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He's Just Not That Into You

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He's Just Not That Into You

He's Just Not That Into You

Simon & Schuster

The Bottom Line

A fun, easy to read yet sometimes a tad harsh book geared towards heterosexual women in need of a kick in the pants to get them on the right dating track. Written by two former Sex and the City employees (a consultant and story editor).

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  • Quick to read and easy to find exactly what you are looking for.
  • Question & answer format allows for 'standard' questions to be covered in a small amount of space.
  • Honest to a tee; there is no sugar-coating here.
  • Some portions of the book are laugh-out-loud funny.


  • Language & tone may offend sensitive readers.
  • May seem too simple or common-sense based.
  • Strong and/or independent women may disagree with the methods suggested.


  • Authors: Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

  • Publisher: Simon Spotlight Entertainment

  • ISBN: 0-689-87474-X

  • Year Published: 2004

  • Price: $21.95 USD

  • Book Details: 165 pages, 16 chapters, hardcover, no illustrations.

Guide Review - He's Just Not That Into You

You go out on a date with a lovely man one evening and kibitz about it afterwards with your friends. "I hope he calls," you think - because how could he not? The two of you spent hours getting to know each other better, even going so far as to share an amazing kiss at the end of the night.

Your friends in turn tell you how amazing and wonderful you are. Of course he'll call! Yet, two weeks later, he still hasn't. A slew of excuses are made in his defense: he's really busy at work, maybe he ran into his ex or perhaps he lost the piece of paper with your number on it.

Or, as He's Just Not That Into You strongly suggests - he's not interested.

Greg Behrendt wastes no time telling it like he thinks it is. By the first paragraph of Behrendt's introduction on page 7 of He's Just Not That Into You, he's already telling readers that a man is, "...made up entirely of your excuses. And the minute you stop making excuses for him, he will completely disappear from your life."

The rest of He's Just Not That Into You is laid out into chapters that deftly define the kinds of excuses women give on behalf of men, and then tears apart the logic in only a few select sentences before moving on. Tuccillo also steps in, explaining just why a particular situation is challenging for many women, which is then followed by a quote from a real-world dater sharing her mastery of the specific concept discussed.

At times He's Just Not That Into You could be construed as offensive to those sensitive to strong language or for people who don't believe that a strong woman should have to wait for a man to do the hard work of asking a gal out on a date. Still, portions of the tiny tome are downright hilarious and all of it is honest to a fault.

So for those in need of an extra shove to remind them that they deserve better, pick up He's Just Not That Into You.

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, Member opheliag

I was not very impressed with the movie. The book reads better.....but i can give you stories that would show you what it means for a man not to be into a woman or a woman not to be into a man.....i am think that this movie needs more and a whole lot more to be something....

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