1. People & Relationships
You can opt-out at any time. Please refer to our privacy policy for contact information.

Discuss in my forum

Essential Comforts for the Recently Broken Up

Console Yourself After a Breakup


When you are in the middle of a breakup, you need comfort. Follow these first stage tactics for dealing with a breakup, and you will soon be ready for the next step.

Breakup Food

Pretty woman drinking wine
Rafael Elias/Moment/Getty Images

Also known as comfort food, make sure you have whatever it is that makes you feel warm and fuzzy inside readily available. Ice cream, a favorite bottle of wine, some potato chips or macaroni and cheese – whatever works for you that does not remind you of the ex.

Breakup food is not supposed to be a staple in your life for more than a week or so. But for these first couple of days, there is no harm in treating yourself to whatever makes you feel great.

Breakup Books

For those not quite ready to hit a counselors office, reading a breakup book from an expert is the next best thing. Whether it is tongue-in-cheek, how-to or supportive, there are a myriad of self-help books available for every breakup situation today, many of which are available at your library if you are not enthused about displaying a breakup book in your home permanently.

Breakup Clothing

You are probably already wearing your comfiest of duds right now, such as a well-worn t-shit and jeans or flannel pajamas. What you will need to plan for is when you leave the house: for work, to get groceries or to pay the bills. Find the easiest, most put together outfit you have that cleans well and slips on easily. This will be your outside wardrobe for this first stage. For men, try a pair of jeans that fit well a top and baseball cap. For women, a slip-on dress is an excellent idea. Sunglasses work as well, especially if you are trying to cover up swollen eyes from crying.

Breakup Journal

Whether it is for reflection at a later date or merely as a part of a burning ritual later on down the road, a journal is an essential comfort for the recently broken up. It could be as simple as a dollar store notepad or several pieces of paper stapled together, or as intricate as a handmade, leather-bound piece of art.

Breakup Movies

Sometimes all you need are a pack of tissues and a great movie to provide a different outlook on an otherwise miserable situation. These breakup movies listed at the link below are hand-picked for maximum emotional output and a healthy dose of advice or insight.

Breakup Songs

The last thing you want to do is go through all of your former partners tunes when grieving a breakup. Throw out what you would normally listen to and buy something new, or look in your stash of tunes that you have not listened to for a while that will strengthen, inspire and motivate you.

Readers Respond: Break Up Songs As Suggested By Readers

  1. About.com
  2. People & Relationships
  3. Dating
  4. Being Single
  5. Past Patterns & Moving On
  6. Breaking Up - Essential Comforts for the Recently Broken Up - Breakups

©2014 About.com. All rights reserved.