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Are Casual Dating Sites Real?

By December 30, 2013

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Dan asks, "I am looking for adult dating site for casual encounters. Do you know some websites that are real?"

I get this question a fair amount, mostly from gents. (see: Are There Any Legitimate Adult Dating Sites?) My answer pretty much remains the same, however I'm answering it again, as I find folks looking for 'adult' dating and casual dating are after two different things.

So to answer Dan: I'd say most of the sites are 'real', in that they're intended to make money for the owners and actually connect folks. What's in question however is whether the profiles are real, as well as the people behind them.

I've reviewed a number of sites catering to casual dating, with mixed reviews from readers like you. All of them have some fake profiles - I think that's a given. Fake could mean completely bogus profiles to trump up numbers, staff members posing as members to engage folks, prostitutes or cam girls to try and get new clients, romance scammers looking for money, or people who say they're someone other than they are. It's tricky to monitor this sort of thing. Depending on your age, interests, and what you're like in person, you may well have better luck at the club/bar finding someone for a casual relationship, to be frank. Women have all the control on these sites, and the real ones are few and far between.

If you're really dead set on using a dating site however, I'd try OkCupid first, and make sure you put you're looking for casual in your profile, and then search for the same. I've also had moderate luck with Adult Friend Finder (in the chat rooms only, the free ones), Lavalife in their Intimate Encounters section (mostly for Canadians though), Craigslist, and FetLife (not technically a dating site, and only for really open minded, kinky folks - read more about them here: BDSM Dating Sites).

What about you? Do you think that casual dating sites are 'real'? Any tips or points for success?

Related: Do Polyamorous Dating Sites Really Exist?, Plenty of Fish Removes Members Looking for Intimate Encounters,

February 4, 2014 at 4:46 am
(1) Online dating says:

free dating sites are struggling hard to give most effective results. however, the problem is not of dating sites but users. Commonly most of users on free dating sites are not serious, rather scams. whereas. on paid dating sites, less chance of scam, bots and catfishes exists.

February 27, 2014 at 11:25 am
(2) sure not says:

I have been trying to find someone on the dating sites for 3 years and have spent a lot of money on paid sites only to find that the men are not who they say they are… Lots of lookers but never anyone wanting to meet me but have the guts to ask for money… I do not believe they read your profile..They only look at pictures because they do not know how to read. If they did read your profile they would know if they are your type or not… They use the dating sites to hurt others who are lonely, scared of being alone.. So if you ever do find a real site for people that are really looking for a real relationship please post it….

March 24, 2014 at 5:55 am
(3) steve says:

I don’t believe all sites are scams. Most sites usually belong to larger chains and these people are in the business of making money not scamming. However, and I don’t want to mention any names here, but certain classified sites are the haunts of scammers.

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