, natural womanhood so to speak.

Woman who are what they want to be. nothing more nothing less. Be what you are. no peer pressure, no media hypes, no fashion victims.

Some look/behave like what you think a woman (men do the same, really) should look or behave like. No need.

Life isn’t a stage, and we aren’t all actors. Life is an adventure, we are all here by mere accident, and therefore free to choose.

Nature, not nurture is sexy.

July 8, 2011 at 7:12 pm
(3) vanitaghosh says:

wow i really like that, sexyy is to b more natural than customised i think it goes the same way with women thinking abt guys

June 24, 2009 at 6:25 pm
(4) Alex says:

Spontaneity, humor, and confidence.

Women who aren’t trying to be sexy are much sexier than those who put effort into it.

June 27, 2009 at 6:18 pm
(5) kate s. says:

As a woman I’ve been called sexy before at the most inopportune times; wearing jeans and a tank, cooking dinner, or trying to read something with my librarian glasses on. I think sexy is in the eye of the beholder. When people care, sexiness becomes more apparent and little things become amazingly sexy!

June 28, 2009 at 5:23 pm
(6) Alex Carpenter says:

When men stop trying to appear politically correct about wanting “confidence” and “a woman who is herself” and just be honest and admit that you want stupid submissive Barbie dolls, the world will be a better, more honest place.

June 29, 2011 at 6:51 pm
(7) Arby says:

Maybe you’re going through something, so I won’t judge you. Goodness knows I’ve been going through something for the last 13 months.

I would say you’re right – partly. There are a lot of guys exactly like you describe. That’s not me though. And it isn’t all guys.

July 9, 2011 at 4:28 am
(8) Tony says:

Wow! You really tell it like it is, Alex! But I have to agree with you. You have a point. Still, I can’t tell from your name whether you’re male or female. (Alex can go both ways.) Either way, what about a gal’s view of a guy? Does she secretly go for the Rambo-types, too, or what?

October 22, 2009 at 1:19 am
(9) Chet says:

Alex (3) hit it with confidence. As well as a woman who knows the health aspects of a toned body, then eyes, face and great teeth. A woman who knows how to take care of themself and know what they want. I have one just like that. Without all the glitz and high maintenance.

February 3, 2010 at 5:36 pm
(10) Trish says:

I’ve been told it’s sexy when woman wear Red Sox, Celtics or Patriots jerseys, have a gym routine, work hard and wear their hair down.

February 8, 2010 at 11:36 am
(11) nick says:

i think its the way a woman carries herself, and is comfortable in her own skin. the too way out peroxide blondes with plastic bits, can be a turn off.

September 28, 2010 at 11:45 am
(12) Robinincarolina says:

I think sexy radiates from the inside out. It’s when a woman can just shine through with her true authentic self.

December 4, 2010 at 7:28 am
(13) Twaunta says:

The answer to the question; What makes a woman sexy is, it depends on who’s lookng. I will elaborae by saying that every man has his own preception of what’s sexy. Sometimes, hearing,you’re so sexy . can be annoying. I decided to d o my own survey by asking different guys the question, “why do you think I’m sexy? The answers were interesting and listed below.
1.Severeal men stated ,it’s the gap between your long legs.or its your curvy body or it’s the way you walk. I’m not impressed wth a man that’s hung up on the sex appeal What turns me on is a man that’s intelligent with great communication skills.

June 29, 2011 at 6:48 pm
(14) Arby says:

I like a healthy looking woman. Obviously I like a healthy woman. If she looks healthy, it’s more likely she will be healthy. Women are just as susceptible to advertizing as males and so you see them experimenting on their bodies with all kinds of crap. It can’t be good. It can’t be good to smear the same dark crap on your eyes for years. And then we’re having all these runs for cancer and what have you, never connecting the dots.

High heels look like crap to me, whether the foolish girls wearing them wobble or not. Lipstick never makes lips look better. Let me repeat that: NEVER! But, Buy the advertizing and you’ll buy the product, for which reason I expect the biz will continue to boom.

Don’t like tats or piercings. Ears are okay. Understated, as opposed to dramatic that forces you to notice, is appealing to me. It depends. If it’s dramatic because it’s revealing and sexy, that can be good. But it might not be.

That’s all.

July 2, 2011 at 10:31 pm
(15) Arby says:

Oh yes. Re perfume. I might like this or that frangrance, but I ‘never’ want to smell it. I’d rather breathe air. And that’s problematic these days.

Hair coloring? I can sympathize with the older girls who are catching the gray, but if you look good then the gray is not so bad. Still… What are you girls doing to your bodies with all those chemicals?

July 4, 2011 at 2:15 am
(16) Vieno says:

Generally, what I find sexy in a woman is what comes naturally. I am incredibally attracted to women with high strong cheekbones, strong defined jawlines, very bright blue/green eyes, red hair, and a nice healthy body type. I like women who care for their bodies, without going overboard and starving themselves, and what have you. I find overuse (or in some cases, any use) of makeup to be extreamly unnatractive. It can look very sexy when done right, however very few women can do professional level makeup application, and generally end up looking horrible. Like they’ve smeared a pie on their face. There’s nothing less attractive than that for me. Except for, perhaps, women trying to starve themselves to look ‘sexy’. Looking like a stick is not sexy in the slightest. A healthy amount of fat is attractive, I think more women need to realise this.

July 7, 2011 at 11:14 am
(17) Marty says:

Smart, funny, self-confident, unpretentious, a touch of zany; we walked past an art retailer that had a tall bronze woman on a pedestal. My girlfriend said “Wow, what big feet, they’re almost as big as mine.” I disagreed so she took of her shoes, climbed up on the base and measured feet with the statue.) Now that’s sexy!!

July 7, 2011 at 6:12 pm
(18) Darr says:

I agree with max comment. He stated that the natural women is sexy. A women that is ok with being a women. But from my experience men want a pretty face and a big butt and big boobs. They want you to be like the porn star they like to watch and be 21yrs old for the rest of your life. Then when they are bore with you they leave you for the next barbie.

July 9, 2011 at 4:41 am
(19) Tony says:

Okay, let’s face it. We’ve all peeked a little at some soft porn, haven’t we? (What? You haven’t? Then what are you doing at a site like this that talks about “Sex” and “Sexy”?)

Anyway, I find it not at all sexy that whenever a gal disrobes, she must necessarily and ALWAYS turn around to show the back door, south of the equator. What’s up with that?

I know elephants, horses, and cats have no choice but to mate in canine fashion, but, hey, human females aren’t any of such creatures.

What’s wrong with simply disrobing while staying in a front & center position, smiling and teasing if you will, without constantly turning your back? As long as you’re familiar with bikini wax, your front is just fine, thank you.

July 9, 2011 at 5:02 am
(20) Tony says:

COUNT ME OUT, Darr! I’m a man’s man, totally male — but I NEVER went for big butts or oversized udders. Oh, sure, I’d glance at an attractive pair of wily jeans walking away, or a nicely fitting short skirt prancing down the sidewalk … but a simple “hand-full” at the top, along with an attractive pair of legs will ring my bell just fine, thank you. Big boobs, for me, are actually a total turn-off (and especially those filled with plastic or styrofoam, or whatever it is that’s been inserted in there.)

October 15, 2011 at 12:55 am
(21) Wasup says:

Hmmm, i suppose some traits that would make a woman sexy to me would include shyness, cuteness, personality, confident, boldness, humorous, hair (idk about you but i like it when the hair is down, to much anime ehehe), along with a sense of fashion.

December 30, 2011 at 1:44 pm
(22) married40yr.old says:

My husband says its the little things I do that make me sexy. We are pretty open as far as talking about our sex life and what we like or don’t like so to say it like it is, he thinks its sexy when I can touch myself during sex. He thinks its sexy when I wear just a tank top (usually one of his) and just panties. I feel sexy when he takes them off of me. He thinks I’m sexy when I look at him a certain way. He thinks I’m sexy with makeup and without makeup. He thinks I’m sexy when I’ve just showered and taken the towel off my head and my hair is all wet and stringy……and funny but he thinks its “cute” when we are in a big store and I look lost looking for him and he’s standing right there!!!

Now don’t think I don’t have body issues because I do but the fact that he thinks I’m sexy just the way I am makes me feel good. I once was a stripper but now I am 40 and the gym days are long in the past. We are re-joining a gym though. I’d like to feel as good about myself as he makes me feel in his eyes.

April 19, 2012 at 4:38 pm
(23) TinkerBell says:

@Wasup, I’m exactly like the girl you described here. Glad to hear I’m appreciated in an anonymous way :)

June 20, 2012 at 6:22 am
(24) Adam says:

Well, it’s like I’ve noticed in my relationship and dating experiences. (Most) women that I’ve dated aren’t interested in skirt chasers, if you leave them with something to find out about and you don’t throw yourself at them, it seems like they’re attracted to that more. I think a similar point applies here. A lot of women looking for a one night stand will make it obvious that they’re trying to get some action. When that’s evident, guys (like myself) get the idea that maybe they just only want that and nothing else. Innocent behavior is a big turn on for most guys. It shows that (for the most part) the woman is more reserved than a woman that goes all out on makeup, sexy dresses and jewelry. I think it’s more of an issue of showing respect for the person you’re going on a date with. That’s really what I think it is. Why do you think the term, “you really know how to treat a lady” was created? I think this is basically the way of reversing the term for guys.

June 25, 2012 at 4:43 am
(25) nobu says:

I agree with husband of married40yr.old. be re-fit.

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(26) dressy jeans for women says:

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November 28, 2012 at 9:34 pm
(27) Charlie says:

In my book, what would make a woman sexy? Height and body shape.
I have always admired women who resembled Gaston LaChaise’s statue “STANDING WOMAN” (the voluptuous hour glass figured statue that has her hands on her wide hips). In short if the woman was tall, hour glass shaped with a BIG BUTT, WIDE HIPS, and yes BIG FEET (yeah thanks to Deuce Bigalo Male Gigalo I havethe hots for really tall Norwegian women with giant pair of feet!). Another thoing that I find irresistably sexy is if that special girl I just described had a cleft (parted ) chin. These special girls have given me fond memories and I associate those kind of girls lust and romance. I never get enough of their company. I truly adore them. By the way, you do resemble I cutie I once dated in Michigan but now lives in Washington state.

March 28, 2013 at 1:16 pm
(28) Cynthia McGee says:

Sexy for a woman is not only or just a look. Being sexy is just being who you are. It can sometimes be the way her bang falls in her face. She can be short or tall or just somewhere in between. Long hair or short. Large breast or small. Round hips or thin…. It’s all in her walk and talk. Sexy can be all over a woman. It’s nothing she’s trying to be or do. She doesn’t even realize she’s sexy or that people deem her that way. She likes herself and finds things physically, emotionally and spiritually that enhances who she is. She’s comfortable in her own shoes and does not have to run with the crowd. Mostly a singular woman who can blend in with everyone. She’s balanced and just loves being a woman and not afraid to express it.

March 29, 2013 at 11:42 pm
(29) Aalis says:

I do not wear makeup,I am not a stick,and I am not fat.I have Irish looking raven curls.Funny extravert personality(though sometimes IT can be quite serious) I am healthy and My Mom thinks(as well as others) that I am beautiful.question:what is the difference between sexy and beautiful.I am constantly being called the latter(by the opposite gender) I have thought about it…But cannot come to a satisfactory conclusion.Any help?… please?*big eyes*

April 11, 2013 at 10:39 am
(30) Dan H says:

Looks, Men are turned on by LOOKS, it’s the way we’re wired. The good news is we’re turned-on by looking at women. Lots of times, we miss chances, because we’re looking some place else. If you see some guy you like say, HI ! Ask him his name? Treat him like a friend. That little bit of interaction will suddenly help us notice how sexy you are! If the vibe is right, if you spark our intrest…. the chase is on. You don’t have to throw yourself at us, or run around half naked, all you have to do is make us notice YOU! YOU, have to make us SEE YOU.

May 3, 2013 at 12:44 am
(31) Otto says:

Most women who look like they feel sexy usually are. As a culture black women like their curves better compared to the average white girl who’d rather be thinner. The attitude makes all the difference.

May 5, 2013 at 12:37 am
(32) Otto says:

It’s often subconscious. My present interest is studious looking and conservatively dressed but very attractive. We are in law school and have a mutual interest in the Myers-Briggs test and it showed some similarities between us. I feel sexual tension around her but it is attraction and infatuation not lust. She isn’t available and neither am I. I would love a prolonged hug from her and would love to smell her beautiful brown hair and then continue with our study group. Though I admire and respect her, I have no desire to disrupt her marriage or mine. She is an infatuation that will fade back to mere friendship. Very self-validating. Thank you S, I greatly appreciate you.


May 5, 2013 at 12:47 am
(33) Otto says:


The big difference is smiling. Smiling will double your attractiveness. The makeup and crap does nothing for me. Makes me think a woman has gooey skin that I wouldn’t want to kiss. Natural + happy = beautiful. Sticks don’t look huggable but even big girls are beautiful when they look happy and natural.

When I am particularly happy and not preoccupied with worries I get smiles from most women I see as well as pleasant nods from men.

July 13, 2013 at 2:32 pm
(34) mike says:

I like women who are not only sexy on the outside but also on the inside. I look for personality first. The outer appearance is only an added bonus

October 25, 2013 at 11:47 am
(35) Ajit Holkar says:

I think we have to be clear. I think its a lot to do with the culture as well. In India, women with slim figure, long black straight hair, cladded in saree, shy & submissive nature, etc. will make you go mad. In the west, its about open minded approach. In the east, its all about suspense. You know what I mean…

January 27, 2014 at 1:29 pm
(36) Thomas says:

I love to see a woman smoking cigarettes beautifully. Even a woman who is only average looking becomes like a model if she know how to smoke a long white cigarette with class. Women who smoke turn the heads of every guy in the room, just watch sometime when a pretty women smokes how every guy is drawn to watching her.

April 14, 2014 at 12:02 pm
(37) chris says:

Thomas, If you think a woman smoking a cigarette beautifully is sexy, just go smell her nasty breath and take a look at her stained tobacco ridden teeth. She won’t be sexy no more sweetheart.

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