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Readers Respond: Readers Weigh In On How To Dispel Fears About Meeting Someone New
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From the article: Meet Someone Myths
Feeling unable to meet new someone new? Want some tips and advice on how to get over your meeting people fears? Have you tried something that helped you meet someone special? Share your advice and frustrations here. Share Your Ideas

RE: How to let him/her know we didn't cl

Unfortunately, the only person you have control over is yourself. This is why there are more tips on finding a date than ending a date--if most people prepared themselves and their expectations, one could hope that dates that don't work end on good terms. Others don't need your permission to have feelings and expectations but you can control how much it influences your decision on a relationship.
—Guest Xyc0

How to let him/her know we didn't click

I always have a hard time with this one question... You go on a first date and you soon can tell it would not go anywhere. Something definitely made it clear that the person is not for me. Then, at the end of the date the topic always comes up, like: Can I call you again? Or something similar. How direct should I be? Once I was so afraid to hurt him that I first filled him with all these compliments before I told him. He got really angry because he thought I was "patronizing." I realize it was his issue, but I don't want to do anything to make things more difficult. I don't want to spend the entire time worrying about that final few minutes when the date is ending on what should be said. This is the one question I rarely see included in any Dating Tips. Thanks.
—chamomile12

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