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Readers Respond: Readers Share Their Definition of a Pansexual

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I love everyone

This is going to sound odd, so bear with me. I used to be very confused. I've typically only dated men, but I have been with a couple women. Everyone I told this to would identify me as "bisexual", but I wouldn't accept it for some reason. I don't like men and women. I like people. I thought I was the only one until I started watching this show called Doctor Who. There's this character who hits on anyone, any gender, race, aliens or humans... I thought that was sooo cool and fell in love with him because he's so much like me. People on the show would ask what his orientation was and he'd say "ohh you 21st century humans are so stuck on genders".... And it's true!! He'd didnt care who they were, if they were gorgeous, they were gorgeous. And I agree.
—Guest Lyra


Great comments! "Agh Finally" from Nicki, I can relate to the most :) I have a sexual attraction toward all genders, but I feel the presence of a person, I don't only look at their body parts.
—Guest Maria

Pan sexual

My idea of a pan sexual human is simply that love is love.. I love everyone. I won't love you because you are male or female. I love you for you. The person you are not what sex you are.
—Guest Loveisgenderblind


So, here's what I've found pansexual to mean FOR ME... Blind to the person's gender, age (to an extent, obviously not going to fall in love with a newborn baby), race, wealth, religion (as long as they are KIND and REASONABLE), brains, brawn, confidence level, health, etc. When people say "I only like Asian girls" or w/e... that's like the opposite of me. I would say something more like "I only like awesome human beings" or something haha. My only guidelines are that A) they are human (I mean unless it's like a timelord, but not like a dog haha), and B) that they LOVE ME. I've found that above everything, it's not humor or talent or smarts or experiences or whatever that's important in a partner... I mean those things may attract you but they aren't most important.... it's love. Love is the basis!
—Guest Kimmy

Love will find a way.

There's too much interest and There has been too much emphasis on gender category in the past - leading to prejudice and segregation. Gender and sexual proclivity is personal. The 'Essence' of you and how you interact with others is all that is relevant. Love is love - and will not be denied. Sex CAN be.

I don't care he's a dude, the only thing

Well, first of all, I'm 14 and a dude, and well, all my life I said love is love, no matter what gender. I always respected other people's preferences, and just recently I knew I was pansexual, because, some time ago I fell in love with a friend of mine, I didn't mind that he was a dude, it was just that he's straight and a friend, so yeah. I don't see why people focus on gender, it's the same person.
—Guest Indifferent


For loving someone not for what they and you have in difference, but for what you two, or three or a thousand have that is the same... inside of your heart.
—Guest Nothercloth


As a universalist unitarian polyamourous pansexual, I define pansexuality as the sexual inclination that surfaces when the wine kicks in and the clothes come off... I've kissed persons of all gender identity. It didn't matter if they had male or female plumbing, but the desire they could stir with their sensuality and drive.
—Guest Delilah

shouldn't judge

i've always benn coonfused as to why i had feelings for people that were of the opposite and same gender as myself. i am glad that there is finally a definition of orientation that i can identify with. i have always developed feelings for people despite their looks and have been criticized for it. but im happy with who i am, and i dont think anyone should judge you for it.
—Guest ashley


i knew i was pansexual when i met this great guy on campus... purple hair and very ninties punk. like my dream date. we started hanging out and getting to know one another... he told me he was transgender.. he helped me to fully understand the whole concept of transgender and i realized, hes still going to be him regardless of his gender. i love him
—Guest Dani

My definition of being pansexual.

well I Think That personality is more meaning ful more than how They look like.
—Guest tessmandehh:3

gender is overated

A few days ago I figured out that I was pansexual. I was considered weird growing up as I used to do things such as judge people for their personality rather than looks or gender. I also never seemed to identify myself as a proper female. Eversince I realised I was pansexual, a weight I carried that i didnt even realise was there lifted off of my shoulders. I was weighed down with thoughts and worries concerning whether I would ever properly love someone or be properly loved in return.i am extremely happy about being pansexual! You know you are pansexual when similar things happen to you.
—Guest Shelly

It Doesn't Matter

Well like everyone else has said, liking someone for what's on the inside, not out. I knew I was pansexual when I fell for this geeky guy and we started dating. Adter about a week he told me was transgender, and my feeling didn't change at all. to me he'd still be who he was. Whether he was a guy or a girl.
—Guest Wolf


being pann(pansexual) is normal,love is love,no matter what gender... i like boys and girls, not because what they have in their pants,its just their personality, gender is just a sex.
—Guest guest Sammiee>.


rejecting boundaries, rules and opportunistically being attracted to anyone. Its Greek to me and the Greek philosophers were the first to claim this. Its not new...

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