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Research Shows What Tactics To Use To Meet Someone Special

By March 27, 2014

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A few years ago the magazine Scientific American Mind discussed how we meet someone we marry, live with, or partner with (either short term or long term). Interestingly, some dating statistics presented in the article provided variations between the different relationship statuses and how we meet, and showed that it wasn't that different depending on how committed we were: the majority in all four scenarios meet through friends most of the time, with self-introduction and family members falling suit. Of course there were some predictable variations - such as short-term partnerships (i.e. casual relationships) meeting through self-introduction the most and family members the least - but I found the study results interesting.

In the article, writers Nicholas A. Christakis and James H. Fowler tackle the seemingly debate-ridden stance that meeting the love of our lives has less to do with randomness and chance, and more to do with social networks than anything else. Out goes the romantic notion that a 'happy accident' or fate pulling people together such as in many a romantic comedy. No, the stats are quite clear: if you want to find someone to partner up with, no matter what kind of relationship you are looking for, use your social networks.

But how about you? How did you meet your current, or last partner? Take the poll and let me know.

Christakis, N.A., & Fowler, J. H. (2009, November/December). Love the one you're with. Scientific American Mind, 20(6), 48-55.

May 5, 2011 at 5:25 am
(1) workaholicswooo says:

My boyfriend and i met through my ex, actually they were really good friends. It sounds worse than it really is. They stopped being friends before my ex and i broke up, and after three months of getting over my brake up he and i hung out and have been inseparable since.

June 16, 2011 at 11:41 pm
(2) How to make a girl like you says:

I and my girlfriend(my wife) met at a small shop. She was comming from church.

March 29, 2012 at 4:15 pm
(3) Dobie says:

Some social networks actually facilitate meeting without actually doing a self-introduction or a specific intro by a friend (or associate). This is becoming a more common way to meet – so I am wondering how to register it.

If I go to a group social event (like Meetup) and within the group associates (some I know, some I don’t) expose us to a potential future partner – how would I indicate that? Should I say self-introduction – we got involved in the same group conversation)? Or through a friend – associates I knew to different degrees who were in that group conversation)?. Or could there be a separate category for meeting via group dynamics?

April 23, 2013 at 12:52 pm
(4) Catherine says:

I personally donít prefer any sort of social networking communication for building a relationship. How can a person be so illogical and can put his\her life on stake over social networking site? I mean there are hundreds of people who do click your profile then how can you be so sure that the girl\guy you are hunting down will remain honest to you and ainít double crossing.

April 12, 2014 at 8:06 am
(5) moses shaibu says:

i met my girl friend at the eatry. that was just last month.we started as friends before we became lovers.

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