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Dating New Years Resolutions

By December 31, 2013

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Do you have any dating-related New Years resolutions this year? I've solicited singles, couples and experts for their views and ideas, creating two New Years resolution lists that I think will be helpful to a lot of readers:

A couple of the suggestions - such as 39-year-old Megan Reese's of creating a 'Man Plan' for her dating life - are extensive yet focused, while others are simple shifts in one's worldview to improve either the relationships we are attracting, or those we already have. And then there is a whole other level of New Years resolution, and I've found one that is so above and beyond the norm (but fascinating!) that it deserved more than just a quick quip in an article.

The first comes from best selling authors and challenge creators Pastor Kerry Shook and his wife Chris. Their book, One Month to Live, suggest that those wanting a dramatic shift in their lives just need to think about what they'd do if they only had thirty days left. From one of their press releases:

"Arguably, resolutions fail because there's no sense of urgency. With a whole year ahead to reach the goal, it's easy to relegate it to the back burner or forget about it altogether. Indeed, in one study nearly 40 percent of respondents cite having too many other things to do as the reason for breaking their resolutions. But what if instead of just making resolutions you acted as if you had only 30 days to live and to really make a difference in your life?"

What about you? Have you ever gone to extreme lengths to find a date? Would you? Have you resolved to improve about your dating life or relationship for 2013?

Related: Tips for Keeping New Years' Resolutions

December 31, 2008 at 2:58 pm
(1) Eric says:

I haven’t written my January column yet, but it’s going to be about my dating resolution, which is to be less pragmatic and more idealistic. I’m going to stop making excuses for someone on that first or second date (e.g. “Well, she’s really smart,” or “At least she has pretty eyes,”) and go back to holding out for someone who gives me that thrill-spark of chemistry and potential.

I may have fewer dates in 2009, but at least I won’t be wasting anyone’s time trying to force myself into contentment.

January 4, 2009 at 11:13 am
(2) Miami Life Coach & Dating Coach says:

GOod Stuff.

January 13, 2009 at 2:27 pm
(3) John says:

Awesome Article, you all should checkout Matchmaker International. They do police background checks and make sure everyone is who they say they are. Thats how i found my girl, now trying to find a good date idea lol.

December 28, 2010 at 1:27 am
(4) Tom Head says:

I have one all-encompassing New Year’s Resolution: take more initiative. This definitely applies to dating, dancing, kissing, and other things. I tend to be too passive, and I’m working on that.

December 28, 2010 at 9:42 am
(5) Match says:


I do have resolutions for this. i would like to find some nice girl for dating.

December 29, 2010 at 2:50 am
(6) rencontre says:

For 2011 the right resolution for couples would spend more time listening to the other … ^ ^ It’s a good resolution but for how long;) Happy New Year 2011 to all!

January 12, 2013 at 8:17 pm
(7) san9 says:

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January 21, 2014 at 10:02 pm
(8) Dateinsky says:

My New Year’s resolution when it comes to dating is to never trust someone easily. I learned my lesson now, and this year Ii will be more careful on choosing whom to go out with.

Nice article by the way. :)

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