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Do You Have One Who Got Away?

By May 24, 2014

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The movie the Ghosts of Girlfriends Past got me thinking - namely, about people I or my clients have dated but, for whatever reason, things didn't work out.

It seems those longing or thinking about a person they've crossed paths with is the minority, according to SpeedDate.com, who polled their users in 2011 about the one who got away, and whether or not they'd want to reconnect again. Although 65% of the respondents stated they did have someone who got away, only 29% would want to make contact again to see if they could date once more. Just over 5300 people responded to the poll.

But what about you? Do you have someone that got away? What happened? Would you make contact with them again? Why or why not?

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May 31, 2009 at 1:28 pm
(1) Tips on how to kiss says:

Nop, I’ve stuck with one. :)

June 2, 2009 at 3:38 pm
(2) Tyler says:

Probably most of us have the feeling that a special someone got away; I did; and, I made that what might have been into some kind of prefect fanasty which could not be,in reality all we have is the now, one can not live in the past or the present;I wished that special someone well and eventually moved on

June 2, 2009 at 10:31 pm
(3) Barrett says:

I let her go twice over with 4 years in between. It wouldn’t have worked without those mistakes but I’ll never let her go again.

June 11, 2009 at 1:35 am
(4) Rachel says:

I met mine at the age of 13. At the age of 15 we started “seeing” each other. We were on again off again for about 6 years. Been through a lot together… in fact a ton. We weren’t always very good for each other. He recently contacted me after a break of 9 years. It seems as if we’ve both changed and want “us” to work out. I guess we’ll take things one day at a time and see. Here’s hoping :)

June 14, 2009 at 8:22 pm
(5) Lynn says:

My first love is definitely the one who got away. The timing wasn’t completely right and I thought there was no way I found the one for me that early on in life (end of high school, pre college). But it’s been two years and I still think about him. It was true love and I want it back…

June 27, 2009 at 11:42 pm
(6) hannah says:

yes. and its painful in hoping and waiting that someday he will come around

September 24, 2009 at 5:25 pm
(7) Caroline says:

I have a “one that got away”. This is actually an odd story, we live across the country from each other right now. We met online, and we hang out when I’m in his part of the country but there’s always one of us who’s in a serious relationship. I know deep in my heart that he’s the one for me. You know when you just know??? Who knows what will happen, maybe one day…

October 26, 2009 at 3:26 am
(8) Rico says:

I have someone that got away. Her name was Lori Ann Rouleau and I spent some of the most amazing times in my life with her!! She always understood me and we talked about everything, smiling and joking around was common for us and definitely the passionate fire of love burning between us… I look back now a year and I still think about her.tears and sadness keep tearing my heart apart everyday as I go and life seems so little to me.. Barely sleeping thinking about her now and forever wishing she could unbreak my heart.. To me love is more than words,love is every nurturing feeling you get with the ony person in the world that makes you happy. Lori Ann I love you now and forever.

December 4, 2009 at 11:55 am
(9) blueviolet2 says:

yes, M and I were 21 when we met (at work) but were both dating other people, so that eliminated any potential for romance :) nevertheless, we became very good friends over the next few years and eventually broke up with our SOs and started having feelings for each other (i was 24 or 25, i think), but we never took it to the next level. then one of our mutual friends passed away and we stopped speaking, beyond small talk (the occasional email, etc.). i think it was just too much for him, and i didn’t yet have my act together (i was still living at home and working only part-time). when i was 27, i got my own place, found a career that i enjoy, and met my future husband, T, all in the space of a year; it was like clockwork. however, i keep running into M because we live in the same town and work around the corner from each other. it’s so annoying because he tries to make small talk but i would rather just avoid him, put the past on a shelf where it belongs, but i guess life is just messy sometimes.

July 14, 2010 at 3:56 pm
(10) Marie says:

I do. Its hard too. At the time he was coming out of an engagement, I had just lost my mother and my father couldnt handle the loss so he took off and I was left taking care of myself and my brother. He had a whole list of things going on. We tried to make it work but we were both in a messed up situation. Him with his ex fiance, me and my life. So we both went our separate ways. I met a wonderful stable man who I saw a future with and he got engaged. Then shortly after I got engaged and quickly married. He is now due to be married in a few short weeks. We are tied through family so it makes it even more difficult. He confronted me a few months ago, after he saw my wedding ring for the first time. He said, ever think of what could have been? … I had pushed him away a few times during the time my husbad and I were dating. We had such a strong chemistry but I just didnt see a future together… we both had so much going on timing was never right. Life is weird like that… but that night he confronted me, it was like a stab in the chest… It was a realization of how much I really did love him. How much I really did enjoy havin him in my life and realizing he would no longer be there.. that was a heart ripper… I am still torn over it. But am moving on with my life. He will forever have a special place in my heart.

February 19, 2011 at 12:33 pm
(11) Josh says:

I just awoke from dream, where I was together again, with the “One who got away”.

When I awoke, I actually started crying, because I was so sad.
I know it’s over. I’ll never have that again.

March 9, 2011 at 3:18 am
(12) Lola says:

I think most of have that story or some story like that. Mine is also the one that got away, but we were never a item… You know those movies, were the guy/girl has this great friend and there is soooo much chemistry and it’s clear for the world to see they should be together, but one of them or both of them are either in a relationship or coming out of one, or the timing was just off, his ex came back and well before you know it they were expecting a child together….. of cours he did the stand up thing … THat’s my story. After many years we got contact again..and eventually after a few years finally spoke about what happened or actually what never happened. So though both of us I think are still holding on to what could’ve been… or should’ve been LOL we at least spoke about it, the air was cleared. added though we haven’t actually physically seen each other in at least 7 years We email and so on… I don’t think I could resist him if I had to see him.. and both of us are married with children… so it may not be wise to actually see him. But above all I will rather have him as only a friend in my life than not in my life at all.

May 10, 2011 at 8:48 pm
(13) jean says:

Oftentimes it’s the one ‘you let go’ that’s why she got away. You didn’t seize the moment. And then live miserably in regret.

May 13, 2011 at 1:41 pm
(14) How-to-make-a-girl-you says:

Yes, and it hurt really bad.

November 19, 2011 at 6:30 pm
(15) Dominion says:

Well I did have one that got away. I think in my mind she was the perfect one? Great smile great laugh whenever I saw her my stomach would have butterflies. I guess I wasn’t in the same school so it was tough to get to know her. Furthermore se was in a different league from me, studies wise. Ultimately after asking her out a few times and failing. I figured that I shouldnt waste any more time. But when I saw her get attached. My feelings were mixed. Happiness because she’s found her partner finally. Sadness etched on my heart because of the prospect that our fairy tale love cannot occur again.
All this is funny because I remember the day I met her. Clear as day. I crashed her class. She was rather small and..impish looking then (before she somehow became extremely beautiful) and in class I spoke about something and she turned around and flashed me that impish grin. I cannot forget that moment.

June 11, 2012 at 7:29 am
(16) justice says:

Yes and it hurts so bad that I never thought that I can moved on.I hope and pray that he will love me the same as I did.He left me or left the country rather for work.He worked in US at P.T. got a better offer and grab it.We broke up not because I like it/we both like it its because he thinks that is is better for both of us.He thought tht he can’t be unfair and let me wait for him/for nothing.So i felt so devastated and wish that he will still contact me.Years had passed time healed my broken heart and moved on.eventually I met the one.My husband my bestfriend my everything.My husband is so loving,caring and most of all very understanding.We started our relationship as a long distance relat. I thought at 1st that us will not going to work or last.I was wrong it did worked and he proved his love to me and showed me what really love is.After a year of being married my ex bf (the one that got away and let me go)suddenly pop up.I saw him from my social network account having some common friends.I coudn’t understand how i felt when i saw his profile picture with his ex gf and now they are back together.I was so shocked my heart / my mind cannot express how I felt that day.I just added him up just for the sake but still just to see how things are going and how his life now.He accepted the invite and from there we started talking and asking each others lives.It was unreal,cant describe how I felt really.Happy to be able to talk to him and sad that he is with someone else and this someone else is the ex gf. Things didnt work for them,so he dated another girl wc is the girl that he date once before we met.
To make the story short they got married too quickly just like me and my husband.. but he is “Unhappily married” guy so now they are in the process if getting an annulment.Its so weird that have a long distance relationship too.When it was me he didnt want to have a long distance relationship.

June 24, 2012 at 11:50 pm
(17) chibidaisukiriku says:

I definitely have one that got away. I had just moved back to my home town with my family at the age of 12 towards the beginning of the 7th grade. His face was the first one I recognized as I passed through my classes that first day. We talked and were friends, but as I grew feelings for him I became more distant and shy and too afraid to speak with him. We dated that grade, and broke up after 2 months, and were off and on again twice more in the 8th grade. High school was a roller coaster for the two of us. No one liked to see us together due to the reputations we had created for each other through our hurt. After a year of silence, we resumed talking on rare occasion and passing occasional hello’s and hugs secretly in the hallways. When junior year hit we snuck around and skipped many classes. We grew quite intimate during our secret rendezvous. He soon dropped out of high school and left with out a word and I moved on to a new love that was wonderful, but never quite the same. I married 6 months after high school and then 4 months afterwards, my one that got away came out of the wood work one last time before disappearing forever. I never got any questions answered. Before I could ask any, he would vanish in the blink of an eye. So I’m left wondering what could have been. But no matter the circumstances, we always seemed to come back to each other, the circumstances were just never good. But he will always hold a place in my heart like no other man ever will.

June 29, 2012 at 10:15 am
(18) Kelly says:

Yes I did have one that got away. He played guitar for a very well known country singer and while he lived in Nashville, I lived in Texas. The distance made it very hard but still I was so head over heels in love with him. I knew he was the person I wanted to marry within months of knowing him. I was going to move out there but because of my finances at the time I couldn’t do it. We still tried to make it work but eventually split up. Its been 5 years and even though I was in a relationship with someone else I never ever got over him. He and I are still very dear friends. He is my best friend actually. I want to tell him how I feel but now that I am out of my relationship, he is with someone else. My heart re-breaks every day and it hurts even worse than it did when he first broke my heart. Time never healed my wounds; it made it worse. I am sure the person he is with is great but I know for a fact she could never ever love him as much as I could. I know he feels the same way too because he still looks at me the way he did when we were together and when he spots me in a crowd he lights up like the fourth of July. I pray everyday that he can get over the distance and just follow his heart right back to me. :-(

July 8, 2012 at 1:26 pm
(19) Recovering says:

My story is a but sad. I was a freshmen in high school when I first met him in my Geometry class. Our friends were friends and we eventually became best friends. The both of us could talk about anything we were comfortable and very young. We flirted and baited we had fun. I fell in love with him over time and I realized it in the middle of my Senior year. I broke up with my boyfriend months before school ended. A month later he did the same thing with his girlfriend. We meet that Friday night at Apples Bees and ordered everything on the Menu. Then we drove home and walked out to the lake by our house and drank an entire bottle of wine pretending to be adults. :) That night the truth came out , he told me he loved me, ” I know you think of me as your best friend and I know you call me your brother but did you ever think of how I felt about you? I’ve been in love with you for 4 years. Through high school I only thought about you.” Of course I was speechless so he got up and started walking home, I ran after him and told him that I loved him too. He kissed me and walked me home at night holding right hand. I thought everything would be wonderful and we could somehow be together but fate was cruel. That Saturday afternoon the mailman dropped off a few heavy packets at our houses. I got into Lehigh University and Drexel University for their 7 year medical program, my dream schools. i ran to his house to show him, but the news he gave me was bittersweet. He got into Stanford for Law. We reduced the amount of times we saw each other and soon forgot each other. My parents moved away and bought a nice apartment in New York City so i thought I’d never see him again. I saw him the other day , a girl in my sorority and him are getting married, I’m happy for him but I’m hurt. He asked me to meet him for coffee just as old friends and I may or may not.

August 9, 2012 at 2:36 am
(20) Ashley says:

I think I def have a one that got away. I met him about three years ago randomly at a local bar/nightclub me and all of my friends go to. I had seen him the week before and wanted to approach him but he was with another guy and I chickened out. The night I met him he just happen to be standing right behind me and so I asked him for a light for my cigerette, very Bond Girl of me, I felt so cool. We started talking and drinking, dancing, it was the best night ever. Long story short we hung out and talked for a solid week, when he got re-stationed to a base in Florida and had to leave immediately, I always felt like our time was cut so short and that I missed out on, the one, my one.

August 16, 2012 at 1:16 am
(21) Rachael says:

I too had met the love of my life too young…Timing is everything isn’t it.
I was 16 he was 19, lets call him Ant. We were together for 3.5 years, we were great together, it was very natural, like it was meant to be, we spent just about every moment we could together, he was protective of me, adored me and I him, my time with him has created memories that make me smile and make my heart break over again. When I think about it, I was too young and stupid, his sister in the last 12-ish months of Ant and my relationship discovered partying, I enjoyed it, it was so new to me, so of course newer and exciting people (I thought they were anyway at the time) came into my life…I ended up cheating, even though I had broken it off with Ant, he found out, it all became an ugly mess, ugly break up and I thought I was going to have a nervous breakdown for 3-5 years afterwards…yep it really hit me very hard
Do you wish you could ever go back in time and change everything? I have lived with the guilt of what I did to Ant for almost 20 years now and the way it ended, no I have not sat around dwelling on it every single day in the last 12 odd years, but there are days where my thoughts do turn to him and wonder “what could have been” common sense tells me I was also very young and naive and stupid and those are the years where you will make stupid decisions, well I have lived with my stupid decision for so long now, I feel like whenever things don’t go right, this is my just deserts or punishment for what I did to my soul mate..
I also think it was unfair that he walked into my life at such a young age, I wish I had have been a little older when I would have had more wisdom and maturity.
He has moved on, last I heard he was married and they are expecting a child.
Life has taught me some very valuable lessons, cherish the people in your life that love you and you them. I hope Ant wherever he is, is loved and happy.

August 31, 2012 at 11:30 am
(22) Regret says:

Yes. When I was 17, I met Mike. We went to the same school. We hung out quite a bit… Our first kiss was passionate but awkward cause he couldn’t stop smiling. A month or so after that we lost contact cause we both lived on opposite sides of the city and I didn’t go to that school anymore. A couple years pass and I decided to text him to catch up, we’d talk and make plans to see eachother. We never got to meet up cause timing wasn’t right.
I’m now in a relationship with another man and expecting his child. We both knew that we still have feelings for eachother but it was never said. Just recently I broke the pregnancy news to Mike and had the urge to apologize. He said ‘ I don’t deserve that, i blew it.’ Then he expressed that he still does and always will have feelings for me and i feel the same way. The what ifs haunt me and now it’s too late to act on those feelings, I regret not making a bigger move with Mike and i do consider him
To be the one that got away. the very sad part of it was we both knew and after all these years we never said anything. I just wish I could go back, since that’s impossible i’ll never know. Regret at it’s worst

September 9, 2012 at 3:50 pm
(23) Louisa says:

I have a similar situation, but I never got to be with the guy I wanted to be with. We never dated. We never kissed, never shared love or anything. But I knew he was the one for me. We met in high school and I was 14 at the time he was 15. A year had passed and he was ready for doing his GCSE exams and told me he was moving, and that he also had feelings for me. I let him go, and realised after myself I loved him back too. 5 years later I’m 20 he’s 21 he’s engaged and having a baby… and I think i’m still in love with him. We have talked just this morning, but it was catch up, over the years he’s expressed his feelings and so have I. You never know what may come of it, but it looks like he’s very happy and I’m just going to have to get over it too. :/

September 18, 2012 at 6:15 pm
(24) Eve says:

My best guy friend got away!,, I met him 5 years ago. We were both getting out of relationships with people who cheated!!! Our trial brought us close
. He helped me to move & then we lost touch for a year. We ran into each other again & exchanged #’s. We stayed in touch & went out to lunch a few times. Well he was serial dating & I was not dating. We had many conversations for hours. I developed feelings for him. He finally asked me out! I told him no. I didn’t wanna be his backup plan. I also told him it would ruin our friendship. He stopped calling. 4 months later he started texting me to say. I’m married. Well. I congradulated him. She cheated on him & my shoulder was available for him. We have still a lot of respect for each other. I am encouraging him to go to counseling & keep his commitment. I have met a wonderful man who loves me & wants to marry me. My true love got away. My best friend. Reality is. ..we missed our chance… i hope I can develop a future with my reality of what is… & not what could have been!!!!!

September 23, 2012 at 6:07 pm
(25) Jane says:

I have been totally in love and obsessed with my first true love from 20 years ago……and I still am.
I’m now married as I had to move on after he let me go…..and I new he was making a big mistake.
We are in contact through finding Facebook and then him but it’s hard to talk to him really as I know he will never be mine
What can you do?…..it makes me sad if I think too much about him wnch I often do but I have to be strong for my family….I have 2 children.
I will stay in contact with him for as long as he wants me to as I know I can never let him go…..ever.I lve him and always have done…….life’s just not far sometimes :(

October 1, 2012 at 5:36 am
(26) distance-makes-the-heart-grow-weak says:

Last night I had a dream about my one that got away. I was sad when I woke up.. I didn’t realize that it was a dream for a few minutes. I miss him and love him dearly with all my heart, and I wish him well. Bad timing and distance. My heart hurts for him sometimes, and I cry a little. We’re in the “maybe one day” phase… I really hope that one day we will try again, but I think we both know that it wont happen. Sometimes we chat on gtalk, but it’s painful.

October 12, 2012 at 11:55 am
(27) Satish desai says:

I love my xGF very much.It has been 6 yrs as of now.We first meet at school tym.Nxt tym it was engg college.When we meet again ,we continuied our friendship.. iT was good going for 2 months ,we used to chat at night for long.But on day I returned home,I fihished talking to her I went outside as my mom said me to purchase some things frm the grocery store.I went ,then she gave me miss call.My parents were at home. My mom retur call on my gf no,Myparents were not having a healthy rellationship during that period.My parents scoulded her .Iwhen I cam eback I listed everything ove r the call ,But I pretende d that I knew nothing,insted I told her taht it was my auncle& aunty,But she rmes,i APOLIZED HER FOR ALL WHAT EVER HAPPED.ealized that I was lying her.After taht I made many clls,sms, to make her cme back ,bUt She neglected me …Ilove her very much,Till Today I m not abvle to forgrt her,NoW when I contacted her she told me that some one is on her mind,she dont even remember my face.I love her a lot.I cant imagine without her.I remember her ereryday.I dont know why I lied her ,for what reason,I have a bad habbit of teeling lies to people,but By nature I m good in all other people minds.What to do.I called her several times ,aplogized her for what I did.I realized my mistake.I tried to contact via FB but she did not accept my friend request.We had a conversation withFb .She has blocked me now what to do.I relly love & wnt her back in my life..

October 20, 2012 at 8:11 pm
(28) Sadderthaniwas says:

I had one that got away…he was separated when we met and went back to his wife. He reappeared recently after 7 years, going through a divorce and wanting to reconnect. Within a week we’d met up and got sexual without going all the way…and then he claimed I was being ‘too heavy’ and freaked him out and he’s cooled considerably, even blocked me on facebook. I am miserable that I let him back into my life at all.

October 24, 2012 at 1:14 am
(29) Mk says:

My first love. The one that got away. We met online. We both had our own issues. I was 17 and struggling with depression. He was 36 and had depression and was going through a divorce. Despite our age difference we clicked in a way I never thought possible. We both had a selfless love for one another. We talked all day everyday. Sometimes I would cry because I loved him so much and just couldn’t express it in any other way. He was an amazing man that cared about me for ME. we started ” officially” dating August 13, 2011. We didn’t meet until around Christmas time. I had really bad social anxiety and he understood that. He wanted to wait until I was comfortable. We met and things went great. We were together everyday after school and after work for him; he was a pharmacist. February came along. And he started acting really strange. I was concerned about him so I let his sister know, she didn’t really seem to care. February 12th he broke up with me. And February 14th 2012, he committed suicide. RIP Jeff. A day doesn’t go by when I don’t think about you. I’ll love you forever. <///3

November 3, 2012 at 3:08 am
(30) xoxox says:

My story is simple.
Girl meets boy. Boy and girl separate for college. Girl and Boy reconnect and fall immensely in love with each other and proclaim each other soul mates and share life plans together. Boy dies suddenly.

Certainly the one who got away.

November 3, 2012 at 6:48 am
(31) Edwin says:

Yeah, I was about 9-11 years old at the time. i was to busy trying to be like one of those cool kids to realize i had the most special person of my life. 3 years later, (2012 now) after lossing full contact with her and only remembering her name “Laney” it hit me …. it hit me hard, i realized how much she meant to me. i found my selve alone in this world and each day i hope to have her back . i miss her and, ill never think of moving on. my heart always belonged with her. Laney, i love you . i miss you – Edwin sanchez.

November 4, 2012 at 12:33 am
(32) Leah says:

We fell in love over summer. The summer fling turned into a long distance love. Our relationship was strong ad passionate yet innocent and sweet. One day he called as ended it thought. It was too much for him. It broke my heart loosing him was the worst thing I’ve ever experienced. I have what ifs and regrets all the time. There’s nothing I could’ve done or said to change it thought. He will always have a piece of my heart and be the one that got away .

November 10, 2012 at 12:07 am
(33) may says:

Yes! Okay so I was 14 he was 17 but we lived in different states. I was starting high school so of course new boys and I ended up breaking his heart and leaving him for someone not worth it and that i regret doing all the time anyways we were on and off for 4 years i feel like a lot of the break ups where my fault but a lot of them where his too he started being rude to me and i guess thats understandable but hes just the love of my life and i know i was his ; he called me up this past summer 2012 i am now fixing to be 21 :( i wish i would of been so much older & not so stupid ; i regret leaving him so much.

November 11, 2012 at 3:41 pm
(34) gomez says:

yes after 3yeArz we both have kids now not together. i know he is my first love but i dont want him back. he just has a special place in my heart and probably alwayz will

November 21, 2012 at 6:37 pm
(35) secret says:

i let “the one” go… we both dated he was my first kiss.we dated at 13 then 16 on and off 17 and 18 . a breef brake up and due to me playin hard to get after led to both of us in other relasionships… i notice him now 5 years on with a life and family and think to this day…. if only! ….. even now with my own family he is still in my heart and mind….quite sas realy im probably not in his

November 22, 2012 at 2:32 pm
(36) MrWheelz says:

I do, its kinda wierd actually, lol I met her on online and just randomly typed a s/n, and ended up being her who i contacted. we began to talk alot and eventually grew into something almost perfect. we lived in different states. anyways 5-6 yrs went by and i met someone, and she met someone. lost contact on bad terms, she ended up getting married and we recently got in touch. the feelings almost didnt change, it was like feelings never left. I do wish happiness and I told her how I feel. too bad we didnt get in contact sooner. She definetly one who got away…we still talk and she still has feelings so that is enough to hold on to for now….

November 22, 2012 at 9:10 pm
(37) DamnGermans says:

Twenty-two years ago when I was 19… I was working at a little hamburger drive-in with a girl named, “Mora”. She had a brother…”Mick”, who was in the Army and stationed in Germany. He was coming home for 3 weeks leave and she wanted to introduce us.

“Mick” and I hit-it-off immediately. We were inseparable for 2 1/2 weeks! We went on long drives, held hands, stargazed and talked about the constellations. Talked about everything!! We never had sex, just kissed and held hands. (I was a 19yr old virgin. Rare these days)LOL

He told me he had been dating a red-headed german girl, but he thought she was psycho, and that he was going to break up with her when he went back to Germany.

The day came when he had to go. We held each other, and cried. He phoned me from Atlanta, right before he boarded for Germany. He told me he loved me.

He phoned me a few more times after he was back in Germany, but then suddenly, he stopped calling. I phoned his him twice, but his room-mate said he was out. His sister quit working at the drive-in and moved away.

Twenty-two years went by…..in which time, I was taking good care of myself and my body. (Living good is the best revenge sometimes) LOL

A few months ago, I saw “Mick” on facebook., sent the friend request, and he accepted. He married the red-headed psycho german girl, who is now a dyed-red headed, very unattractive german woman. They have a son who is almost 22 years old! (Apparently, she got pregnant soon after he returned to Germany and he married her)

He still looks good! We’ve chatted a couple times, but never talked about what happened. Sometimes, she will post photos of them together. She smiles…..he sort of smiles, but something in his eyes looks sad.

I always thought of him as, “The one who got away”. But now, I feel that I’m the one who got away.

Love & Blessings, friends :)

December 1, 2012 at 5:32 pm
(38) MsBittersweet says:

I am not sure if he was the one who got away. Maybe it was me. I met my first love freshmen year of high school. He was persistent in asking me on dates for a whole year but I kept saying no and playing hard to get. One day it clicked and I completely fell in love with him. We started dating for a year and half and then all of a sudden he fell out of love with me. He became one of the football popular jocks…and me I stayed the same. that night he called and said, ” I am not in love with you anymore,” pierced through the speaker, long enough to pierce my heart. Nights of heart break and avoiding him in the halls was too hard to handle. I was heart broken…he transferred schools that next year and we went our separate ways. He immediately started dating someone within one week and he acted like I didn’t matter. I started dating someone, trying to forget him but he was always in the back of my head. He dated someone with a similar name as me. He would call me at random nights just wanting to talk….it made me think he wasn’t truly over me too..who knows. And so it began a back and forth of years of summer hookups and calling each other when we broke up wiht our bf’s/gf’s. One summer and our last hookup I said, I can’t do this anymore. I couldn’t do this back and forth and this toxic thing between us. After that, it was truly over. Now it has been 6 years and we havent seen each other but I still think of him often. Probably more often than I should. I am with someone and I am truly happy and in love but my first love will always be the one that got away….the what ifs….what could have been…..He knew I never wanted it to end. He knew that I loved him. But now it’s history and we will never know. Thanks for listening.

December 4, 2012 at 5:15 pm
(39) charlie says:

I met a guy at the age of sixteen I was crazy about him he gave me butterflies whenever I knew I was seeing me- however silly it sounds.
however we broke up as we had different ideas, I have been with two guys since him and years on he tells me he will always feel the same for me no matter how much time goes and he loves me.
however he goes to Australia in a couple of weeks, for two years. I don’t know what to do

December 6, 2012 at 3:19 am
(40) Danna says:

I was 19 when we met, and he was 28. We were involved for 5 years, but the timing wasn’t right from the start. I was immature and not willing to compromise. I put him through a lot. He wanted to get married, but I was not ready. School was my priority then, and I was working to deal with family debt. So it ended and it took me 2 years to process it. But now he’s the one who got away because he is married. I still love him, but I know I had my chance. If he asked me today, I would.

December 7, 2012 at 8:26 am
(41) naaa says:

i need help please

December 7, 2012 at 11:03 pm
(42) beckii says:

I met him online , he was 26 with a gf of three yr and her two kids, I didn’t find out bout the latter part till I fell for him. I met him online and idk just started chatting. I deleted but than couple months latter I made a new one and he seemed to hav come across my profile. We started chatting again except I started to like him a lot. He lived two hours away but “apparently” he liked me , jus not enough to come visit me. Anyways, I knew he didn’t like me enough so I let him go TWICE! The first time, I found out bout the gf and I just couldn’t handle liking him with all his baggage. And he was dating her! While inappropriate txting and calls and pics and vids with me! So I said goodbye . Dropped him, fone number, vids, everything. But I still liked him a lot. He came back. Said he broke up with her after his 26 birthday , that he finally needs to live for ERIC. And that he was stalking my pro. I was happy. Ecstatic ! He came back. That he he must hav cared..right? I was wrong. I think so. If he really cared , we lived two hrs away and during those months we were talkin , he kudnt his drive down here not once!? I jus met a guy in Tucson, same place Eric lived whom was wanting to come see me after 3 days his meeting! He cared more than Eric did in months. So now idk if I would call him “the one that got away”,.. I could tell you its been 5 months now and I still miss him. I still cry for him. When I ever think of running into him in Tucson, I just cry…I hope I never do. I did love him.. I never hugged him, kissed him, held him, bit I knew in my heart that I would do all that and more for him for my whole life. He was it…but it just didn’t go that way. He just couldn’t seem to let her go. And I hope him the best, really I do. Maybe he was never even “the one” … But my heart seems to thinly otherwise ..

December 8, 2012 at 5:20 am
(43) eve says:

Yes love sometimes hurt alot.I met d love of my life when i was in pre high school we just were class mates and when we finally got to high school in different towns we met again and then d feelings came.we were madly in love and would talk on the phone for hours every day after some months i started dating someone else. Then years passed and college came we still talk on d phone and see each other from time to time but i was dating someone else even though he was always in my heart and he use to tell me how he would make me his wife someday. Now he’s in America doing a course he has been there 5yrs now i am single now we still talk on d phone and he says he loves me and can’t wait to see me again but we don’t talk offen .i miss him all d time so dearly and i wish he would come back so we can have a real relationship like we have always wanted. Don’t even know what to do to stop missing him this much.its crazy loving him this much after all these years but yes i love him with everything in me

December 8, 2012 at 7:37 am
(44) Dee says:

I let one get away and i hate it she ended up with a very controlling character and they just had a baby but in her pictures, she has a misrable look to everything thats going on and im concerned about her shes really young just started college to be exact and well i feel like its my fault because i was the one that broke it off and if i could i would love to talk to her just to say im sorry and she if she was ok but i dont feel that its my place does anyone know why she looks so sad in her pictures and does not seem happy at all anymore??

December 12, 2012 at 5:10 am
(45) Naomi says:

**HELP*** recently this crossed my mind and me n my 6years of being together (we were bff before being br ff) ex bf got in touch again it’s been atLeast 3years an a half since we talk though.. Turns out he’s. Been dating A girl for 6months and things mOved too cute because now she’s 3months pregnant.. It sucks because we hung out n talk with a bunch of old friends and see the. Chemistry is still there he told me he still in love with me but why did I take so long I could’ve prevented this from being an obstacle he wants to make it work again but I don’t have heart to take a baby’s father away .. But then again and my happiness? Help and also I been with a guy for 2yrs and a half.. An also we live minutes away from each other days why we broke up but back then we were a little younger now we’re way older and can go see each other but still kinda long distance HELP??

January 4, 2013 at 8:09 am
(46) Mimi says:

i’m going to see “my one who will get away” after tomorrow to let him go away, i’m just tired of waiting him loving me. we met online and he lives 3 hours away. he dated someone before me, but she got married, and couldn’t forget abt her even i tried to make him forget about her, but i failed it hurts so much.. but i should move on.. he asked for sometime to make it work, but we’ve been dating for 2 years and got separated 1 time in between. he still thinks abt her even says that my place in his heart is bigger than his heart itself.. maybe tring to release me but it doesn’t work.. i want really to take a step forward either with him or without him. i don’t want wait anymore… but if someone has something to say to me to advise me, it will be the most welcome because i really need it. thanks in advance.

January 13, 2013 at 5:17 am
(47) dat dude says:

i had one that got away. i chased her. i wanted her so bad and had many feelings for this person. i left the country for school and came back to find out she has been getting around town. our relationship was never official but we had something. and i let that something go. to be honest i dont want that something back. i realized that there are so many girls out there. one day i will find the one that cares about me as much as i care about them/

January 19, 2013 at 8:30 pm
(48) Miss says:

My first love. I was 17 he was 21. My brothers friend. We were so in love. My brother was very I’ll at the time and we grew closer together but couldn’t say anything in case it tipped my brother over the edge. My brother took a turn for the worse. My boyfriend came and told me it was breaking his heart but it had to end. He couldn’t handle not be open and honest about being together but at that moment we also couldn’t dump that on my brother who was fragile. That was it….. My first broken heart.

On my 25th birthday a mutual friend randomly brought him along. We were glue to each other chatting all night… Nothing happened but the chemistry was still they like it never left……

I am 26 now and he is 29. 2 weeks ago he began texting me. We had some real deep and meaningfuls and he was asking bout my current situation and relationships, life and everything…. Intense hours of text chatting… Who knows what this means…. Probably he is bored…. But he is still ended my skin…. He isn’t the type of guy who had one night stands and has very strong morals etc so I wouldn’t have thought he would mrs me around… But then again he probably doesn’t realise I still hold a flame for him haha.

I always just assumed the reasons he originally gave me for breaking up were just purely excuses to cover the fact he didn’t want to be with me….. My sister has since said the strongly disagrees with me and that I course thr was why he left because everyone knew he was besotted with me…… What I he actually didn’t want to leave me….

Either way he will definately always be THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY for me!!

February 1, 2013 at 2:07 am
(49) jah says:

U folks should listen to you never know by immortal technique. Mine hasn’t quite gotten away yet.. but I feel it slipping…

March 31, 2013 at 2:06 am
(50) j says:

There was ”one”. It was 21 years ago. She was 17, I was 21. The most beautiful girl in town. We hung around together driving all over the cape just happy to be with each other. But she was shy and I was shy and something just happened, I never quite understood what, but suddenly we were apart. I bumped in to her sister many years later and the sister told me she still talked about me and I should call her. But it felt like it wasn’t the right time. Several years later I overheard some people mention her name. They told me where she was working. I could have visited her but again it just felt like the timing was wrong. But 20 years have passed now and my heart still feels there is unfinished business. I’ve tried to reconnect through social networking but have been ignored. I wonder if she even remembers me, if she felt the same regret and loss, if she pictures me smiling at her in an unguarded moment so many years ago. I don’t know, I somehow feel like maybe I missed the train I was supposed to get on and it’s set my life on a wayward and tumultuous course.

June 20, 2013 at 9:43 am
(51) missunluckyinlove says:

I’m just recovering from an intense heartbreak from ‘the one that got away’. Long story short, i fell really hard for this guy. We had an amazing connection. Being a silly girl, i told him i loved him far too soon. When it just feels right, it just feels like the right thing. Its hard to explain…unfortunately it was very bad timing. I crushed what we had, or ‘could have had’, because my heart was too deep in emotion. I know things happen for a reason, but this guy will always be ‘the one that got away’…i miss him….but i know he has forgotten me forever….its hard, but sometimes the ‘what ifs’ just make it a bit more regretful…

July 12, 2013 at 4:19 pm
(52) upsetinnj says:

There is one that got away in my life and I have never loved anyone else the way I loved him – sadly, that includes the man I’ve been married to for the last 7 years. The one that got away was the only person that ever made me feel a desire to have children; he was the love of my life. But, he swore he didn’t want to get married or have kids – EVER. We broke up and he strung me along for another year after that. Always doing things and saying things to keep me hanging on to nothing. For 14 years, I have locked that piece of myself and all its memories in a compartment within me and I’ve gone on but I never got over him. And very recently I discovered that not long after we broke up, he met, fell in love with and married someone else. They also have 2 sons. This hurts… it hurts like hell. It’s like ripping open a wound that just doesn’t want to heal.

July 22, 2013 at 2:04 pm
(53) orca17 says:

I am in a situation like that now. I was recently contacted by someone who I considered to be “the one”. We met when I was 21. We both realize that we let something special get away, and we wasted time with others in an effort to escape that fact. Now more than 35 years has passed, and I deeply regret not pursuing things more when we had the chance. Things are really muddled right now.

July 25, 2013 at 3:05 pm
(54) Argyle says:

Yes, and he just got engaged. My heart sank when hearing the news. Dating has never been easy for me. I’m a difficult match, very picky. But when we dated we worked so well. At that time we were both in our young 20′s and life eventually lead us on different paths so we broke up. About 5 years ago we reconnected and tried to get back together but it was during a time when my father was very sick, so it was just bad timing. Now after hearing of his engagement regret has set in. He’s a special guy and a piece of me will always love him. When someone feels like they’re meant to be yours it’s hard to let go.

July 25, 2013 at 8:15 pm
(55) tee says:

Nice to know I’m not alone on this, for me its been over 10 yrs ago we meet in college Dtcc and I still can’t get this guy “Ray” out of my head all in fairness i hope hes going thru the mental and emotions i’m going thru *is that fair to say* LOL! only if faith and timing can bring us back together again *Praying* but till then he will be “the one that got away” and i’ll continue to enjoy my wonderful life w/Ray on the brain……LOL!

July 27, 2013 at 11:37 pm
(56) Sophia says:

Yes.. the one who got away hurts like hell.. It’s been 2 years and I still can’t forget.. : ( I too hope he feels the same mental and emotional tension that I do.. It really is torture that everything was so right except for the ‘timing’.. I pray everyday that we get a second chance..

August 1, 2013 at 8:53 pm
(57) kelsy says:

The one that got away *sigh* he was the only guy i ever wanted to keep and he was the only one that got away. Part of me would like to see him again but part knows it’s best if i don’t.

September 27, 2013 at 12:01 am
(58) steena says:

Its been three years and my heart still sinks for my one true love that got away. We were together for almost a year and it was a love I can’t even describe; too real for most and unreal to me. Wrong timing in our lives for sure….maybe one day ill find that love again…but ill sure as hell never forget him.

I ♥ you Mario Araya

November 18, 2013 at 12:44 pm
(59) Sue B. says:

Possibly…..I had gone through a rough breakup and my friends took me to a small local hangout outside a military base to hear a band. I commented “Where are all the cute marines?!” 15 minutes later a group of them walked in. I was in the middle of a conversation with a friend when I felt someone staring at me. I looked up, and there was a very cute marine with his hand held out to shake mine. He told me his first name and asked me to dance. And we did. All night. In the middle of a song on the dance floor he kissed me so passionately that the lead singer stopped for second and commented something funny I can’t recall.

At the end of the night he asked me for my phone number several times, but I wouldn’t give it to him because he was younger than me. He didn’t believe me and thought it was just an excuse. He walked me out, amd asked me for my #one mor time, and kissed me goodbye. The next day I regretted not giving him my phone number, and all I could remember was his first name and the state he was from. I had only given him my nickname and all I had was a pic of him from the side that my friend had snapped on her iphone of us dancing. A few months later we went back to the same hangout to hear the same band. I glanced at the door many times that night, but he never walked in. I never saw him again. Given his profession, he could be anywhere in the world now. I just hope he is safe.

December 17, 2013 at 3:27 pm
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March 23, 2014 at 7:01 pm
(61) B. says:

I definitely let the girl get away!

It was freshmen year of college and I was completely alone, petrified by my brutish roommates, she was my first friend and confidant, and my greatest friend and confidant throughout my entire college career…she was a married woman from Korea, also a full 6 years older than me at the time…she was an international student staying for just one semester, and that semester was full of a love and domestic bliss the likes I had never experienced prior to her coming…we fell in love immediately and stayed that way for 4 months, 4 months of quick and intense passion paired with the fetish of secrecy. The semester ended and she went back, and we finally lost touch after a little over a year of occasional e-mails.

That was 5 years ago now

She came into my life exactly when I needed her and left with a tiny piece of me, never to be reborn. But I’m much happier now despite having ended the longest relationship of my life (3 years) with another woman.

So there’s my story, and I still think of her sometimes, but I’ve long since made peace with her departure look back with half a smile, half a laugh.

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