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Flirty Text Messages

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Sending flirty text messages - other than the cost should your cell phone plan not include them - are one the cheapest and easiest ways to show your interest. Add this to the onslaught of cell phone dating sites and overworked singles, and SMS seems more and more like a great time saving way to say in touch with your date. But what do you send?

What follows are four ideas that are somewhat generic in nature, along with specific suggestions how-to. Please note that, except for idea #2, I haven't used any abbreviations in this article. Because there is still no standard for dating chat lingo, I wanted to ensure every reader understood what I meant. Feel free to shorten these messages in a way that suits your personality, relationship, and mobile phone pla requirements.

Idea #1: Talk Sensation

If you've already established a connection, using sensations in your text messages is an excellent way to flirt. Try a series of messages, with each one focusing on a different sensation, catering each message to an appropriate level of interaction. For instance, two people who have just started flirting may want to text about smells and food (I love the way your hair smells, or, perhaps we could share a cup of tiramisu tea, later?), whereas those with more established relationships might prefer more obvious choices (I can't wait to touch your silky skin, or, let's that edible body paint when I get home).

Idea #2: Use Shortcuts

The beauty of sending flirty text messages is that you can say a variety of things in many ways that you normally couldn't face to face - and I don't mean because the shy-factor has been removed. Think about some of the chat lingo that has seeped into many real-world interactions (LOL, or Laugh Out Loud, is a perfect example) and use one or several of these terms/emoticons to show what you mean. Even better if your texting buddy doesn't know exactly what you're trying to say! Add some mystique (but not too much) and leave them guessing. Some flirty text message shortcut suggestions:

  • KOTC -- Kiss On The Cheek
  • :-*( -- I'd like more than just a kiss on the cheek;
  • BMHWB -- Be My Hot Water Bottle
  • :-9 -- Licking Lips

Idea #3: Use Quotes

Quotes turned into flirty text messages are a bit of a challenge, only because you've got a mere 160 characters with which to play with. Therefore, these suggestions are short, sweet, but very clear in their intentions:

  • "My night has become a sunny dawn because of you." - Inb Abbad
  • "Thou art to me a delicious torment." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • "Make me immortal with a kiss." - Christopher Marlowe

Idea #4: Get Cheesy

Remember any cheesy pickup lines? Depending on your intended's sense of humor, using one will most likely get your message across: that you find them interesting, and want to send some overtly flirty vibes. Several couples I've spoken to who use text messages as a major form of communication when apart have told me that these cheesy lines oftentimes become inside jokes, and are used whenever one wants to increase intimacy with the other.

I'm doubtful that most singles or couples need a lot of flirty text message suggestions along these lines, but if you still don't know what I mean, here are some to start with:

  • If I could change the alphabet, I'd put U and I together.
  • Send me a picture so I can tell Santa my wish list.
  • Let's make like fabric softener and snuggle.
  • Let's commit the perfect crime: I'll steal your heart, and you steal mine.
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