eHarmony Dating Site Review

Overview from eHarmony

"In 2000, backed by over 35 years of clinical and empirical research, Dr. Neil Clarke Warren transformed the way singles are introduced online when he launched eHarmony - the first relationship service on the Web to use a scientific approach to match highly compatible singles."

What an eHarmony Membership Includes

At eHarmony you can't register for the service, upload your photo and then peruse the other members for a match. Instead, eHarmony does all of the matching for you, using a compatibility system they've created on their own, which in turn is based on numerous scientific studies about love, relationships and compatibility. Which, depending on how you look at it, can either be a good thing or a bad one.

eHarmony's sign up process takes a long time, as there are more than 400 questions. Yet the results are astounding; the personality printouts all users receive whether or not you pay for the service are most definitely worth the time and trouble. Not only do they tell you what you have to offer a relationship, they also tell you the kind of person you'd be the most compatible with. For this reason alone I suggest all singles sign up and fill out the questionnaire, even if they have no intention of using the service.

However quite a few people won't be able to use the service, much less want to pay the hefty fees (see below for membership costs). eHarmony is a Christian dating site, and although it doesn't advertise this fact anymore, they still have a couple of throwbacks to the system including the fact that some people just aren't welcome, and therefore whose profiles are denied. There currently is a court case pending in California regarding eHarmony and its refusal to allow gays or lesbians to use the service. eHarmony says it is because the research they've used to match people is only based on heterosexual couples, but the jury is still out on the case.

Unique Features of eHarmony

What makes eHarmony different than most other dating sites is the premise of the site: their matching system. This means there is no search engine, and until recently no way to even see a potential match's photo before making contact.

Many users have complained that eHarmony never has any matches for them initially, which I have personally found to be true as well. There is an easy fix to this problem however: sign up at eHarmony, fill out the questionnaire and demographic information, get your personality profile, and then leave eHarmony alone for a while. By the time you start getting matches (you'll get an email each time the service finds someone compatible with you), you'll also have received several emails offering you a hefty discount to use the service. I wouldn't recommend anyone subscribing to the site without having at least three matches, since oftentimes members don't respond (also in my experience). Then, wait until you receive an offer in your email box, and sign up at that time - and not a moment before.

I highly recommend eHarmony for heterosexuals serious about finding a long term relationship as long as they are aware of the drawbacks listed above. eHarmony's track record is incredible, and their success stories are increasing exponentially, with 90 members getting married every single day because of the site.

eHarmony Membership Fees

eHarmony's membership fees are the highest of all the major dating sites. One month costs $59.95 USD, with the prices lowering dramatically at the 3, 6 and 12 month mark on a monthly basis. The least expensive plan requires a year-long sign up at a cost of $251.40 USD, or $20.95 USD a month (but is payable in one lump sum). However, as stated previously, if you sign up and then wait a while, you'll eventually get an email from eHarmony with a discount coupon with a significant dollar amount in savings.

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