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How To Write an Online Dating Profile

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Step Four: Write Your Online Dating Profile Essay, Step One

The meat of your online dating profile is the "about me" section, which is called various things on different dating sites. No matter what its title, most online dating sites will require a paragraph or two from you in essay format, describing who you are and what you are looking for. If this part of the process seems too daunting to you, or if you'd rather not invest the time, sign up at one of the online speed dating sites instead, as most don't use essay introductions in their profiles.

Quickly brainstorm what you'd like to share in the essay portion of your dating profile on a piece of paper. Hobbies, interests, work and family are all things to consider. Then, circle three to five things that you think are the most interesting or engaging. These points are what you'll focus on weaving into your essay next, using what I call the "Fly On the Wall" technique.

First, of the points you circled, does one of them imply a place that you spend a lot of time in? If so, try writing a sentence or two that describes why that place is special to you. For instance, you may spend a lot of time in coffee shops writing on your laptop, reading a book or chatting with friends. Keep whatever your reasons are in the back of your mind as you move to the next step.

Using the coffee shop example again, imagine yourself at the coffee shop. Would someone waiting in line to order notice you, and if so, what would they see, hear or experience coming from your general direction?

For ideas and examples, move on to Step Two of writing your Dating Profile Essay.

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